Shahana Goswami: Cultivate space in relationships, like you cultivate togetherness when there is distance
emotional connection
. According to actress
Shahana Goswami
, distance helps a person develop a sense of independence, which is every important for any cohabitation relationship.
While speaking to us exclusively, the '
Four Years Later
' actress expressed, 'If you're living apart, you end up forcefully being able to have your independence, situationally and circumstantially. You are forced to also find your way without your partner physically being there. So in that sense, there's a kind of silver lining to it because most people who are together love each other after all, and that's part of any cohabitation.'
Shahana, whose latest series follows the story of a couple who had to part ways right after their marriage, owing to professional commitments, further explained that this skill of independence needs to be present not just in a love relationship but in every connection. 'If you live with your parents, you feel the same way; if you share a house with your siblings, you feel the same way with your friends,' she said.
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Doing everything together is not love - finding balance is
'Eventually, there is a bit of that familiarity that breeds contempt, only because what happens is that there are constructs around having to do everything together. You're a unit, and you're inseparable. But if you can find that balance, it applies to both
long-distance relationships
and those where you live together,' she added.
Weighing in further on the phenomenon of long-distance relationships, Shahana mentioned, 'In a long-distance relationship, you have to find that balance of creating time and space for togetherness, both in terms of finding quality time together and staying connected.'
However, the actress said the 'opposite applies as well when you're living with a partner—learning how to give each other a little more space and how to take space.'
'Sometimes you might feel the urge to be deeply involved with each other, but I think it's important to cultivate space in relationships, the same way that you cultivate togetherness when there is distance,' she concluded.
The actress's insightful view on the subject not only highlights her personal opinion but also the intricate subject that her latest work, 'Four Years Later', focuses on. The series is now available for streaming on
Lionsgate Play
.
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