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Washington Post
2 hours ago
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: How to let go of a love that has hit a ‘dead end'?
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: How do you let go of a relationship that still has a lot of love and fun in it but has hit a dead end? Namely, one partner wants to start taking steps toward marriage and children, while the other partner isn't ready for those things and says they aren't interested in making a 'five-year plan' right now.
Forbes
11 hours ago
- Politics
- Forbes
Make Bravery The Norm—Advice To Graduates (& Leaders) From JB Pritzker
Galesburg, IL June 8, 2025 Gov. J.B. Pritzker delivers commencement address We're at the end of graduation season, with its outpouring of advice dispensed from podiums across the country. My heart was full of joy and hope for my eldest daughter as she graduated from Knox College, a small liberal arts college in rural Illinois. But I'll admit, I anticipated the graduation speech by Governor J.B. Pritzker with a mixture of curiosity and skepticism. For one thing, this is a tough world our kids are graduating into—with the unemployment rate for 20-24-year-olds at 8.2%—more than double the 3.4% unemployment rate for those 25 and over, significant economic uncertainty, and heightened geopolitical risk. What could anyone say to equip and encourage them on this occasion? And in any case, hasn't it all been said? I've heard my share of commencement addresses, and few of them have transcended the usual platitudes. In addition, I am naturally skeptical of very rich guys in positions of political leadership and I worried the Illinios governor and potential presidential hopeful might politicize the speech or make it more about his agenda than the graduates. But when he took the stage in front of these young people and their parents, the governor won me over as he offered some wisdom to the graduates that many of our leaders in business and government could also benefit from. As Gov. Pritzker warmed up, he started with some mild self-deprecation (appropriate, as he was standing where Abraham Lincoln took a stand against slavery in the Fifth Lincoln-Douglas Debate in 1858). He cracked a few jokes and offered some 'dad advice'—turn off the lights when you leave a room, put air in your tires, don't subscribe to too many streaming service subscriptions—very practical, and served up with a dose of humor. The crowd was with him. But then he moved into the heart of the address with three pieces of advice that should speak to us all: Show Up. A leader, grounded in values, shows up for people when it matters, and knows that in many cases what they say or do is less important than the support provided by just being there. The governor touted the importance of showing up for others—attending funerals and soccer games and award ceremonies. 'In a world where TikTok and Instagram tells you to be selfish with your schedule, I am telling you: Be generous with your time. Showing up is a unique and meaningful thing only you can do.' This advice may seem to contradict much advice (including my own) about setting boundaries. But Pritzker's advice is not fundamentally about time management. It is about presence—not about transactions or outcomes—and our commitment to the people in our lives. Doubt. In an increasingly complex world, we may feel the urge to cling to certainty, but certainty offers only a false security and is antithetical to innovation. Pritzker encouraged the graduates to cultivate doubt, because 'doubt makes us curious. Doubt keeps us humble. Doubt makes us seek when it would be so much easier to sit idle. Doubt prompts us to ask good questions. Questions like: am I looking at ALL the facts or just the ones I want to see?' As leaders, our experiences, mental models and the playbooks that we relied on in the past may not be equal to the task of scaling in a complex world. They require constant updating and iteration. Doubt invites leaders to be vigilant about confirmation and other biases, seek out divergent points of view, welcome challenges to assumptions, and be open to experiment. Be Brave. Finally, Gov. Pritzker exhorted the graduates to make courage the norm, not the exception. 'When we tell the stories of history, we often excuse the atrocities of our ancestors by suggesting that they were merely acting on what was popular at the time. Because we understand in our core, whether we want to admit it or not, how much easier it is to live a life that chases popularity rather than courage. Occasionally we are confronted with stories, like the founding of Knox College [established in 1837 by abolitionists committed to educating women and people of color]Pritzker urged the graduates to 'expect bravery' of themselves and their communities rather than accepting passivity that it rooted in fear. In this time of uncertainty and even chaos, it is tempting to double down on fear, to hesitate and wait to see which way the wind blows. Instead, it is not just our newly-minted graduates who we are called upon to show up with the curiosity and humility borne of doubt, and be brave. It is all of us.
Yahoo
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Kylie Kelce and Jenni ‘JWoww' Farley Get Real About Sharing Parenting Advice
You won't catch Kylie Kelce or Jenni 'JWoww' Farley dishing out unsolicited parenting advice anytime soon. The Jersey Shore alum, 40, appeared on the Thursday, June 26, episode of Kelce's Not Gonna Lie Podcast. The podcast host, 33, asked Farley what 'the best piece of motherhood advice' she got from her co-star Nicole 'Snooki' Polizzi was. Farley, who shares daughter Meilani, 10, and son Greyson, 9, with ex-husband Roger Mathews, responded, 'Our mantra is we don't give mother advice unless someone asks for it because there is nothing worse than somebody giving unwanted parenting advice.' The Jersey Shore: Family Vacation star also revealed that she won't give advice to fellow cast member Samantha 'Sammi Sweetheart' Giancola, who is expecting her first baby with fiancé Justin May unless she asks for it. 'I will be there for her every step of the way. I will tell her what I did in that specific situation, which might be different than hers, but I will never give a mom unwanted advice because it takes a village, first off,' she remarked. 'And also, nobody's f**king perfect. Everybody's winging it. And as long as you're trying to keep your f**king kid alive, that's it. You're doing great, sweetie.' Kelce — who shares daughters Wyatt, 5, Elliotte, 4, Bennett, 2, and three-month-old Finnley with husband Jason — seemingly agreed with the reality TV star's stance. 'I always like to point out when people ask me for advice now because I'm four deep. I'm like, first of all, I'm five and under. I can't tell you anything over five right now,' she admitted. 'And also, every single one of our kids are so different that if I gave you advice that applied to our first, it wouldn't have worked for our second. So, the idea of people giving that unsolicited advice, you're like, 'can you put a cork in it?'' Farley added she felt it was 'condescending' when others give unwanted advice — and that they are often 'projecting.' Similar to Kelce, Farley also parents her own two kids differently. 'Like you just said, you have four girls under five, all different, all in the same house. I have a son with autism. I have a daughter who's highly emotional, I can't even give the same advice for in my own house, because I have two different completely parenting styles when it comes to them,' she explained. 'So, the f**k kind of advice am I gonna give?'
Washington Post
a day ago
- General
- Washington Post
I dread telling fragile mom I'm moving out. Give advice to this Hax question.
Carolyn Hax can't get to every question she receives, so every week we ask readers to think like an advice columnist and submit their advice. Out of the many great responses we receive, we select a few standouts to publish on Wednesdays. Previous reader questions have been about worries for a daughter dating someone much older, finding hope after being cheated on and whether a boyfriend's disdain for dogs is a dealbreaker. No matter the question, Carolyn's readers always show up with thoughtful and useful advice. You can read last week's question and responses here.
Yahoo
5 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
ChatGPT has the answers. Great leaders have the questions
Any time someone in the U.S. meets someone from the UK, one question reliably follows: 'Where should I eat when I visit London?' It's meant to be friendly. Helpful. But it rarely lands. Are they into sticky bangers and mash or upscale fusion small plates? Traveling with toddlers? In-laws? Gluten-free? (And yes—for the record—British food isn't that bad anymore. They've mostly moved on from grey meat and boiled peas.) Still, it says something about the culture. In the U.S., advice is more than a suggestion—it's practically a greeting. And now, so does everyone else. The internet will flood you with will make it sound none of it will tell you what you actually need. We're not short on answers. What we're short on is space to think. In leadership especially, that space is everything. Because leadership isn't about having the best advice. ACT Leadership explains how leaders need to know when to ask a question with these four magic words: What do you think? When training leaders to become coaches, the number one challenge is: Letting go of the need to give advice. It's not just mental—it's literally cover their mouths to stop the words from spilling out. Rarely do more than 20% of leaders in training find this advice useful. Why? Because advice usually skips over the human and aims straight for the problem. You're not them. You don't know what they've tried. You haven't gotten curious about how they think or what they care about. Advice feels efficient. But it often leaves people feeling misunderstood—and no closer to their own clarity. And what they appreciate most? Space to think out loud. Now imagine Jane. She's got a huge presentation coming up and finally admits to her manager that she's feeling anxious. 'Go for a run beforehand,' the manager says. 'It always calms me down.''Picture the audience naked!' someone else adds.'Deep breathing. Trust me—it's magic.' All of it is well-meaning, but none of it nods politely but walks away feeling smaller. And deep down, you probably know what that nod 'Thanks,' followed by, 'This isn't actually helping.' As CEO and co-founder of NeuroLeadership Institute, David Rock, explains, advice can backfire. It threatens status. It makes people feel judged, not you meant as encouragement can land like condescension. Leadership is about helping the lightbulb go off in someone else's head. That's what development is about—building others' capacity to solve problems, without relying on you. When a person makes a connection for themselves. When insight comes from within, the brain literally fires differently. New pathways. Neural energy. This is the circuitry of confidence. As Donald Hebb's principle puts it: 'What fires together, wires together.' And nothing fires like your own insight. This is how we learn. And more importantly, it's how we grow. Dr. Robin Rose, professor at Brown University's School of Professional Studies, puts it beautifully in just four words: 'What do you think?' Not 'What should you do?'Not 'Have you tried…?'Just that one, respectful, catalytic question. It's an invitation. A signal of trust. A belief in the other person's capability to figure things out—with a bit of space, support, and the dignity of ownership. As Ron Heifetz, author of 'Leadership Without Easy Answers,' writes: 'The work of leadership is to put the responsibility for solving the problem back in the hands of the people with the problem.' That's not avoidance. That's development. You can't grow someone else's muscles for can hand them a them. Encourage they have to lift. And in leadership, 'What do you think?' might be the single most powerful weight in your hands. This question matters more now than ever. We're living in a fast-moving, high-complexity world. The people closest to the challenge—your team—often have more context than you do. They know the customer. They see the details. They're in the work. If every decision runs through you, the system slows. They become dependent. You become overwhelmed. And often, you lose the customer. But when you create space for others to think for themselves? You build unlock free yourself up to….lead. The next time you're about to give advice, pause, and instead, try four simple words: 'What do you think?' Ask ideas lightly—if at all. Because in a world where ChatGPT has the answers, great leaders have the questions. This story was produced by ACT Leadership and reviewed and distributed by Stacker.
