I'm a proud trad wife – after I revealed everything I do people say I live like a ‘toddler' or the Handmaid's Tale
THAT'S TRAD I'm a proud trad wife – after I revealed everything I do people say I live like a 'toddler' or the Handmaid's Tale
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A WOMAN has hit back at trolls who dismiss her lifestyle as a trad wife.
Lys, from the US, took to social media to defend her 'submissive' role in her marriage, sharing examples of stuff she does for her hubby.
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Lys was quick to defend her trad wife lifestyle
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But many said it reminded them of The Handmaid's Tale
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In one clip that went viral with over 8 million views, Lys revealed she even wears a collar to show her commitment to following her husband.
She said: "I respect my man's lead. He provides, he protects, he puts our best interests first. I could ask that man for anything and he would go to the ends of the earth just to get it for me, and if he can't, he's gonna make it.
"My day collar is a daily sign of submission. For us, it is a deeper level of connection than a wedding ring.
"I fully rely on my man to protect us mentally, physically, spiritually. I fully trust him to the point where I am actively submitting to him.
"I'm not gonna constantly be this wrecking ball when he walks through the house. I'm going to be a safe, comforting place where he can go."
The video caused such a storm online that Lys followed up the video to defend herself and shared how she supports her husband.
Lys added: "Yes, I am a trad wife. I don't lay on the ground so my husband can use me as a rug to wipe his boots on, but I'll take his boots off.
"I'll make sure that he has a peaceful and quiet place to come home to. I'll make sure he's not met at the door with chaos and destruction.
"I'll make sure that as a man, he feels heard. I respect his decisions. I respect his lead. I respect his thoughts."
Lys refers to herself as the 'suitable helper' to her husband and goes on to say that being submissive doesn't mean she has no voice.
Meet the Queen of the Trad Wives - she shuns work & lets her man decide everything
"Embracing being a suitable helper doesn't mean my voice is less," she continues.
"It doesn't mean that I'm silenced and oppressed. It means I'm embracing it. I am embracing being a suitable helper."
The video also went viral on her TikTok account @farmmamalys with over 265k views.
People were quick to share their thoughts in the comments, and many women were quick to say the lifestyle Lys leads wasn't for them.
One person wrote: "What in the Handmaids Tale?"
Another commented: "If you wanna take off someone's boots like a toddler have fun."
What is a trad wife?
A trad wife (short for traditional wife) is a woman who chooses to take on an ultra traditional role in marriage, meaning she makes dinner and looks pretty whilst her husband goes to work.
The trend takes inspiration from the idea of a 1950s housewife.
Many 'trad wives' choose to dress in the style of clothing popular in this period (think floral dresses and frumpy cardigans).
Additionally, the values considered important to trad wives are similar to strict Christian values.
Trad wives believed they were not forced into this way of life, and that it was their purpose to be homemakers.
The trend, which has garnered attention on social media platforms such as TikTok and Instagram, glamorises a time gone by with little acknowledgement of the economic challenges facing families and mothers today.
"You do you, but I could never," penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "So your life is his. Not yours. You're an extension of his life."
"Girl, want more for yourself,' claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: "What's the opposite of a 'suitable helper' I'm that."
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