Infidel hubby caught cheating by spouse but should he alone shoulder all the blame?

Focus Malaysia

15 hours ago

IT TAKES two to tango.
That seems to be the sentiment among some commenters in relation to a video posted on Singapore Uncensored Facebook page.
In it, a middle-aged man is caught with his pants down as his spouse caught him in the act of cheating with another woman, apparently in their own home!
It is not known if the lady was a professional escort or a lover engaged in a sordid affair, but from the angry rantings of the wife, it would appear that the hubby's cheating has been going on for some time.
The post was shared on the Facebook page of by award-winning lifestyle writer, fashionista creative director and accomplished beauty pageant judge Francis Yip.
Of course, there was plenty of sympathy for the wronged wife with some admiring her calm demeanour when confronted by such a scene! One commenter just advised the wife to move on as the husband no longer has feelings for her.
One advised that the scorned wife just file for divorce. In fact, better to never get married to avoid such headaches, it was counselled.
No point harping on his foibles, contended one commenter, as the man was never going to change. Just walk away from the marriage was the advice proffered.
The other woman was also blamed for breaking up marriages and families.
A few also suspected that the video was Malaysian in origin judging from the dialect spoken.
But rather interestingly, quite a few commenters sympathised with the cheating husband, pointing to the wife's incessant nagging.
Like the poster aptly hinted, it takes two to tango in a successful relationship.
'Husband caught by wife in bed with other woman. Then she started scolding him. Very long video but it made you realise why the husband flirt – the wife loves to nag,' he observed.
'Yes, the husband is wrong. But we've only heard one side of the story – the wife's side. We haven't heard from the husband's side yet. Ask yourself why (the) husband flirt?'
With one further advising the 'uncle' to keep calm as the storm would eventually pass.
Some commenters went on to surmise that the wife had neglected her husband and the man was forced to seek out companionship elsewhere.
However, quite a few were in disbelief that the man thought it was wise to commit adultery under his own roof with one observer pointing out that it was a cost-saving move.
Men behaving badly and instances of marital breakdown due to infidelity are nothing new.
But this video does highlight a few moral lessons. Firstly, there are reasons for straying and it isn't confined to lust and desire. It could just be the need for a friendly ear and perhaps, to escape incessant nagging for a while.
Secondly, this is not an excuse for philandering but it does seem like common sense that such activities should NOT take place in one's own home! – July 7, 2025