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NZ Herald
a day ago
- Entertainment
- NZ Herald
Opinion: Jaffas have been discontinued. Are Pineapple Lumps also headed for extinction?
When was the last time you purchased a bag of Jaffas for your own consumption and enjoyment? It doesn't count if you purchased them to send to a friend overseas, or to give an international guest a 'Kiwi sweet treat,' to which they will politely 'mmm' in fake appreciation, despite there being far better chocolates out there that aren't an orange-flavoured choking hazard. When was the last time you strolled through the confectionery aisle, saw a bag of Jaffas amongst 2025's superior sweet offerings and thought to yourself, 'That is the one I want to spend my hard-earned money on'? When was the last time you sat down in front of the television and demolished a pack as it stained your mouth red and became more sickly with every sub-par bite? According to RJ's declining sales, not recently. In a tough competitor market, New Zealanders are faced with the harsh reality that there are better chocolates out there, and a nostalgic attachment to a product doesn't mean it's good. Nostalgia doesn't equal sales. Nostalgia doesn't equal good taste. Nostalgia doesn't mean it has to be around forever if it's no longer serving its purpose. If Kiwis wanted them to stick around, then they should have purchased them. Since the news dropped, I've spent my hours surveying my peers, some of whom assure me that the Jaffa is more than just a lolly to eat on its own. It's got many other purposes within New Zealand, you see. 'What about the Baldwin Street race? It's iconic!' the race enthusiast cries. Well, that hasn't taken place since 2017, when the Cadbury factory closed in Dunedin. If patriots are so passionate about Jaffas' place in the race, why haven't they been campaigning for its return for the last 8 years? The Baldwin St Jaffa race. Photo / Gerard O'Brien 'But I need to use them as Rudolph's nose on my Christmas-themed treats', the Kiwiana baker exclaims. Try a raspberry jube, or a strawberry. 'What will I eat at the movies though?!' the once-a-year movie goer pleads. Virtually any other $12 bag of lollies they have on sale will suffice. M&Ms are better in every way, so let's start there. Instead of complaining that a lolly you never ate is heading toward extinction, Kiwis need to face the hard facts that there's more Kiwiana headed to the chopping block if they don't buy it. When was the last time you purchased a Pineapple Lump to eat yourself? If you aren't a zany radio host trying to impress an international star with our local fare (while secretly knowing they are a bit meh), then chances are, you aren't keeping the sweet alive. Pineapple Lumps should be paying Jono and Ben a dividend at this point. And why haven't you purchased them in such a long time? Because just like the Jaffa, there are better sweets out there. To save Pineapple Lumps from the same fate as our so-called 'beloved' Jaffa, you might need to do the unthinkable and actually buy them, support the brand and take action to retain a treat voted Aotearoa's most iconic in a Herald poll. Pineapple Lumps Or, is it time we let go of some of the more average Kiwiana food offerings? Admit that the Jaffa, Pineapple Lump, Lamington and Kiwi Burger aren't that exceptional; there are better options out there, even if these treats mean something to us on a national level. If you are buying them and supporting them, that's awesome, and you've done your bit. This hot take isn't for you. It's for the Kiwis who cried out 'No!', 'How could they?' and 'F*** you RJs' in the comments section on Facebook, despite the fact that they haven't spent a cent on Jaffas in the last 15 years. The Jaffa is disappearing because of you, and if you aren't careful, your subpar lumps will be next. Jenni Mortimer is the NZ Herald's chief lifestyle and entertainment reporter. Jenni started at the Herald in 2017 and has previously worked as lifestyle, entertainment and travel editor.
Time of India
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Time of India
Exclusive- Vibhanshu Dixit joins the cast of CID, says, "It was a childhood dream and meeting Shivaji Satam and others was an amazing experience"
Actor Vibhanshu Dixit makes sure to bring his childhood dreams come true. Known for playing Akshay in Apollena – Sapno Ki Unchi Udann, the actor who once fantasised, is happy to star in the iconic television series, CID. He said, "I remember watching CID since my childhood days. It is one of my favourite series. I always wanted to act in this show. And finally, my dream came true. I'm excited to feature in one of the upcoming episodes." He continued, "As an audience, I'm very close to the cast. From Shivaji Satam as ACP Pradyuman, Aditya Srivastava as Sr. Inspector Abhijeet, Dayanand Shetty as Sr. Inspector Daya, Dinesh Phadnis as Inspector Fredricks, Narendra Gupta as Dr. Salunkhe, among others. However, few of them left, but most of them are still essaying their popular roles. I share a wonderful attachment, and it was amazing to meet them, work with them and bond with them in real life." Revealing details about his role. Vibhanshu added, "I'm playing the son of a politician, and it's a powerful role. The audience will love our story. I always wanted to act in this show, and finally, I got a really good story. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like One of the Most Successful Investors of All Time, Warren Buffett, Recommends: 5 Books for Turning... Blinkist: Warren Buffett's Reading List Click Here Undo And my experience at work was really good. I'm thankful to the makers." Vibhanshu is one of the fittest actors in the TV industry. Previously talking about how he fits fitness into his hectic shoot life, Vibhanshu have mentioned, 'I never skip the gym. Whenever I get time—either before or after the shoot—I make sure to reach the gym. I like being fit. I used to practice karate earlier—I did it for three years. After that, I've been working out in the gym for the last eight years. So fitness has been a part of my lifestyle for a long time now.' Vibhanshu has earlier acted in shows like Ali Baba Dastaan-e-Kabul, Kundali Milan, and Mil Ke Bhi Hum Na Mile, among others.
Forbes
5 days ago
- General
- Forbes
3 Signs You're Not In Love; You're Just Attached, By A Psychologist
Are you staying out of love, or habit? It's easy to confuse emotional safety with emotional ... More connection. Here's how you can tell the difference. You know how they take their coffee, what rubs them the wrong way, which shows they'll fall asleep to tonight. The routine, the mundane. But the more important question is: Do you still like them? Or have you just grown used to them? This is a quiet turning point many long-term couples reach, but don't take conscious note of. The point where familiarity begins to feel like connection, even as real affection fades. When attachment keeps you tethered, simply because detangling your lives feels harder than staying. Understanding the difference between love and attachment is important because it's deeply personal. Staying in a relationship solely out of attachment can slowly chip away at your vitality, leading to quiet resentment, or misplaced longing. You may still be 'together,' but feel painfully alone. On the other hand, recognizing when you're genuinely in love, when there's still admiration and active emotional engagement, can help you nurture what's real and let go of the unnecessary doubt. Differentiating between the two gives you the power to make conscious choices: to reconnect, to realign or, if needed, to release. But how do you tell the difference between love and habit? Between connection and comfort? Here are three things that sets them apart, and what it might mean if you're no longer sure. 1. Liking Is Active, Attachment Is Passive Liking your partner, in simple terms, means you're actively engaged in the relationship. You notice their quirks, you appreciate their growth. You enjoy spending time with them. You choose them, every day, with presence and curiosity. But attachment doesn't always look like that. Sometimes, we stay in relationships because they feel familiar. This reflects 'passive attachment.' Meaning, you stay because leaving would be too hard, too lonely or create too much uncertainty. Passive attachment takes over when your bond becomes more about avoiding discomfort than enjoying connection. A large-scale study of over 1,000 couples in 2021 found that insecure forms of attachment such as avoidant and anxious patterns were strongly associated with lower relationship satisfaction and higher feelings of instability. People with avoidant tendencies often pull away emotionally, while those with anxious tendencies may cling out of fear. In both cases, partners may stay together, but the connection starts running on autopilot. You are attached, but not necessarily happy. In short, if your relationship feels more like a routine you can't step out of, rather than something you're excited to nurture, it might not be reflective of love or compatibility. It might just be passive attachment. It's the emotional equivalent of being stuck in a job you no longer enjoy but don't know how to leave. According to the study, addressing attachment insecurity is crucial in restoring the health of a relationship. Because while attachment keeps people together, it's love and liking that keeps them close. 2. Love Lives On Mutual Admiration, Attachment Leans On Shared History Romantic love can persist long after the honeymoon period ends. In fact, research shows that romantic love without the obsessive intensity of early infatuation is not only possible in long-term relationships, but strongly associated with marital satisfaction, well-being and self-esteem. In such a dynamic, what keeps that love alive isn't just time together; it's the admiration you share for each other, the investment you are willing to make together and the ability to celebrate your shared growth. Attachment, by contrast, doesn't always require that kind of ongoing engagement. It often draws its strength from familiarity. A separate line of research found that people with high attachment anxiety are more likely to stay committed to unsatisfying relationships out of a fear of change. That fear, along with a fear of being alone, can become a powerful emotional glue. This makes staying feel like a safer choice than leaving, which is seemingly disruptive. Love and attachment, therefore, can take very different paths. Love requires active engagement in the present. Attachment sometimes survives on the inertia of the past. One keeps the relationship alive. The other just keeps it intact. 3. In Love, You Miss Them; In Attachment, You Miss What You Had There's a difference between missing a person and missing a pattern. When you're in love, you long for your partner's presence. Not just for comfort, but for their perspective, their quirks, the way they light up a room or challenge your thinking. When you miss them, you miss the current version of them, and you're still emotionally engaged with who they're becoming. But in attachment without emotional intimacy, longing often turns backward. What you miss isn't your partner as they are, but how things used to feel. The version of your relationship that was once vibrant. The early connection, the shared laughter, the feeling of being seen. It's not the person you miss. It's the atmosphere you once shared. This backward pull can feel like nostalgia — comforting, but also quietly painful. It often signals that your bond has stopped growing. So, while love keeps you reaching for your partner in the now, attachment without closeness keeps you reaching for what was. And the more you hold on to the memory, the more distant the present can feel. What To Do If You're Realizing You're Just Attached This isn't about jumping ship at the first sign of doubt. Relationships wax and wane. But if you find yourself staying purely for comfort or obligation, it may be time for an honest conversation, with your partner and with yourself. Here are a few ways to move forward with intention. 1. Start small. Reintroduce shared joy. Do something new together. Plan one surprise. Laugh on purpose. Some relationships don't need to end at all. All they need is to be woken up with a jolt. 2. Name the gap. If you feel the emotional distance, say it. Not to blame, but to open the door. Often, the hardest part of disconnection is that no one talks about it. Naming the quiet can be the first act of reconnection. 3. Get curious, not critical. Instead of immediately diagnosing the relationship as broken, ask: 'When did things begin to shift?' 'Was it circumstantial, or was it emotional, with resentment or unmet needs driving a wedge between the two of you?' Understanding the root helps you decide what's needed next. Loving someone is very different from loving the idea you've formed in your head. If your relationship is healthy, the desire to stay will feel organic. There is no need to force it. Choosing your partner feels natural, and if it's right, you'll want to make that choice again and again. Still staying in your relationship for the sake of your past self? Your present might be asking for more. Take the Anxious Attachment Scale to find out what might be keeping you attached.
Daily Mail
12-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Furious mothers hit out at Karen Millen after she said breastfeeding beyond 6 months is 'selfish' parenting - as designer is forced to apologise
Furious mothers have hit out at fashion designer Karen Millen after she said it was 'selfish' to breastfeed a child after they reach six months old. Millen, who is in her sixties, was forced to apologise after causing a storm with her comments on the Vanessa Feltz show on Channel 5 on Wednesday - in which she claimed children are developing 'attachment' issues from excessive breastfeeding. Taking to her Instagram account, she clarified her comments were 'not on the subject of breastfeeding' in general; but rather about children being nursed when they reach the age of three and older. Nonetheless parents who choose to breastfeed have been left insulted by the fashion designer's comments - insisting their children have benefited from being nursed past six months and taking aim at Millen for her 'unhelpful' comments. Georgia, a 30-year-old mother who lives in south east London with her partner Chris and two sons, has branded Millen's comments 'crazy' over a suggestion that breastfeeding mothers are 'selfish'. During an appearance on Vanessa Feltz on 5, Millen, who sold the fashion brand bearing her name in 2004, said: 'There's no benefit, is there, for a child to breastfed past six months?' NHS guidance recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of a baby's life. After that, breastfeeding should continue alongside solid foods for up to two years, as long as mother and baby are both happy. Millen added: 'I think it's quite a selfish thing, on the mother's part... I just think, that's not good, emotionally, for that child. I mean, what does that child do later in life? The attachment, like you say, it becomes an addiction and an addiction for that child too because they only know the boob. It's just not normal, is it?' Mother-of-two Georgia breastfed her eldest son, Teddy, two-and-a-half, until he was nine months old, while her youngest son Otis has just stopped nursing at seven months. Speaking to MailOnline, Georgia, who posts about motherhood on her TikTok account Getting Ready with Teddy, said: 'When I found out I was pregnant, I said I'd try breastfeeding for six weeks and see how I get on. They say the first six weeks is best because that's when you produce 'liquid gold'.' The term 'liquid gold' is used to refer to the first milk produced by a mother during pregnancy and just after giving birth. It tends to resemble a gold or yellow colour and is high in nutrients for the infant. Georgia continued: 'I really fell in love with [breastfeeding]. Not only was it so easy and convenient but it was also such a lovely bond to have.' After seeing Millen's comments about how nursing can affect the development of 'attachment' of children, Georgia posted a clip on TikTok showing Teddy running around with a carefree and independent attitude. She said: 'Kids are naturally drawn to their mothers, whether you're breastfeeding or bottle feeding because that's your mum. 'There have been times in Teddy's life where he's been a little bit clingy but there are no attachment issues. He's a happy and healthy boy.' After the first six weeks of breastfeeding Teddy had gone well, Georgia decided to try and continue nursing until he was a year old - but at around nine months her milk dried up. 'It was just a complete natural stop. I'd seen things about kids not wanting to wean off the boob so I was a bit worried about how he'd be with it. 'But we went cold turkey and he could not care less,' she said, joking: 'I thought, 'this boob has fed you for nine months'!' By the time Georgia's milk had dried up, Teddy was eating three to four meals a day, to the point where he 'didn't need' to be nursed so much anymore. Now, she says Teddy is an 'amazing eater' with a healthy appetite. Speaking about Millen's comments, Georgia said: 'I think the word 'selfish' was one of the craziest things I've ever heard. 'It's one of the least selfish acts you can do. It takes a toll on your body, you go through cracked nipples, leaking.' She added that breastfeeding mothers have the added responsibility of getting up for night feeds. 'I think going on national TV and saying that will have an impact on new mums who might be impressionable,' Georgia argued. Referring to the debate around breastfeeding versus bottle feeding, she said it's up to the mother, but that 'perceptions are changing' as the conversation is put into the spotlight - and comments like Millen's are not helpful. Rosey Davidson, a UK-based mother-of-three and paediatric sleep consultant, breastfed all three of her children, now aged 12, eight and three. Speaking to MailOnline, she described her complicated relationship with breastfeeding. 'I loved it and hated it in equal measure,' she said. 'It was deeply personal, physically demanding, sometimes joyful, sometimes frustrating – which I think is the case for many women.' She added: I've always tried to be realistic and non-judgmental in how I talk about it.' Addressing Millen's commets, Rosey said: 'Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and to share their personal experiences of infant feeding.' She suggested Millen's verdict 'doesn't reflect the science' around breastfeeding, which 'promotes bonding and attachment through the release of oxytocin – the hormone that supports emotional connection and trust'. Rosey stressed there should not be a 'breast versus formula debate'; however she argued people 'stay quiet about breastfeeding out of fear of upsetting others'. 'The answer isn't to stop talking about breastfeeding. The answer is to offer better support, better education, and more honest conversations,' she said. 'But when you're given a public platform – especially on national television – there's a responsibility to ensure what you say is informed, respectful, and accurate. 'Misinformed opinions shouldn't be broadcast in a way that adds controversy to an already emotionally loaded topic. It's personal, yes – but we can't argue with science. Elsewhere on social media, mothers have defended their 'selfless' decision to continue breastfeeding their babies beyond six months. Kayleigh, a mother from the UK, posted a clip on TikTok in which she was breastfeeding her baby and wrote: 'The RAGE I felt when I saw this interview.' She branded Karen's message 'extremely uneducated and selfish'. Responding to Kayleigh's clip, one mother shared: 'Breastfed my second for 3.5 years! It wasn't selfish, it was the most selfless thing I've ever done.' Another mother, Jasmine Stevens, also posted a reaction clip aimed at 'normalising extended breastfeeding' in light of Karen's controversial interview. She explained: 'Breast milk adapts to your child's needs - even after infancy. It still provides nutrients and immune protection, adjusting when your toddler is sick. That's why the WHO recommends breastfeeding up to the age of two and beyond.' A third woman, Abbie, also hit out at Karen - who has since apologised for her comments - and said she's so 'sick of hearing people bashing breastfeeding' in the caption of her TikTok. Alongside a video of her breastfeeding her baby, set to the audio of Karen's interview, she wrote: 'Mums, if you're expecting or have just started your breastfeeding journey, PLEASE do not give people like this even a second to sit in your minds.' After the interview was broadcast on Wednesday, TikTok was flooded with videos addressed to Karen that showed women happily breastfeeding their babies past the six-month mark. Over on Reddit, users declared 'nothing is selfish about this act of pure love' while reiterating the need to dispel the societal stigma around extended breastfeeding. 'I didn't tell anyone and continued nursing mine until 27 months. If someone found out inadvertently their jaw usually dropped, further proving my point of keeping quiet,' one mother confessed. While another noted the word 'selfish' was the 'aggravating' factor, a third said: 'It's okay to be selfish about wanting to experience this with your child. 'We're allowed to enjoy motherhood.' One person declared a mother's decision to breastfeed is entirely her choice and should not be up for comment or criticism. 'When I see mother-shaming of any kind, I think, who cares? 'If that baby is happy, healthy, and loved, you're doing fine.' Mumsnet users also expressed that Karen's comments were 'icky' and in poor taste, with one person suggesting her apology also missed the mark. In a statement posted on her social media, Karen defended her comments by saying they were 'aimed at a three-year-old being breastfed' and claimed 'I do respect your choices' while addressing her critics. However, one Mumsnet user felt Karen simply reiterated her stance rather than using her platform to 'emphasise the guidance, the benefits' around breastfeeding. Some questioned why Karen was asked to weigh in on the debate in the first place, considering she is not a parenting expert. 'If people are going to spout stuff like this it should always be balanced with researched facts, because this could be damaging to young women still making up their minds about whether to breastfeed or not,' one comment read.
Yahoo
08-06-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
Couples who cuddle before sleep reap key health benefits, study reveals
Snuggling with your partner could be a win-win for your health. Cuddling at night promotes more secure attachment between partners and lowers stress levels, according to a new study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Researchers from Auburn University examined data from 143 heterosexual "bed-sharing" couples, analyzing associations between physical closeness at sleep onset, perceived stress, attachment insecurity and sleep disturbance. Most Sleep-deprived Cities In Us Revealed In Report: Where Does Yours Rank? Factors including daytime sleepiness, income, age, relationship length, sleep diagnoses and whether children or pets sleep in the bed were also considered. The results revealed that couples who assumed a physically closer position upon going to sleep were indirectly linked with "lower couple insecure attachment" (when they have trouble connecting emotionally) and lower stress. Read On The Fox News App The researchers found no "significant" associations between physical closeness at sleep onset and the chances of sleep disturbance. While stress was found to be lower among cuddlers, the research found that cuddling did not increase sleep quality. The researchers concluded that physical closeness at sleep onset "may be a promising and amenable avenue for improving relational and physiological well-being." Here's Why 90% Of Americans Don't Sleep Through The Night, According To Expert Sleep expert Wendy Troxel, PhD — a RAND Corporation senior behavioral specialist and licensed clinical psychologist in Utah — shared with Fox News Digital how these findings highlight the "vital role" that shared time and physical touch play in emotional well-being. Troxel, author of the book "Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep," commented on the "interesting" finding that cuddling did not influence sleep quality. "This suggests that it's the moments spent together before falling asleep — not necessarily sharing the entire night — that have the greatest positive effect on a relationship," said the expert, who was not involved in the study. "The simple act of cuddling before sleep likely triggers powerful psychological and physiological responses, such as increased emotional security and the release of oxytocin — the 'bonding hormone' associated with intimacy." Heat Exposure Linked To Better Sleep, Experts Say — Here's Why These effects help reduce stress and deepen connection, which makes pre-sleep cuddling a "meaningful ritual for emotional health," Troxel said. "Whether you and your partner sleep together or apart, don't skip the cuddle before bed," she advised. "Even brief moments of closeness can enhance your relationship and overall well-being." While the study found that most couples sleep in the same position as their partner, 36.3% reported not touching or cuddling at night. Those who did touch reported sleeping back to back (19.6%), having some contact, like touching an arm or leg (23.1%), spooning (13.3%), intertwining (4.2%) and sleeping face to face (3.5%). Study co-author Josh R. Novak, PhD, associate professor at the Auburn University Department of Human Development and Family Science, confirmed in a statement to Fox News Digital that the more physically close position couples are in, the more feelings of "relational safety" were present due to lower stress. Click Here To Sign Up For Our Health Newsletter "Sleep is one of the most important ways we can manage our physical, relational and mental health," the researcher said. "Research has substantiated that sleep and relationship functioning are bidirectional and cyclical — meaning that bad sleep can negatively impact your relationship, and difficult relationship dynamics can lead to worse sleep." Novak added that non-sexual physical affection has generally been deemed "critical" for relationships, but there seems to be more "emotional and relational benefit" when there's full-body contact. "My study suggests that cuddling with a partner can be both a barometer of how a relationship is doing and a way to maintain or repair a relationship, as well as lower stress levels," he said. The researchers did not study how much time was spent in a cuddling position, leaving Novak to be "skeptical" of whether it leads to sleep disturbances. "What happens most often is that cuddling only happens for a bit until both partners fall asleep, but there could be a select few that cuddle throughout the whole night," he said. For more Health articles, visit "My hunch is that most use cuddling to induce sleepiness and the feeling of safety and to reduce stress and anxiety, and that afterward either their body temperature increases too much, or there is discomfort and the need to shift around becomes necessary." Novak encouraged couples to cuddle if stress levels are high, as it's a nonverbal way to feel "secure and safe." "Although research needs to substantiate this further, it might also imply that, in the face of conflict during the day that is not solved or repaired … cuddling might be a way to start that process and move toward repair," he article source: Couples who cuddle before sleep reap key health benefits, study reveals
