Ashley Judd's We Don't Care Message Inspires Women

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Actor and activist Ashley Judd shared a powerful message about being a woman of a certain age and why she supports the "I don't care" mindset.
Ashley, who starred in some of my favorite movies from the '90s thrillers like Heat (1995), A Time to Kill (1996), and Double Jeopardy (1999), posted a playfully encouraging video in the Baltic Sea about how she's kicking people's opinions to the wayside.
"When I'm in my swimsuit, sometimes I get a little chafing, right down there, so I put on constatrch," she said in a July 22 Instagram post. "And then there's like a white thing there, and if you see it, I don't care."
Ashley cited the "We Don't Care" club, a trend that includes hundreds of thousands of women around the world in perimenopause and menopause sharing what they no longer care about, which was founded by influencer Melani Sanders.
Melani is a 45-year-old mother of three and social media influencer who celebrates women of a certain age by sharing videos explaining what she no longer cares about and invites other women to join her.
The She Said actor explained how her inner child is also part of the "Make Stuff Up" club.
"And I have a jellyfish, it's the non-stinging kind, and I think the central nervous system is that part, and that may not be right, and I don't care," she added, picking up an actual jellyfish. "Because there's another club that my inner child belongs to and it's called the MSU club."
"I'm also picking my crotch, and I don't care. The MSU club is the 'Make Stuff Up' club. And that's for inner children. As a post menopausal woman, I don't care if you don't like the MSU club for inner children," she continued.
Ashley did playful "tricks" in the water and expressed the importance of embracing our child-like behavior and wonder. "Because when we were little, it was really fun, and we don't care what people think of us."
In the caption alongside the video, Ashley urged people to join her in this empowering movement. "If you let yourself be free, how would your True Self & Inner Child spend your Carefree Timelessness?" she wrote. "How can you let go of what others expect, think, need, want? What do YOU feel, need, want, from yourself?"
In a world inundated with negativity, violence, and judgment, Ashley provided a necessary reminder that we can "let go of caring about stupid, controlling norms" and to "bask in the the unselfconscious being-ness" of our true selves.
Responding to Ashley's message, one fan wrote, "Women are healing ourselves—in all the ways we feel intuitively called. And we don't give AF what the world thinks about it. Keep on keepin' sister Ashley."
"I❤️you Ashley! You are the best! Absolutely! So over worrying about all the gazes-the male gaze, the female gaze, the mother's/grandma's/judgemental auntie/HOA Karen/Chad, the total stranger gaze. The only gaze that matters is OURS!" another wrote.
Someone else wrote, "Ohhh Ashley , I dream of having friends like you ! Society is so critical and judgemental , particularly toward aging and appearance. You are a joy to behold ❤️🥰👏 Please continue to share posts like this .Love you lots ❤️💯🥂."
To learn more about the "We Don't Care" club, check out this insightful piece on Melani Sanders and the women of the trend.
Now let's answer Ashley's question: "If you let yourself be free, how would your True Self & Inner Child spend your Carefree Timelessness?" Share your responses in the comments.