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Metro
27-06-2025
- Health
- Metro
I'm a man and I don't let myself climax — it makes sex better
Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger. This week we hear from Jonah* a 31-year-old bicurious policy researcher in London, who has sex with his girlfriend about five times a week. The couple have been in a relationship for about four months, and are already living together. They're keen to keep exploring sexually, and there's one thing Jonah has been focusing on in particular: semen retention. This is the practice of avoiding ejaculation for periods of time — even during sex. While there is no scientific evidence to suggest it's beneficial, proponents of it recall improved physical, mental and spiritual health. 'I try to practice semen retention because I feel more energised and centred when I'm not ejaculating all the time,' he says. 'I started it about three years ago, but I've only recently been able to have sex without coming, and I really enjoy it. 'When done correctly, I can basically last forever, but I'm not quite at the level where I can completely let loose and still hold it, which is frustrating.' So without further ado, here's how Jonah got on this week… The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work . With thousands of members from all over the world, our vibrant LGBTQ+ WhatsApp channel is a hub for all the latest news and important issues that face the LGBTQ+ community. Simply click on this link, select 'Join Chat' and you're in! Don't forget to turn on notifications! I just got back from a fortnight in Peru, after heading there for a work conference. My beautiful girlfriend, Anastasia*, just moved here from Toronto, where we met at a party a few months ago. After a day working from home I go to the gym to work out. I pump some weights, swim a few lengths and hit the steam room. When I get home, Anastasia, with her mysterious dark features and innocent-looking round face, seems quite restless. She's extremely horny. We get down to it fairly swiftly, but she gets annoyed at me for going too fast. I'll admit, I wasn't super connected to her emotionally and spiritually, and she could perceive that. We lay down next to each other and talk it out — pillow talk style. This then morphs into a sort of sensual, slow sex. The whole thing makes me think of the Marvin Gaye tune, Sexual Healing. I focus on my breathing, and she fondles my nipples. I still easily manage to avoid ejaculation, which I am learning to prefer. I first learnt about semen retention when I was travelling in South America, and I got chatting to some guys out there that practiced it. They told me how it allowed them to have sex for long periods without ejaculating. I'm still a novice, but through careful breathing, I can have sex without finishing. It allows for longer periods of pleasure for both me and my partner. That being said, it's not easy, and sometimes I just want to explode. I always tell new partners about it, and they're generally very supportive. I think it's sexier than coming after a few minutes of just going at it like rabbits. Semen retention means I'm always at a baseline level of horniness, so it can be nice to unload it all and start again. When we start having missionary sex this morning, before moving to cowgirl, Anastasia notices she's bleeding. Assuming her period has come we agree that now is time for me to finish inside her — something I've never done before. We know there's a chance she could get pregnant, but decide the risk is much lower. I start going faster, but when I'm on the verge of finishing she pushes me away gently, wanting a bit more build up beforehand. The result is that I finish, but don't experience much of an orgasm. So we continue and it's and I finish — again. But then disaster strikes. She checks her Natural Cycles period tracking app, which is linked to her Oura ring, and realise we've made a mistake. The blood must have been from a scratch or slight tear, not her period, and we make a note to get a pregnancy test in a few days. If every day starts with slow sex like this, I'm a very lucky man. When I get to the point where I might pre-come I put on a condom. Anastasia comes enthusiastically a couple of times. This is the first time she's finished in a while as she rides me on top, while I stimulate her clitoris. Then she goes down on me, edging me, but without bringing me to the point of climax. Afterwards, we do some breathing exercises together to help me move the energy up my spine and out of my pelvic region, so that I don't get the feeling of blue balls. I do some jumping jacks and then we do some yoga together. We agree that for the next two days we'll do a one in, one out, WFH system. So I head to a local cafe and set up for the day, sending emails and making calls, planning my next big project. I've also got my men's group tonight — where a bunch of guys meet up for what is basically a big group therapy session and connection exercise. It's wild to think that many men, including me sometimes, go days, weeks or even months without a genuinely deep conversation with another guy. There's a sauna and cold plunge too, and I catch up with an old friend who I haven't seen in a while, before heading home. Anastasia and I play guitar and sing a little bit together, then go to bed. We meditate a bit together before starting our days. Anastasia heads to her favourite cafe, so I have the run of the house. I put on my favourite deep house playlist loudly and make an obscenely fat-heavy and truly delectable breakfast involving a bunch of eggs, steak and Boursin. I settle down for some writing and the day passes in a productive, caffeine-pumped haze. I go and do the grocery shopping and arrive home around the time Anastasia is getting back. Did I mention that I'm falling in love with her? I share this with her for the first time, saying how she makes me feel at one with myself, that the feeling of her soft skin on mine gives me shivers, and that I love how her femininity brings out my masculine aspects. She really wants me to 'be the man', and I'm very happy to oblige. After a quick gym sesh, I'm back home and we're getting freaky together. She never reciprocated the beginnings of my love confession earlier, but she suddenly suggests we do anal, which I must confess I've been angling for for a while. We lube up with coconut oil and I slowly penetrate her. It's heaven, even if I don't allow myself to come. I have a bunch of work calls today. Anastasia has a sort of coquettish anal afterglow. She really loves being dominated, I'm realising more and more. She recently began to call me Daddy during the throes of passion, which turns me on a lot. She's a gorgeous girl and always gets plenty of attention. The idea that other guys might check her out or come up to her, while she's horny for me, is certainly very alluring, and a useful antidote for any potential feelings of insecurity. We're going raving tonight. We take a taxi to the club and get in quickly. It's pretty dead so we hang out on a sofa and she confesses her love to me. It feels so aligned and I'm so grateful for the happiness we feel. There's no time to slob around this morning because tonight we're going to a sex party together for the first time. We're completely monogamous, so there won't be any possibility, nor desire, for either of us to canoodle with anyone else, but we like the idea of being in an erotic space where people are free to fully express themselves. I don't have any Daddy Dom clothes with me though (we've decided that will be my role tonight), with her as my kitten sub, so we head to a local kink store and buy some ropes, a horsewhip, and a choker. At a vintage store, I also get some slightly overpriced but incredibly cool thick leather trousers. Anastasia gets some tiny tartan shorts for cheap which give a hint of her butt cheeks, though she's not intending to wear them tonight. We head home and get ready. Damn, I look like a force of nature. And so does she – so sexy in black lingerie that she mostly conceals with some over layers. We take some cute photos in the mirror and head to the party. The buffet is disappointing considering the ticket price, but there's a fun squirting workshop in which the facilitator, if you can call him that, demonstrates how to make a girl squirt in about 20 seconds. The DJ in the other room is OK but the vibe here is pretty dead. Mostly people skulking around seeing who wants to have sex. What did we expect, I guess. By midnight, there's people shagging everywhere, but it feels very sordid and not the more elevated vibe I had been hoping for. We go to the toilet and get it on there. I whip her for the first time and she loves it. I come in a condom, which is quite nice, especially from my standing position, and around 3am we go home. I have football at 9am this morning with some guys from my church. On about four hours sleep I make it there and actually play quite well. More Trending Obviously I refrain from sharing about our sexploits last night. But I feel there's no disconnect from a belief of God, and a healthy sex life – I'm just not going to shout about it from the rooftops. I grab some chicken on the way back and we settle in for a few hours before going to a Sunday afternoon church service. View More » I don't feel we have anything to repent for, though others may disagree. Mercifully, Anastasia feels her period is coming on soon too. Phew. Do you have a story to share? 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American Military News
04-05-2025
- Entertainment
- American Military News
Terrence Howard passed on Marvin Gaye biopic because crooner ‘was gay'
Terrence Howard insists he isn't homophobic even while revealing he turned down a Marvin Gaye biopic because he 'could not' portray the late Grammy winner's rumored gay identity. The Oscar nominee, 56, told Bill Maher's 'Club Random' podcast this week that he was approached by 'Empire' co-creator Lee Daniels to play the 'Sexual Healing' crooner. 'Well you know what happened with that, I was over at Quincy Jones' house and I'm not dropping names, I'm just giving credibility,' said Howard. 'So I'm asking Quincy, I'm hearing rumors that Marvin was gay … and was he gay? And Quincy's like, yes. He went around it with everything. And I'm like, I could not do that.' 'You mean you couldn't kiss a guy on-screen?' asked the 'Real Time' host, 69. 'No, 'cause I don't fake it,' said 'The Best Man' actor. 'That would f– me. I would cut my lips off. If I kissed some man, I would cut my lips off.' Maher conceded he too could not kiss a man, which 'doesn't make me homophobic. … We all have our own …' trailing off. 'Do what you love to do but don't … aim it at me. And I can't play that character 100%. I can't surrender myself to a place that I don't understand. So that's the end part of that story,' said Howard. 'I can certainly understand it. I'm just not of it,' said Maher. 'Homosexuality is in nature.' Gaye was twice married, to Anna Gordy from 1964 to 1977 and Janis Hunter, from 1977 to 1981. Hunter inspired the 1974 song, 'Jan.' Jones, who died late last year, reportedly told Vulture in 2018 that Marlon Brando would 'f– anything,' and had sexual relations with Gaye. Despite Jones' assertions, Gaye never publicly confirmed nor denied his sexuality, People reports. Howard's remarks come just weeks after telling the 'PBD Podcast' that he kept his 'man card' after Sean 'Diddy' Combs allegedly 'tried to f–' him. Next week kicks off 55-year-old Combs' federal trial for sex trafficking and racketeering. ___ © 2025 New York Daily News. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.
The South African
30-04-2025
- Entertainment
- The South African
Terrence Howard refused to play Marvin Gaye because 'he didn't want to kiss a man'
American actor Terrence Howard revealed that he turned down the opportunity to portray Marvin Gaye because he was uncomfortable with the idea of kissing another man. The 56-year-old actor admitted that rejecting Smokey Robinson's request for him to play his character was the 'biggest mistake' of his career. At that time, Howard, known for his role in 'Empire,' was already in discussions with director Lee Daniels about playing Gaye, known for the hit song 'Sexual Healing.' During an appearance on Bill Maher's podcast, 'Club Random,' the actor explained that he backed out of the Gaye project after learning how the singer's sexuality would be portrayed, as per Entertainment Weekly . 'I was over at Quincy Jones's house and I'm asking Quincy, 'I'm hearing rumours that Marvin was gay' and I'm like, 'Was he gay?' And Quincy's like, 'Yes.'' 'They would've wanted to do that, and I wouldn't have been able to do that,' Howard said. Maher asked the Iron Man star if he would kiss a guy on screen in a movie, to which Howard replied, 'No, because I don't fake it.' 'That would f**k me,' he added. 'I would cut my lips off. If I kissed some man, I would cut my lips off.' Terrence Howard insisted that he was not homophobic but felt he couldn't play the Marvin Gaye character to perfection. 'it does not make me homophobic to not want to kiss a man,' he said. 'I can't play that character 100%. I can't surrender myself to a place that I don't understand.' Marvin Gaye, a two-time Grammy winner, was shot and killed by his father in 1984. Let us know by leaving a comment below, or send a WhatsApp to 060 011 0211. Subscribe to The South African website's newsletters and follow us on WhatsApp, Facebook, X and Bluesky for the latest news.
Yahoo
29-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Terrence Howard passed on Marvin Gaye biopic because crooner ‘was gay'
Terrence Howard insists he isn't homophobic even while revealing he turned down a Marvin Gaye biopic because he 'could not' portray the late Grammy winner's rumored gay identity. The Oscar nominee, 56, told Bill Maher's 'Club Random' podcast this week that he was approached by 'Empire' co-creator Lee Daniels to play the 'Sexual Healing' crooner. 'Well you know what happened with that, I was over at Quincy Jones' house and I'm not dropping names, I'm just giving credibility,' said Howard. 'So I'm asking Quincy, I'm hearing rumors that Marvin was gay … and was he gay? And Quincy's like, yes. He went around it with everything. And I'm like, I could not do that.' 'You mean you couldn't kiss a guy on-screen?' asked the 'Real Time' host, 69. 'No, 'cause I don't fake it,' said 'The Best Man' actor. 'That would f– me. I would cut my lips off. If I kissed some man, I would cut my lips off.' Maher conceded he too could not kiss a man, which 'doesn't make me homophobic. … We all have our own …' trailing off. 'Do what you love to do but don't … aim it at me. And I can't play that character 100%. I can't surrender myself to a place that I don't understand. So that's the end part of that story,' said Howard. 'I can certainly understand it. I'm just not of it,' said Maher. 'Homosexuality is in nature.' Gaye was twice married, to Anna Gordy from 1964 to 1977 and Janis Hunter, from 1977 to 1981. Hunter inspired the 1974 song, 'Jan.' Jones, who died late last year, reportedly told Vulture in 2018 that Marlon Brando would 'f– anything,' and had sexual relations with Gaye. Despite Jones' assertions, Gaye never publicly confirmed nor denied his sexuality, People reports. Howard's remarks come just weeks after telling the 'PBD Podcast' that he kept his 'man card' after Sean 'Diddy' Combs allegedly 'tried to f–' him. Next week kicks off 55-year-old Combs' federal trial for sex trafficking and racketeering.
Los Angeles Times
29-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Los Angeles Times
Terrence Howard didn't play Marvin Gaye because he couldn't kiss a man: ‘I don't fake it'
'Do what you love, but don't do it at me, don't aim it at me.' That's Terrence Howard talking about gay men while explaining why he never portrayed singer Marvin Gaye onscreen. He planned at one point to portray Gaye in a movie helmed by 'Empire' executive producer Lee Daniels, Howard told Bill Maher on the 'Club Random' podcast released Sunday. Then he was taken out to dinner and asked to star in a movie about the life of Smokey Robinson — by Smokey Robinson himself. Howard had to turn the 'Cruisin'' singer down because he was 'being faithful' to Daniels. 'I had given my word as a man, I'm gonna do this with you.' 'The biggest mistake I made in my career,' Howard told Maher as the two were getting high together. The actor didn't say exactly when this went down, but added, 'He wanted me to play his life ... I had to tell them [no] at the table and it broke his heart.' But playing Gaye wasn't to be either. Maher called it 'a shame' because he said Gaye's life story was much more dramatic. 'I'm sorry, drama's drama, and there's a lot more drama in getting killed by your dad,' the 'Real Time' host said. 'That's a story ... that's much more interesting and Marvin Gaye, like, you would have been perfect as Marvin Gaye. And that is a story that needs to be told.' Then Howard, who has been married four times, to three different women, decided to explain why he also didn't play the twice-married 'Sexual Healing' singer. 'I was over at Quincy Jones' house — and I'm not dropping names, I'm just giving credibility about what I'm saying — I'm asking Quincy, I'm hearing rumors that Marvin was gay ... and I'm like, 'Was he gay?' and Quincy is like, 'Yes.'' Insert mic drop here. Gaye told a biographer in 1982 that he wasn't interested in men and the singer's younger sister Zeola Gaye was not at all pleased when Jones alluded to her brother's sexuality in a 2018 interview. 'They would have wanted to do that and I wouldn't have been able to do that,' Howard said. 'You mean, you couldn't kiss a guy on screen in a movie?' Maher asked. 'No, 'cause I don't fake it,' the Oscar-nominated 'Hustle & Flow' actor replied. 'That would f— me. I would cut my lips off. If I did that I would cut my lips off.' After the host admitted that, well, he couldn't kiss a man either — 'It does not make me homophobic to not want to kiss a man,' Maher said, 'just like lots of gay men are like, 'p—, yuck.'' Howard expanded on his reasoning. 'Do what you love, but don't do it at me, don't aim it at me,' the actor said. 'And I can't play that character 100%. I can't surrender myself to a place that I don't understand.' The actor, who played patriarch Lucious Lyon for six seasons on 'Empire,' declared in 2019 that he was done with acting, 'done pretending.' Since then, he's done eight movies and two miniseries.
