Feeling Overwhelmed? Do The Hardest Thing First

Forbes

05-06-2025

First step is hardest. Do the hardest thing first.
When you're feeling overwhelmed at work, your instinct may be to knock out the easiest items on your to-do list just to feel productive—is that right? But that habit can quickly become a trap. In The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism, therapist Sharon Martin notes that 'most people are inclined to do the easiest thing on their to-do list,' which is why the most meaningful—often most challenging—tasks stay undone. How can you do the hardest thing first?
We've all been there. You start the day checking a few emails, organizing your desktop, or scheduling meetings—all while avoiding the hard thing: that presentation, strategy document, or performance conversation you know will move the needle. The undone task stays in your head. You tell yourself you'll get to it later. Yes, but the longer you delay, the heavier it feels, reinforcing a cycle of procrastination and overwhelm. You get into freeze mode and end the day feeling like you didn't accomplish anything. It happens a lot—especially to multitaskers, according to my Time Management Quiz.
To break the cycle, Martin recommends a surprisingly simple solution: do the hardest thing first.
When you start with what matters most—especially when it's hard—you activate focus and build momentum. You also send a strong message to yourself: I can do difficult things. In a recent conversation with a coachee, she told me that being proactive by blocking time on her calendar for what matters most helped her feel more self-respect, and boosted her confidence.
Doing the hardest thing first thing in the morning is especially powerful if your power time, as I mentioned in my previous article, the period when your energy and focus are naturally at their peak—is early in the day. Research shows that cognitive resources are strongest in the morning. As Stanford health psychologist Kelly McGonigal explains it, your willpower weakens as the day progresses, as your energy gets "spent" on stress and self-control. But in the early hours, before meetings and admin work pile up, your mental energy is ready to help you dive into that big task. It's the best time to make the most of your brain's natural rhythm.
What will make the biggest difference if done first? According to the Pareto Principle, 80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts. Focus on those tasks that may take just 20% of your day but drive real progress.
Block off your power hour in your calendar and treat it as non-negotiable. You can reserve this time every day—or at least two or three times a week. People will get used to you being unavailable then. Timebox the specific 'hard thing' you identified the night before and add it as a meeting with yourself. You can learn more about timeboxing in my latest book Timebox.
You'll be tempted to go back to your old habit of starting with emails or admin tasks. Catch yourself. Timebox those low-value tasks for later in the day—and honor the plan you created.
Commit to just 10 minutes. If you get distracted, tell yourself, 'Just 10 more.' It's the act of starting that builds momentum. Progress, not perfection, is the goal. If tomorrow you follow these steps and spend just 20 minutes on your hardest task—congratulate yourself! That's real progress. Try 30 minutes next time.
As performance coach Steve Magness explains, doing hard things—or anything that makes you uncomfortable—is an opportunity to train your mental muscle. The goal isn't to avoid discomfort but to understand it. Ask yourself: Is this task uncomfortable because I'm nervous, but prepared? Like running a marathon, it might feel tough, but you've trained for it. Or is the discomfort telling me I'm not truly ready yet? In that case, maybe you need more information, support, or time. By zooming out, reapprasing your feelings and reassuring yourself, for instance, using the phrase 'this too shall pass', you give yourself the chance to deal with discomfort proactively—instead of running from it or shutting down.
When you do the hardest thing first, isn't about working harder or not respecting how you feel about the task. It's about using your energy wisely. One day it can be OK to skip it, but you need to break the avoidance cycle, and give yourself permission to move forward with the tasks that matter the most to you, not always, but at least most of the times.