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Telegraph
2 days ago
- General
- Telegraph
‘After I retired, my drinking skyrocketed. Here's how I finally quit'
I was already drunk when I arrived at the dinner party. I could tell I was slurring and I caught some of my husband's friends exchanging looks. Shame washed over me but I reached out for a glass of wine and knocked it back. And then another. I tried to join in the conversation, aware I was talking too loudly and stumbling over my words. I think I kept saying the wrong thing. There were more looks; more whispers – or maybe it was my imagination. I vaguely recall falling over on the way home before stumbling into bed. The next day was tough. I had a hideous hangover and there were large parts of the night I couldn't remember at all. My husband Johnnie wasn't happy: he was clearly embarrassed by me. I had to face facts – my drinking had become a problem. My earliest memory of drinking is of sneaking some of my dad's homemade cider into boarding school and getting drunk, and very sick, at our harvest festival. My mum and stepdad drank quite heavily, every evening, and there were often arguments over dinner. I didn't drink that much growing up but it all changed when I moved to London. I was 24 and working in IT in the financial sector. It was a very male-oriented business environment and alcohol was de rigueur. We all drank at lunchtime and again after work: it was part of the team culture. We worked hard but played hard too. I often worked with a hangover; nobody would dream of taking the day off. However, there were boundaries: I never drank in the office. We would go to bars after work and, once they closed, we'd often go clubbing. I didn't have an off button so any excuse to go on elsewhere was good for me! It was fun and we would never have done it without alcohol. For the last 30 years of my working life, I worked as a project manager in a multinational finance corporation. I was mainly based in London but there were often work trips abroad – mainly to the USA, Singapore and Hong Kong. Expenses weren't really monitored so we ate and drank well, often staying up late and drinking at the hotel bar. You wouldn't have fitted in if you didn't drink. In fact, it never even occurred to me to cut down on drinking or that my drinking was a problem. I would have been laughed out of the office if I'd opted for a soft drink. I met Johnnie, when I was 24, in a bar. Our relationship was built around having fun and that always included alcohol. I didn't think about the health impacts at all. I was healthy, fit and active so why would I? I retired when I was 62. I loved it at first, filling my time with art, tennis, golf, piano, bridge, French classes – everything I had always wanted to do. But the structure had been removed, as had the boundaries, the scrutiny and the accountability. There were no longer 9am meetings to consider. I didn't have to worry about anyone smelling alcohol on my breath. I could start drinking earlier. When I was working, I'd drink a bottle of wine every evening. Once I retired, that swiftly escalated. Once I'd emptied that first bottle I'd often add a shot or two of vodka or gin, and occasionally I would open a second bottle of wine. It was becoming hard to get the hit I loved. The more you drink, the tougher it is to reach the old high. Evenings were difficult, particularly in the winter. I'd start watching the clock from around 4pm. I had a rule that I wouldn't open the wine until 6pm but that soon slipped back to 5pm. Johnnie had also retired but he wouldn't have his first drink until 6.30pm and some nights he didn't drink at all. We'd eat together but we slipped into watching TV in separate rooms. When he wasn't drinking he'd sometimes go up to bed early so I was on my own. The majority of evenings I wasn't even aware of being drunk. That dinner with Johnnie's friends was a major trigger. I saw myself through their eyes and it wasn't pretty. I might have thought I was the life and soul of the party but I'm sure I was actually the biggest bore. Things that are funny when you're young are just tedious in later life. It was more than just embarrassment. I saw my 98-year-old mother (a heavy drinker in her past) with dementia and macular degeneration – she is almost blind. It's hereditary but drink certainly speeds up the process. I could see the risks. Routine blood tests from the GP showed high cholesterol, liver and kidney issues. My drinking was affecting my health. Cutting down wasn't going to be enough, I realised: I had to stop altogether. But it's hard when alcohol is such a major part of your life. I needed help. I stumbled across sober coach Sandra Parker on social media. Her description of an active, fully functional person who drank too much was spot on for me. I joined her Just the Tonic programme and started one-to-one coaching with her, alongside listening to her online modules and joining group Zoom calls. I didn't go cold turkey on the booze at the start; I just cut it down. Then, after about six weeks, I went onto the 30-day challenge of no alcohol at all. There were many other retired professionals on the programme, some in their 70s and beyond. It was such a relief to realise I wasn't alone. Some were drinking more because they finally could. Others were bored after decades of purposeful work. Many were navigating loss or health scares. But we all had the same goal – to make the most of life without alcohol holding us back. That sense of shared purpose was a huge motivation – here were accomplished people who refused to let alcohol ruin their retirement. The programme totally changed my mindset. You cannot give up anything with just self-control: it wanes and it doesn't last. I needed to see alcohol for the illusion it is. It's marketed so brilliantly as a party drink; as a confidence-boosting wonder liquid. It's not. It's highly addictive and dangerous and we all need to be aware of that and be warned of its consequences. We learnt the facts about what alcohol actually does to our brain and our body – sleep, health, looks. Sandra taught me not to blame myself – it's not a personal weakness or faulty gene; it's the addictive nature of alcohol doing exactly what it's designed to do. She worked on changing the desire itself. Instead of reaching for that glass of wine I have learnt to ask: 'What do I actually need right now?' Usually it's to feel relaxed, to feel rewarded or to connect. Then you find something that really delivers – without the 3am wake-up and morning regret. I journal every day and post on the programme's WhatsApp group most days: the support from others is huge and the accountability really helps. I've now progressed into the follow-up programme, and still have coaching. Within a couple of months of giving up alcohol, my blood tests showed the difference – my liver, kidneys and cholesterol levels were all normal. These days I wake up clear-headed at around 6am and journal and meditate. I exercise five times a week and my golf and tennis have improved – a nice bonus. I don't fear dinners or parties anymore – I remember every conversation and can drive home. I drink alcohol-free lager or prosecco when I'm out but I'm perfectly happy with water at home. My friends are supportive on the whole and any that aren't I just don't see so much. I would never want to be judgmental and wouldn't ever suggest anyone drink less – this alcohol-free route is purely for me. My family has definitely noticed a huge difference. I can't believe how much better my relationship with my husband is without alcohol. He's 100 per cent supportive and is drinking less himself. Our daughters (33 and 30) are delighted. They never spoke about my drinking but I knew they hated it. They always clocked when I'd had even one drink and would leave the kitchen when I was drinking. Now we all hang out together and chat. They're both so supportive and we have a much better, more present and open relationship. I have so much more energy during the day now and I'm so much happier, so much more relaxed without alcohol. I've become someone who is simply not bothered about alcohol, rather than someone who's constantly resisting drinking: it's true freedom. I want to live my retirement, not exist in it. I am 70 this year – onto another chapter of my life. I intend to make it one of the best in so many ways. These are the practices that I found really helpful: Journal daily – it really helps. I also found listening to Sandra's modules incredibly motivating. Remind yourself that the first 20 minutes after drinking alcohol is the only time you actually feel good from it. After that you're chasing a feeling that's already gone. All those hours nursing a bottle of wine make no sense. Make sure you're accountable, whether that's within a group or with friends and/or family. Tell people what you're doing – you'll be amazed how supportive most will be. Be kind to yourself. This isn't about beating yourself up: it's a journey to a more pleasurable and healthy life. Indulge yourself with treats occasionally – jewellery, holidays, food treats, massage. Realising just how much money I was saving was a huge incentive for me.
Glasgow Times
05-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Glasgow Times
Glasgow band Flair release new single City Lights
Glasgow five-piece Flair released their new single City Lights on Thursday, July 4, marking another step in their growing ascent in the UK music scene. The track follows a string of successes in 2024, including their anthemic single Run Away, a debut EP, and sold-out headline shows across the UK and Ireland. Read more: ScotRail add extra late-night trains for after Glasgow gig Flair said: "City Lights was the result of a late-night writing session between Johnnie (bass) and Tony (vocals) when they got together to combine some music and lyrics they had written independently. "Once it was fleshed out by the rest of the band, we instantly knew we had a great tune. "We've really leaned into our softer, fast-paced element. "It bridges the heavier moments with a gentler touch, while still offering its own kind of subtle chaos." (Image: Supplied) Flair's connection to Glasgow is central to the band's identity, with the city serving as a source of creative inspiration. Described as having a sound similar to popular bands such as Wunderhorse, The War On Drugs, and Fontaines D.C., national media have taken notice of their rise, with The Scotsman recently naming Flair its "Under the Radar: Artist of the Month." Earlier this year, the band released their first music video for the track Saccharine, directed by Stuart Alexander. The video has since amassed more than 108,000 views worldwide. Read more: Global jazz star receives honorary doctorate in Glasgow Flair has also made a mark on the live music scene, playing sold-out support slots at Glasgow venues King Tut's and McChuills. With support from indie label Revo Pro Records and producer Mark Morrow, the band is eager to continue its growing career. Their latest single follows tour dates in Lincoln and Birmingham, and comes ahead of scheduled festival appearances at Belladrum and Prestfest 2025. The band is also set to perform in Glasgow's Old Hairdressers on November 28.
BBC News
04-07-2025
- BBC News
Sleaford students warned about county lines through drama
More than 400 students have been learning about the dangers associated with organised crime and county lines drug gangs through a creative production, called CODE, was performed at St George's Academy in Sleaford by charity Justice in Motion, which has been touring for two years to raise awareness of the issue.A mixture of physical theatre and bike stunts, along with rap and music were used to tell the story of an individual who gets involved in knife crime and drug Meinhardt, artistic director of the charity, said: "The show touches pretty much everyone in society. Too many children are involved in a trade that is an exploitation of young people." The term county lines refers to criminal gangs who move illegal drugs from cities to rural locations, and sell them using dedicated mobile phone gangs often recruit young or vulnerable people to distribute the drugs, according to Lincolnshire Home Office estimates that about 14,500 children were identified as at risk or involved in child criminal exploitation in 12, who watched the performance, said: "I thought it was an excellent performance. It wasn't just a lecture, and it used younger people which not many performances do."Louise, 13, added: "I thought it was a really important message to tell everyone that no matter what age, gender or race you are it could happen to anyone."The show was part of a three-day residency in the area, which also included workshops and will also be performances on Saturday at 10:30 and 14:00 BST at Sleaford Market Place. The events have been organised by North Kesteven District Council, alongside Lincolnshire County Council Public Health and the Safer Lincolnshire Partnership. Sgt Mel Standbrook, education sergeant at Lincolnshire Police, said: "If children are preyed upon, or if they do find they're being groomed or exploited, it's about being able to say this is what's happening, and this is how I can get help."Preventative education around knife crime and county lines is really important for our young people." Listen to highlights from Lincolnshire on BBC Sounds, watch the latest episode of Look North or tell us about a story you think we should be covering here.
Daily Mirror
15-06-2025
- Daily Mirror
Get cheaper duty-free before arriving at the airport with clever tip
There are more than 20 airports in the UK where shoppers can benefit from the Reserve and Collect discount For many holiday-goers, a visit to World Duty Free is as thrilling as the holiday itself. From travel exclusives to significantly discounted perfumes, beauty products and alcohol, a bit of retail therapy really is the best way to kick-start your holiday. And for those jetting off this summer, we've discovered a brilliant way to get even more money off the already discounted goodies, just by doing one thing before you depart. Shoppers can currently bag an extra 10% off their World Duty Free basket if they reserve their items online, and collect them at the airport before jetting off. This deal allows shoppers to enjoy even larger savings on premium spirits, designer fragrances and high-end skincare, without the airport stress of last-minute shopping. Instead, customers can browse online, select their airport pick-up location and not part with a penny until collecting the items before boarding. One of the items included in the offer is the Johnnie Walker Black Label Triple Cask Edition Blended Scotch Whisky. The one-litre bottle is a travel retail exclusive, priced at £38.59. With the 10% saving, it drops to £34.73. A regular 70cl bottle of Johnnie Walker Black Label usually costs £35.38 at Asda , so to get an extra 30cl and a much more exclusive version of the tipple for less is rather impressive indeed, reports the Manchester Evening News. The triple cask edition is the third in the Black Label family and is characterised as 'sweet, fruity and spicy', making it an excellent Father's Day gift. It's matured in Whisky and Bourbon Oak casks before being finished in a Caribbean Rum Cask, which gives it its unique flavour profile with notes of brown sugar, toffee, orchard fruit, vanilla and a hint of smoke. There's also a deal on selected whiskies where customers can purchase two bottles for £45. This includes Chivas Regal's 12-Year-Old Blended Scotch Whisky, which retails at £46.55 on the high street but is priced at £27.89 at World Duty Free. As part of this offer, shoppers can get two bottles for less than the price of one full-priced high street bottle. The only drawback is that the 10% off for Reserve and Collect can't be used alongside other deals like this one. For those stocking up on skincare ahead of a holiday, the Clinique Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm 125ml is reduced from its RRP of £34 to £28.30, before dropping a further 10% to £25.47 at the checkout when using Reserve and Collect. This lightweight cleansing balm swiftly dissolves stubborn eye and face makeup, including those with sunscreen. The cheapest we found on the high street was at LookFantastic, where it's currently 21% off at £26.95. Shoppers can enjoy up to a 40% discount on fragrances at duty free, perfect for those wanting to snag a signature scent while holidaying. We've spotted a deal on Carolina Herrera's Good Girl Blush Elixir Eau de Parfum - normally £108 at Boots , you can bag a 50ml bottle for just £85.30 at the airport, and with the extra discount, it's down to £76.77. For holidaymakers pondering using this service, bear in mind that orders must be made at least 24 hours before passing through security - a downside for last-minute shoppers, but a boon for the well-prepared organisers who prefer to secure everything ahead of time. Even if you're not jetting off anywhere soon but are still keen to snap up duty free bargains, Stena Line is currently offering Duty-Free day trips where shoppers can venture between Holyhead and Dublin from only £10 per person, indulging in their duty free store filled with over 450 premium brands. World Duty Free has been showered with reviews from its users. One satisfied customer remarked: "I had exceptional service today by a very knowledgeable young Lady Katie. There was a great range of products and she couldn't do enough for me. I would recommend this shop and will be using it again when I next travel." One customer gushed: "The best thing about WDF was their helpful and friendly staff member Uzma M. Uzma exceeded expectations with assistance on purchasing souvenirs to pointing the way to my gate and reclining chairs. Without Uzma I would have departed without making a purchase. WDF sales and ratings can only go up with great role model staff members like her!". However, not all feedback was glowing, as one traveller noted: "Heathrow Terminal 2. Bought some UK gin at a reasonable price compared to US price. Unfortunately, they charged in US dollars with a 3% mark up - no one mentioned that it was going to be charged in US dollars and not GB pounds. Make sure you are charged in UK pounds as your credit card will save you a 3% mark up." Another satisfied customer shared: "I have wonderful experience provided by Sigita in Bristol airport. Very fabulous experience and very knowledgeable of perfume products. She is the great. Thanks a lot. Ingrida." Shoppers looking for deals at World Duty Free can explore their options and place a Reserve and Collect order here.
Yahoo
28-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Taye Diggs on getting his groove back in ‘Forever': ‘This role was very therapeutic for me'
"She put me on the map." So says Taye Diggs of Terry McMillan, the writer-producer who catapulted him to stardom in 1998 with How Stella Got Her Groove Back. More from GoldDerby 'The Studio' leads 2025 Astra TV Awards nominations with 14, followed by 'Severance' and 'The Last of Us' with 13 each 'House of the Dragon' Emmy submissions for Season 2 revealed: Emma D'Arcy to campaign in lead, Matt Smith in supporting Reality TV roundtable panel: 'American Idol,' 'Queer Eye,' 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives,' 'The Traitors' Reflecting on that period of his life, the 54-year-old actor remembers fully expecting to become a star. "I don't know who I thought I was," he recalls with a laugh (watch our full video interview above). "I remember graduating from college and saying, 'I'm going straight to the top.' When I got Rent (on Broadway) I was like, 'OK, when is the next movie coming?' I don't know where I got that confidence from because I don't have it anymore." Looking to get his own groove back, Diggs reunited with his old friend in Lifetime's Terry McMillan Presents: Forever. Diggs served as an executive producer with McMillan and star, playing Johnnie, a military veteran who falls head over heels for a local policewoman named Carlie (Meagan Good). Home for the first time in years, Johnnie must learn to let go of old grudges to find the true meaning of love and family — while earning the approval of Carlie's three daughters. While playing the complex character, Diggs was able to pull from his own life experiences like never before. "After having been tossed around a bit, married, divorced, in great relationships, and in some pretty horrible ones, I was able to use all of that in this piece. I didn't know that I had some of that pain within me. This role ended up being very therapeutic for me." Diggs calls this film "one of the most emotional and tumultuous stories" he's been a part of. Johnnie grapples with Carlie's illness, recovery, and shocking death during a convenience store robbery. "I like to have fun," he says. "I enjoyed doing this film, but I'm not a sadist or a masochist. I don't like to inflict pain and I don't like to feel it. As freeing as it was, I did not enjoy the emotional scenes because I was able to draw on my own emotional experiences. Whenever you have to bring up stuff that isn't pleasant, it's never fun, but it was useful. I'm grateful for that. I was able to pull from my life experience." The actor was also grateful to portray a positive character with high moral standards on the screen. "Playing African-American characters, very rarely do you see men and fathers portrayed in such a glowing manner. That was wonderful. It was also a character to whom I aspire." As a single man, Diggs says his onscreen partnership with Meagan Good brought out all kinds of emotions in him. "She was so amazing, and the script was so great, that it actually made me miss having a girlfriend," he says. "I attribute that to her and the writing. You forget some of the positive aspects of being in a relationship. The relationship in this film was so healthy. It reminded me that there are some good elements to relationships as well." Speaking more about the script, Diggs can only laugh when thinking about the devastating roller-coaster ride viewers experienced watching the movie. "I'm not attracted to roles like that. That's why I had to do it," he says. "I'm not going to do it again! But I needed to do this because people needed to go on this ride. I knew there would be work in this that hadn't been touched on before — and I'm getting older — there's not much that I haven't done. I jumped at the opportunity to be in something that showed more vulnerability." Now a 2025 Emmys contender for Forever, Diggs had to be reminded that he already has a Critics Choice Award and Screen Actors Guild Award for Chicago, as well as two NAACP Image Awards for Kevin Hill and Private Practice. "I gotta remind myself, shoot!" he jokes before thinking back on the first award he ever won. "Basketball — what is that called? He gave his all (team spirit)! I got that on the seventh-grade B team." Next up, Diggs is heading back to Broadway to join Wayne Brady in Moulin Rouge! Diggs will play the Duke of Monroth from July 22 to Sept. 28 at Broadway's Al Hirschfeld Theatre. "I'm very excited for that," he shares before admitting he still gets nervous. "Right before I step on stage the thought of 'Why did I decide to do this?' will be in my head. Once I get out there I'm cool, but right before, oh my lord. That doesn't go away." 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