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You Needn't Live Phone Free

You Needn't Live Phone Free

In Steven Poole's review of 'Unplug,' he writes that 'our relationships with our phones are described . . . with the language of substance addiction' (Bookshelf, June 26). From my perspective, the problem isn't the smartphone itself; it's what we view on it. I've dedicated one hour in total for the rest of my life to watching local or national news, viewing reality TV, listening to talk radio, communicating via social media and watching horror movies. As John Templeton so wisely said, 'If you fill your mind to capacity with thoughts that you think are good and productive, you won't have room for the bad ones.'
Scott Kaufmann
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