Birthday Dinner Ends in Dispute Over $1K Bill After One Guest Orders for Everyone
Instead, one of the guests decided to order "family-style," not taking into consideration anyone else's food preferences or dietary restrictions
When the bill came, one woman refused to split the bill evenly, considering she had only ordered two thingsA birthday dinner in San Francisco turned into a financial and emotional headache for one out-of-town guest, whose attempt to celebrate a friend's birthday ended up costing more than she anticipated.
The situation sparked a debate on Reddit over how group meals should be handled, especially when attendees have differing food preferences, dietary restrictions, and various spending limits.
The poster, who doesn't drink and follows a pescatarian diet, says she left feeling 'taken advantage of' after being asked to contribute far more than the cost of her order.
Her refusal to split the bill evenly left some frustrated, and others rethinking the purpose of group celebrations. At the center of it all: an unspoken rule about 'splitting evenly' that not everyone agreed to.
'There were about 10 of us. I don't drink alcohol and I don't eat red meat,' the Reddit user wrote. 'When we got there, one person (not the birthday girl) took it upon herself to order for the whole table, deciding we'd eat 'family style.' '
Caught off-guard, the poster clarified her dietary needs and managed to order separately — a $23 pasta and a $10 mocktail. What followed was a feast, but one that didn't cater to everyone.
When the food arrived, it became clear that it was far more than the group needed — two oversized meat and seafood platters, multiple appetizers, and several desserts. Most of the guests had multiple cocktails, each priced over $20, however, one attendee didn't eat at all because "she couldn't afford to eat out but wanted to come 'for the vibes.'' Meanwhile, another friend ate a portion of the meal and left early.
'The woman who ordered everything put it on her card and took home all the leftovers (which were a lot),' the poster recalled. A few days later, the birthday girl revealed the bill had come to over $1,000 and asked each person to contribute $150.
Shocked, the Reddit user refused, explaining that her order came out to $40, at most, with tip. The birthday girl offered to reduce her share to $100, but it was clear she wasn't happy. 'She said the expectation at group dinners is everyone splits evenly, like it's the 'cost of entry' to share the experience,' the friend wrote.
However, that rationale didn't sit right with the poster. 'Why should people be expected to subsidize others' expensive tastes — especially when they didn't agree to a shared meal, didn't drink, and ordered conservatively?' she questioned.
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A large number of commenters jumped to the user's defense, agreeing with her line of reasoning.
'Lack of communication for sure! For an event like this, the details should be laid out and agreed to in advance,' one user wrote. 'Nobody should be left feeling they can't afford the dinner, and nobody should 'order for the table' without asking for people's preferences or deciding a budget.'
Another user emphasized: 'If you order a spread of food expecting others to pay, they better have been consulted with and agreed beforehand. End of story, and those who didn't even partake from said spread definitely owe nothing.'
The user further explained that this was her first time meeting most of the group — she only knew two people there, including the birthday girl. The idea of going 'family style' apparently stemmed from a quick conversation among some attendees at one end of the table, which she didn't overhear.
And yet, despite the confusion, the user says she was the only person who offered to help cover the birthday girl's share of the meal. 'So far, it seems like I am the only one who offered to pay any of the bday girl's meal,' she noted. 'I think others were taken aback by how expensive this came out to? Not sure.'
In the aftermath, tensions remain and the birthday girl is now 'mortified' and worried that her friend who initially covered the bill might be stuck paying a large portion of it. Nevertheless, the poster is choosing to stand her ground.
'I don't think I'll ever even agree to come to a group dinner without discussing how the check will be managed ahead of time,' she admits. 'Idc if that makes me look like a stingy penny pincher. I just don't feel comfortable after this experience.'
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