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Metro
15-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Metro
'Ignore the luvvies - giving birth took me three days and it was hell'
'I've just had a baby!' blurted out comedian Lily Phillips – not to be confused with OnlyFans' Lily Phillips – during her first comedy set after giving birth. ITV's The Stand Up Sketch Show regular Lily was supposed to be making her usual smutty jokes about her dog's vagina. She was definitely not supposed to be doing a show about babies or motherhood at all. But she couldn't contain herself. It wasn't 'baby bubble' happiness Lily couldn't help but share: there were no birds, flowers and bees bursting out of the comedian's orifices like some Disney goddess. No: her life had changed, and she was in hell. She'd been in hell ever since the excruciating three-day labour began in hospital, where she was dehumanised, infantalised, and ignored until it was almost too late. 'I needed everyone to know what had just happened to me, because it was everything,' Lily tells Metro ahead of her Edinburgh Fringe show Crying, all about the trauma of hatching a baby (it's funny, too). 'I want to get to the bit people don't talk about,' she says, with a surprising sternness that cuts through her sweet exterior, which she admits often catches audiences off guard. (No one expected her to say the word c***, ha!) 'We paint this picture that [welcoming a baby] is magical, beautiful and life-changing, and it is those things. But we're afraid to go really into the horrible side of it, because it looks like we don't love our child and that we regret it,' Lily says. 'Those two things can exist at the same time, and one of them doesn't make the other untrue.' So this is Lily's story. Without all those flowery caveats. Lily was the first of her National Childbirth Trust (NCT) group to give birth, amid pings of girlboss memes: 'You've got this!' and 'You're a goddess!' and 'You're so strong!' 'Women are amazing that they achieve birth, but [this messaging] also gives you the idea that you can curate your own birth,' Lily says. 'Forced positivity can make you then feel like a failure if you don't have this perfect birth experience.' Then there's pain relief. If you don't have an epidural, apparently you're a badass? 'Because of all that f***ing nonsense in my head, I waited three days before I had an epidural. So I was in labor for three f***ing days,' she says. The hospital was reluctant to hand out pain relief, too. 'Where you're supposed to have the baby they don't offer you the thing that would help the well documented pain of childbirth,' Lily points out. 'Then you're like… 'No, I really, really want one.' They're like, 'Okay, well, you have to go up two floors in the hospital while you're naked and howling like a dog.'' Lily kept on telling doctors she thought her baby was stuck, as the pain was so intense, and it kept getting worse. She wasn't dilated and was three centimeters for three days. 'Obviously, I'd never had a baby before, but I was just trying to tell them what I was feeling, and they just kept saying, 'No, it's fine. The heart rate's fine,'' Lily remembers. To sum it up: 'Birth is just hours and hours of unimaginable pain, where every now and then someone comes along and fists you.' Lily's doctor kept talking about a natural birth. She was going to have a glorious, natural birth. Everything would be fine. 'It makes you feel like a child when all this stuff I'd read before was about you being so empowered,' Lily says. 'I just felt the opposite of that. I felt very vulnerable.' Lily asked for a C-section. 'Have you ever been in so much pain that you're begging someone to slice you open?' she jokes, adding: 'As though a C section is a nice thing to do. It's a mad place to be.' But no. 'Naturally,' they repeated. Of course when Lily started to push all hell broke loose, and her baby daughter's heart rate dropped. She was whisked off to theatre and handed a consent form on the way in case they had to do an emergency C-section. 'They don't listen to a word you say most of the time, and then suddenly you have to sign this legal document, and they're like, 'Oh, she's fine to sign this. We'll definitely take this… She's not high, she's not deranged,'' Lily says. They tried a ventouse suction cup – a little like a toilet plunger – which is placed on the baby's head to assist contractions. But that didn't work. Then came forceps, a spoon-like contraption which is also used around the baby's head. According to the Birth Trauma Association, who are holding Birth Trauma Awareness Week this week, 5% of women experience PTSD after birth. That's around 25,000 to 30,000 a year in the UK. Often women say neglect or poor communication from the health professionals looking after them contributed to their trauma. Thankfully at this point Lily was post-epidural, as she also had an episiotomy: when a doctor cuts the area between the vaginal opening and the anus. Lily's partner described the scene as a 'tug of war'. 'They realised the reason she wasn't coming was because she was back to back, which is the wrong position,' says Lily. 'That's why I had so much pain in my back, and the cord was wrapped around her body and her neck, so she was just stuck.' Eventually they did get her out. 'They put the baby on you for this moment that you're supposed to have, but you've just been through a massive trauma, and they're like, 'This is beautiful'. But I just feel broken.' While the world is so conscious about mental health, it seems to Lily this is lost to maternity wards. 'They seem to be going through some kind of checklist of how to give you postnatal depression,' Lily half-jokes. Every time Lily asked how to do something with her baby, she'd get judged: they would laugh at her, or roll their eyes. 'They just seem quite angry that you don't know how to look after a baby, even though we kept saying we haven't done this before,' Lily recalls. 'I just think it'd be weird if you were really good at breastfeeding before you'd ever breastfed anyone. Where are you learning that?' To add another smattering of humiliation to the whole experience, after her episiotomy Lily had to prove she could wee in a cardboard potty before they would let her go. 'They make you bring it to them at the nurses' station,' says Lily, incredulously. 'But you're just like an animal at that point. At the time, you don't think, 'This bit much – why couldn't they just come with me in the toilet? Why can't this be more private?'' 'But you're there just naked, you're leaking out of every orifice, you don't know night and day. You're just, like, inhuman, by this point.' According per the NHS: A ventouse (vacuum cup) is attached to the baby's head by suction. A soft or hard plastic or metal cup is attached by a tube to a suction device. The cup fits firmly on to your baby's head. During a contraction and with the help of your pushing, the obstetrician or midwife gently pulls to help deliver your baby. Forceps are smooth metal instruments that look like large spoons or tongs. They're curved to fit around the baby's head. The forceps are carefully positioned around your baby's head and joined together at the handles. With a contraction and your pushing, an obstetrician gently pulls to help deliver your baby. An episiotomy is when doctors cut between the vagina and the anus during childdbirth, making the opening of the vagina wider, allowing the baby to come through more easily. In England, episiotomies are not done routinely, but in circumstances where the baby is in distress and needs to be born quickly, if there is a need for forceps or vacuum delivery (ventouse), or if there is a risk of a tear to the anus. Lily's story is not a one-off. She realised this when creaking the doors open to friends' experiences years later, as each one slowly started being honest about their births, and comparing notes on their maternity ward experiences. They found disturbing similarities. 'At first I thought it was just me, and maybe I was annoying [the doctors] or I didn't know what to do, and all the other mothers did, and that was bad,' Lily says. At home, Lily's baby wouldn't sleep for more than an hour at a time; she suspects partly due to the traumatic birth. This left her feeling horrific for eight months until the sleep came, and her mood shifted. 'What I found so frustrating in those eight months was this feeling that it should be the most magical time of my life. But actually, I felt like I was in hell, but I couldn't tell anyone I was in hell,' she recalls. While there were celebratory cards all over her house saying kind words like, 'You're so lucky!' and 'What a joy!', Lily was making terrifying post-epistiotomy toilet trips in tears with her baby attached to her chest. 'This doesn't feel lucky?' she remembers thinking. After her birth, fellow NTC mums-to-be asked Lily how her experience was: 'Was it incredible ? Did you feel powerful ?' 'I was writing this pretty bleak message about what had happened, and then I got another message saying, 'No negative birth stories, please!'' says Lily. 'So I was like… Oh, am I not supposed to? What are the rules? And because you'd never done it before, you let the world tell you what they want to hear. You start censoring yourself.' That's why for her show Lily wants to paint a very clear picture of her experience. More Trending Lily worries people might think she regrets having her baby, which she doesn't. Or that it's all bad, which it isn't. But this one time, she'd like to leave the caveats at the door. 'Sometimes I get a little feeling of the audience being uncomfortable with me being that honest,' she says. 'But I think it's something I have to get over as well, because this is the show that I wish I could have seen.' Lily Phillips: Crying is on at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival from August 1 – 12 at 515 Monkey Barrel Comedy, Monkey Barrel 2. Tickets here. Got a story? If you've got a celebrity story, video or pictures get in touch with the entertainment team by emailing us celebtips@ calling 020 3615 2145 or by visiting our Submit Stuff page – we'd love to hear from you. MORE: 'Nobody's got $4,500,000': The moment a Beatles legend saved Monty Python MORE: 'Epic' sci-fi series returns to streaming — and four more shows to binge this month MORE: Man arrested after 'disgusting' plot to blackmail beloved TV comedy star uncovered
Los Angeles Times
27-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Los Angeles Times
Rebekah Del Rio, singer known for moving performance in ‘Mulholland Drive,' dies at 57
Rebekah Del Rio, the singer-songwriter known for bringing her talents to the David Lynch classic 'Mulholland Drive,' has died. The Los Angeles County Medical Examiner confirmed Del Rio died in her home but did not disclose a primary cause of death, which is currently listed online as deferred. She was 57. In Lynch's 2001 thriller, Del Rio was the siren of the Club Silencio and introduced as 'La Llorona de Los Angeles.' In front of a red velvet curtain with smudged mascara and a crystal teardrop on her cheek, Del Rio delivered a moving a cappella performance of 'Llorando,' a Spanish-language take of Roy Orbison's 'Crying.' Her voice echoes through the venue, bringing tears to the characters portrayed by stars Naomi Watts and Laura Harring. Del Rio's appearance suddenly ends when she collapses and is carried off stage. Del Rio was one of a handful of musical acts who collaborated with Lynch. The visionary director died in January. He also also worked with 'Twin Peaks' composer Angelo Badalamenti, and singers Julee Cruise and Chrystabell. The last, who starred alongside Lynch in 'Twin Peaks: The Return,' paid tribute to Del Rio on social media. 'The beauty and astonishing power of your voice could actually take my breath away. May your spirit know the deepest peace, may your heart rest,' Chrystabell captioned a still of Del Rio's 'Mulholland Drive' cameo. 'Thank you for the kindness and care you showed me, it is written on my heart.' In addition to 'Mulholland Drive,' Del Rio appeared in Lynch's 'Twin Peaks: The Return' as a musical guest and performed her dreamy rock ballad 'No Stars.' Her screen credits also include films 'This Teacher,' '2307: Winter's Dream,' 'Southland Tales' and 'Rabbits,' according to IMDb. Prior to working with Lynch, Del Rio gained popularity in the Netherlands during the mid-1990s for the title track of her debut album 'Nobody's Angel.' She briefly moved to Nashville to take her music career to the next level — she was signed to Giant Records — but a car accident got in the way of those ambitions. 'Some man crashed into me and basically stole my opportunity, and I saw my own dream die,' she recalled to the Guardian in a 2022 interview. She continued to pursue music, counting Il Divo, producer Heather Holley and composer Danny Elfman among her collaborators. Her discography includes her 2011 album 'Love Hurts Love Heals,' a cover of Leonard Cohen's 'Hallelujah' and her 2021 single 'Adios.' Weeks before her death, Del Rio performed at a charity event for the Philosophical Research Society. Del Rio is preceded in death by her son Phillip, who died of cancer in 2009.
Mint
27-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Mint
Rebekah Del Rio, voice of ‘Llorando' in ‘Mulholland Drive', dies at 57
Rebekah Del Rio, the American singer-songwriter best known for her unforgettable performance of 'Llorando' in David Lynch's 2001 film 'Mulholland Drive', passed away on 23 June at her home in Los Angeles. She was 57. The news of her death was confirmed by the Los Angeles Coroner's Office. At this time, no further details about the cause have been released. Del Rio's nephew, Dan Coronado, shared the heartbreaking news on Facebook, writing, 'Just found out my Tia Becky passed away, and we literally just saw her on Father's Day. So grateful the kids got to hear her sing, and also that I didn't listen to her and secretly recorded the moment (sic).' He praised her 'God-given talent' and remembered her as someone who shared her gift generously. In his emotional tribute, he referenced her most famous song and wrote, 'Her most famous song is titled 'Llorando', which is named after Roy Orbison's song 'Crying', which I'm doing right now as I type this out.' Del Rio rose to prominence through her deeply moving Spanish-language version of 'Crying', performed a cappella in an iconic scene in 'Mulholland Drive'. The rendition stunned viewers and quickly became one of the most memorable moments in cinema. She had revealed in past interviews that the version used in the film was a secret recording from her first meeting with director David Lynch. Although she didn't realise it at the time, she sang along with each take, creating something magical. She later reunited with Lynch in the 'Twin Peaks: The Return' series, where she performed 'No Stars', a haunting piece based on a poem written by Lynch himself. Del Rio's powerful, emotional voice left a lasting impression on both audiences and fellow artists. Her ability to evoke feeling through music made her a treasured figure in the worlds of film and music alike. Tributes have begun to pour in across social media, with fans and colleagues mourning the loss of a singular talent who could make hearts break with just a few notes.
Express Tribune
27-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Express Tribune
‘Mullhollad Drive' fame singer Rebekah Del Rio dies at 57
Singer and actress Rebekah Del Rio, most recognised for her emotional performance of 'Llorando' in David Lynch's 2001 film Mulholland Drive, has passed away at age 57. The news was confirmed by the Los Angeles County Coroner's Office, though the cause of death has not been disclosed. Del Rio's unforgettable scene in Mulholland Drive, set in the mysterious Club Silencio, became one of the most talked-about moments in Lynch's surreal thriller. In it, she delivers a stunning Spanish-language rendition of Roy Orbison's 'Crying,' moving the film's lead characters played by Naomi Watts and Laura Harring to tears. Although the character collapses mid-song to reveal a lip-syncing twist, Del Rio actually sang live for every take to maintain emotional authenticity. 'I'm a natural-born singer. I don't know how to lip-sync,' she said in a 2022 interview with IndieWire. Her collaboration with Lynch continued throughout her career. She performed in Twin Peaks: The Return in 2017 and remained a fixture at related fan events. Just two weeks before her death, she appeared at a charity screening of Mulholland Drive in Los Angeles. Beyond Lynch's work, Del Rio's voice appeared in films like Sin City, Man on Fire, and Southland Tales. Her rendition of the U.S. national anthem in the latter was widely praised for its emotional depth. Fans have taken to social media to honor her legacy. 'There will never be another voice like hers,' one wrote. Another called her 'unforgettable and unmatched.'
Time of India
27-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Time of India
Singer Rebekah Del Rio no more
Singer Rebekah Del Rio, who achieved cinematic legend with her performance of "Llorando" in David Lynch's 2001 opus "Mulholland Drive," has passed away. Singer Rebekah Del Rio, who achieved cinematic legend with her performance of "Llorando" in David Lynch 's 2001 opus "Mulholland Drive," has passed away. She breathed her last on June 23 at her residence in Los Angeles. She was 57 years old, as per Variety. Del Rio's death was confirmed through the Los Angeles Coroner's Office. Lynch was first introduced to Del Rio by their mutual CAA agent Brian Loucks in the mid-'90s. The singer was working under a country record deal in Nashville, Tenn., which she had landed off of her recording of "Llorando," a Spanish-language cover of Roy Orbison's "Crying." Upon their meeting, Lynch asked Del Rio to perform the number and covertly recorded her. The performance became the basis for the Club Silencio scene, an addition by Lynch to his by-then-rejected ABC pilot "Mulholland Drive," which he was reworking into a feature film, as per Variety. Born July 10, 1967 in Chula Vista, Calif., Del Rio began performing in San Diego before moving to Los Angeles. She had a son, Phillip C. DeMars, in 1986. DeMars died in 2009 at the age of 23.
