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CNA
6 hours ago
- CNA
Can botox really improve your self-esteem? Depends on how you already feel about yourself, say experts
These days, for every flaw we perceive about our bodies, there seems to be a treatment, procedure or regimen designed to "fix" each one. Social media is rife with content promising aesthetic perfection. We fixate on beauty standards led by influencers, going down the rabbit hole of tutorials and tell-alls on how to achieve sculpted jawlines or glass-like skin. Counsellor Bethany Chuah from psychological consultancy firm Mind What Matters said that studies have shown a clear link between social media materials such as these and an increase in cosmetic procedures. Filtered images create the illusion that constant self-enhancement is normal or even necessary, and this can be psychologically risky. The sea change is clear: Cosmetic procedures used to be something we kept hush-hush, but they are appearing more in public discourse and conversations. Recently, American personality Kylie Jenner made a comment on a fan's TikTok video that quickly went viral, sharing the details of her breast augmentation surgery, down to the name of the surgeon and implant size. Men are not exempt from similar pursuits. One of the newer trends to surface on online communities is "looksmaxxing", where young men seek to enhance their "sexual market value" through facial massages and cosmetic surgeries. It has spawned a peculiar vocabulary used by those who subscribe to these ideas when discussing about their features. For instance, "mewing" refers to a tongue exercise that purportedly sharpens jaw shapes, "IPDs" refers to interpupillary distance or the gap between the eyes, and "canthal tilt" is used to describe the angle of the eyes. In Singapore, the Ministry of Health said that the number of licensed providers offering aesthetic services rose by an average of about 40 a year between 2020 and 2023. More young Singaporeans are opting for "injectables" such as botox and collagen shots. Mental health experts told CNA TODAY that body dissatisfaction is normal to a certain extent. For instance, adolescents aim to look "cool" or be consistent with a certain image of themselves. Mr Benjamin Low, senior clinical psychologist at specialist clinic Psych Connect, said that women, in particular, experience "normative discontent". This means they are often encouraged to be discontented with their looks and seek to appear better. However, "better" is defined according to prevailing ideals in society. The insecurity we may feel about our faces or bodies is nothing new, but we now have the means to do something about it. We can smooth out every wrinkle, regrow every hairline. With all these new avenues for "improvement", imperfection now seems intolerable. Fake is no longer taboo; unreal is the new norm. Yet, given how easy it is to step into a clinic and book a consultation – or even an appointment for a procedure right away – how can we tell if we are doing it for the right reasons? Are we acting out of an unhealthy insecurity about our faces or bodies? Can a desire to undertake such procedures ever come from a neutral, grounded place? BODY POSITIVITY OR INSECURITY? Firstly, it is important to note that there are differences in facial and body enhancements. Invasive surgeries involve using an instrument to make skin incisions, often leaving scars. Some examples are nose reshaping, body contouring or facial surgery. On the other hand, non-invasive procedures leave the skin intact and are usually performed via syringes or lasers. These cheaper, more convenient options usually don't require general anaesthesia and require less time for the patient to recover. Facial injections such as botox and dermal fillers fall under this category. Both invasive and non-invasive procedures are getting increasingly popular. However, when is a person's desire for such an intervention borne out of a simple want for self-enhancement, and when does it reflect darker psychological causes? Counsellor and psychotherapist Ana Jeremiah, who runs private practice The Journey Within, said that it is important to hold space for both sides of the spectrum. "When it is about self-enhancement, the decision usually stems from a place of clarity and self-agency," she said. In this case, these people likely already feel generally fine with themselves but want to align their outer appearance with how they feel inside. They are not driven by fear, pressure to conform or a need to be accepted and they can reflect honestly about their intent behind seeking a procedure. Ms Jeremiah added: "They might be happy with who they are and where they are in life, and choose to undergo a procedure as a form of self-expression or even a personal reward, rather than out of shame or the hope that changing their appearance will solve deeper emotional pain." One of her clients made the decision to undergo such a procedure from a self-aware position, and it ended up supporting her self-confidence. Ms Jeremiah attributes this to her client not making the mistake of letting her decision-making be driven by insecurity. On the flip side, choices that stem from unhealthy reasons may not achieve the desired outcome. "(Those) rooted in insecurity often carry urgency, shame or the belief that changing their appearance will finally make them feel 'enough', loved or accepted," Ms Jeremiah said. Mr Low highlighted this factor for those who feel that most or all of their self-worth is based on their appearance. Such individuals may feel great discomfort in situations where their appearance may be noticed, for instance, in mirrors or among people. "Grounds for suspecting an unhealthy cause are increased if the perceived flaw is not commonly seen as a flaw in the person's culture or if the flaw is barely noticeable objectively," he added. OBSESSIVE CHECKING Mr Low also stressed that if a person keeps looking at and negatively evaluating the state of the perceived flaw, their motivation for "fixing" it is likely to be psychologically unhealthy. Such individuals may also often try to conceal the flaw, he said. For example, avoiding physical interaction with people, or wearing jackets to conceal perceived fat despite hot weather. This masking or avoidance behaviour can occur despite their desire to socialise with friends, for instance, or to dress lighter in humid climates. Another red flag indicating unhealthy mindsets or attitudes is when people go for repeated procedures. Mr Low pointed out that in such cases, the risk is that procedures borne out of unhealthy psychological causes will never be enough. To self-identify a facial feature or body part as unsatisfactory or unseemly and then addressing it with external procedures might offer temporary relief, but "dissatisfaction with the same (feature or) part may resurface", he warned. "They may also feel that the procedure did not fix it to their full satisfaction despite a technical success." Alternatively, these people might simply shift their fixation to a different feature or part. "A physical fix does not fix a psychological cause," he added. Another sign of trouble is if people seeking cosmetic enhancements believe that the procedures will magically fix unrelated areas of their life – suddenly finding love, for instance, or gaining social acceptance, Ms Chuah of Mind What Matters said. Mr Jasper Loy, clinical director of Youthline, a youth service that provides free counselling, said that such individuals might not acknowledge the risks, pain, recovery time or potential for less-than-perfect results. Strong resistance to any psychological evaluation or counselling before surgery is a potential indication that they are unwilling to address the underlying issues driving their desire for surgery and other procedures, he added. "Cosmetic procedures can become a slippery slope. Each change briefly soothes insecurity, but doesn't address the root cause (of this need)," Ms Chuah emphasised. "Long-term body confidence often requires deeper work." If someone is considering a procedure, Ms Jeremiah offered some important questions that they should ask themselves: "Am I doing this to honour and express who I already am, or to finally feel 'enough' in the eyes of others?" This question helps clarify their motivation "If no one ever noticed or complimented the change, would I still want to do this?" This question gently invites one to reflect on whether the desire is truly for themselves or if it is rooted in external validation CONFIDENCE COMES FROM WITHIN Overall, Ms Chuah said genuine body confidence cannot come from a scalpel or syringe, but rather "from within". Building self-worth takes reflection, compassion and support from people who see your value beyond your appearance, she explained. "It is not a quick fix, but the results are longer-lasting than any procedure." Mr Loy from Youthline agreed that journeying towards self-acceptance requires patience. The ideal body is a myth, he said, and chasing it can lead to dissatisfaction and insecurity. Instead, we are better off learning to love ourselves as we are, recognising our inherent worth and celebrating our unique qualities, he advised. Worried that your friend, family member or loved one is considering an aesthetic procedure for the "wrong" reasons? The key is to lead with empathy, not judgment, the counsellors said. Instead of telling them what to do or what not to do, try to focus instead on helping them make an informed, self-aware decision, Ms Chuah proposed. Mr Low said that concern can start with care but then escalate into worry, persuasion and coercion. Avoid criticising them, he advised. Such criticisms may result in the distressed person feeling that they are a "problem" or are seen by others as one. Instead, Ms Chuah suggested asking open-ended questions to understand their perspectives and help them feel safe to honestly explore their motivations. Ms Jeremiah listed some prompts aimed at creating space for reflection without shame. For example, "What is leading you to consider this?' or "What do you hope it might change for you emotionally?" "Remind them that you care about them as a whole person," she added.
Straits Times
10 hours ago
- Straits Times
‘I've tried everything': Mum helpless as son's Kpod addiction spirals out of control
Find out what's new on ST website and app. Madam Tan (not her real name) is hoping for stronger intervention and a coordinated effort by the various government agencies to help youth like her son. SINGAPORE – Since discovering that her son had started vaping last September, Madam Tan (not her real name) has tried every possible avenue to help him break free from his Kpod addiction. But after being bounced between agencies, she feels helpless and increasingly desperate. 'I've sought help from all the agencies, but no one is able to help me.' Madam Tan said her son picked up vaping in secondary school, just before sitting his O levels in 2024. He is now an 18-year-old student at the Institute of Technical Education. 'Now he walks like a zombie, and has no control of his body. When I call him, his response is slow. He's got no muscle at all and his body has become very weak,' she said. Unable to wake up in the mornings, her son has missed many days of school. When Madam Tan and her husband, both in their 50s, try to confront the teen about his vaping and confiscate his devices, he gets aggressive and at times has run away from home. Top stories Swipe. Select. Stay informed. Singapore Almost half of planned 30,000 HDB flats in Tengah to be completed by end-2025: Chee Hong Tat Singapore Students hide vapes in underwear, toilet roll holders: S'pore schools grapple with vaping scourge Singapore Black belt in taekwondo, Grade 8 in piano: S'pore teen excels despite condition that limits movements Singapore As Asean looks to nuclear energy, public education efforts are needed: UN nuclear watchdog chief Asia Thousands rally in downtown Kuala Lumpur calling for the resignation of PM Anwar Asia Death toll climbs as Thai-Cambodia clashes continue despite calls for ceasefire Asia Shunsaku Tamiya, who brought perfection to plastic race car models, dies at 90 'Tonight I confiscate, tomorrow he has a new vape. It's too easy to get vapes nowadays,' she said. At her wits' end, she has called the authorities at least 10 times, sometimes at midnight, when she finds her son defiantly vaping at home. But the most they could do was to confiscate the vapes, along with issuing fines or a warning. She asked if any agency could conduct an investigation and locate the vape distributor or seller, but was told that was not possible. 'I said, please investigate my son. It's not so difficult to switch on his phone, check the chats and find out who is the seller. Why can't (anyone) help us to do this thing?' More on this topic Singapore's vaping crisis lays bare the drug addiction nightmare for parents Earlier in 2025, her son was caught by the police in possession of Kpods. She was relieved when her son had to report to Bedok Police Station every week for a month after that, and undergo drug tests on his hair and urine. Even so, her son was using Kpods at home during that period. He also saw doctors thrice this year at the National Addictions Management Service clinic at the Institute of Mental Health for his Kpod addiction. She also informed her son's teachers that he was using Kpods and urged them to conduct bag checks. But he has yet to be caught. Running out of options, she sought help from two MPs at three Meet-the-People Sessions. She was referred to a counsellor, but her son refused help. She also spent a few thousand dollars engaging a private rehabilitation centre to help her son, but that failed too. Madam Tan is hoping for stronger intervention and a coordinated effort by the various government agencies to help youth like her son who are Kpod addicts, before it is too late. 'There's no way for them to quit by themselves. We have to come up with something, like compulsory rehab for these kids,' she said. 'It is out of my hands. There is no way now for me to control my son and help him.'
Independent Singapore
10 hours ago
- Independent Singapore
Experts link rise in suicides among Singaporeans in their 30s to job insecurity, family pressures, and mental health stress
SINGAPORE: Job insecurity, family pressures, and mental health struggles are among the reasons behind the rise in suicides among those in their 30s in Singapore, according to experts. New figures released on July 19 showed 75 individuals in their 30s died by suicide in 2024, up from 66 in the previous year. It was also the highest number recorded among all age groups, based on provisional data cited by Channel News Asia (CNA) . Principal clinical psychologist Dr Sharon Lu of the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) told CNA that those in their 30s—the sandwich generation—juggle building their careers, raising children, and caring for ageing parents, while also managing financial pressure. At the same time, they worry about job security, housing loans, and daily family expenses. 'The pressure to meet societal expectations and perceived life achievements can further compound these stresses and create social isolation,' she added. Dr Lu noted that suicide is rarely caused by one issue alone and is the result of biological, psychological, social, and cultural risk factors, along with a lack of resilience factors. See also Woman who threw her son from 9th storey flat jailed 5 years While many assume that depression is the cause of all suicides, Dr Lu said that 'someone who is not depressed can still be suicidal.' Psychiatrist and deputy medical director Dr David Teo of Connections MindHealth said many in their 30s start to question whether they've reached the goals they set in their 20s, and when those go unfulfilled, it can lead to 'a sense of failure or hopelessness.' He also pointed to the role of social media, which often fuels comparison and leaves people feeling left behind. SOS' senior manager and lead counsellor Chan May Peng also noted that those in their 30s are 'at crossroads'—questioning career choices, managing relationship commitments, and adjusting to caregiving roles, with some having little or no support. Dr Teo said having a strong social support system is important, while Dr Lu added that prioritising self-care, practicing self-compassion, and maintaining a clear work-life balance can help too. See also NTUC Study reveals Singaporeans fear becoming Sandwich Generation 'Sometimes, people may feel like they don't have enough time for self-care, but it is not something to be done only when it's convenient,' said Dr Lu. Regular exercise, getting enough sleep, meditation, and improving financial habits can all help. Ms Chan also suggested simple ways to reset mentally, like taking short walks in the park while listening to music, journaling, and shifting focus away from overwhelming thoughts, which can create space for emotional recovery and reduce mental load. Experts advised checking in, listening, and encouraging those showing signs of distress or talking about death. Mental health professionals pointed out that signs of stress may not always be obvious. Changes in sleep and appetite, physical fatigue, irritability, or anxiety could be warning signs. Ms Chua from SOS said asking someone directly if they've been thinking about suicide creates a safe space for someone to open up. Dr Teo added that you can also encourage them to seek professional help immediately and check in with them regularly to remind them they're not alone. Dr Lu said giving away personal items, pulling away from others, or changes in what they like or share on social media could be signs someone is at risk. Many who are suicidal already feel guilty or like a burden. What they need most, said Ms Chan, is someone who will listen without judgment, validate their pain, and encourage them to seek help. If you or someone you know is struggling, support is available through the National Mental Health Helpline (1771), the Samaritans of Singapore Hotline (1767), and the Singapore Association for Mental Health Helpline (1800 283 7019). /TISG Read also: Chinese company's 'unhappy leave' draws mixed reactions from netizens; one says it's just a way of 'protecting their loss margin'
