I'm a flight attendant — marrying us is a ‘bad idea' and not as sexy as you think

New York Post

04-07-2025

Saying 'I do' to a member of the cabin crew could be a flight risk — warns one wingwoman.
Although the idea of landing a hot flight attendant as your husband or wife might sound enticing, an expert of the friendly skies is issuing a word-to-the-wise against getting hitched to folks in her field.
'I hate to be the one to burst your bubble. But I owe it to you to be honest,' Sil, a flight attendant and first responder, captioned a trending Instagram clip titled: '5 Reasons dating/marrying a flight attendant-first responder is a bad idea.'
5 Sil, a flight attendant and first responder, shared five top reasons why daters should think twice before getting romantically involved with cabin crew members.
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'The old sexist stereotype about flight attendants is simply not true,' she wrote, dismantling longstanding fantasies of malleable, mile-high hotties who live solely to fulfill the needs of others.
'There are some traits that flight attendant – first responders have that don't exactly make us the [ideal] partner.'
And her rundown of their less-than-ideal ways might have a few potential suitors looking for the emergency exits.
Sil's list is gaining viral acclaim just days after Cierra Mistt, a commercial and charter flight attendant, revealed that flight attendants and pilots routinely have sex in the cockpit during long hauls.
5 Sil's warning closely trials a separate social media snippet, which virally exposed the once-secret sexual habits of flight attendants and pilots.
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'No. 1,' began Sil, 'We don't exactly wear our hearts on our sleeves. We are good at empathizing, but our first responder life has taught us to keep our emotions under wraps.'
'No matter how hurt, angry, disappointed or sad we are, you'll rarely see us cry or show much of any emotion but being happy,' she continued. 'If you see anything else, you're lucky. We don't share our feelings easily.'
Secondly, Sil said, 'We can put a smile on our face through anything. We know how to pull it together no matter how much we are falling apart. It makes us hard to read.'
5 The Skyway know-it-all says flight attendants aren't ones to constantly check in with their partners.
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The in-flight insider went on to reveal that she and her coworkers aren't clingers.
'We are fiercely independent/self-reliant,' Sil noted as the third reason getting in a relationship with her ilk is ill-advised.
'The old adage, 'The only one you can depend on is yourself,' comes into play a lot,' she explained.
'This also means we have zero problem doing things by ourselves. We won't wait for you. Don't wanna get on board, it's ok. You do you & we'll do us.'
5 Sil warned that most members of her profession fiercely enjoy their freedom.
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And when it comes to keeping in constant communication, a flight attendant's inamorato can forget it.
'Definitely do not expect us to call you numerous times a day giving you updates about who we're with & what we're doing,' Sil asserted. 'Might sound appealing, but most people can't handle that amount of independence.'
The free-spirit's fourth red flag is all about the thrill of takeoff.
'We will jump at an opportunity for an adventure. Give us flight [benefits] & we're off! That might mean with you, friends or on our own!.'
Last, but certainly not least, Sil forewarned wannabe lovebirds that flight attendants often have a plethora of pals — guys and gals — all over the world.
Thus, their partner would have to be mentally and emotionally secure enough to handle the heat.
5 Sil informs prospective partners of flight attendants that their sky-high sweetheart will likely have a slew of friends of the same and opposite sex.
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'We make friends wherever we go & have both female & male friends — we are flight attendants because we are able to make people feel at ease,' she said at her fifth and final point.
'We can be charming even when we are enforcing FAA rules. People tend to talk to us easily & we're easygoing enough to not be bothered by 'odd' things about other people'
Still, all hope isn't lost for hopeless romantics who just so happen to work in the clouds. But the key might be marrying a fellow frequent flyer.
Alexander and Kita Valur, both flight attendants for Icelandic airline Play, tied the knot at 30,000 feet on Valentine's Day this February.
'During these two years, we have traveled a lot together, both to France and other countries, as well as within Iceland,' the groom said in a statement shared with The Post by PLAY. 'When we heard about the idea that it was possible to get married on board … we thought, why not? It just fit perfectly with all of our adventures.'
'We love traveling.'