I was 18 & living in a homeless shelter when I had a baby via sperm donor – trolls say I'm ‘extremely selfish'
NOT KIDDING I was 18 & living in a homeless shelter when I had a baby via sperm donor – trolls say I'm 'extremely selfish'
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A MUM has revealed that she got pregnant at the age of 19 while being homeless.
Kai, who is now 24, revealed that she was living in a homeless shelter when she decided to seek out a sperm donor.
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Kai and Dee were both homeless when they decided to get pregnant
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The pair have been branded selfish for giving birth while homeless
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Kai and her wife Dee, 26, were living separately in different homeless shelters at the time.
While many have accused them of getting pregnant to get housing, Kai told Love Don't Judge that wasn't the case.
She said: "I would never promoted it. It was just my situation at the time and I was young.
"I love kids and I just decided to have kids on my own."
Kai revealed that she sought out a sperm donor using Google instead of going to a clinic so it would be free.
She said she had no idea that it would work the first time round.
"I was in shock because I didn't think it would work the first time by inserting a diva cup in me and I would just get pregnant," she explained.
Kai used the diva cup, which is a reusbale type of tampon to hold the semen and inserted it so that the it travelled up to her uterus.
She then gave birth to Kaidee, who is now five, and while she only has one sister living with her, Faith, 3, she has lots more out there.
Kai said she knows of at least 80 - 100 of her siblings (as they used the same sperm donor) but that the number oculd be as high as 200 and calls them Kaidee's 'diblings'.
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Kai was just 18 when she got pregnant using a free sperm donor
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When she did give birth to Kaidee, Kai was still in a homeless shelter living apart from Dee.
But they soon got offered an appartment and could live together as a family.
The pair then got married and went on to have their second daughter Faith through the same means.
Looking back, Kai admits her family were not happy she got pregnant so young but that she wouldn't change it for the world.
Now the pair both have secure jobs and homeschool their daughters.
Despite life working out for the better, the pair say they are often trolled online.
Kai said some of the comments include '18-year-old homeless couples shouldn't be having kids,' and 'This should be illegal.'
But she said things have worked out, 'We are now adults that have lived and learned.
"We cannot change the past, but we just have to move on in life."
The clip soon went viral on YouTube with over 13k views and people were quick to share their thoughts.
One person wrote: "Personally, I would never have kids with no money and no shelter. That's selfish towards your kids. That's just my opinion."
Another commented: "Beautiful little girls, and children are always a blessing, but to get pregnant whilst homeless is ridiculous."
"This has to be the most irresponsible thing a person can do," penned a third.
UK Teen Mum Statistics
Teen pregnancies in the UK have been decreasing considerably since 2007...
The under-18 conception rate has decreased considerably since 2007, reports Nuffield Trust.
Between 2007 and 2021, the under-18 conception rate in England and Wales decreased by 68%, from 42 per 1,000 women to 13 per 1,000 women.
This resulted in 13,131 under-18 conceptions in England and Wales in 2021.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "Me personally I find that extremely selfish. Imagine being homeless and having a baby to take care of.. like why would you do that to yourself and your baby??"
"They look like they are good parents regardless of what they decide to do when they are younger they do take good care of them,' claimed a fifth
Someone else added: "Ignorance and selfishness. They're messing those children up with their foolishness. Lazy and using the children as props to play the system. Sick."
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