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News.com.au
6 days ago
- Business
- News.com.au
Aussie masseuse bans men after repeated inappropriate behaviour
An Australian masseuse has banned male clients from her studio after repeated inappropriate requests and comments from current and prospective male clients. Kessley Ham, 39, the owner of Eternal Energy Healing and Wellness in South Perth, told that moving forward, her business will only serve women, including trans women and non-binary clients. It all started earlier this week when she was venting to two of her team members about the 'relentless' stream of inappropriate booking requests she had received online. She said requests for 'sensual' or nude massages were common, despite it being clear on the studio's website and Instagram that it's not that kind of business. 'To my shock, both staff then shared their own experiences of inappropriate behaviour from clients in our studio,' she said. The decision to ban male clients Some of these incidents included a male client groaning on the massage table and 'writhing' around, 'orgasm-style', and another person who wanted to discuss their sex life with the masseuse. Another involved a male client repeatedly commenting that his underwear was 'uncomfortable and twisted' during the massage. 'That was the moment I knew I had to take action. My team's safety is non-negotiable. No one should feel unsafe or uncomfortable in their workplace — especially in a space dedicated to healing,' she said. The need for women-only spaces She chose not to pursue other approaches to combat the lewd behaviour – as 'this wasn't about business strategy' or retaining clients, but a pressing safety issue. 'Women deserve spaces where they can fully relax, physically, emotionally, and energetically, without being on high alert,' Ms Ham said. 'Unfortunately, the reality is that the biggest threat to a woman's safety continues to be men. That's not an opinion, it's a fact. Women-only spaces offer something rare: a full nervous system exhale.' Overwhelming support After sharing the news on her Instagram account, Ms Ham said the response has been overwhelmingly positive from women. 'I feel so sad for your staff … how unfortunate they had to encounter this. Well done for looking after them,' read one comment on the post. 'This is shocking to read,' said another. 'Power to you'. However, there have been a few predictable reactions from men who take issue with the change. Some women have even used the 'not all men' argument, suggesting Ms Ham should run her business on a 'recommendation' policy so the 'good men' can still come. Media 'redirecting' the narrative One media outlet apparently derailed an interview with Ms Ham about her decision by suggesting that this issue highlights 'how hard it is for men to find a massage that doesn't offer sexual services'. But Ms Ham emphasises that this isn't the issue here. 'The issue is the inappropriate and unsafe behaviour directed at women — including myself and my staff — in what should be a professional, therapeutic setting,' she noted. 'Redirecting the narrative to men's discomfort only highlights the need for women-only spaces even more.'


Daily Mail
7 days ago
- Business
- Daily Mail
Masseuse takes drastic step to deal with gross act from one particular group of customers
An Aussie massage studio has outright banned male clients after repeatedly getting inappropriate calls and comments about whether it would offer sexual services. Eternal Energy Healing and Wellness owner, Kessley Ham, 39, announced on Wednesday the South Perth business would only cater to women going forward. She said some of her workers, in their 20s, had been made to feel uncomfortable while working alone at night in the Charles Street studio, and it had got to the point where her staff were complaining of feeling 'sick'. Ms Ham told Daily Mail Australia staff had grappled with the issue alone until she opened up about men calling to make lewd comments and inappropriate requests. This led to uncomfortable discussion between all of her staff and the new rule. 'I've been receiving some pretty frequent calls and (men) just message you and ask for a sensual massage or, like not a lot of them say it directly, and they often come with a bunch of other questions first and then at the end say something inappropriate,' she said. 'And you're just like, 'oh God, I just wasted like how long talking to this person when they were just after a rub and tug'. 'From my website and Instagram, it's pretty clear that is not the type of business that I have. Those types of businesses are really easy to find, I don't understand why you would be contacting me instead.' Ms Ham said she confided in another staff member earlier in the week after becoming fed-up with the calls and beginning to blame herself for 'sounding too nice'. Her staff then informed her they had been made to feel uncomfortable in the studio during late-night sessions while the other businesses in her building were closed. 'There was apparently someone who groaned for the entire massage and like writhed around on the table, you know orgasm style,' Ms Ham said. '(He) kept making weird comments about his underwear being uncomfortable and being twisted and was just saying it over and over again. '(He) then wanted to speak to his massage therapist about his sex life – and this was at night time when all the other businesses in our building are closed and there's no one else there.' She said the therapists on Tuesday reported other unprofessional interactions which had taken place during massages and decided it had gone 'too far'. 'You can enjoy a massage without making it sexual and it's just it's not the kind of thing that I want myself to have to deal with,' she said. 'It was literally the next day that I was like that's it.' She said the comments were 'relentless', and the allusions were the kind that just makes you 'tense up'. The studio received multiple daily inquiries for 'sensual massages', Ms Ham said (pictured, the business's announcement on Wednesday) Eternal Energy Healing and Wellness opened about a year ago. It deals in specialised massage techniques. The treatments include ASMR-style sessions and massages drawing on Ms Ham's Ayurvedic background. Ms Ham said she would still honour current bookings for male clients. Gift cards that had already been purchased would also still be honoured. Ms Ham announced the ban in a statement posted to social media. 'Due to the relentless inappropriate requests I receive online and some incidents in the studio that have made my staff feel uncomfortable and unsafe I have made the decision to make Eternal Energy a Women's only establishment,' it read. 'We are still welcoming of trans women and non-binary individuals.'