I paid £20 for Tinder and want my money's worth – but little-known loophole desperate guys are using is driving me mad
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A FED-UP mum reckons she'll never find love on Tinder - because it keeps serving up blokes she's already rejected.
Divorced Dawn Cowie, 48, turned to the app after more than two years being single.
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The mum is convinced guys are using a loophole on the dating app
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Potential Tinder matches should no longer appear if you swipe left to reject them
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Her swipe finger has been working overdrive and she's already knocked back everyone that's on offer in tiny Nairn, Inverness-shire.
But frustrated Dawn told how the guys she's rejected are making comebacks and repeatedly showing up for her.
The mum-of-one said: 'It's doing my nut in. I keep running out of men because of my location.
'And I feel Tinder is recycling profiles. I kept thinking I've seen these faces before.
'Three times I've seen this one person. It's not taking the hint.'
Since her marriage of 16 years ended Dawn admitted it's been tough trying to find someone else.
Between work and taking care of her 11-year-old daughter she's not left with much time to herself.
While meeting blokes in noisy pubs is a nightmare because she has no clue what they're saying to her.
A friend suggested Tinder and she decided to fork out £20-a-month to get all the benefits of the app.
But so far she's been extremely unhappy with the men offered up to her by the app.
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One date she lined up ended in disaster because the guy kept going on about her age, despite only being four years younger than her.
Dawn said: 'Since then I've ran out and it's changed my location to global.
'There's no way I'll be flying 3,000 miles for more red flags.
'Now the same ones keep showing up, including the one that was going on about my age. I've already blocked him and moved on.'
Dawn has discovered she may be falling victim to a little-known loophole on Tinder.
She added: 'People have realised that if you deactivate your account and go back on, it says 'new'. So it resets them and pushes them back out.
'I feel like I've got to see it through to the end of the month to get my money's worth.
'But I won't be renewing after that.'
Dawn isn't enjoying being back on the dating scene and has no idea if she will ever meet someone else.
She said: 'It's actually a minefield. I thought dating in my 20s was bad.
'But it's a whole new ball game in the dating world now.
'To be honest I'm thinking if it happens it happens.
'It would be nice to have company but in all honesty I have an amazing daughter, my parents and my close friends.
'Online dating works for some but unfortunately it's just not for me.'
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