Author Christina 'Tinx' Najjar weighs in on popular dating advice... including WORST tips she has ever received
Over the past few years, Tinx has become known as 'the internet's big sister,' as she doles out sex, relationship, friendship, and even career advice on her platform.
She invented what's called the 'box theory,' a concept about men putting a woman into one of three boxes if they're romantically interested in her, and wrote all about it in her first New York Times bestselling novel, The Shift.
Now, the SiriusXM radio show host has published her second book and a fiction one at that - Hotter in the Hamptons, about an influencer who gets canceled and escapes to the Long Island enclave for a hot, steamy, summer romance with another woman - who just happens to be the journalist who 'canceled' her.
It's a place she's familiar with, too, as she has spent a few recent summers in the area.
The new book is spicy and sexy, and Tinx certainly does not hold back any of the sultry details, as she wants the book to help people get in touch with their sexuality, whether they are single or not.
It also explores modern-day dating, something that Tinx talks about often on her various platforms.
In a new interview with DailyMail.com, the internet personality revealed one of the most important things that she believes people should know about dating, and that's not to take anything personally.
'There is so much bad behavior. There's so much ghosting, bad manners,' Tinx told DailyMail.com exclusively.
'You cannot take it personally, otherwise you will be miserable,' she continued.
Instead, Tinx recommends taking things lightly and easily when it comes to dating.
'You'll know when someone great comes along, but until then, don't stress yourself out,' the influencer offered.
However, there are a few things to keep in mind when hitting the town, Tinx said.
'One phrase that I don't think is very helpful is, "If he wanted to, he would,"' she admitted to DailyMail.com.
'I think it's true, but I think it's a very negative way to think about it,' Tinx continued, as she explained that she wants her community to change their thinking around the phrase.
Instead, she suggests making the phrase more positive, and about the fact that you deserve someone who treats you well without you having to beg for their attention.
That's not the worst dating advice she's gotten before, though.
She explained that she is not a fan of playing any games when it comes to her dating life.
'I think that anything that's to do with manipulating guys or... I don't like game playing. I think game playing is really immature. And I think you only hurt yourself,' she explained.
'You never want to, like, trap someone into dating you,' Tinx shared. 'They're obviously not your person, if you have to do that.'
This summer, Tinx says that she wants 'everyone to be horny by the pool' as they delve into her new novel.
'I think that erotica, smut, whatever you want to classify it as, is a fun way for people to get in touch with their own sexuality and expand their minds and expand their creativity,' she told DailyMail.com.
The book has also been adapted into a TV series by powerhouse twins Erin and Sara Foster.
As for the cast? Tinx has some ideas, but she doesn't want to jinx anything.
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