I ditched the UK for Spain & there's 3 things that make drop-offs so much nicer, my boys say school is ‘more relaxed'
After feeling fed up of working just to pay bills, mum-of-two Becky packed up her life and moved to Alicante, a port city on Spain's southeastern Costa Blanca, alongside her partner and two sons.
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But now, the mother has got candid on her 'fresh start' as she shared the five things that have 'altered her brain chemistry since moving to Spain.'
In a short clip uploaded online, the content creator posted a variety of snaps from Alicante and while she can't get used to the eating schedules, explained that she is a huge fan of the way those in Spain do the school drop-off.
Not only does she prefer the school run in Spain, but her kids do too and have described it as 'more relaxed.'
Becky confirmed that shortly after arriving, she experienced the 'school drop-off shock,' with three huge differences from that in the UK.
She acknowledged that not only do teachers give students kisses on the cheek, but parents always casually hang around the gate after saying goodbye to their little darlings.
And that's not all, as she also explained that unlike that in the UK, there is 'no chaotic morning rush,' making the whole experience much smoother and more chilled.
Having said that, Becky has struggled to get on board with popular meal times in Spain and claimed that the 'eating schedules make no sense,' with many sitting down for lunch at 2pm and dinner at 9pm.
Kelly has also had to adjust to seeing the local police at the school gates helping control traffic and was shocked to witness kids crossing the roads without parents accompanying them everyday.
She also found the 'playground culture' a challenge at first, as she recognised that it is now 'normal' for children to go to the park at 8pm.
Finally, she recognised that those in Spain are always throwing street parties, with parades, bright costumes and loud music.
I quit my job and did a complete 180 moving to Spain - beer is just $3 a pint and my life is so much better
She shone a light on the Spanish " carnavals," vibrant pre-Lenten festivals, as she explained: 'There's always a carnaval to celebrate.'
The TikTok clip, which was posted under the username @ bex_from_rain_to_spain, has clearly left many open-mouthed, as it has quickly racked up 61,700 views.
Social media users were impressed with Becky's clip and many raced to the comments to praise her 'dream' life.
One person said: 'It's freedom and less stress for parents, our nervous system loves it.'
Another added: 'I love it. Spain is my dream.'
A third commented: 'I love all of these things about living in Spain, except the meal times! I just can't get in the rhythm! But school drop off is such a vibe!'
Meanwhile, one mother penned: 'Spanish school and the school run was the biggest culture shock for us too. I love it though...school just seems a little more fun here!'
In response, Becky wrote back and confirmed: 'That's what the boys tell me, 'it's just more relaxed here mum.''
Not only this, but another parent asked: 'If you don't mind me asking, how did the kids adjust? We would love to move over with our seven year old.'
To this, Becky responded and shared: 'The kids have been amazing!
'Literally took it in their stride, also I no longer battle [getting] my little one into school in the morning.'
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