Bride Asks Guests to Wear Neutrals to Her Wedding Then Complains It Looks Like Everyone Is 'Dressed for a Funeral'
On Reddit, a guest explained that the bride wanted a neutral backdrop so that her flowers could take center stage, but the reality left her feeling like everyone was attending a funeral
After the wedding was done, the bride was reportedly feeling "annoyed" about how well people listened to her rules, sparking a conversation amongst the Redditors about who was in the wrongA bride got exactly what she asked for on her wedding day, but she wasn't thrilled with the outcome.
Taking to Reddit's Wedding Drama forum, a wedding guest revealed that they were asked to wear neutral colors while attending a coworker's wedding. They were then surprised to learn that the bride was "annoyed" by the fact that everyone followed her dress code.
"It was a lovely event, outdoor ceremony, simple decorations, and honestly, a very chill vibe overall. But there was a weird bit of tension that started before the wedding even happened, and came to a head at the reception," the Redditor explained, adding that the bride had asked for people to "wear neutral tones, think beige, cream, soft gray, taupe, or dusty rose" for her big day.
Her reasoning? According to the invitation, it was to "Let the flowers bring the color."
The attendee and "most of the other guests" respected the request and showed up in a sea of soft, neutral tones.
"But at the reception, during her toast, the bride jokingly said, I thought you guys would surprise me with a few pops of color, but I guess everyone really listened," the poster wrote, saying that the joke was met with "an awkward laugh."
They noted that the bride was "genuinely disappointed" and that she later told a friend that the guests looked like they were "dressed for a funeral."
Her response left some of the attendees concerned that they had misunderstood the request. But upon checking the invitation, they confirmed that the request was quite clear.
"She didn't say optional neutrals, she asked for them," the attendee wrote.
They continued, writing, "Now some mutual are saying she's annoyed at how seriously everyone took it, and that she wanted more vibrancy in the photos. Personally, I think if you want a specific look, you have to own it, not get passive-aggressive when people do what you ask."
Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
In the replies to the post, many people agreed that the bride's response was unexpected and unwarranted.
"I don't clearly remember what our 125 wedding guests wore and frankly never gave it a thought," one Redditor wrote. "Dictating what you want your guests to wear to your wedding is obnoxious enough; this behavior takes it to a whole new level."
Another agreed, writing, "I know people wore clothes and nobody wore a bridal gown to our wedding!"
They continued, writing, "An acquaintance got married a couple years back and requested that everyone wear all black which is obnoxious in itself but if she'd then thrown a fit bc everyone was dressed for a funeral I woulda straight up left lol. Don't ask for something and get mad when you receive it!"
"How dare the guests do as she instructs them to do!!!!!" another person joked, adding, "I suspect she is one of those d----- if you do, d----- if you don't types. Complaining if some guests showed up colorful."
"Seems she was always going to find a way to be disappointed in the people attending her wedding. Which is sad, narcissistic and blamey," someone else noted.
While many people agreed that the bride's frustration wasn't fair or aimed in the appropriate direction, one Redditor explained that they sympathized with her.
"I actually feel a bit for the bride, she probably imagined a certain aesthetic and thought it would look elegant. It's sad that the reality didn't match her vision, but I don't think it was about control, just a misjudgment of how the vibe would actually feel in practice," they wrote.
Read the original article on People
Hashtags
Try Our AI Features
Explore what Daily8 AI can do for you:
Comments
No comments yet...
Related Articles
Fox News
a minute ago
- Fox News
Sofía Vergara undergoes second knee surgery, posts recovery photos on social media
Sofía Vergara shared a health update with fans. The 53-year-old "Modern Family" actress posted photos of herself in the hospital in a July 25 Instagram post, sharing that she had undergone a second knee surgery, although she didn't share the reason behind the operations. "Its done! Round 2 🙏🏼❤️❤️#knee," she captioned the post. One of the photos featured a makeup-free selfie of Vergara on a hospital bed, resting her cheek on her hand as she smiled for the camera while dressed in a hospital gown. The second photo showed Vergara's right leg, which showed a bandage taped on the side of her knee and a brace wrapped around her shin. Many of Vergara's famous friends wished her well in the comments section, including her "America's Got Talent" co-star, Terry Crews, who wrote, "❤️❤️❤️ proud of you!" Lauren Sánchez Bezos also commented, writing "Sending you ❤️" while Patrick Schwarzenegger wrote, "Wishing you speedy recovery !!!!" This is not the first time the "Griselda" star has needed an operation on her knee. She previously shared with her followers on Instagram stories in April 2024 that she had gone through surgery, assuring fans she was in safe hands. "If u ever get a [major] knee surgery make sure u Get a handsome doctor who will sleep with u that night... !" she wrote at the time, adding "Luv u." Vergara was referring to her boyfriend at the time, orthopedic surgeon Justin Saliman, whom she dated for over a year before announcing they had split in January 2025. Following her breakup from Saliman, Vergara sparked romance rumors with retired football player, Tom Brady. The two were photographed together while on the Ritz-Carlton yacht during a star-studded European voyage. In the photo, Vergara can be seen posing with her eyes closed as singer J Balvin kisses the top of her head, while Brady smiled at the camera as he sat next to the actress. The pair have reportedly been spending time together in Ibiza, Spain, as a source described the situation as a "summer romance," according to Page Six. "He asked to switch seats to sit next to her at dinner," a source told the media outlet.
Fox News
a minute ago
- Fox News
Kristy Swanson Celebrates ‘What If'
What if your life had taken a different path? Actress Kristy Swanson sits down with Shannon to celebrate the 15th anniversary of the faith-based film What If… . Kristy describes the filming process and working with great individuals, such as Director Dallas Jenkins and shares her experience reuniting with the cast. Later, Kristy highlights how growing up in faith helped her to choose fantastic faith-based projects, such as 'What If.' What If will be in select theatres August 5th and 7th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Forbes
a minute ago
- Forbes
Adam Silverman: LACMA's Seeds and Weeds are Ceramic Art
LACMA Seeds and Weeds, Installation view, Los Angeles, 2025, Ceramics has long oscillated between the functional and the artistic. California has a long tradition of makers who span the chasm between the two, from Beatrice Wood to Jonathan Adler. Among the LA ceramic artists who began making functional pottery and who, in the last decades, migrated to increasingly conceptual artworks is Adam Silverman, who has a show of new work, LACMA Seeds and Weeds, at BLUM in LA on view until August 16, 2025. (BLUM recently announced they will be closing the gallery, so see this while you can). Silverman's early background was in architecture, and he takes special care in how his work is displayed. In the Blum galleries, Silverman has grouped certain pieces that take on additional totemic power together, as well as individual pieces that stand out, positioned around the room, on the floor, on a platform, or on a shelf. Silverman's placement of his work is akin to how a Zen gardener places his rocks, contextualizing the work as worthy of contemplation. Silverman was the 2024 artist in residence at the Skirball Cultural Center, where he showcased his installation Common Ground, a conceptual work for which Silverman collected clay, water, and wood ash from all fifty American states, as well as from Washington DC, and the US Territories of Puerto Rico, the US Virgin Islands, Guam, American Samoa, and the Northern Mariana Islands to make the glazes. The final exhibition includes a tableware set of fifty-six plates, fifty-six bowls, fifty-six cups, as well as fifty-six ceremonial pots. For his exhibition at Blum, Silverman has spent the last five and a half years collecting materials from the LACMA demolition, which he refers to as the 'oozing, living history of the city.' Silverman used the materials to make the glazes; he also would blow matter into the kiln while it's superhot in a manner that affects the surfaces of the pottery. Finally, actual demolition debris was incorporated into the pieces. The total effect does not say LACMA, but rather speaks to the primordial location, sitting as it does near the Tar Pits. LACMA Seeds and Weeds, Installation view, Los Angeles, 2025. FEATURED | Frase ByForbes™ Unscramble The Anagram To Reveal The Phrase Pinpoint By Linkedin Guess The Category Queens By Linkedin Crown Each Region Crossclimb By Linkedin Unlock A Trivia Ladder Some of the works grouped together, which Silverman calls 'seeds,' look like fossilized dinosaur eggs that have bubbled up from the tar pits. Silverman calls other works on display, 'weeds,' as if they sprung from the seeds. Some of the works recall ancient amphora, others are objects that emanate a certain ancient power as if used once for ritual or commemorative reasons. The borders between ceramics, sculpture and painting are increasingly porous. At one end of the spectrum are participants in the 'Maker' culture a DYI aesthetic powered by the lowering of barriers to entry for object making. At the other end are artists engaging with ancient mediums whose possibilities have been enhanced by technology. Silverman's works speak to place, time, history, and our emotional connection to the objects derived from specific sites. The source of Silverman's site-specific additives is not apparent when you look at the works. Yet they do add a conceptual and metaphorical dimension that enhances our connection to the work. Silverman's ceramics both delight us and haunt us because we know they are man-made and yet contain primordial history.
