
I stole thousands from hunky one-night stands & faked lung cancer – then bosses found out I was criminal on the run
After committing a series of scams 2,000 miles away, Kari had fled across the country to start a new life in New York where no one knew her - even landing her dream job at a well-known brand.
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Kari Ferrell reveals the truth behind her Noughties crime spree that saw her target and rob hipster men
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Kari pictured on Salt Lake City police department's most-wanted list
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Kari with her husband Elliot
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But despite this big break at trendy culture magazine Vice, Kari had continued her crime spree, stealing money from men she hooked up with and cashing cheques from a stolen cheque book.
It would be that dream job that became her undoing, after a viral blog post written by one of her colleagues, entitled Department Of Oopsies! We Hired A Grifter, exposed her as a fugitive on the most-wanted list of a police force on the other side of the USA, accused of a range of offences.
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The 2009 article explained the magazine had discovered its admin assistant had five outstanding warrants for fraud, had been run out of Utah and earned herself the nickname 'The Filth'.
Nicknamed 'The Filth'
The blog sparked an online frenzy in which Kari became one of the world's first internet-famous memes.
Across the city, people became obsessed with her story, and with finding her.
Public sightings were posted on forums, while former friends and lovers spilled the beans on her scams and lies.
Long before
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Now married for 13 years to her photographer husband Elliot Esnor, Kari lives in Brooklyn.
She was born in Korea and adopted by her parents, Karen and Terry, who took her to live in
Seven shock revelations as Anna Delvey slams parents after arrest
Consequently, she always felt like an outsider.
Kari, 38, explains: 'It's one of those religions where you're told as a woman that you need to be married and your husband is going to teach you all of the things that you need to know to be able to go to heaven.
It was a very isolated community and there wasn't a lot of Asian representation.
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'There were scriptures that talked about how, if you weren't white, you were 'dark and loathsome'. So, I assumed I was doomed to purgatory.
'I figured: 'Why am I aspiring to be a perfect Mormon child when they don't even want me there?''
I was stealing money from other people to pay the previous ones back – it was like a pyramid scheme
Kari Ferrell
Kari's parents divorced when she was in her teens.
That's when she fell in with a rebellious crowd at school and started shoplifting.
The victim of her first 'grift' was a boyfriend, 21-year-old Charlie Connors, who she met when she was 18.
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'What I did doesn't make any sense,' Kari admits.
'It was acting without thinking. It was testing the limits. It was an uncontrollable urge to mess up, because I didn't deserve anything good.'
She persuaded Charlie to cash a $500 cheque she wrote him and give her the money, after telling him her account had been frozen. In fact, her account had been closed weeks earlier because there were no funds in it.
Kari, who was working as a receptionist in a veterinary clinic at the time, knew the cheque would bounce and, when it did a week later, she convinced Charlie the bank was investigating why and that she would pay him back.
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Kari, pictured when she was younger, grew up in a mormon community
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Kari posing with the cover of her new book
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Over the following months, Kari began to swindle other friends and acquaintances using the same ruse.
'My victims were good people who simply wanted to help a pal. And I was still convinced that what I was doing wasn't wrong, because I fully intended to have the money to pay them back,' she says.
She even used the cash she scammed to buy gifts and treat her friends.
In her book, she writes that she 'stole money in the hopes that people wouldn't forget me.'
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She says: 'I always told myself I had time to get the money and pay them back, but what ended up happening was that I was stealing money from other people to pay the previous one back – it was like a pyramid scheme.'
Her swindling went next level when her own cheques ran out. and she stole a bag from a lady in a restaurant, using the cheque book she found inside instead.
In early 2008, aged 19, she was eventually reported to police by one of her victims.
She was arrested, held on remand and released, after she persuaded another friend to pay the $1,000 bail.
I was leaving with their cash, while all they were left with were blue balls
Kari Ferrell
Instead of going to trial, Kari ran away to New York that April, where she tried to make a fresh start.
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She spent weeks looking for work until, she says: 'The little money that I did have ran out. And I basically put myself in the same position again.'
She persuaded friends to cash her stolen cheques, then progressed to stealing from men she met in bars and at gigs.
Her 'marks' in New York were often one-night stands – 'white, trust-fund guys' and 'ones who had an almost fetishisation of me and other Asians.'
She admits she was still attracted to the men she stole from.
'I still had to have some sort of connection with them,' she says.
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'There was no plotting. It was more like – I find that person attractive, now I'm at their apartment and there's $50 in crumpled bills sitting on their table. I'm going to take that.'
At the time, Kari was living in the up-and-coming
Men with beards, wearing checked shirts, who obsessed over craft beer, vinyl records and anything retro, became her main targets.
She even had a tattoo on her back that read: 'I Love Beards'.
She later described 'luring bearded dudes into my web, going home with them, then leaving with their cash, while all they were left with were blue balls.'
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It became like a manhunt, like a game for people to try and spot me and then post sightings online
Kari Ferrell
It was during this time that Kari also lied to a friend that she had lung cancer. In the book, she recalls how she became jealous of her female friend's relationship with a new man, so lied about the illness to gain more of her attention.
'When they eventually broke up, the lung cancer I had lied about went into remission,' she writes.
But her actions were finally about to catch up with her.
In April 2009, Kari landed an assistant role at hipster bible Vice magazine.
Just weeks in, a colleague she'd flirted with decided to Google her name – and spotted her details on Salt Lake City police department's most-wanted list.
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Romance scams red flags
1. They quickly tell you they love you
From calling you their soulmate to saying 'I've never felt this way before' after dating for days or a few weeks.
2. They avoid meeting in person
If you've matched online, they will always have an excuse; working late, family emergencies etc.
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They ask for money or gift cards
Often they say they need help paying for travel, have a sick relative or child, or their bank account is frozen, or purse lost. They may also ask for gift cards, crypto, transfers or money through apps.
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5. They want to move the conversation off the dating site
If they want to talk via email, WhatsApp, G-Chat or another private platform quickly. They might also avoid platforms with scam reporting tools or moderation.
6. They avoid video calls
From claiming their camera is broken, or in an area with no signal - and when they might do a video call, but it may be short, blurry or clearly fake.
That's when the magazine outed her to its readers.
'I read the story and I'm like: 'Oh, boy.' I realised that I couldn't keep on running away and doing what I had been doing,' Kari says.
The story caught the public's imagination, and other articles on her escapades in New York followed.
It included one in The New York Observer, where the author dubbed Kari 'The Hipster Grifter', due to her penchant for trendy, bearded male victims.
Gossip blogs ran obsessive coverage. Interviews with exes and leaked nude photos flooded the internet.
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'One from Italy is particularly memorable, referring to me as 'The Filth',' Kari recalls.
Her flirty pick-up lines – scrawled on napkins and matchbooks – like: 'I want you to massage me, from the inside,' were sold on eBay, and T-shirts with her face appeared online.
'It became like a manhunt, like a game for people to try and spot me and then post sightings of me online. I went into hiding.'
Not all the attention was negative.
'Some people had the attitude of 'good for her',' she says, especially those who saw hipsters as self-righteous and humourless.
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Initially, she assumed she'd be found and arrested straight away.
But it wasn't for several weeks, in May 2009, that she was finally taken into custody by the police while she was visiting friends in
'It was a relief,' she says. 'It felt like it was the first step to it being over.'
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Vice wrote an article on hiring Kari
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Kari pleaded guilty and was handed a suspended one-year sentence and 36 months probation for attempting forgery, and was given a suspended prison term of up to five years and ordered to serve nine months in jail for forgery.
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She had already served 132 days, and was released from prison in February 2010.
'After that, I just wanted to fade into obscurity,' she says.
But she struggled to come to terms with what had happened and eventually started therapy, which she says helped her understand her behaviour.
'Being adopted had left a huge hole in my past and, subsequently, my heart. I frequently mourned the relationships I lost, which felt selfish.
Being adopted had left a huge hole in my past and, subsequently, my heart. I frequently mourned the relationships I lost, which felt selfish
Kari Ferrell
"I questioned whether I felt that way because of how I had hurt the other person, or because I had hurt myself.
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"We are not good or bad – we're a mix of all the feelings, and we choose which one is allowed to poke its head above water.'
Even now, Kari still wrestles with the big question of why she did what she did. 'I knew what I was doing wasn't right,' she says.
After her release from jail, Kari met Elliot while on probation in Utah.
He was in the military and staying at the same hotel where she worked as a live-in cook.
She wrote in her book: 'I felt supported and loved, and I had a dude – who I didn't even have to lie to, nor did I want to – who wanted to support and take care of me.'
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Kari went on to work in offices and was honest with HR departments about her past, but went by her middle name, Michelle, and kept her colleagues in the dark.
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Simon Leviev, aka the Tinder Swindler
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Other high profile scammers
The "Yahoo Boys" Scams
Estimate losses: Billions of dollars globally
Originating from Nigeria, this group of fraudsters uses fake online identities to lure victims into romantic relationships. Victims are often manipulated into sending money under the pretense of emergencies, travel costs, or gifts.
The Tinder Swindler
Estimated Losses: Over $10 million from multiple women
Simon Leviev (real name Shimon Hayut) posed as the son of a diamond mogul on Tinder, living a lavish lifestyle to gain trust. Once involved romantically, he would claim his life was in danger and ask for money.
The Anna Sorokin Case
Estimated losses: $275,000 stolen
Anna Delvey pretended to be a wealthy German heiress, defrauding friends and businesses in the social circles of NYC. While not a traditional romance scam, she used charm and false identity in personal relationships.
It didn't always work out, though.
On several occasions, co-workers discovered her true identity and she was forced to leave.
Even after marrying Elliot in 2011 and taking his surname, she couldn't fully escape her past.
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She lasted five years in one role as a digital marketing director, but was let go when clients discovered her criminal history.
Today, Kari runs her own production company, and later this year she's launching a podcast called The Worst Thing I've Ever Done, in which guests share their biggest transgressions. There's even talk of a TV series based on her life.
Kari has been compared to Anna Delvey – who was jailed for posing as a wealthy heiress to scam New York socialites – and Billy McFarland, who defrauded investors out of $27.4million to fund the doomed Fyre Festival.
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Anna Delvey was jailed for posing as a wealthy heiress to scam New York socialites
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'I definitely like to think of myself as being separate from them, because it does not seem that they are very remorseful,' she says, alluding to the fact that Delvey capitalised on her notoriety, even appearing on Dancing With The Stars, while McFarland, post-prison, tried to launch Fyre Festival 2.
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Kari notes that her scams totalled around $10,000 and that: 'Compared to them, it was minimal.'
She now hopes that by speaking out and owning her past, people will see the real Kari Ferrell – not just The Hipster Grifter.
'I hope most people would consider me a good person,' she says, revealing that the reaction she gets from people is generally positive.
'I've always had a weird popularity. There were people online saying these horrible things about me, and you would expect that to translate into the real world, but it doesn't.'
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Advertisement 'She did better at my house even though she was still going missing. 'But after she was taken from me, things got worse. It was basically easier access for the grooming gangs. 'NO CONTROL' 'They were driving outside the care homes and picking girls up, waiting for girls to walk from the care homes and pulling them over, offering them drink, offering them money, drugs, everything. 'I just felt I'd lost everything, I had no control. Advertisement 'I didn't know what was going on. I didn't know if she was missing. I was constantly worried and on edge all the time because I didn't know if she was safe. 'I used to close my eyes at night time and I used to have visions of Jamie dead and lying in a gutter. And I can still see that now, it haunts me. 'I would visit her at the care home and social workers told me to back off. 'They said the work that they were trying to do with her, I was spoiling it and I need to back off. Advertisement 'But I kept going. 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Advertisement 'It's affected all our family relationships. Her older brother felt helpless, every lad who has younger sister always want to make sure they're safe. So he feels he couldn't protect her or he let her down. He's struggling. 'It's took a toll on my and Jamie's relationship, we've had our ups and downs, she has blamed me for things, it's been rocky. 'It's awful for the survivor of course, but it's bad for everyone around them too 'We've been through all the reports from social services together. It was hard and it made us both angry. Advertisement 'I went to every meeting without fail and the one meeting I didn't go to, and they put block capital letters that I didn't turn up because I was waiting for a TV repair. Making out I put the TV priority over my daughter. 'I've been to all these meetings. I was at the care home all the time. I listened to everything that they were saying. I did everything they said and it never helped. Authorities respond Greater Manchester Police said: 'We have fully accepted our past failings in tackling this horrific abuse and are working with a number of survivors, who have placed their faith in the GMP of today and are supporting our active retrospective investigations. 'These are long and complex investigations, but our commitment is unwavering, and we will not allow passage of time to be a hindrance. 'HMICFRS and Ofsted published a report last week highlighting significant improvements we have made in how we protect children, respond to abuse, and investigate non-recent cases of CSE. 'GMP remains focused on listening to survivors and advancing our effective practice still further. We owe it both to those abused in the past and to our children today to sustain this most pressing of priorities, and we continue to give our commitment to do just that. 'We are actively investigating and supporting Jamie as we progress her case. While we understand that the impact of her past experience cannot be undone, we are confident that victims' experiences today would be significantly improved compared to those of previous years." Oldham Council said: "I want to commend Jamie Leigh for her extraordinary courage in speaking out and sharing her story. Her bravery is not only deeply moving but plays a vital role in ensuring that survivors are heard, and that real change continues to happen. "Across the country, councils, the police, and other agencies failed those affected by child sexual exploitation in the past. Oldham was no exception and we apologise again to survivors and their families. "We also recognise that these horrific crimes have not disappeared, but we are more determined than ever to root out those who abuse and exploit children. We will not rest until every child is safe and those responsible are held fully to account. "Oldham is absolutely committed to learning from the past. Thanks in no small part to the tenacity of survivors like Jamie Leigh, we are leading the way in tackling child sexual exploitation, putting survivors at the heart of our efforts, and doing everything in our power to ensure the mistakes of the past are never repeated. "We welcome both local and national inquiries, and we are clear that survivors must be at the centre of this process. Their voices are essential to building a safer future for every child." "I never stopped fighting yet I feel like I constantly have to defend myself. 'It's hard to admit but I do feel like a bad mum. I carry a lot of guilt. But I did the best I could. Advertisement 'I think if I had the right support, Jamie would have been better off with me, in my home. 'I'm not saying I was a perfect mum, but I have always been a loving mother and when they took Jamie away from me she had no one. 'And they took her to an even worse situation where the groomers had free reign.' Louise believes that the police officers who failed Jamie should be prosecuted and there should mandatory training for all officers on how to deal with child sexual exploitation. Advertisement BROKEN SYSTEM 'Yes they should be prosecuted because they shouldn't treat anybody like that,' she said. 'They see a child being raped and then say she's a prostitute? It's wrong. 'There needs to be some sort of public consequence so that these people in the services know that they can't get away with it in the future.' While Jamie was in care, Louise tried to set up a parent's group for other families who had been affected by grooming, backed by police – but no one turned up. Advertisement She believes that police who had promised to advertise the event never did, although she has no proof of this. But she's now committed to helping parents of sexual abuse survivors past and present and has set up a group in Oldham called Parents Matter. Mum's heartbreaking poem Deperate Louise wrote this poem to try and put her anger and frustration into words and let other parents know they're not alone: Why let these groomers, Near our kids, You should believe the child, Not the perpetrators fibs. Night after night, My heads in tatters, Is my girl safe, That's all matters Day after day, No education, Not home from school, Want her home the desperation. Send her out in the morning, To school she goes, Knowing she won't be back, The anxiety shows. Reporting her missing, Nothing is done, Ringing the police, The groomers carry on. Early hours in morning, My girl returns, Been drugged and used, So much hurt it burns. At least she's alive, Even though she's been through hell, Socail services ain't helping, She's becoming a shell. Im desperate for help, Nothings being done, Please someone help, My little one. I close my eyes, The visions I see, Is my girl dead in a gutter, Oh God the anxiety. Please help my girl, I'm begging you, She's not to blame, You know it too. Not a wink of sleep Weeks go by My girl still goes missing Still no help WHY? Now months go by, Its still going on, Your turning a blind eye, My girl you put the blaime on. Now years of this, She's now in care, She still going missing, This isn't fair. Now she's an adult, All the trauma she's had, Trying help her stay strong, Mums here in good and bad. My girl my warrior, I'm so proud of her She also has a list of recommendations she wants to make to those in power to stop grooming – which she believes is still happening in our communities – in its tracks. 'I've spoken to police officers, schools and asked them what can be done to stop this," she said. Advertisement 'There's people in suits who think they know it all, putting things in place, but they're doing it wrong. They've not lived it like us, and they should listen to us. 'Just things like they would organise meetings for Jamie to discuss the grooming at 9am in the morning. 'She'd been out all night, being abused, drugged, filled with alcohol til 4 or 5am and then she wouldn't turn up to the appointment. 'Then the services would turn around and say 'Oh, look, she doesn't want to work with us' and they'd give up.' Advertisement Louise said she supports the National Inquiry, announced by PM Keir Starmer in June, 'if they do it properly' but she worries that some girls are still reluctant to speak up because they are afraid of prosecutions if they recruited other girls – or even having their kids taken away if they disclose their vulnerable mental health. Louise and Jamie say they still have a lot of anger towards the perpetrators and the services that failed them but have decided to turn their anger at the situation into a positive by helping other parents and survivors. 'I just want to help other parents and help put a stop to this.' Louise said. 'I don't want other parents or children to go through what I went through or what Jamie went through. We can't change the past but we make changes now and improve a broken system.' Advertisement Police and social services both accepted their failings in relation to Jamie's case in statements to The Sun. Greater Manchester Police said it had "fully accepted our past failings in tackling this horrific abuse" and it was "actively investigating" the case. Oldham Council added: "Oldham is absolutely committed to learning from the past. Thanks in no small part to the tenacity of survivors like Jamie-Leigh, we are leading the way in tackling child sexual exploitation, putting survivors at the heart of our efforts, and doing everything in our power to ensure the mistakes of the past are never repeated."