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Women Are Sharing The Things They Wish Men Understood Without Having To Explain It To Them

Being a woman is hard. We're all just girls trying to make it in the world, and sometimes, we wish men just... understood. Understood our struggles, our dreams, and the unique challenges we face every day. So when Reddit user r/Large_Lie9177 asked the question, "What's something you secretly wish men understood without you having to explain it?" In r/AskWomenNoCensor, women took to the comments to add their thoughts. Here's what they had to say: 1."How to 'see' what needs to be done around the house. I don't need someone to tell me to unload the dishwasher, or wash the towels, or sweep the floors. I see that it needs to be done, or I put it on a schedule, and I just do it. I want him to just do it without needing a checklist, a reminder, and general delegation and management from me." —u/RoRoRoYourGoat 2."Porn is NOT real life." —u/TayPhoenix 3."Emotional intelligence and empathy. I don't want to have to explain to you what you did was wrong and why constantly. Like, you could be a solid 10 looks-wise, but if you have no emotional maturity, you're a one, and vice versa, honestly." —u/rose_mary3_ 4."I am so frustrated that people are always telling women, 'He can't read your mind,' even my former therapist! I am not expecting him to read my mind, but so many men seem incapable of reading the room, relating a particular incident to recent history, or even just giving a thought about how that sounds before they say it." —u/sysaphiswaits 5."Having to explain and delegate every little thing is obnoxious. If you don't know how to keep a house clean, cook, or be an adult, learn before dating." —u/msgmeyourcatsnudes 6."What misogyny is and how it works. I'm around people in their late 20s to early 30s. This shit is getting embarrassing." —u/sunsetgal24 7."When a woman expresses how something made her feel, especially if it hurt her, she is not attacking your character. She is sharing her experience. It is about helping you understand the impact so that maybe next time, you will choose with more awareness, consideration, regard, respect, and care." "Put logically, she is identifying the problem to find a solution. Not necessarily an immediate one, but so that if it happens again, you will handle it differently, keeping what she expressed in mind." —u/aloofLogic 8."That being a lesbian means I don't date men, period. Like some guys really don't get it." —u/Flar71 9."Nobody owes you a date. Nobody owes you a relationship. And just because you haven't been successful thus far doesn't mean that all women are 'evil harpy bitches' trying to spite you. And don't expect a polite conversation when you run up on some poor woman alone in a parking garage at night." —u/Hello_Hangnail 10."Foreplay starts outside of the bedroom, and it's not necessarily physical or even sexual." —u/fleetiebelle 11."Catcalling doesn't feel complimentary. I see a lot of guys saying stuff like 'I'd appreciate any compliment,' but really, I don't think a lot of men realize that it doesn't feel like a compliment no matter what they say. Even if they think they are really being nice, I really don't need to know that a guy finds me sexually attractive while I'm on my way to buy bread." —u/Rebekah_RodeUp 12."That I have value as a person on my own without having to invoke reminding you that you have a mother, or a sister, or some other girl or woman in your life you personally know to go, 'Oh shit, you're a human being!' That I have value as a person whether or not you personally want to fuck me." —u/LilyHex And finally, here's an important one that I'm sure will resonate with all women: 13."How terrifying/disturbing shit is right now. Our rights are being quietly removed, and it's a NIGHTMARE. All of this subjugation is happening, and I don't know why some men act like the 'pendulum has swung the other way,' as though women are somehow better off in society than men because we can 'have sex whenever we want' (that's their favorite reasoning when arguing the point that feminism has gone too far and women have it oh so good now), when we sooo obviously are not." "We are being killed, raped, harassed, abused, and oppressed en masse. Misogyny is so deeply entrenched that people do not even recognize it for what it is, and it bothers me. I'm so bored of having to explain the easily observable, pervasive, and rampant hatred of women. Not seeing it is a choice at this point." —u/sewerbeauty Do you have your own things you wish men just understood without having to explain it to them? Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.