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Yahoo
11-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
This dating trend could leave you alone and confused. What is 'banksying'?
The Brief Banksying is a new dating trend where one person slowly fades out of a relationship without direct communication, leaving the other confused. The term comes from the elusive street artist Banksy, whose work appears and disappears suddenly — just like the people using this tactic. Relationship experts say Banksying is a passive way to avoid accountability and emotional responsibility, calling it a coward's way out. NEW YORK - There's a new dating trend that could leave you confused, abandoned, and refreshing your texts in emotional limbo. First it was ghosting. Then breadcrumbing. Now singles are dealing with something slipperier, a slow, sneaky fade-out called "banksying." "It's an old trick with a new name." Relationship Expert Susan Winter And while the name sounds artistic, the reality feels more like emotional vandalism. The trend borrows its name from the mysterious British street artist known for his surprise pop-up murals that seem to appear and disappear without warning. The dating version follows a similar pattern. "Banksying is backpedaling while you breadcrumb into a slow fade," said relationship expert Susan Winter. "You are exiting the relationship slowly but not to held guilty or responsible. It doesn't allow for closure and it doesn't allow for communication." Unlike ghosting, where someone abruptly cuts contact, "banksying" is a quiet pullback. Responses get shorter. Plans get pushed. The energy shifts. But when questioned, the person dodges any clear answers. "It is the perfect tool for somebody that hates to communicate and hates to be responsible for their part of the relationship," Winter said. While some might see it as a soft exit, Winter says it is often more damaging than ghosting because it creates confusion, delays closure, and erodes self-worth over time. "If this trend is getting popular, like it should just stop immediately, because it doesn't make sense," one New Yorker said. Technology only adds to the problem. With texts and dating apps, it is easier than ever to stretch out a breakup while avoiding a real conversation. "A text means I can craft my answer. I can pretend I didn't understand you. I can take time to think things through," Winter said. "But in real life we have real emotions that come to the surface, and we are more spontaneous." So what should you do if you think you are being Banksied? Winter says clarity is your best weapon. "Just ask for clarification. Say, I really haven't talked to you. I don't know what's going on. You can be honest with me," she said. "Nobody's bad or wrong, just communicate." And if the other person still fades out, Winter says to take it as a sign. "This is how they communicate. If you want to get to conflict resolution, it is never going to happen with this person." Or as one man put it bluntly, "I think you should treat people the way that you would want to be treated." If the person you're dating begins to disappear one unanswered text at a time, don't assume you've lost your chance at love. Chances are, you've just sidestepped a slow fade into emotional nowhere. The Source This report is based on information from Relationship Expert Susan Winter.
The Independent
09-06-2025
- Business
- The Independent
Judge orders managers for late Johnny Winter to pay $226,000 in damages in lawsuit alleging theft
A Connecticut judge has settled a bitter feud over the estate of the late legendary blues guitarist Johnny Winter, ordering his managers to pay $226,000 in damages for improper payments they received after his 2014 death and rejecting their claim to the rights to his music. Relatives of Winter's late wife, Susan, sued Winter's manager, Paul Nelson, and his wife, Marion, in 2020, claiming the Nelsons swindled more than $1 million from Winter's music business. The Nelsons denied the allegations and countersued. They accused the relatives of improperly having Paul Nelson ousted as the beneficiary of Winter's estate, and they claimed ownership of his music rights. After a seven-day trial before a judge in January 2024, Judge Trial Referee Charles Lee ruled Friday that the Nelsons received improper payments and made improper withdrawals from Winter's accounts, but rejected claims they committed fraud, mismanagement and breach of contract. 'The court finds that the conduct for which it has awarded the damages set forth above was negligent or at least arguably legitimate,' Lee wrote in a 54-page decision that also rejected the claims in the Nelsons' countersuit. The judge said the Nelsons' most serious impropriety was withdrawing $112,000 from Winter's business account and depositing it into one of their own accounts in 2019, without listing Susan Winter as a signatory on their account. Susan Winter owned all of her husband's assets — valued at about $3 million at the time of his death. The judge said punitive damages may be imposed on the Nelsons because of that transfer. Paul Nelson, who managed Johnny Winter's business from 2005 to 2019 and played guitar in his band, died in March 2024 from a heart attack during a music tour. Marion Nelson, who did bookkeeping for the Winters and the music business, did not immediately return an email message Monday. The Nelsons' lawyers did not immediately return phone and email messages. It wasn't clear if they planned to appeal. Susan Winter died from lung cancer in October 2019. Months before her death, she removed Paul Nelson as her successor trustee to her family trust, which included all of her late husband's assets. She named her sister and brother, Bonnie and Christopher Warford, from Charlotte, North Carolina, as her new successor trustees, and they sued the Nelsons. The Warfords' lawyers did not immediately return phone and email messages Monday. Phone numbers for the Warfords listed in public records were no longer in service. The Nelsons claimed the Warfords took advantage of Susan Winter and had her sign legal documents while she was medicated near the end of her life. They also alleged the Warfords soured their relationship with Susan Winter with false embezzlement claims. The Warfords denied those allegations. The judge ruled that the Warfords were entitled to damages because of improper payments the Nelsons received, including $68,000 in royalty payments from a 2016 auction of Winter's assets, $69,000 in cash withdrawals, $18,000 in expense reimbursements and $15,000 in other royalty payments. The Warfords also were awarded $56,000 that remains in one of the Nelsons' accounts, the same account used in the $112,000 transfer criticized by the judge. In 2020, the Nelsons transferred about $151,000 out of that account to the Warfords' lawyers. Lee also rejected claims by the Warfords that Paul Nelson should not have received $300,000 in auction proceeds from the sale of three of Johnny Winter's guitars, because Winter promised those guitars to Paul Nelson. John Dawson Winter III was born and raised in Beaumont, Texas. He burst onto the world blues scene in the 1960s, dazzling crowds with his fast licks while his trademark long, white hair flew about from under his cowboy hat. He and his brother Edgar — both born with albinism — were both renowned musicians. Johnny Winter, who played at Woodstock in 1969, was inducted into the Blues Foundation Hall of Fame in 1988. Rolling Stone magazine listed him as the No. 63 best guitar player of all time in 2015. He released more than two dozen albums and was nominated for several Grammy Awards, winning his first one posthumously in 2015 for Best Blues Album for 'Step Back.' Nelson produced the album and also took home a Grammy for it. Johnny Winter, who spent two decades living in Easton, Connecticut, before his death, battled heroin addiction for years and credited Nelson, whom he met in 1999, with helping him get off the opioid methadone and revive his career, according to the 2014 documentary, 'Johnny Winter: Down & Dirty.'
Associated Press
09-06-2025
- Business
- Associated Press
Judge orders managers for late Johnny Winter to pay $226,000 in damages in lawsuit alleging theft
A Connecticut judge has settled a bitter feud over the estate of the late legendary blues guitarist Johnny Winter, ordering his managers to pay $226,000 in damages for improper payments they received after his 2014 death and rejecting their claim to the rights to his music. Relatives of Winter's late wife, Susan, sued Winter's manager, Paul Nelson, and his wife, Marion, in 2020, claiming the Nelsons swindled more than $1 million from Winter's music business. The Nelsons denied the allegations and countersued. They accused the relatives of improperly having Paul Nelson ousted as the beneficiary of Winter's estate, and they claimed ownership of his music rights. After a seven-day trial before a judge in January 2024, Judge Trial Referee Charles Lee ruled Friday that the Nelsons received improper payments and made improper withdrawals from Winter's accounts, but rejected claims they committed fraud, mismanagement and breach of contract. 'The court finds that the conduct for which it has awarded the damages set forth above was negligent or at least arguably legitimate,' Lee wrote in a 54-page decision that also rejected the claims in the Nelsons' countersuit. The judge said the Nelsons' most serious impropriety was withdrawing $112,000 from Winter's business account and depositing it into one of their own accounts in 2019, without listing Susan Winter as a signatory on their account. Susan Winter owned all of her husband's assets — valued at about $3 million at the time of his death. The judge said punitive damages may be imposed on the Nelsons because of that transfer. Paul Nelson, who managed Johnny Winter's business from 2005 to 2019 and played guitar in his band, died in March 2024 from a heart attack during a music tour. Marion Nelson, who did bookkeeping for the Winters and the music business, did not immediately return an email message Monday. The Nelsons' lawyers did not immediately return phone and email messages. It wasn't clear if they planned to appeal. Susan Winter died from lung cancer in October 2019. Months before her death, she removed Paul Nelson as her successor trustee to her family trust, which included all of her late husband's assets. She named her sister and brother, Bonnie and Christopher Warford, from Charlotte, North Carolina, as her new successor trustees, and they sued the Nelsons. The Warfords' lawyers did not immediately return phone and email messages Monday. Phone numbers for the Warfords listed in public records were no longer in service. The Nelsons claimed the Warfords took advantage of Susan Winter and had her sign legal documents while she was medicated near the end of her life. They also alleged the Warfords soured their relationship with Susan Winter with false embezzlement claims. The Warfords denied those allegations. The judge ruled that the Warfords were entitled to damages because of improper payments the Nelsons received, including $68,000 in royalty payments from a 2016 auction of Winter's assets, $69,000 in cash withdrawals, $18,000 in expense reimbursements and $15,000 in other royalty payments. The Warfords also were awarded $56,000 that remains in one of the Nelsons' accounts, the same account used in the $112,000 transfer criticized by the judge. In 2020, the Nelsons transferred about $151,000 out of that account to the Warfords' lawyers. Lee also rejected claims by the Warfords that Paul Nelson should not have received $300,000 in auction proceeds from the sale of three of Johnny Winter's guitars, because Winter promised those guitars to Paul Nelson. John Dawson Winter III was born and raised in Beaumont, Texas. He burst onto the world blues scene in the 1960s, dazzling crowds with his fast licks while his trademark long, white hair flew about from under his cowboy hat. He and his brother Edgar — both born with albinism — were both renowned musicians. Johnny Winter, who played at Woodstock in 1969, was inducted into the Blues Foundation Hall of Fame in 1988. Rolling Stone magazine listed him as the No. 63 best guitar player of all time in 2015. He released more than two dozen albums and was nominated for several Grammy Awards, winning his first one posthumously in 2015 for Best Blues Album for 'Step Back.' Nelson produced the album and also took home a Grammy for it. Johnny Winter, who spent two decades living in Easton, Connecticut, before his death, battled heroin addiction for years and credited Nelson, whom he met in 1999, with helping him get off the opioid methadone and revive his career, according to the 2014 documentary, 'Johnny Winter: Down & Dirty.'
