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2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes Give Brutally Honest Advice for 59-Year-Old Man Dating 19-Year-Old Girl
T.J. Holmes and Amy Robach were brutally honest while giving advice to a 59-year-old man looking to "pursue" a relationship with a 19-year-old girl. As part of their 'Ask Amy and T.J.' advice column for Yahoo Life, Holmes, 47, and Robach, 52, shared a letter they received from a fan, which stated, "I'm 59, she is 19. I'll wait while you shake off the obvious initial reaction … She and I have found intimacy at a level we never thought existed while navigating the complexity of falling in love. You guys could not be more correct ... love is indeed messy!" The anonymous person requested some "non-judgmental feedback" about whether he should find a way to make the romance work. "Finding the courage to step off the cliff of 'settling for less,' in hopes of experiencing the kind of love that even the best poets, artists and musicians can't fully describe, is paralyzing!" he wrote. "She and I are currently standing on that cliff.' Celebrity Couples Who Have Surprisingly Big Age Differences: Anna Camp and Jade Whipkey, More Holmes and Robach didn't hold back in their response, which started with a comparison to Bill Belichick, who is 73, and his girlfriend, Jordon Hudson, who is 24. "That's a 49-year age gap for them. It's not a morality thing, but there are 25-year-olds I don't have anything in common with," Holmes noted. "So, how does this work?" Holmes made it clear that he couldn't "in good conscience" show his support. "Love can take so many forms. You never know where you're going to find it, how, when or with whom. Sometimes love just happens and, if you're not hurting yourselves or someone else, who are we to say it's wrong?" he continued. "If you really care about this woman, and love her, think of how much life she has ahead of her and how much she might miss out on by being with a nearly 60-year-old man." Holmes added: "She's going to miss out on being a teenager, on partying with her friends, on so much of the stupid little stuff that's part of our formative years. Don't take that from her." Robach, meanwhile, tried to reason that "it's not so much about the age gap." "I'm not interested in judging who should date whom," Robach noted. "There are people who fill different roles in our lives and the age difference between you might feel comfortable and safe to her right now. But I can't imagine that it's always going to be that way. And it's her age that is a bigger red flag for me." In her response, Robach highlighted the "power imbalance and an experience imbalance," writing, "I see many potential problems for you both because she is so impressionable at this age. Both T.J. and I got married for the first time when we were 23. And I wouldn't advise that either! Because you don't yet know who you are in your teens and 20s. Your brain is still forming, growing and developing until you're 27.' Holmes and Robach attempted to offer insight without judgment by relating it back to their experience as a couple. The pair's relationship made headlines in November 2022 when they were spotted getting cozy with one another while still married to other people. Most Controversial TV Couples With Major Age Gaps: From 'Friends' to 'Gilmore Girls' 'When our relationship was outed, the first and most important thing we had to get was the support of our children, friends and parents. We needed that. Most couples do, especially if their relationship is going to be scrutinized, and you should be prepared that yours might be,' Robach shared. 'The truth is that a 19-year-old doesn't know s***.' She continued: 'She's had almost zero experience, and she's trying to have a relationship with you, somebody who has had decades of different relationship experiences. You know what you want and need, and what you don't. You know what you can give. She doesn't know any of those things yet. She hasn't yet had a chance to explore who she is.' Holmes concluded by clarifying that he isn't saying the man is 'doing anything wrong,' but if he loves her, he should 'let that girl go.' Robach was of the same mindset in her final response. 'You two need to ask a lot of hard questions about what you're willing to sacrifice. You, as the older person, need to think about what impact this could have on someone you love,' she concluded. 'Sometimes love is doing the right thing instead of what you want or need in that moment, but it's doing right by the person you love. It's setting them up for the best success in life.'
Yahoo
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
I'm a successful Black woman. So why aren't men into me?
Want relationship advice from Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes? Email askamyandtj@ with a question for the chance to be featured on Ask Amy & T.J. Hear more from the pair on their podcast. Amy & T.J., I'm a 42-year-old Black female, 195 pounds, 5'11'. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have natural hair and a natural body type. I'm educated and have a good career. I own my home and car and play tennis, swim and do yoga. I travel and volunteer in my community. Yet, now, where I live in northern New Jersey and previously in Pennsylvania, North Carolina and in Westchester County, N.Y., it's the same: I'm ignored in the dating pool. I go to singles events and join groups to no avail. I tried dating apps, but no success there either. I choose not to be on social media. I don't have any close friends or family to make introductions. What else can I do? My question is: What is it that men are looking for? I'm interested in both of your perspectives.T.J. Holmes: Damn, girl. The first thing you wanted to mention was your size. That's on your mind. This is a little bit of a heartbreaker. I would like to talk to you. I would like to hug you. AR: I can't say for sure what men are attracted to. But I can tell you what I think it is: I think that every person gives off an energy. And if you love yourself and you think you're putting your best foot forward, that reads as attractive. Confidence is sexy. Knowing who you are and loving who you are is sexy. When you love yourself, you become lovable. I know, it sounds cheesy, but I believe it! AR: I would ask you to try to focus less on what you can do to make a man like or love you, and focus on making yourself the best version of you, so you can feel proud of yourself and love yourself. And then I think the men will come! You need to date yourself and fall in love with yourself, and then that smile on your face, the twinkle in your eyes — that will be there, and that's attractive to other people. TH: Your question translates to me as: 'Hi Amy and T.J., what's wrong with me?' You're listing your whole résumé and wondering, 'Why doesn't anybody want me?' You can't look at it that way. There is nothing on planet Earth wrong with you. It seems like you think it's your fault that you're not getting dates with men. I hate any time I hear that — and it seems to come from women more often than men. The apps, the mixers — things you've done to meet people are fine. But relax. Don't try so hard to be something to attract what you think you want. You think you want that guy, but you had to do what to get him? Change this, change that. Eventually, that gets you to a point where the other person realizes you're not really who they thought you were. Be who you really are. And that will attract what you really deserve. AR: It's so much easier to be yourself instead of pretending to be somebody else that you think they might be attracted to. Maybe instead of trying to find a boyfriend, try to just find some friends. I think if you approach meeting people from that perspective, it takes the pressure off. Look around and ask if people want to hang out and go out and do things. The more you're out, the more you're social, the more possibility there is — you never know what will happen or who you'll meet! But if you're trying to force it and trying to find someone who will like you romantically, that's so much pressure. And that pressure you're putting on yourself is probably affecting your energy. And, in turn, that energy might be undermining your attempts to actually find a partner. TH: We miss out if we have all those restrictions about what we want in a person. Maybe you meet somebody who's 6'2', but there's a guy out there who's 5'11' and perfect for you. You eliminate so many options for connection when you put all these restrictions in place about who you're willing to date. And it seems like you're putting a lot of those restrictions on yourself. AR: In past relationships that I've been in, they checked all the boxes, but it didn't work out. On paper, it looks like it's a perfect match. And yet, when it comes down to actual personalities and energies and jibing with somebody, you can't have a checklist. I've learned from experience that it is really about that unspoken connection, and you can't really explain why or how. It's just there. And it's not because you look a certain way or you drive a certain car, or you live in a certain neighborhood. That's not love. It was what you thought love was supposed to look like, versus what it actually is. AR: Get rid of the shoulds, the checklist, all of these things that you're saying about yourself and that you think other people won't like. You need to get your head out of that space, because that isn't what makes relationships strong, it isn't what makes relationships great. Those things are only the outward elements. It's everything that's inside of you that matters when it comes to having a good relationship. TH: I hate that you are in some way questioning your own worth. That sucks. You want to correct some things about yourself, it seems. Look, I'm not going to address your height and weight. Because here's the thing: That ain't got s*** to do with s***. When you think that way, it's like you want to correct things to check off boxes. And then what? Are you going to change your body and straighten your hair to try to attract someone? That sucks. And when you try to do that, all you're going to attract is somebody who isn't actually going to be attracted to who you are — which is a 5'11', 195-pound, f***ing beauty. I always tell folks, there's probably somebody already floating around your life who you're going to end up with. Amy and I sat right next to each other for years, and didn't realize that we were going to end up together. We didn't realize we were each other's person. You might have that in your life. And I would ask you just to be open, to be aware, look around. So: Go on, sister, and stop trying to be something for somebody else because you absolutely are going to attract the wrong thing. To get advice directly from Amy and T.J.,send whatever relationship question is keeping you up at night — whether it's about friends, family, your love life or beyond — to askamyandtj@
Yahoo
23-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
I'm 59. She's 19. We're in love. Now what?
Longtime journalists Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes have decades of relationship experience between them. Each has been married and divorced twice. They've raised children, been through heartbreak, found love and together have formed a blended family. The celebrity couple has weathered it all by staying authentic to themselves and each other. Now they're here to share their battle-tested expertise with you in , a relationship advice column from Yahoo. Have a question they should answer? Email askamyandtj@ and hear more from them on their podcast. Amy and T.J., I'm 59, she is 19. I'll wait while you shake off the obvious initial reaction, the one that says I'm a predator or, at best, simply with this young woman because of the sex! She and I have found intimacy at a level we never thought existed while navigating the complexity of falling in love. You guys could not be more correct … love is indeed messy! Finding the courage to step off the cliff of "settling for less," in hopes of experiencing the kind of love that even the best poets, artists and musicians can't fully describe, is paralyzing! She and I are currently standing on that cliff. Can you offer some non-judgmental feedback about how — or whether — to pursue this relationship? Hope to hear from you and congratulations on stepping off that cliff yourselves!T.J. Holmes: That's … damn. He's 59, she's 19. They're in love. Bill Belichick's girlfriend is 24, and he's 73. That's a 49-year age gap for them. It's not a morality thing, but there are 25-year-olds I don't have anything in common with. So, how does this work? Amy Robach: I say to my daughters — they're 19 and 22 — all the time: You don't know what you don't know. It's probably the most annoying thing I say to them because, of course, they can't know what I'm talking about, not yet. But it's the truth. You don't know what you don't know when you're 19, and your 20s are such an important time to figure out who you are, what you want and what your limits are. TH: Love can take so many forms. You never know where you're going to find it, how, when or with whom. Sometimes love just happens and, if you're not hurting yourselves or someone else, who are we to say it's wrong? But based on what you've said here, I don't think I could in good conscience simply say, 'yeah, go for it.' If you really care about this woman, and love her, think of how much life she has ahead of her and how much she might miss out on by being with a nearly 60-year-old man. She's going to miss out on being a teenager, on partying with her friends, on so much of the stupid little stuff that's part of our formative years. Don't take that from her. AR: I'm not interested in judging who should date whom. It's not so much the age gap. There are people who fill different roles in our lives and the age difference between you might feel comfortable and safe to her right now. But I can't imagine that it's always going to be that way. And it's her age that is a bigger red flag for me. A relationship like yours — between a considerably older man and a very young woman — is difficult because there is a power imbalance and an experience imbalance. I see many potential problems for you both because she is so impressionable at this age. Both T.J. and I got married for the first time when we were 23. And I wouldn't advise that either! Because you don't yet know who you are in your teens and 20s. Your brain is still forming, growing and developing until you're 27. In fact, I told my daughters that if they wanted to get married before 27, they'd have to pay for their own weddings. You have had all of the experiences in life that make you sure of who you are and what you want. But a 19-year-old doesn't really know any of those things. TH: It was Aaliyah who said, 'Age ain't nothin' but a number.' And it isn't; age isn't necessarily the important thing, but experience is. Love is a powerful thing — I know it, I've felt it and I feel it — but I don't know if there's a love strong enough to overcome the challenges you're going to face. It might be worth thinking about what some of those challenges might be down the road. I ain't judging anybody for anything they do. Amy and I never would. But think about it: Is this young woman going to stay with you until the end of your days, and then start dating again? What type of life experience do you want her to have, with or without you? And that's not to mention what your friends and family or society think of your relationship. AR: If you don't have that kind of support, it puts pressure on a relationship. When our relationship was outed, the first and most important thing we had to get was the support of our children, friends and parents. We needed that. Most couples do, especially if their relationship is going to be scrutinized, and you should be prepared that yours might be. The truth is that a 19-year-old doesn't know s***. She's had almost zero experience, and she's trying to have a relationship with you, somebody who has had decades of different relationship experiences. You know what you want and need, and what you don't. You know what you can give. She doesn't know any of those things yet. She hasn't yet had a chance to explore who she is. Your 20s are so important for that. AR: If my own daughter was in a relationship with an older man and said, 'This makes me happy,' it would never be worth fracturing our relationship because I disagree with whom she chooses to be intimate. However, I would still put my two cents in. You two need to ask a lot of hard questions about what you're willing to sacrifice. You, as the older person, need to think about what impact this could have on someone you love. Sometimes love is doing the right thing instead of what you want or need in that moment, but it's doing right by the person you love. It's setting them up for the best success in life. TH: I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong. But if you love her, you've got to let that girl go. To get advice directly from Amy and T.J.,send whatever relationship question is keeping you up at night — whether it's about friends, family, your love life or beyond — to askamyandtj@
Yahoo
23-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
I'm 59. She's 19. We're in love. Now what?
Longtime journalists Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes have decades of relationship experience between them. Each has been married and divorced twice. They've raised children, been through heartbreak, found love and together have formed a blended family. The celebrity couple has weathered it all by staying authentic to themselves and each other. Now they're here to share their battle-tested expertise with you in , a relationship advice column from Yahoo. Have a question they should answer? Email askamyandtj@ and hear more from them on their podcast. Amy and T.J., I'm 59, she is 19. I'll wait while you shake off the obvious initial reaction, the one that says I'm a predator or, at best, simply with this young woman because of the sex! She and I have found intimacy at a level we never thought existed while navigating the complexity of falling in love. You guys could not be more correct … love is indeed messy! Finding the courage to step off the cliff of "settling for less," in hopes of experiencing the kind of love that even the best poets, artists and musicians can't fully describe, is paralyzing! She and I are currently standing on that cliff. Can you offer some non-judgmental feedback about how — or whether — to pursue this relationship? Hope to hear from you and congratulations on stepping off that cliff yourselves!T.J. Holmes: That's … damn. He's 59, she's 19. They're in love. Bill Belichick's girlfriend is 24, and he's 73. That's a 49-year age gap for them. It's not a morality thing, but there are 25-year-olds I don't have anything in common with. So, how does this work? Amy Robach: I say to my daughters — they're 19 and 22 — all the time: You don't know what you don't know. It's probably the most annoying thing I say to them because, of course, they can't know what I'm talking about, not yet. But it's the truth. You don't know what you don't know when you're 19, and your 20s are such an important time to figure out who you are, what you want and what your limits are. TH: Love can take so many forms. You never know where you're going to find it, how, when or with whom. Sometimes love just happens and, if you're not hurting yourselves or someone else, who are we to say it's wrong? But based on what you've said here, I don't think I could in good conscience simply say, 'yeah, go for it.' If you really care about this woman, and love her, think of how much life she has ahead of her and how much she might miss out on by being with a nearly 60-year-old man. She's going to miss out on being a teenager, on partying with her friends, on so much of the stupid little stuff that's part of our formative years. Don't take that from her. AR: I'm not interested in judging who should date whom. It's not so much the age gap. There are people who fill different roles in our lives and the age difference between you might feel comfortable and safe to her right now. But I can't imagine that it's always going to be that way. And it's her age that is a bigger red flag for me. A relationship like yours — between a considerably older man and a very young woman — is difficult because there is a power imbalance and an experience imbalance. I see many potential problems for you both because she is so impressionable at this age. Both T.J. and I got married for the first time when we were 23. And I wouldn't advise that either! Because you don't yet know who you are in your teens and 20s. Your brain is still forming, growing and developing until you're 27. In fact, I told my daughters that if they wanted to get married before 27, they'd have to pay for their own weddings. You have had all of the experiences in life that make you sure of who you are and what you want. But a 19-year-old doesn't really know any of those things. TH: It was Aaliyah who said, 'Age ain't nothin' but a number.' And it isn't; age isn't necessarily the important thing, but experience is. Love is a powerful thing — I know it, I've felt it and I feel it — but I don't know if there's a love strong enough to overcome the challenges you're going to face. It might be worth thinking about what some of those challenges might be down the road. I ain't judging anybody for anything they do. Amy and I never would. But think about it: Is this young woman going to stay with you until the end of your days, and then start dating again? What type of life experience do you want her to have, with or without you? And that's not to mention what your friends and family or society think of your relationship. AR: If you don't have that kind of support, it puts pressure on a relationship. When our relationship was outed, the first and most important thing we had to get was the support of our children, friends and parents. We needed that. Most couples do, especially if their relationship is going to be scrutinized, and you should be prepared that yours might be. The truth is that a 19-year-old doesn't know s***. She's had almost zero experience, and she's trying to have a relationship with you, somebody who has had decades of different relationship experiences. You know what you want and need, and what you don't. You know what you can give. She doesn't know any of those things yet. She hasn't yet had a chance to explore who she is. Your 20s are so important for that. AR: If my own daughter was in a relationship with an older man and said, 'This makes me happy,' it would never be worth fracturing our relationship because I disagree with whom she chooses to be intimate. However, I would still put my two cents in. You two need to ask a lot of hard questions about what you're willing to sacrifice. You, as the older person, need to think about what impact this could have on someone you love. Sometimes love is doing the right thing instead of what you want or need in that moment, but it's doing right by the person you love. It's setting them up for the best success in life. TH: I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong. But if you love her, you've got to let that girl go. To get advice directly from Amy and T.J.,send whatever relationship question is keeping you up at night — whether it's about friends, family, your love life or beyond — to askamyandtj@
Yahoo
23-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Ask Amy & T.J.: Am I wrong for finding my wife unattractive after surgery?
We asked Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes to weigh in on a relationship question that has the internet divided: What can you do if you stop being attracted to your partner after they change their appearance? Hi Rose on Reddit's OK in inevitable. Ask this question, am I wrong for admitting that I find my wife unattractive after her surgery? Yes. OK, OK, let me give you the rest of it. My wife had plastic surgery recently, you judgy one. we had discussed it and I was against it, but I had no say. She looks weird now. Oh, sweet spirit. I think he needs to tell her how he's feeling. He said, to your point, I finally told the truth. OK. I wasn't harsh. I just told her that her new face wasn't something I found attractive and that I was turned off. She went to stay with her sister. Should I have kept quiet? Well, I think he has to ask himself, does he want to, and does he think he can continue to be with her now that she looks so different? She's the same person, she not? I mean she is. There are things about, I mean, you could change a haircut, you could change something that's about. You could gain weight, you can, you could get into an accident, all the things can happen, but if you choose something overnight, you can't ignore the fact that that could impact your relationship. Hopefully there have a solid foundation of friendship we always talk about. But I'm also just wondering, she rather have had him never tell her and then just feel rejected for unknown reasons. This is a heavy conversation that should have taken place before. Agreed.
