Sandra Oh Knows What's Great About Middle Age

New York Times

19-07-2025

During the Los Angeles fires in January, the actor Sandra Oh, like many of her neighbors, had to make a decision: What would she pack in her car if she had to evacuate? Her first thoughts were about her journals. 'There's a lot of them,' she told me when we spoke last month onstage at the Tribeca Festival, 'and I thought: I can't take them all! Do I take the first ones? Do I take the past 10 years? It just makes you think, What are the things that are very, very important to you?'
Oh has kept diaries since she was a young girl growing up as the daughter of Korean immigrants in Canada. She wrote about her big feelings as a little kid, the discrimination she faced when she landed in Hollywood in her early 20s, the ups and downs of her 10 years playing Dr. Cristina Yang on 'Grey's Anatomy' and her thoughts around her more recent roles, like the intelligence agent Eve Polastri in 'Killing Eve.' The diaries, she once wrote, are a place where she is 'putting together all the clues of my life.'
That life has been a trailblazing one. None of the characters Oh is most famous for were originally written for an Asian actor, including her upcoming stint as Olivia in Shakespeare in the Park's 'Twelfth Night, ' which opens in August in New York City. Now in her 50s, she is reflecting on what it took to get where she is and how she's still growing in this ' rich middle' of her life.
It is rare to be able to see a person processing the events in her life even as they are still happening. So it was wonderful when, onstage at Tribeca, Oh read from her diaries for the first time publicly. Then we spoke again, this time not in front of an audience.
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We're going to be reading from some of your journals. I want to start with an excerpt from a momentous day in your career: your last day on 'Grey's Anatomy,' which you were on for 10 seasons. Ten seasons. It was amazing.
April 25th, 2014. Yesterday was my very last day of work on Grey's Anatomy. It was joyous. I waited for my call time. I felt excited and jumpy to get to work. I had my hug from Laura and my first-last makeup from Norm. Desiree and I danced to Michael Jackson in the trailer. It was fun. I passed everything out and wrote some more cards. Grabbed a lousy lunch at the screening. Took lots of pictures. Lots of hugs. Then after lunch they surprised me with the ceremony-thingy for me. Tony and Joan — cake sheet and cider. Very lousy and cheap and wonderful.
I'm interested in you saying that it was joyous. This was the end of the biggest thing in your career. Why were you so happy? I'm still figuring out what that decade of my life was. Not everyone gets to know that they're leaving a show. I was in a very, very fortuitous position, and I took advantage of it fully, meaning that I wanted to leave well. And I think that for me, one of the proudest things that I have in my life is how I left the show. I was as conscious as possible with all the crew members and actually even with the public. It was basically to help people say goodbye as I was saying goodbye.
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