Agony aunt Dear Deidre solves your raunchiest problems EVER in new After Dark column -prudes, look away now!
SWINGING, polyamory and affairs with the boss...there's no doubt that Britain's bedroom antics are only getting racier.
And now Britain's best agony aunt - the Sun's legendary Dear Deidre - is launching an unmissable new column.
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From tomorrow, Dear Deidre will be able to answer your most risque problems yet...
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Prepare to get frisky, as After Dark is set to explore the most risque problems to hit her postbag.
Starting tomorrow, exclusively for Sun Club members, our team of counsellors will answer the nation's raciest questions yet.
Sally Land, the Sun agony aunt behind Dear Deidre, explained: 'Britain is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation.
'Dear Deidre has always tackled people's secrets, helping them move forward with their problems no matter how serious.
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'But there are plenty of issues that are too risque for a family news outlet and over the years there have been countless problems that we haven't been able to publish - until now.
'With Dear Deidre After Dark we take a peek at the big issues playing out in bedrooms from Carlisle to Bournemouth.'
Every Saturday, the team will be sharing yet another challenging and extreme problem, looking at sexual addictions, surprising fantasies and relationship shattering revelations.
So if you've been fantasising about
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And if your sex life is drier than ever before and you're desperate to really spice things up, prepare for the sexiest tips you've ever seen that are sure to drive your partner (or partners!) wild.
Sally explains 'People write in for a variety of reasons; some because they know me and my team of counsellors will give them sound, well researched and insightful advice, others get in touch because they can't face sharing their problem with family or friends and others are simply looking for a different perspective.
'With the increasing pressure to have an exciting or adventurous sex life, many people find themselves in intensely uncomfortable situations, which makes it ever more important to explore and explain what is happening in our sexual relationships.
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'In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas.'
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It comes at a time where Brits are wilder in the bedroom than ever before, with one in 25 couples have admitted to trying swinging.
THE TOP FIVE SEXUAL PROBLEMS THAT WOMEN ARE ASKING
The top five sexual question from women filling Dear Deidre's postbag :
Should I have a threesome?
Is it safe to engage in erotic asphyxiation?
How quickly should I have sex when I meet someone new?
Is it okay to share nudes straight away?
Why does my boyfriend constantly flirt with other women and like their revealing images?
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Not only are
And that's not all, as in a recent study, one in three admitted they would dump their lover if they were a let down in bed, while last year,
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Sun expert Sally also explained: 'From sex parties, kinks, open relationships, and porn addiction becoming commonplace, true Britannia is a million miles away from its straight-laced reputation.
In Dear Deidre After Dark we look at the raunchiest previously unpublished dilemmas
Sally Land
'We are more sexually open minded, more adventurous and the wide availability of porn is pushing the boundaries of sexual relations."
So if you've got a burning desire you need answers for, scroll down to get in touch with our expert counsellors.
Every query will get a personal reply from one of our team of counsellors within just one working day.
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