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Boston Globe
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Boston Globe
‘We Do Not Care' goes viral: the menopausal mantra that's resonating with millions
If you haven't already encountered Sanders — if five friends haven't texted you 'OMG THIS IS ME!!!' — stop right here, listen to her say the word 'care,' in an accent that's been described as 'zero f's,' and then resume reading. Get Love Letters: The Newsletter A weekly dispatch with all the best relationship content and commentary – plus exclusive content for fans of Love Letters, Dinner With Cupid, weddings, therapy talk, and more. Enter Email Sign Up It would be an understatement to say that Sanders' audience has been waiting for her. In the two months since that cri de coeur , she's gained 2.5 million new followers; landed a talent manager; started paid collaborations with Mattress Firm and Dove; and has either begun a movement, or given name to one that's been silently, angrily, building since, well, probably since forever. Advertisement 'I love her so much,' said Advertisement On social media, the millions of likes and comments on her posts are a window into an exhausted and resentful stew of emotions. 'We do not care if our coworkers think we are passive-aggressive,' read a comment on Instagram. 'The only other option I can offer at this time is aggressive-aggressive.' 'We do not care that we just got home from the grocery store and order pizza,' read another. 'We do not feel like cooking. We are tired from the grocery shopping.' 'We do not care if we're out of band aids.' a Facebook fan wrote. 'Use a maxi pad. We no longer need them.' Sanders, who is a mother and a wife, and who often appears on camera rocking a neck pillow, a sleep mask around her neck, and a napkin tucked into her shirt, takes aim at a range of antagonists. 'We do not care if we said we wanted to hang out soon, that probably was said when we was happy; we are no longer in a happy mood,' Sanders says in one post. 'We do not care if we don't show up for the family cookout. Most of y'all have undiagnosed trauma that we honestly just don't want to deal with right now.' Many women repeat Sanders 'we do not care' tagline to themselves in almost a self-soothing way, and the mantra has been compared to Mel Robbins's 'It's 'Let Them',' said WROR's Falcone, but behind their back, 'you're flipping them the bird.' Advertisement The We Do Not Care Club has arrived at a time when many women feel under particular attack, with the Even so, the unapologetic behavior Sanders describes sounds so radical that one club member called it 'aspirational.' As extreme as the not-caring sounds, the behavior, at its core, is simply about 'setting boundaries, and having compassion for yourself,' said psychiatrist The videos are resonating with women in middle age and beyond, she said, because they have 'lived the full cost' of putting their own needs last. 'They've seen that wearing the heels, or whatever they are doing, because they think it will make people like them, or they'll get the promotion, doesn't necessarily work. It just makes life harder for them.' Margie Lachman, a psychology professor at Brandeis University, says Sanders's We Do Not Care Club has gone viral not only because she's found a catchy way to describe how millions of women feel, but because it makes women feel like they are part of something. 'The fact that it's a 'club' is really meaningful,' she said, 'because this is a time when people are looking for support and validation.' Indeed, Sanders's talent manager, 'She also has a super exciting project in the works,' said Granados, who didn't provide details, but did share that she and Sanders had such an instant connection that on their first call they ended up professing their love for each other through tears. Advertisement So ingrained are societal messages that sometimes, or maybe it's often, the judgment is coming from inside your own brain. Consider Kristina Tsipouras Miller, the founder of the Who cares! she thought joyfully. Until she remembered. 'I said to my husband, '20-year-old Kristina would not have wanted to be seen with me',' she recalled. But now, to channel Sanders, if you do not like that we are comfortable, we do not care. Beth Teitell can be reached at
USA Today
6 days ago
- Sport
- USA Today
Did Deion Sanders' absence affect Colorado's recruiting? 'I got on the phone with him'
Colorado football fans had been getting a little worried about the state of recruiting in Boulder under head coach Deion Sanders. On July 8, the Buffaloes stood at 97th nationally for the 2026 class rankings, according to the 247Sports composite. The Buffaloes only had six commitments at that point from high school or junior college players for 2026. Sanders also has been away from campus with a health issue while a number recruits came to visit Boulder in June before deciding which colleges to join in 2026. So if he's not there to see them, what happens then? USA TODAY Sports discussed this with recruits who said they were told that Sanders was out sick when they visited. None said Sanders' absence played a role in their decisions. Despite his absence, Colorado has been on a roll lately with three new commitments from recruits since July 10, including four-star linebacker Rodney Colton Jr. from Georgia. In Colton's case, it didn't matter if Sanders wasn't on campus when he visited Boulder in June. Sanders talked to him by phone instead. 'I got on the phone with him when I went over there for my (visit),' said Colton, who had more than 30 scholarship offers. 'I was on the phone with him (July 12) too. He was just like, `We don't recruit guys who don't want to get in here and play.'' Colorado staff explained Deion Sanders' absence to recruits Colorado since has moved up to 80th in the 247Sports rankings, as of July 16, with nine commitments for 2026, which still ranks last in the Big 12 Conference. However, these rankings are the full story in Colorado's case because they only include high school and junior college recruits. Sanders has been more selective about the high school recruits he brings in and instead has relied on the transfer portal to fill out much of his roster. The rankings don't reflect that dynamic and therefore don't mean much in the way of predicting the quality of his overall 2026 recruiting class. But his absence still raised questions about its impact on recruiting, especially since Sanders doesn't travel away from campus to recruit players. He instead relies on recruits visiting him in Boulder. And his presence is often the biggest draw for recruits to Boulder – a big reason Colorado gave him a new $10 million-per-year contract earlier this year. POWER RANKINGS: How the Big 12 stacks up from No. 1 to No. 16 So what if he's not there when they come over to see his program? Recruits said it came to down to other factors, as it often does, such as relationships with assistant coaches and culture. Colorado's assistant coaches and staff welcomed the recruiting visitors in Sanders' absence and told them why Sanders couldn't be there. A local offensive line recruit, Tripp Skewes, was one of them. He visited in June but later decided to join Vanderbilt instead of Colorado, increasing concerns among Buffaloes fans. 'It didn't make a difference,' Skewes said of Sanders' absence. 'I understood he was sick and would rather him focus on getting healthy.' Skewes said a big part of his decision was Vanderbilt assistant coach Jeff Nady. 'The main reason I chose Vandy is because of Coach Nady and strength of schedule,' Skewes told USA TODAY Sports. June visitors to Colorado not fazed by temporary absence Sanders suffered his health setback in May and missed a wave of recruiting visitors who came through Boulder in June before the NCAA window for visits ended June 22. A 'dead period' for recruiting visits now lasts through most of August. But of Colorado's nine high school or junior college commitments for 2026, seven visited the Colorado campus in June when Sanders was out, underscoring the fact that his absence didn't matter for them at least. That includes four-star cornerback Preston Ashley from Mississippi, who chose Colorado over Florida State and visited the same weekend as Colton June 20. Some Colorado recruits who visited in June are still deciding which college to join, including offensive line recruit Ben Gula of Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Gula said he's narrowed his choices to Colorado or Central Florida. Asked if Sanders' absence mattered to him, Gula said, 'It definitely did matter to me but to be completely honest I am happy I got to spend more time with their (offensive coordinator) because generally I'm going to be around him a lot more and it was awesome getting to talk ball with one of the most established coaches in college football.' Gula said recruits were told that Sanders was 'in the hospital and wasn't able to be there.' Sanders was away at his estate in Texas during his sabbatical but returned to address the news media at Big 12 media days in Frisco, Texas, July 9. He is expected to return to the Colorado campus as soon as next week. New Colorado recruit: 'This is where I want to be' In the meantime, Sanders' message to recruits still seems to matter even if he wasn't there temporarily. He has often stressed the vast amount of NFL experience on his coaching staff, which includes Pro Football of Famers Marshall Faulk and Warren Sapp. Gula said that makes a difference to him '100%.' 'Colorado has an almost Hall-of-Fame level coaching staff with the amount of coaches that have had that NFL experience' Gula said. Sanders has emphasized the quality of his staff to recruits over any money they'd get from deals with the university or third parties for their names, images and likenesses (NIL). Colton said NIL concerns weren't an issue to him. 'I ain't really too much of a money person,' said Colton, who chose Colorado over Florida State, Mississippi and others. 'Money cool and all, but money is just materialistic things to me. It just buys you materialistic stuff, I guess. To me I'm not really about the money. I just want to ball.' Colton's relationship with Colorado linebackers coach Andre' Hart sealed the deal, he said. Colton also said he liked the idea of exposing his name and brand to a different part of the country, far from Georgia. 'Everything about coach Hart Is just amazing, and then who don't want to get coached by Deion, Prime Time?' Colton told USA TODAY Sports. 'The big part is like the culture out there and like family. Everything out there is family, so I'm like, 'OK, this is where I want to be.'' Colorado opens preseason camp in late July before opening the season Aug. 29 at home against Georgia Tech. Many of the recruits who committed for 2026 are expected to enroll in January. Follow reporter Brent Schrotenboer @Schrotenboer. Email: bschrotenb@
Sydney Morning Herald
13-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Sydney Morning Herald
The unexpected upside to menopause that nobody warned me about
Recently, a trend has been taking place in a particular corner of social media. Founded by American Melani Sanders, it's called the 'We do not care' movement, and it's giving perimenopausal and menopausal women around the world a rallying cry for a common experience. Her videos feature deadpan, joyful announcements of things she no longer gives a toss about, like wearing bras ('they suffocate us'), hiding bloat that makes us look pregnant ('but we're not'), and apologising for the presence of cellulite when we wear shorts ('we've got them, we wear them'). With 1.1 million Instagram followers, Sanders' movement has been joined by the likes of actor Ashley Judd, who proudly confessed to wearing her nightgown past the point of hygiene and using its hem to dry her hands, forgetting her shoes and going barefoot around town, and skipping chin-hair plucking and hair brushing because she doesn't care any more. Presenter Shelly Horton has also joined in, saying Australian women 'don't care about hiding our age … We count it like toddlers now. I'm 51 and 9 months – because we've earned every damn month.' More than just a viral moment, there's a scientific reason behind the phenomenon of women no longer caring about societal norms. As women enter perimenopause our estrogen levels drop, and this decline in the so-called 'caretaker hormone' results in our compulsion to please falling away. The people-pleasing, the emotional labour, the self-policing – all of it starts to fade as the grip it once had loosens. And in its place is something wild and freeing. According to the 2021 Australian census, about 4.3 million Australians are women aged between 45 and 64, while about 2.1 million women are aged 65 and over. This translates to more than 6 million people who are currently navigating, or have previously navigated, menopause. Though perimenopause – the transitional lead-up – can begin as early as 40 and last between four and 10 years, menopause typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55, with the average age being 51. That's roughly a decade or more of hormonal turbulence, brain fog, sleep disruptions and mood swings, all while still working, parenting or caregiving. No wonder we hit a point where we just stop caring; it's not apathy, it's survival. With 80 per cent of women experiencing symptoms, it's time we stopped whispering and started shouting about what this stage really looks like. We sweat through sheets, cry at commercials, forget the word for 'dishwasher' mid-sentence, and experience anxiety spikes that make us question reality. But in the midst of this chaos, a strange liberation appears. For the first time, we're not hormonally tricked into putting others' needs first.
The Age
13-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Age
The unexpected upside to menopause that nobody warned me about
Recently, a trend has been taking place in a particular corner of social media. Founded by American Melani Sanders, it's called the 'We do not care' movement, and it's giving perimenopausal and menopausal women around the world a rallying cry for a common experience. Her videos feature deadpan, joyful announcements of things she no longer gives a toss about, like wearing bras ('they suffocate us'), hiding bloat that makes us look pregnant ('but we're not'), and apologising for the presence of cellulite when we wear shorts ('we've got them, we wear them'). With 1.1 million Instagram followers, Sanders' movement has been joined by the likes of actor Ashley Judd, who proudly confessed to wearing her nightgown past the point of hygiene and using its hem to dry her hands, forgetting her shoes and going barefoot around town, and skipping chin-hair plucking and hair brushing because she doesn't care any more. Presenter Shelly Horton has also joined in, saying Australian women 'don't care about hiding our age … We count it like toddlers now. I'm 51 and 9 months – because we've earned every damn month.' More than just a viral moment, there's a scientific reason behind the phenomenon of women no longer caring about societal norms. As women enter perimenopause our estrogen levels drop, and this decline in the so-called 'caretaker hormone' results in our compulsion to please falling away. The people-pleasing, the emotional labour, the self-policing – all of it starts to fade as the grip it once had loosens. And in its place is something wild and freeing. According to the 2021 Australian census, about 4.3 million Australians are women aged between 45 and 64, while about 2.1 million women are aged 65 and over. This translates to more than 6 million people who are currently navigating, or have previously navigated, menopause. Though perimenopause – the transitional lead-up – can begin as early as 40 and last between four and 10 years, menopause typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55, with the average age being 51. That's roughly a decade or more of hormonal turbulence, brain fog, sleep disruptions and mood swings, all while still working, parenting or caregiving. No wonder we hit a point where we just stop caring; it's not apathy, it's survival. With 80 per cent of women experiencing symptoms, it's time we stopped whispering and started shouting about what this stage really looks like. We sweat through sheets, cry at commercials, forget the word for 'dishwasher' mid-sentence, and experience anxiety spikes that make us question reality. But in the midst of this chaos, a strange liberation appears. For the first time, we're not hormonally tricked into putting others' needs first.
Yahoo
08-07-2025
- Sport
- Yahoo
Colorado football class of 2026 commitment tracker
As things stand today (June 29, 2025), the Colorado Buffaloes currently have four players committed to their class of 2026. With official visits mostly complete, this group ranks No. 105 in the nation and is the last-ranked class in the Big 12. Deion Sanders and his staff are looking for their fourth consecutive top-25 finish in the national rankings, which they typically achieve by prioritizing highly ranked recruits over sheer quantity. Advertisement The Buffs are awaiting several decisions from key targets over the next few weeks, which could change the trajectory of an otherwise mediocre 2026 cycle so far. The program is coming off an impressive 2024 season that saw Colorado tie for the best conference record (7-2) and finish 9-4 overall. Colorado would do well to assemble another top 25 class, and with Sanders' history of flipping top recruits, it never seems too late for the Buffs to make a splash on the recruiting front. (Last update: June 29, 3:00 p.m. MT) Three-star cornerback Maurice Williams Measurables: 5-foot-11, 172 pounds Hometown: New Orleans, Louisiana Advertisement 247Sports Ranking: No. 1518 player in the class of 2026, No. 130 cornerback and No. 41 recruit from Louisiana Here is more on Williams' commitment. Four-star cornerback Preston Ashley Measurables: 5-foot-10, 170 pounds Hometown: Brandon, Mississippi 247Sports Ranking: No. 214 player in the class of 2026, No. 19 safety and No. 9 recruit from Mississippi Here is more on Ashley's commitment. Three-star tight end Gavin Mueller Measurables: 6-foot-5, 255 pounds Hometown: South Elgin, Illinois 247Sports Ranking: No. 462 player in the class of 2026, No. 23 tight end and No. 12 recruit from Illinois Advertisement Here is more on Mueller's commitment. Three-star edge Domata Peko Jr. Measurables: 6-foot-4, 220 pounds Hometown: Calabasas, California 247Sports Ranking: No. 8 JUCO player in the class of 2026, No. 1 edge and No. 4 JUCO recruit from California Here is more on Peko Jr.'s commitment. Follow Charlie Strella on X, Threads and Instagram. Contact/Follow us @BuffaloesWire on X (formerly Twitter) and like our page on Facebook for ongoing coverage of Colorado news, notes and opinions. This article originally appeared on Buffaloes Wire: Colorado football recruiting class of 2026 commitment, ranking tracker
