Latest news with #DearAbby
Yahoo
7 hours ago
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: I have a crush on my neighbor — but she's married
DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced man in my 60s. Twelve years ago, a neighbor woman who I'm attracted to popped into my house to have a smoke break out on my back deck. When she arrived, I was in the shower. She came in like she always did (she had permission) and walked over to the fireplace. As she turned, she took two steps and froze because at that same moment, I came out of the shower 5 feet from my bedroom. I was naked. I froze as she looked at me. Abby, she looked me straight in the eye, and then her gaze dropped to my groin. It stayed there for about two seconds, then she gave me a smile, turned away and went out on my deck like nothing had happened. I can't forget that day. My heart was pounding the way it does the first time you meet someone. She was, and still is, married. That's why I didn't approach her, even though I kind of wish I had. I haven't been with a woman since my divorce 16 years ago, which may be why I still think about it. We are still friends and nothing like that has happened since — even though I wish it would happen tomorrow. This is the first time I have confided this to anyone. We never talk about that heart-pounding day. What do you suggest? — HIDDEN FEELINGS IN PENNSYLVANIA DEAR HIDDEN: I suggest you get back in that shower and turn the cold water on full blast. My next suggestion is to start looking at dating sites because I think you are more than ready. DEAR ABBY: My grandmother and I are very close. She is 83 and super independent. She loves keeping busy and is always running around town. I need your advice on how to get through to her. She has always driven like a 'cowboy.' She speeds and is impatient on the road. If she sees someone jaywalking, she'll speed up to 'scare them,' as she puts it. It's dangerous and worrisome. I have told her many times that she's driving dangerously, but her reply is that she's never gotten into an accident, so why would she now? Her agility and reflexes are declining as she's aging, and I'm scared she will hurt someone or herself if she keeps driving this way. How can I get her to take seriously this plea to drive more safely? — SCARED IN CANADA DEAR SCARED: In some jurisdictions in the United States, a driver could be charged with an attempted vehicular assault even if the intent was to 'scare' a pedestrian. Consult an attorney familiar with the vehicle codes in Canada and ask if this is also true there. Because her judgment is so poor, your aggressively driving grandmother should not be behind the wheel. Whether she is willing to admit it or not, at 83 her reaction time has slowed down. What she fails to take into consideration is that not all pedestrians react the same when a car barrels toward them. While some might jump out of the way, others may 'freeze' and be badly injured or killed. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Solve the daily Crossword
New York Post
12 hours ago
- General
- New York Post
Dear Abby: I have a crush on my neighbor — but she's married
DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced man in my 60s. Twelve years ago, a neighbor woman who I'm attracted to popped into my house to have a smoke break out on my back deck. When she arrived, I was in the shower. She came in like she always did (she had permission) and walked over to the fireplace. As she turned, she took two steps and froze because at that same moment, I came out of the shower 5 feet from my bedroom. I was naked. I froze as she looked at me. Abby, she looked me straight in the eye, and then her gaze dropped to my groin. It stayed there for about two seconds, then she gave me a smile, turned away and went out on my deck like nothing had happened. I can't forget that day. My heart was pounding the way it does the first time you meet someone. She was, and still is, married. That's why I didn't approach her, even though I kind of wish I had. I haven't been with a woman since my divorce 16 years ago, which may be why I still think about it. We are still friends and nothing like that has happened since — even though I wish it would happen tomorrow. This is the first time I have confided this to anyone. We never talk about that heart-pounding day. What do you suggest? — HIDDEN FEELINGS IN PENNSYLVANIA Advertisement DEAR HIDDEN: I suggest you get back in that shower and turn the cold water on full blast. My next suggestion is to start looking at dating sites because I think you are more than ready. DEAR ABBY: My grandmother and I are very close. She is 83 and super independent. She loves keeping busy and is always running around town. I need your advice on how to get through to her. She has always driven like a 'cowboy.' She speeds and is impatient on the road. If she sees someone jaywalking, she'll speed up to 'scare them,' as she puts it. It's dangerous and worrisome. I have told her many times that she's driving dangerously, but her reply is that she's never gotten into an accident, so why would she now? Her agility and reflexes are declining as she's aging, and I'm scared she will hurt someone or herself if she keeps driving this way. How can I get her to take seriously this plea to drive more safely? — SCARED IN CANADA DEAR SCARED: In some jurisdictions in the United States, a driver could be charged with an attempted vehicular assault even if the intent was to 'scare' a pedestrian. Consult an attorney familiar with the vehicle codes in Canada and ask if this is also true there. Because her judgment is so poor, your aggressively driving grandmother should not be behind the wheel. Whether she is willing to admit it or not, at 83 her reaction time has slowed down. What she fails to take into consideration is that not all pedestrians react the same when a car barrels toward them. While some might jump out of the way, others may 'freeze' and be badly injured or killed. Advertisement Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Yahoo
a day ago
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: My husband still talks to his ex girlfriend — and wants to visit her
DEAR ABBY: When my husband was a teenager 20 years ago, he had a two-year online relationship with a girl who lives in Georgia. I know they met each other only a couple of times. We are all in our 30s now, and once in a great while, they contact each other by text or email. I told him it bothers me that they keep in touch, especially when they say they miss each other. My husband tells me they were 'there for each other' when they were younger. Recently, we took a road trip to Florida, and he wanted to stop off in Georgia to see her and so I could meet her. He says that because they never had sex, they weren't really 'going out.' It seems my feelings about this friendship don't matter. Please advise me, Abby. — UNCERTAIN IN CHICAGO DEAR UNCERTAIN: I will assume that you nixed the idea of the detour to Georgia. If I'm right, then I think you may have made a mistake. Your husband had a relationship with that girl when they were teenagers. It isn't surprising that the memory of it is important to both of them. You stated that they don't communicate often. How is that a threat to you? You won't endear yourself to your spouse by keeping him on a short leash. Work on resolving your insecurities and loosen the reins. If you do, it will benefit your marriage. DEAR ABBY: After six years of working closely together, I have developed a raging crush on my co-worker and project partner, 'Brett.' It's a full-on, face-flushing, daydreaming kind of situation, and it's super annoying. I know this crush is inappropriate and unreciprocated, and I have no intention of acting on it. We are both married, and I would like to stay that way. My strategy has been to spend less time together and work on not being a moron. I've changed my daily schedule so we don't overlap as often. When we're traveling, I book different flights so we're not together all day, etc. The issue now is that I've heard from a different co-worker that Brett thinks I'm mad at him and that he's done something wrong, which is not the case. He's great, always professional and very good at his job. I don't want to keep hurting his feelings, but there's no way I'm going to tell him what's going on. Besides quitting or going on leave until I can get myself under control, what can I do? — STRICTLY BUSINESS IN THE SOUTH DEAR STRICTLY: To discuss your crush with Brett would be not only embarrassing but also unprofessional. The co-worker who told you Brett thinks you are mad at him may have intended to be helpful, but unless Brett tells you himself, do not make excuses for distancing yourself. The surest way to get your crush under control is to keep reminding yourself that this kind of thing could destroy your career. That may work even better than a cold shower. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Solve the daily Crossword
New York Post
2 days ago
- New York Post
Dear Abby: My husband still talks to his ex girlfriend — and wants to visit her
DEAR ABBY: When my husband was a teenager 20 years ago, he had a two-year online relationship with a girl who lives in Georgia. I know they met each other only a couple of times. We are all in our 30s now, and once in a great while, they contact each other by text or email. I told him it bothers me that they keep in touch, especially when they say they miss each other. My husband tells me they were 'there for each other' when they were younger. Recently, we took a road trip to Florida, and he wanted to stop off in Georgia to see her and so I could meet her. He says that because they never had sex, they weren't really 'going out.' It seems my feelings about this friendship don't matter. Please advise me, Abby. — UNCERTAIN IN CHICAGO DEAR UNCERTAIN: I will assume that you nixed the idea of the detour to Georgia. If I'm right, then I think you may have made a mistake. Your husband had a relationship with that girl when they were teenagers. It isn't surprising that the memory of it is important to both of them. You stated that they don't communicate often. How is that a threat to you? You won't endear yourself to your spouse by keeping him on a short leash. Work on resolving your insecurities and loosen the reins. If you do, it will benefit your marriage. Advertisement DEAR ABBY: After six years of working closely together, I have developed a raging crush on my co-worker and project partner, 'Brett.' It's a full-on, face-flushing, daydreaming kind of situation, and it's super annoying. I know this crush is inappropriate and unreciprocated, and I have no intention of acting on it. We are both married, and I would like to stay that way. My strategy has been to spend less time together and work on not being a moron. I've changed my daily schedule so we don't overlap as often. When we're traveling, I book different flights so we're not together all day, etc. The issue now is that I've heard from a different co-worker that Brett thinks I'm mad at him and that he's done something wrong, which is not the case. He's great, always professional and very good at his job. I don't want to keep hurting his feelings, but there's no way I'm going to tell him what's going on. Besides quitting or going on leave until I can get myself under control, what can I do? — STRICTLY BUSINESS IN THE SOUTH DEAR STRICTLY: To discuss your crush with Brett would be not only embarrassing but also unprofessional. The co-worker who told you Brett thinks you are mad at him may have intended to be helpful, but unless Brett tells you himself, do not make excuses for distancing yourself. The surest way to get your crush under control is to keep reminding yourself that this kind of thing could destroy your career. That may work even better than a cold shower. Advertisement Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
New York Post
4 days ago
- General
- New York Post
Dear Abby: My daughter blames me for HER infidelity
DEAR ABBY: When my daughter, 'Trish,' and her husband separated, I reached out to each of them for occasional check-ins. Trish left him after confessing to infidelity via email. He messaged me with a copy of what she'd written, which included some damning things about me — that she was 'like' me and that I am 'not a good person.' She never forgave me for crossing the line with a longtime friend decades ago. My husband owned his part in the situation, and we've moved past it. Apparently, she has not. Although Trish and her husband reconciled briefly, she's moved out again and plans to divorce him. I've offered to go to counseling with her if that would help, but I don't know if she knows I know what she said about me. My son-in-law apologized when he realized what that revelation must've felt like. He shouldn't have shared her email without permission, but it can't be undone now. My daughter is cordial but guarded when we occasionally speak. She lives far away. Should I tell her I know what she said about me, and hope she sees it as an opportunity to get to the bottom of issues between us? Do I continue to reach out in love and compassion, not knowing if she's still holding this grudge, showing her that I love and forgive her, regardless of our mistakes in the past? — IMPERFECT MOM IN FLORIDA Advertisement DEAR MOM: Amid the turmoil in her marriage, your daughter attempted to blame her infidelity on the example you set for her during her impressionable years. Her husband may have shared what she had written in an attempt to damage her relationship with you, which would be not only unkind, but also manipulative. I don't know what other issues you have with your daughter, but I see nothing to be gained at this point by telling her you know what she said. Bide your time. DEAR ABBY: My 15-year-old grandson races BMX bicycles. Last year, he had a traumatic brain injury and had to be medevaced to a pediatric hospital. Once he recovered, he went right back to racing. Last week, he crashed and damaged both of his kidneys. He's in intensive care as I write this. We don't know how long he'll be there or if he will need dialysis afterward. Advertisement His parents plan to drive him right back to the BMX track the minute he recovers! I think they are extremely irresponsible. I've read that 15-year-olds aren't able to assess risk properly. What can I do to stop this? — CONCERNED GRANDMA IN THE SOUTH DEAR CONCERNED: There is an adage that suggests if someone falls off a horse, they should get right back on. However, when it comes to life-threatening accidents, common sense tells me the circumstances should not be repeated. That your grandson is now contemplating returning to racing is shocking. That his parents would encourage it seems irresponsible. That said, there is nothing you can do to prevent the boy from risking his life, so start praying. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
