My marriage became sex-starved then ended because of a common hair loss drug – I was so lonely I became suicidal

The Sun

04-06-2025

A WOMAN has revealed that she left her husband after their marriage became sexless thanks to a common drug for hair loss.
Thammika Songkaeo shared her heartbreaking story on the Moral Medicine podcast.
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Now a bestselling author, she revealed the dangers of the prescription drug that men rarely know about.
Thammika said she noticed that her love life was nonexistent while they were still dating.
Her then- boyfriend told her that it was because he had taken Propecia — the brand name of finasteride.
Finasteride is a prescription drug that is commonly used to treat male pattern hair loss.
It works by blocking the production of a male hormone that contributes to hair loss.
However, it comes with a host of side effects, including: erectile dysfunction, decreased sex drive and ejaculation problems, including reduced ejaculate volume.
At first, she figured it would only be a temporary problem, but that soon changed.
'I did not at all realise that it was permanent, serious [and] devastating,' she said.
The pair still decided to stay together and ended up married for seven years.
She even convinced her ex to take an erectile dysfunction drug to improve intimacy.
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The couple even welcomed a daughter, but the sex life never really improved and Thamika was feeling lonelier than ever.
Eventually, she decided to call it quits on her sex-starved marriage.
She said: "I couldn't really detach myself from this person because I saw what happened, and I said, "This is definitely not this man's fault."
"And what I needed to do personally was move away from the relationship as a romantic partner because I couldn't do it, I couldn't live in a sexless marriage."
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Now, she is trying to raise awareness on post-finasteride syndrome (PFS) - condition in which someone experiences severe side effects after they stop using finasteride.
'The depth of the loneliness I felt was to the point where I, myself, was becoming suicidal or having suicidal thoughts,' Songkaeo said.
'I had to call the suicide hotline because it became that bad for me — and, usually, I'm a pretty happy person.'
She questions the ethics of distributing a drug that can have such potentially devastating consequences.
'Finasteride has the capacity to dissolve one person so much that it becomes this domino effect…there's just so much destruction around it — and it feels like unnecessary destruction,' she said.