Man charged with murder of 79-year-old woman in Sengkang
Lim Yuen Li was handed one count of murder – which carries the death penalty – at the State Courts.
Appearing in person, Lim requested to use his mobile phone to make calls and deal with some administrative or financial matters.
He told the court that he wanted to apply for a state lawyer and that he wanted to attend the woman's funeral.
Lim was ordered to be remanded for psychiatric assessment at the prosecution's application.
In a press release on Monday, the police said they received a call for assistance at a residential unit along Fernvale Road at about 11.50am.
When the police arrived at the scene, they found the woman lying motionless inside the unit. She was subsequently pronounced dead at the scene by paramedics.
Lim was arrested at the scene with preliminary investigations revealing that the two had known each other.
He will next appear in court on Jun 24.
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