Chances Gives Choices: 11 Years of Changing Lives - and a New Chapter Ahead
Through its strong partnership with the National Association of Child Contact Centres (NACCC), CGC has helped create safe, consistent, and positive environments—spaces where children can continue building meaningful relationships with both parents during times of separation.
CGC facilitates services across Wiltshire, Dorset, Hampshire, Surrey, Sussex, Berkshire & Oxfordshire.
We offer a wide range of services to separated families, including:
- Services initiated within 7 days of referral (subject to engagement from all parties)
- Supervised contact (in-centre or in the community)
- Supported contact (in-centre or in the community)
- Handover services (in-centre)
- Virtual contact arrangements
- Letterbox services
- Travel arrangements to and from the contact centre
- Communication services between parents, where appropriate
We're proud to announce that CGC is now an official provider of the Separated Parents Information Programme (SPIP). Designed to support separated parents in reducing conflict, improving communication, and prioritising children's well-being, SPIP is a transformative step forward in our service offering.
As we prepare to celebrate our 11th anniversary on August 13th, 2025, this moment marks more than a milestone - it marks a mission in motion.
To celebrate this exciting chapter, we're launching an exclusive 70% discount on all new referral fees - available until our anniversary.
🔖 Quote Code: CGC11 when making a referral to receive the discounted rate.
Whether you're a parent seeking support, a legal or local authority professional, or a family service provider - there's never been a better time to engage with CGC.
We remain driven by one powerful belief:
Every family deserves a chance -
And every child deserves a choice.
To learn more or make a referral, contact us today.
📞 01794516622
🌐 www.chancesgiveschoices.com
Together, let's build brighter, more hopeful futures - for every family.
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