
He had cancer - but still won't quit smoking. Meet the influencer kids love
Despite having a testicle removed due to cancer, cream bun-scoffing social media personality Alex Wood has no plans to quit smoking.
Those familiar with his posts on Instagram and TikTok, each with 70,000-75,000 followers, may know him as the "cream pie guy" or "happy Allan".
The Gold Coast 29-year-old has even made an appearance on national breakfast television as the man who - literally - stuffs whole cream buns into his mouth.
And he's frequently seen with a cigarette between his lips or tucked behind his ear and a beer in hand, sharing videos of drinking sessions and chronic hangovers.
He's not alone.
Sixty-one per cent of young people report seeing content about vaping and smoking on social media.
A 2024 University of Queensland study found young people exposed to these posts were more likely to try them.
But for Mr Wood, it's all part of being his authentic self, warts and all.
"I just am who I am," he told ACM, the publisher of this masthead, over the phone while on the way to the gym one morning.
"I genuinely love having a beer and a cigarette."
Mr Wood, who is charismatic and comes across as sincere, said he does not advocate smoking and encourages people who've never tried cigarettes to steer clear.
"I've got ADHD, so I've got an addictive personality, so I get addicted to everything," he said.
"A lot of people resonate with that because there's so many fake people online now; they pretend to be someone else when it's not who they are."
In the under-regulated world of social media - and in the context of strict bans on tobacco and e-cigarette advertising in Australia - Mr Wood, who says he's not being paid to promote alcohol or cigarettes, is not breaking any laws.
Though he does have plenty of impressionable child fans, including nine-year-olds who ask for selfies.
"I just enjoy an afternoon beer and I like going out on the weekends and letting some steam off and having some fun," he said.
"Everyone's adults; they can make their own decisions."
Mr Wood said he promotes "balance" and "moderation" by also going to the gym every day, journaling, and taking breaks through fundraisers like "dry July" where he stops drinking for a month.
(He started dry July two weeks early in 2025 because he said he needed a reset.)
"I'm pretty real on my page, so I told people I was obviously drinking too much, so I think it's good to show the boys, and whoever follows me, that if you do feel like you are drinking too much, it's OK to take a break," he said.
Australian health guidelines recommend people aged under 18 should not drink alcohol and adults should consume no more than 10 standard drinks a week - and no more than four standard drinks on any one day.
When ACM approached the eSafety Commissioner, which regulates online safety, about the potential harms of alcohol and smoking content on social media - especially for children - it was directed to the federal health department.
The department limited most of its responses to the legal and regulatory restrictions on alcohol and tobacco advertising and sponsorship.
But a spokesman said Health Minister Mark Butler had urged social media companies to do more to limit this kind of content on their platforms.
"[Mr Butler] has previously written to social media companies regarding tobacco and e-cigarette content appearing on their platform, and encouraged social media companies to take a proactive approach to ensuring those products do not appear on their platforms," the spokesman said.
He also pointed to government initiatives like the 2024 "Give up for Good" campaign, as well as resources like quit.org.au and information about the dangers of vaping.
All these materials state there is no safe level of smoking or vaping.
Jocelyn Brewer, a psychologist who specialises in digital wellbeing, said social media accounts like Mr Wood's could be a "teaching moment" for children and parents.
"Parents need to be clear that social media platforms allow anyone to post publicly on whatever content they want to," she said.
"[And] what the community guidelines around content cover (and don't cover), and the risks of kids being exposed to certain content - especially how algorithms promote sensationalised content over factful kinds."
In the absence of content restrictions, parents should have regular, casual conversations with their kids about social media trends and reinforce their family's values.
"We have a responsibility to teach young people [the] skills to recognise and navigate content that is mis/dis/malinformation and have media literacy skills to be able to identify, report and distance themselves from content that is low grade, risky, misaligned and simply dumb," she said.
Observing the minimum age restriction of 13 on most platforms was also important, though new laws in late 2025 will ban children under 16 from accessing social media.
For his part, Mr Wood has no plans to change what he presents on social media, which includes sculling "breakfast beers", eating "hungover asf cream pie", and attempting to drink six cans of beer in a row to celebrate 60,000 followers.
"I met this little kid the other day - he's only nine years old or something - and he was so nervous to come over and say hello, and I got a photo with him and everything," Mr Wood said.
"Then his dad came up to me afterwards and was like, 'Mate, he bloody loves you, thank you so much for taking the time to say hello to him'."
Mr Wood, who grew up in a single parent household and had a mother, father and grandmother who smoked, said he was trying to be an advocate for doing better.
He was fiercely anti-gambling, for example.
But the nicotine-laced, addictive cigarettes were here to stay.
"I don't think I want to quit fully, to be honest.
"I love sitting down, having a beer and a cigarette, having a coffee and a cigarette in the morning," he said.
"That's what I enjoy doing. And if I stay healthy otherwise then, you know, it is what it is."
Though he acknowledged it was not "the smartest thing" after he was diagnosed with cancer in 2024 and had a testicle removed.
"I've got these boys around my age, or 25 to 30, and now [they are] all getting their testicles checked," Mr Wood said.
"I do put out some really good messages to people."
Tobacco, alcohol and illegal drug use combined accounted for 14 per cent of Australia's total disease burden in 2024, according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare.
Despite having a testicle removed due to cancer, cream bun-scoffing social media personality Alex Wood has no plans to quit smoking.
Those familiar with his posts on Instagram and TikTok, each with 70,000-75,000 followers, may know him as the "cream pie guy" or "happy Allan".
The Gold Coast 29-year-old has even made an appearance on national breakfast television as the man who - literally - stuffs whole cream buns into his mouth.
And he's frequently seen with a cigarette between his lips or tucked behind his ear and a beer in hand, sharing videos of drinking sessions and chronic hangovers.
He's not alone.
Sixty-one per cent of young people report seeing content about vaping and smoking on social media.
A 2024 University of Queensland study found young people exposed to these posts were more likely to try them.
But for Mr Wood, it's all part of being his authentic self, warts and all.
"I just am who I am," he told ACM, the publisher of this masthead, over the phone while on the way to the gym one morning.
"I genuinely love having a beer and a cigarette."
Mr Wood, who is charismatic and comes across as sincere, said he does not advocate smoking and encourages people who've never tried cigarettes to steer clear.
"I've got ADHD, so I've got an addictive personality, so I get addicted to everything," he said.
"A lot of people resonate with that because there's so many fake people online now; they pretend to be someone else when it's not who they are."
In the under-regulated world of social media - and in the context of strict bans on tobacco and e-cigarette advertising in Australia - Mr Wood, who says he's not being paid to promote alcohol or cigarettes, is not breaking any laws.
Though he does have plenty of impressionable child fans, including nine-year-olds who ask for selfies.
"I just enjoy an afternoon beer and I like going out on the weekends and letting some steam off and having some fun," he said.
"Everyone's adults; they can make their own decisions."
Mr Wood said he promotes "balance" and "moderation" by also going to the gym every day, journaling, and taking breaks through fundraisers like "dry July" where he stops drinking for a month.
(He started dry July two weeks early in 2025 because he said he needed a reset.)
"I'm pretty real on my page, so I told people I was obviously drinking too much, so I think it's good to show the boys, and whoever follows me, that if you do feel like you are drinking too much, it's OK to take a break," he said.
Australian health guidelines recommend people aged under 18 should not drink alcohol and adults should consume no more than 10 standard drinks a week - and no more than four standard drinks on any one day.
When ACM approached the eSafety Commissioner, which regulates online safety, about the potential harms of alcohol and smoking content on social media - especially for children - it was directed to the federal health department.
The department limited most of its responses to the legal and regulatory restrictions on alcohol and tobacco advertising and sponsorship.
But a spokesman said Health Minister Mark Butler had urged social media companies to do more to limit this kind of content on their platforms.
"[Mr Butler] has previously written to social media companies regarding tobacco and e-cigarette content appearing on their platform, and encouraged social media companies to take a proactive approach to ensuring those products do not appear on their platforms," the spokesman said.
He also pointed to government initiatives like the 2024 "Give up for Good" campaign, as well as resources like quit.org.au and information about the dangers of vaping.
All these materials state there is no safe level of smoking or vaping.
Jocelyn Brewer, a psychologist who specialises in digital wellbeing, said social media accounts like Mr Wood's could be a "teaching moment" for children and parents.
"Parents need to be clear that social media platforms allow anyone to post publicly on whatever content they want to," she said.
"[And] what the community guidelines around content cover (and don't cover), and the risks of kids being exposed to certain content - especially how algorithms promote sensationalised content over factful kinds."
In the absence of content restrictions, parents should have regular, casual conversations with their kids about social media trends and reinforce their family's values.
"We have a responsibility to teach young people [the] skills to recognise and navigate content that is mis/dis/malinformation and have media literacy skills to be able to identify, report and distance themselves from content that is low grade, risky, misaligned and simply dumb," she said.
Observing the minimum age restriction of 13 on most platforms was also important, though new laws in late 2025 will ban children under 16 from accessing social media.
For his part, Mr Wood has no plans to change what he presents on social media, which includes sculling "breakfast beers", eating "hungover asf cream pie", and attempting to drink six cans of beer in a row to celebrate 60,000 followers.
"I met this little kid the other day - he's only nine years old or something - and he was so nervous to come over and say hello, and I got a photo with him and everything," Mr Wood said.
"Then his dad came up to me afterwards and was like, 'Mate, he bloody loves you, thank you so much for taking the time to say hello to him'."
Mr Wood, who grew up in a single parent household and had a mother, father and grandmother who smoked, said he was trying to be an advocate for doing better.
He was fiercely anti-gambling, for example.
But the nicotine-laced, addictive cigarettes were here to stay.
"I don't think I want to quit fully, to be honest.
"I love sitting down, having a beer and a cigarette, having a coffee and a cigarette in the morning," he said.
"That's what I enjoy doing. And if I stay healthy otherwise then, you know, it is what it is."
Though he acknowledged it was not "the smartest thing" after he was diagnosed with cancer in 2024 and had a testicle removed.
"I've got these boys around my age, or 25 to 30, and now [they are] all getting their testicles checked," Mr Wood said.
"I do put out some really good messages to people."
Tobacco, alcohol and illegal drug use combined accounted for 14 per cent of Australia's total disease burden in 2024, according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare.
Despite having a testicle removed due to cancer, cream bun-scoffing social media personality Alex Wood has no plans to quit smoking.
Those familiar with his posts on Instagram and TikTok, each with 70,000-75,000 followers, may know him as the "cream pie guy" or "happy Allan".
The Gold Coast 29-year-old has even made an appearance on national breakfast television as the man who - literally - stuffs whole cream buns into his mouth.
And he's frequently seen with a cigarette between his lips or tucked behind his ear and a beer in hand, sharing videos of drinking sessions and chronic hangovers.
He's not alone.
Sixty-one per cent of young people report seeing content about vaping and smoking on social media.
A 2024 University of Queensland study found young people exposed to these posts were more likely to try them.
But for Mr Wood, it's all part of being his authentic self, warts and all.
"I just am who I am," he told ACM, the publisher of this masthead, over the phone while on the way to the gym one morning.
"I genuinely love having a beer and a cigarette."
Mr Wood, who is charismatic and comes across as sincere, said he does not advocate smoking and encourages people who've never tried cigarettes to steer clear.
"I've got ADHD, so I've got an addictive personality, so I get addicted to everything," he said.
"A lot of people resonate with that because there's so many fake people online now; they pretend to be someone else when it's not who they are."
In the under-regulated world of social media - and in the context of strict bans on tobacco and e-cigarette advertising in Australia - Mr Wood, who says he's not being paid to promote alcohol or cigarettes, is not breaking any laws.
Though he does have plenty of impressionable child fans, including nine-year-olds who ask for selfies.
"I just enjoy an afternoon beer and I like going out on the weekends and letting some steam off and having some fun," he said.
"Everyone's adults; they can make their own decisions."
Mr Wood said he promotes "balance" and "moderation" by also going to the gym every day, journaling, and taking breaks through fundraisers like "dry July" where he stops drinking for a month.
(He started dry July two weeks early in 2025 because he said he needed a reset.)
"I'm pretty real on my page, so I told people I was obviously drinking too much, so I think it's good to show the boys, and whoever follows me, that if you do feel like you are drinking too much, it's OK to take a break," he said.
Australian health guidelines recommend people aged under 18 should not drink alcohol and adults should consume no more than 10 standard drinks a week - and no more than four standard drinks on any one day.
When ACM approached the eSafety Commissioner, which regulates online safety, about the potential harms of alcohol and smoking content on social media - especially for children - it was directed to the federal health department.
The department limited most of its responses to the legal and regulatory restrictions on alcohol and tobacco advertising and sponsorship.
But a spokesman said Health Minister Mark Butler had urged social media companies to do more to limit this kind of content on their platforms.
"[Mr Butler] has previously written to social media companies regarding tobacco and e-cigarette content appearing on their platform, and encouraged social media companies to take a proactive approach to ensuring those products do not appear on their platforms," the spokesman said.
He also pointed to government initiatives like the 2024 "Give up for Good" campaign, as well as resources like quit.org.au and information about the dangers of vaping.
All these materials state there is no safe level of smoking or vaping.
Jocelyn Brewer, a psychologist who specialises in digital wellbeing, said social media accounts like Mr Wood's could be a "teaching moment" for children and parents.
"Parents need to be clear that social media platforms allow anyone to post publicly on whatever content they want to," she said.
"[And] what the community guidelines around content cover (and don't cover), and the risks of kids being exposed to certain content - especially how algorithms promote sensationalised content over factful kinds."
In the absence of content restrictions, parents should have regular, casual conversations with their kids about social media trends and reinforce their family's values.
"We have a responsibility to teach young people [the] skills to recognise and navigate content that is mis/dis/malinformation and have media literacy skills to be able to identify, report and distance themselves from content that is low grade, risky, misaligned and simply dumb," she said.
Observing the minimum age restriction of 13 on most platforms was also important, though new laws in late 2025 will ban children under 16 from accessing social media.
For his part, Mr Wood has no plans to change what he presents on social media, which includes sculling "breakfast beers", eating "hungover asf cream pie", and attempting to drink six cans of beer in a row to celebrate 60,000 followers.
"I met this little kid the other day - he's only nine years old or something - and he was so nervous to come over and say hello, and I got a photo with him and everything," Mr Wood said.
"Then his dad came up to me afterwards and was like, 'Mate, he bloody loves you, thank you so much for taking the time to say hello to him'."
Mr Wood, who grew up in a single parent household and had a mother, father and grandmother who smoked, said he was trying to be an advocate for doing better.
He was fiercely anti-gambling, for example.
But the nicotine-laced, addictive cigarettes were here to stay.
"I don't think I want to quit fully, to be honest.
"I love sitting down, having a beer and a cigarette, having a coffee and a cigarette in the morning," he said.
"That's what I enjoy doing. And if I stay healthy otherwise then, you know, it is what it is."
Though he acknowledged it was not "the smartest thing" after he was diagnosed with cancer in 2024 and had a testicle removed.
"I've got these boys around my age, or 25 to 30, and now [they are] all getting their testicles checked," Mr Wood said.
"I do put out some really good messages to people."
Tobacco, alcohol and illegal drug use combined accounted for 14 per cent of Australia's total disease burden in 2024, according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare.
Despite having a testicle removed due to cancer, cream bun-scoffing social media personality Alex Wood has no plans to quit smoking.
Those familiar with his posts on Instagram and TikTok, each with 70,000-75,000 followers, may know him as the "cream pie guy" or "happy Allan".
The Gold Coast 29-year-old has even made an appearance on national breakfast television as the man who - literally - stuffs whole cream buns into his mouth.
And he's frequently seen with a cigarette between his lips or tucked behind his ear and a beer in hand, sharing videos of drinking sessions and chronic hangovers.
He's not alone.
Sixty-one per cent of young people report seeing content about vaping and smoking on social media.
A 2024 University of Queensland study found young people exposed to these posts were more likely to try them.
But for Mr Wood, it's all part of being his authentic self, warts and all.
"I just am who I am," he told ACM, the publisher of this masthead, over the phone while on the way to the gym one morning.
"I genuinely love having a beer and a cigarette."
Mr Wood, who is charismatic and comes across as sincere, said he does not advocate smoking and encourages people who've never tried cigarettes to steer clear.
"I've got ADHD, so I've got an addictive personality, so I get addicted to everything," he said.
"A lot of people resonate with that because there's so many fake people online now; they pretend to be someone else when it's not who they are."
In the under-regulated world of social media - and in the context of strict bans on tobacco and e-cigarette advertising in Australia - Mr Wood, who says he's not being paid to promote alcohol or cigarettes, is not breaking any laws.
Though he does have plenty of impressionable child fans, including nine-year-olds who ask for selfies.
"I just enjoy an afternoon beer and I like going out on the weekends and letting some steam off and having some fun," he said.
"Everyone's adults; they can make their own decisions."
Mr Wood said he promotes "balance" and "moderation" by also going to the gym every day, journaling, and taking breaks through fundraisers like "dry July" where he stops drinking for a month.
(He started dry July two weeks early in 2025 because he said he needed a reset.)
"I'm pretty real on my page, so I told people I was obviously drinking too much, so I think it's good to show the boys, and whoever follows me, that if you do feel like you are drinking too much, it's OK to take a break," he said.
Australian health guidelines recommend people aged under 18 should not drink alcohol and adults should consume no more than 10 standard drinks a week - and no more than four standard drinks on any one day.
When ACM approached the eSafety Commissioner, which regulates online safety, about the potential harms of alcohol and smoking content on social media - especially for children - it was directed to the federal health department.
The department limited most of its responses to the legal and regulatory restrictions on alcohol and tobacco advertising and sponsorship.
But a spokesman said Health Minister Mark Butler had urged social media companies to do more to limit this kind of content on their platforms.
"[Mr Butler] has previously written to social media companies regarding tobacco and e-cigarette content appearing on their platform, and encouraged social media companies to take a proactive approach to ensuring those products do not appear on their platforms," the spokesman said.
He also pointed to government initiatives like the 2024 "Give up for Good" campaign, as well as resources like quit.org.au and information about the dangers of vaping.
All these materials state there is no safe level of smoking or vaping.
Jocelyn Brewer, a psychologist who specialises in digital wellbeing, said social media accounts like Mr Wood's could be a "teaching moment" for children and parents.
"Parents need to be clear that social media platforms allow anyone to post publicly on whatever content they want to," she said.
"[And] what the community guidelines around content cover (and don't cover), and the risks of kids being exposed to certain content - especially how algorithms promote sensationalised content over factful kinds."
In the absence of content restrictions, parents should have regular, casual conversations with their kids about social media trends and reinforce their family's values.
"We have a responsibility to teach young people [the] skills to recognise and navigate content that is mis/dis/malinformation and have media literacy skills to be able to identify, report and distance themselves from content that is low grade, risky, misaligned and simply dumb," she said.
Observing the minimum age restriction of 13 on most platforms was also important, though new laws in late 2025 will ban children under 16 from accessing social media.
For his part, Mr Wood has no plans to change what he presents on social media, which includes sculling "breakfast beers", eating "hungover asf cream pie", and attempting to drink six cans of beer in a row to celebrate 60,000 followers.
"I met this little kid the other day - he's only nine years old or something - and he was so nervous to come over and say hello, and I got a photo with him and everything," Mr Wood said.
"Then his dad came up to me afterwards and was like, 'Mate, he bloody loves you, thank you so much for taking the time to say hello to him'."
Mr Wood, who grew up in a single parent household and had a mother, father and grandmother who smoked, said he was trying to be an advocate for doing better.
He was fiercely anti-gambling, for example.
But the nicotine-laced, addictive cigarettes were here to stay.
"I don't think I want to quit fully, to be honest.
"I love sitting down, having a beer and a cigarette, having a coffee and a cigarette in the morning," he said.
"That's what I enjoy doing. And if I stay healthy otherwise then, you know, it is what it is."
Though he acknowledged it was not "the smartest thing" after he was diagnosed with cancer in 2024 and had a testicle removed.
"I've got these boys around my age, or 25 to 30, and now [they are] all getting their testicles checked," Mr Wood said.
"I do put out some really good messages to people."
Tobacco, alcohol and illegal drug use combined accounted for 14 per cent of Australia's total disease burden in 2024, according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare.

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- Herald Sun
We Do Not Care: How social media revolution is laying bare the reality of menopause
Just over a month ago, an unremarkably-dressed, 45-year-old perimenopausal Florida mum posted a one-take video to her social media, and triggered a global movement. Mum-of-three Melani Saunders had rushed to the shops, jumped back in the car, caught her reflection and had a good look at herself. Hair dishevelled. Ill-fitting sports bra – it was the only one she could find. An outfit that was comfortable, but never going to pass muster on a catwalk. Not a scrap of make-up. The content creator, struggling with the symptoms of perimenopause – insomnia, brain fog, anxiety, weight gain, hot flushes to name a few – laughed and realised she could not care less about how she looked in public. Her bits were covered. She had shoes on. She had her groceries. So what? Still in the carpark, she picked up her phone and started recording. 'We're about to start a perimenopause and menopause club, OK?,' her unscripted speech began. 'And it's gonna be called the We Do Not Care Club … that's four letters,' she continued, counting them off on her fingers: 'We. Do Not. Care … WDNC'. What did that mean, she asked, before hilariously chronicling not just her outfit, but why she couldn't care less that her bra left 'everything swinging to one side … that is my situation … and I do not care'. She critiqued the zero effort she'd put into her hair, wrapped the summation with a shrug, saying 'so that's it, that's the story, point blank, period', and invited commenters to add their thoughts on what they did not care about today. It went nuts. Viral. Millions of fed-up women added their own WDNCs to join the club. Whether it was chin hair, undone washing, the fact they'd considered smothering their partners for breathing (that one quickly saw many commenters offer the poster an alibi 'whatever time or place – she was with me'), the frank confessions flowed thick and fast: unadorned, unfiltered, unapologetic and hilarious. WDNC chapters quickly popped up in other countries. Women 'of a certain age' – rarely are men described as being 'of a certain age' – had found their people. Saunders' social media accounts went ballistic. Her followers ballooned from about 100,000 pre-WDNC to almost 1 million on TikTok, and another 850,000 on Instagram. From the hundreds of thousands of comments posted with the same unpolished, no-BS bluntness and raw truth delivery, Saunders now chooses her favourites and reads them out in fresh posts. She accessorises her deadpan delivery – she reads mostly in a monotone – with a pair of glasses on her nose, another pair up on top of her head, and a hastily hand-lettered WDNC sign fastened to a rumpled shirt by a paperclip. Sometimes she adds a neck pillow. Sometimes a shower cap. Merchandise Saunders created by popular demand keeps selling out. 'We are putting the world on notice. We just do not care,' she says. BRAIN FOG, NIGHT SWEATS AND HAVING THE LAST LAUGH Finally, women are having the last laugh about menopause. Full disclosure: I. Do. Not. Care. If you've survived perimenopause and menopause unscathed, congratulations. Actually, I'm not remotely happy for you. I just want to glass you. If I could remember your name. And where I'd put down that glass. Because when your life has been turned upside down by a hormone change which reveals itself in hot flashes, flooding fits of barely-containable over-the-top rage, waking several times a night after yet another night sweat to change sweat-soaked sheets after you'd only just managed to GET to sleep because of the insomnia, it's hard to give a shit about much else. And equally hard to sugar-coat your interactions and conversations. Then there's the brain fog. And the fact that you can exercise five times a week, eat like a bird, and still pile on the kilograms more easily than breathing. Actually, our breathing is fine. But yours irritates the hell out of us. Australian media commentator, presenter and menopause awareness advocate Shelly Horton was quick to sign up to the WDNC, using her social media platform to take up Melani's meno mantle locally and declare Australia 'IN'. She now does her own updates, similarly dishevelled, always hilarious, and always paying tribute to Saunders. Horton, soon to release her second book on the subject – I'm Your Peri Godmother – was blindsided when she hit perimenopause aged 45 and was told to take antidepressants and maybe get a hobby. It would be another year before she would start on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) – which gave her enough relief to keep asking questions on her journey. For many women, menopause is a nightmare tour they never signed up for. It issues you with a ticket you don't want, and if you find a tour guide, they pretty much advise you to shut the hell up about it. My former GP for a year tried to prescribe antidepressants for my perimenopause symptoms. She was one of many who won't suggest HRT because of now-debunked research from years ago. Eventually I strode into her surgery a literal hot mess after a morning of hot flushes, operating on three hours sleep and a short fuse, and told her I wasn't depressed, but I bloody well would be if I ended up in jail for killing someone in a meno-rage, or got sacked because I couldn't run two thoughts together or remember the name of my boss some days. She silently nodded, and prescribed the HRT patches. There are different results for different people, so you have to speak to your GP about whether the patches are right for you. But for me, blessed relief came within two weeks. My partner could chew and breathe again without me wanting to smother him with a pillow. SHORT SUPPLY, SHORTER TEMPERS Now a HRT patch shortage that looks like spinning out to two years has seen many of my symptoms resurface. I switched medications in January, when my luck finally ran out despite monthly visits to chemists in six suburbs trying to fill the patch script. The alternatives just don't seem to work for me. Thankfully the meno-rage hasn't returned. Just don't mention the patch shortage. Horton's 'tour' has seen her co-write a book, and set up a business with Dr Ginni Mansberg Called Don't Sweat It which educates women and men about menopause in the workforce. On International Women's Day in 2023, she was part of a group who addressed parliament about the issue. Fast-forward one year and a Senate inquiry, and HRT was added to the PBS. When WDNC and Saunders hit her Instagram feed, Horton had enough HRT and lifestyle changes and knowledge on board to be ready for a laugh. The raw, honest, unapologetic humour hooked her. 'It's my personal dose of joy every day,' she says. 'Mid-life women have for so long been told to shut up and be invisible and accept this is our lot. 'This is Gen X raising a middle finger and saying 'we are going to talk about this'. 'Let's face it peri and menopause are hormonal chaos. If you can get a laugh you feel like you've won the day. 'My mum's generation didn't talk about it and didn't question doctors. 'Now we refuse to be quiet. We have ripped of the shame label. We are flushing it out into the open, and getting a load of information that is highly accessible.' Comment: So what DO we care about? If you're a bloke (or as one WDNC member hilariously termed men 'the penis people') who think menopause is all a beat up, and bemoans that men have midlife crises too … news flash … we do not care. What we care about is a shortage of hormone replacement therapy patches, which you can read about on the TGA website, which means they are almost impossible to get in Australia. It's great to have some HRT treatments on the Pharmaceutical Benefits Scheme at last but, for 18 months, patches, one of the forms of the HRT, have been in short supply across the world. Patches, gels and tablets are some of the HRT treatments. GPs stand ready to work with patients to see what, if any, treatment may be right for them, especially as they always come with some risks and possible side effects. And, of course, some treatments work better than others for certain individuals. I'm one of them (so you'll need to get your own professional medical advice). The slow-release hormone patches changed my life within a fortnight. Since last year I've not been able to get them, no matter how many suburbs I drive to. I've taken the search to country areas. Interstate. No dice. Pharmacists shook their heads and said 'maybe March'. March became April, April became June. June became 'now it says July'. The latest update: 'Well they hope December'. All because one international big pharma supplier of the patches stopped making them a couple of years ago, and countries quicker to react than us snaffled up supply. And Australia was already towards the end of the line. You have to wonder if blokes would put up with a Viagra shortage for that long. 'The gel combo works for me, but it doesn't for others,' says menopause campaigner Shelly Horton. 'It's great we finally have HRT treatments on the PBS. But if you can't actually fill your script … that's massive. 'As one of our advocates says: 'We don't clap for crumbs'.' Originally published as We Do Not Care: How social media revolution is laying bare the reality of menopause


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- The Advertiser
What's gambling cost? Advocates slam political inaction
Australia risks losing a whole generation of kids to gambling, as criticisms are levelled at the government for failing to implement reforms from a landmark report two years on. The "You win some, you lose more" parliamentary inquiry into online gambling and its impacts, chaired by fierce gambling reform advocate the late Peta Murphy MP, delivered 31 recommendations in 2023. The unanimously supported proposals focused on reducing harm, protecting children and applying a long-overdue public health approach to gambling in this country. But two years to the day, gambling reform advocates, health bodies and church groups say the federal government have been silent. More than 80 per cent of Australians want a gambling advertisement ban, and parents are sick of turning on the TV only to find their 10-year-olds discussing the game in terms of odds, Alliance for Gambling Reform chief advocate Tim Costello said. "Smoking is legal, but kids shouldn't be seeing it. Same with gambling. People can gamble, but there's grooming of kids," Rev Costello told AAP. "We now have, with the two-year implementation (delay), a whole generation of kids who only think of NRL and AFL in terms of odds." Gambling harms lead to suicides, one-in-four 18-to-24-year-old young men are addicted, 600,000 underage Australians gambled last year, and domestic violence spikes threefold if there is gambling in a family, Rev Costello said. "This industry has been treated as having a normal social license when it's actually pushing very addictive products," he said. "We have literally given our kids over to sports betting companies as fodder for their profits." Vested interests, including the AFL and NRL, sports betting companies, and the commercial broadcasting networks, had stalled reforms, Rev Costello said. The nation's peak body for doctors, the Australian Medical Association, is demanding the government immediately action all 31 recommendations, accusing it of exposing millions of Australians to predatory betting companies. "Every day of delay means more Australians fall victim to an industry that profits from harm and despair," AMA President Danielle McMullen said. Wesley Mission chief executive Stu Cameron expressed deep disappointment in the government's failure to act on a bipartisan road map to tackle gambling harm."Two years on, the silence from Canberra is deafening," Rev Cameron said. "While the government hesitates, lives are being torn apart." The three say the government must use their parliamentary mandate to make systematic reforms, including banning gambling ads, implementing a national regulator and treating gambling as a health issue. A spokesman for Communications Minister Anika Wells said she has had several meetings with harm reduction advocates, broadcasters and sporting codes. He said the government had delivered "some of the most significant gambling harm reduction measures in Australian history", pointing to mandatory ID verification and banning credit cards for online gambling and launching BetStop, the National Self-Exclusion Register. Australians top the list for the world's highest gambling losses, placing $244.3 billion in bets every year. National Gambling Helpline 1800 858 858 Lifeline 13 11 14 beyondblue 1300 22 4636 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) Men's Referral Service 1300 766 491 Australia risks losing a whole generation of kids to gambling, as criticisms are levelled at the government for failing to implement reforms from a landmark report two years on. The "You win some, you lose more" parliamentary inquiry into online gambling and its impacts, chaired by fierce gambling reform advocate the late Peta Murphy MP, delivered 31 recommendations in 2023. The unanimously supported proposals focused on reducing harm, protecting children and applying a long-overdue public health approach to gambling in this country. But two years to the day, gambling reform advocates, health bodies and church groups say the federal government have been silent. More than 80 per cent of Australians want a gambling advertisement ban, and parents are sick of turning on the TV only to find their 10-year-olds discussing the game in terms of odds, Alliance for Gambling Reform chief advocate Tim Costello said. "Smoking is legal, but kids shouldn't be seeing it. Same with gambling. People can gamble, but there's grooming of kids," Rev Costello told AAP. "We now have, with the two-year implementation (delay), a whole generation of kids who only think of NRL and AFL in terms of odds." Gambling harms lead to suicides, one-in-four 18-to-24-year-old young men are addicted, 600,000 underage Australians gambled last year, and domestic violence spikes threefold if there is gambling in a family, Rev Costello said. "This industry has been treated as having a normal social license when it's actually pushing very addictive products," he said. "We have literally given our kids over to sports betting companies as fodder for their profits." Vested interests, including the AFL and NRL, sports betting companies, and the commercial broadcasting networks, had stalled reforms, Rev Costello said. The nation's peak body for doctors, the Australian Medical Association, is demanding the government immediately action all 31 recommendations, accusing it of exposing millions of Australians to predatory betting companies. "Every day of delay means more Australians fall victim to an industry that profits from harm and despair," AMA President Danielle McMullen said. Wesley Mission chief executive Stu Cameron expressed deep disappointment in the government's failure to act on a bipartisan road map to tackle gambling harm."Two years on, the silence from Canberra is deafening," Rev Cameron said. "While the government hesitates, lives are being torn apart." The three say the government must use their parliamentary mandate to make systematic reforms, including banning gambling ads, implementing a national regulator and treating gambling as a health issue. A spokesman for Communications Minister Anika Wells said she has had several meetings with harm reduction advocates, broadcasters and sporting codes. He said the government had delivered "some of the most significant gambling harm reduction measures in Australian history", pointing to mandatory ID verification and banning credit cards for online gambling and launching BetStop, the National Self-Exclusion Register. Australians top the list for the world's highest gambling losses, placing $244.3 billion in bets every year. National Gambling Helpline 1800 858 858 Lifeline 13 11 14 beyondblue 1300 22 4636 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) Men's Referral Service 1300 766 491 Australia risks losing a whole generation of kids to gambling, as criticisms are levelled at the government for failing to implement reforms from a landmark report two years on. The "You win some, you lose more" parliamentary inquiry into online gambling and its impacts, chaired by fierce gambling reform advocate the late Peta Murphy MP, delivered 31 recommendations in 2023. The unanimously supported proposals focused on reducing harm, protecting children and applying a long-overdue public health approach to gambling in this country. But two years to the day, gambling reform advocates, health bodies and church groups say the federal government have been silent. More than 80 per cent of Australians want a gambling advertisement ban, and parents are sick of turning on the TV only to find their 10-year-olds discussing the game in terms of odds, Alliance for Gambling Reform chief advocate Tim Costello said. "Smoking is legal, but kids shouldn't be seeing it. Same with gambling. People can gamble, but there's grooming of kids," Rev Costello told AAP. "We now have, with the two-year implementation (delay), a whole generation of kids who only think of NRL and AFL in terms of odds." Gambling harms lead to suicides, one-in-four 18-to-24-year-old young men are addicted, 600,000 underage Australians gambled last year, and domestic violence spikes threefold if there is gambling in a family, Rev Costello said. "This industry has been treated as having a normal social license when it's actually pushing very addictive products," he said. "We have literally given our kids over to sports betting companies as fodder for their profits." Vested interests, including the AFL and NRL, sports betting companies, and the commercial broadcasting networks, had stalled reforms, Rev Costello said. The nation's peak body for doctors, the Australian Medical Association, is demanding the government immediately action all 31 recommendations, accusing it of exposing millions of Australians to predatory betting companies. "Every day of delay means more Australians fall victim to an industry that profits from harm and despair," AMA President Danielle McMullen said. Wesley Mission chief executive Stu Cameron expressed deep disappointment in the government's failure to act on a bipartisan road map to tackle gambling harm."Two years on, the silence from Canberra is deafening," Rev Cameron said. "While the government hesitates, lives are being torn apart." The three say the government must use their parliamentary mandate to make systematic reforms, including banning gambling ads, implementing a national regulator and treating gambling as a health issue. A spokesman for Communications Minister Anika Wells said she has had several meetings with harm reduction advocates, broadcasters and sporting codes. He said the government had delivered "some of the most significant gambling harm reduction measures in Australian history", pointing to mandatory ID verification and banning credit cards for online gambling and launching BetStop, the National Self-Exclusion Register. Australians top the list for the world's highest gambling losses, placing $244.3 billion in bets every year. National Gambling Helpline 1800 858 858 Lifeline 13 11 14 beyondblue 1300 22 4636 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) Men's Referral Service 1300 766 491 Australia risks losing a whole generation of kids to gambling, as criticisms are levelled at the government for failing to implement reforms from a landmark report two years on. The "You win some, you lose more" parliamentary inquiry into online gambling and its impacts, chaired by fierce gambling reform advocate the late Peta Murphy MP, delivered 31 recommendations in 2023. The unanimously supported proposals focused on reducing harm, protecting children and applying a long-overdue public health approach to gambling in this country. But two years to the day, gambling reform advocates, health bodies and church groups say the federal government have been silent. More than 80 per cent of Australians want a gambling advertisement ban, and parents are sick of turning on the TV only to find their 10-year-olds discussing the game in terms of odds, Alliance for Gambling Reform chief advocate Tim Costello said. "Smoking is legal, but kids shouldn't be seeing it. Same with gambling. People can gamble, but there's grooming of kids," Rev Costello told AAP. "We now have, with the two-year implementation (delay), a whole generation of kids who only think of NRL and AFL in terms of odds." Gambling harms lead to suicides, one-in-four 18-to-24-year-old young men are addicted, 600,000 underage Australians gambled last year, and domestic violence spikes threefold if there is gambling in a family, Rev Costello said. "This industry has been treated as having a normal social license when it's actually pushing very addictive products," he said. "We have literally given our kids over to sports betting companies as fodder for their profits." Vested interests, including the AFL and NRL, sports betting companies, and the commercial broadcasting networks, had stalled reforms, Rev Costello said. The nation's peak body for doctors, the Australian Medical Association, is demanding the government immediately action all 31 recommendations, accusing it of exposing millions of Australians to predatory betting companies. "Every day of delay means more Australians fall victim to an industry that profits from harm and despair," AMA President Danielle McMullen said. Wesley Mission chief executive Stu Cameron expressed deep disappointment in the government's failure to act on a bipartisan road map to tackle gambling harm."Two years on, the silence from Canberra is deafening," Rev Cameron said. "While the government hesitates, lives are being torn apart." The three say the government must use their parliamentary mandate to make systematic reforms, including banning gambling ads, implementing a national regulator and treating gambling as a health issue. A spokesman for Communications Minister Anika Wells said she has had several meetings with harm reduction advocates, broadcasters and sporting codes. He said the government had delivered "some of the most significant gambling harm reduction measures in Australian history", pointing to mandatory ID verification and banning credit cards for online gambling and launching BetStop, the National Self-Exclusion Register. Australians top the list for the world's highest gambling losses, placing $244.3 billion in bets every year. National Gambling Helpline 1800 858 858 Lifeline 13 11 14 beyondblue 1300 22 4636 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) Men's Referral Service 1300 766 491