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9 hours ago
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'My bridesmaid got engaged on my wedding day - I was absolutely gobsmacked'
A woman who called off her wedding due to a cheating partner was left 'gobsmacked' when her best friend got engaged on what was meant to be her 'big day'. She revealed it had happened in Italy - where the nuptials were due to take place - as some of the would-be guests had decided to fly over anyway due to everything being 'booked and paid for'. While she was pleased for her pal, who had been given a bridesmaid role, she couldn't help that feel the timing was 'insensitive'. READ MORE: Calls for UK Government to issue 'WW3 survival guide' as expert shares list of essential supplies The Mumsnet user shared her feelings on the matter in a post titled 'Bridesmaid got engaged on my wedding day...' The full post read: "I had to cancel my wedding four months ago due to my partner cheating with numerous women. "My wedding should have been Saturday just gone in Italy. Some of the wedding party decided to go ahead with the weekend anyway as it was all booked and paid for (flights, Airbnbs, etc), which I was fine with as they has paid a big expense to attend. "My best friend (and bridesmaid) was one of these guests and she contacted me via Facetime yesterday to tell me her boyfriend proposed on Saturday (which should have been my wedding day) on the beach in Italy. "I was absolutely gobsmacked and replied saying I was pleased for her but I needed time to process the news and ended the call. "I am happy for her but I do feel it's totally insensitive and I'm in total shock. How do I move past this?" Many of the people who replied insisted the pal wasn't to blame. One said: "Was she supposed to turn him down because of the date? Or just not tell you? "I can understand why you'd be a bit sad about it, but she's not really done anything wrong." A second wrote: "Her boyfriend proposed. Should she have said no? "I'm not sure she could have done much if it was a surprise proposal. If you're upset speak to her fiancé." A third chipped in: "So she got engaged on a day that you're not even getting married on anymore? "I thought you were going to say they got down on one knee or something in the middle of the photo taking bit or something. Now THAT would have been a bit more unreasonable." A fourth reply read: "She didn't get engaged on your wedding day. "I'm sorry to hear that you've had such a tough time, but she really hasn't done anything wrong." Offering some advice, another said: "It's better if you stop thinking of it as your wedding day, as it wasn't. "You're better off without him, don't lose friends over him too." A more sympathetic forum user said: "Your friend should have shown more tact in how she told you. "She didn't need to FaceTime you to tell you this news given it was meant to have been your wedding day. "She could have sent you a brief message to update you so you could collect your thoughts and respond when you were ready, there's plenty of people who could have been able to take that call to celebrate the news in that moment and it shouldn't have been you. "I'm sorry for what you've been through. Well done for leaving the cheat before marriage."
The Sun
2 days ago
- General
- The Sun
My husband has run off with my best pal – I've lost everything in one cruel blow… how do I begin rebuilding my life?
DEAR DEIDRE: JUST six months ago, I had what I thought was the perfect life – a loving husband, two children and a best friend I trusted with everything. Now I've lost pretty much all of it in one cruel blow and I have to watch the two people I loved most, apart from my children, move on with each other. I'm 41 and my husband is 43. We'd been married for 12 years and, although things hadn't been perfect, I truly believed we were solid. My best friend — who I've known since we were teenagers — was like family. She came on holidays with us, babysat our kids and confided in me daily. Then, out of nowhere, my husband sat me down and told me he was leaving me. No explanation, just that he wasn't happy. I was left completely blindsided. Only weeks later did I find out the truth. He'd been having an affair with my best friend the entire time. Now he's moved in with her and they're playing happy families while I'm left to process it all alone. He thinks that because she knows our children well, they will be happy to spend time at their new 'home'. But our children are so young, only nine and seven, and are very confused. I'm struggling to keep it together. I feel humiliated, betrayed and utterly heartbroken. I can't understand how they could be so cruel. I would have done anything for either of them. I try to act normal for the kids but inside I feel broken. I can't sleep, I barely eat and I don't know how to start moving forward. I don't even know where to begin rebuilding my life. Dear Deidre: Cheating and can you get over it DEIDRE SAYS: This is a devastating betrayal and it's no wonder you're struggling to make sense of it. When trust is broken so deeply by the two people closest to you, the pain can feel unbearable. Allow yourself time to grieve the end of your marriage and the loss of a friendship you valued deeply. Try to focus on what you can control – looking after yourself and your children – and slowly, over time, you will adjust and start to rebuild. It is positive that you are trying to keep things stable for your children. Putting them first is absolutely the right thing to do. I'm sending you my support pack, Moving On, to help you process what's happened and take steps towards reclaiming your life. GRANDSON'S CHANGED… AND I BLAME COCAINE USE DEAR DEIDRE: MY grandson is destroying his life with cocaine, and I'm terrified I'm going to lose him because of it. He's only 24, smart and kind-hearted, but over the past year he's changed beyond recognition. He's lost weight, become secretive, fallen out with friends and family and he lies constantly. I recently found out from his ex-girlfriend that he's using cocaine heavily and often, but when I gently confronted him, he completely denied it. I'm his 69-year-old grandmother, and I raised him on and off when his parents struggled. We've always had a close bond, and it's heartbreaking to see him like this. I know he needs help, but I don't know how to get through to him. How do you help someone who won't admit they have a problem before it's too late? DEIDRE SAYS: Watching a loved one spiral into addiction is incredibly painful, especially when they refuse to accept help. Your concern is completely valid – addiction thrives in secrecy and denial, and your grandson may not yet realise the impact it's having on his life. Keep the lines of communication open. Let him know you're worried because you care, not because you're judging. Avoid confrontation but be consistent in your concern and support. Reach out to Adfam ( who help families affected by drugs and alcohol. My support pack, Drug Worries?, will also help. DEAR DEIDRE: HAVING decided that she is done caring for my brother who has motor neurone disease, my sister-in-law now expects me and my husband to pick up the pieces. I'm 64, my brother is 67, and of course I want to help. But my sister-in-law dropped this on me without warning, acting like it's a done deal. She's been his primary carer since he was diagnosed a year ago, and I understand how exhausting it must be. My husband and I help out, but we're not in a position to take full responsibility – physically or emotionally. I feel torn between wanting to support my brother and feeling taken for granted. The guilt is eating away at me but so is the resentment. How do I set boundaries and speak up without causing a family fallout – or leaving my brother feeling abandoned? DEIDRE SAYS: It is understandable to feel overwhelmed when caregiving responsibilities suddenly shift without your input. Setting boundaries is essential – for your wellbeing and your brother's care. Have an honest chat with your sister-in-law and husband about what you can realistically manage. Emphasise that you want to support your brother but need a sustainable plan that doesn't fall solely on you. Consider involving a social worker, who can help arrange support. Citizens Advice ( should be able to help you with the legalities. THREATENED BY HER SEX HISTORY DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE developed 'the ick' for my girlfriend, and I hate myself for it. I'm 27, she's 26 and we've been together for eight months. Everything has been great – she's kind and funny, and we have amazing chemistry. But recently she told me something I can't stop thinking about. She mentioned casually that she slept with one of her male friends a few years ago. They only hooked up once, it didn't go anywhere, and they've stayed friends ever since. I didn't say anything at the time but now I feel weird about it. They still hang out regularly and message often. She swears there's nothing between them and I believe her, but something about it just makes my skin crawl. I don't want to be controlling or insecure, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm second best or competing with someone she has known far longer. I've been off with her lately and she's started to notice. I don't want to ruin a good thing over something that happened before me but it's really getting under my skin. How do I get over this? DEIDRE SAYS: It's understandable that this revelation has unsettled you but remember she was honest, and their friendship has continued platonically. That shows transparency, not deceit. Still, your feelings matter. If the situation makes you uncomfortable, try to explore why. Is it insecurity, fear of comparison, or something else? Talk to her calmly and openly. Focus on how it made you feel, not what she did 'wrong'. This is also a good time to discuss boundaries. Every couple has different lines around exes or past hook-ups, and it's OK to want clarity. Just be careful not to project suspicion where there's no sign of betrayal. I'm sending you my support pack, Dealing With Jealousy, which will help you work through these feelings.
The Sun
7 days ago
- General
- The Sun
I'm feeling guilty about all the casual sex I've been having and worry my daughters will do the same
DEAR DEIDRE: BEING desired by men used to make me feel so powerful and good about myself, but recently I've been feeling guilty about all the casual sex I've been having. I'm 28 and a single mother to two daughters, aged seven and three. I support us all by myself and we have a nice life. They are my everything and yet I spend so much money on babysitters so I can go out on casual dates. I wake up in the morning thinking, 'Never again'. Then I'm straight back on the apps, looking for my next hook-up. Last year I met a man I really hoped would be The One. He seemed kind and caring, and I got to know him slowly before we had sex. When we finally did, I cried because it was both passionate and loving. A few months later, my best friend found him on Tinder still. Relationships have never been easy for me. I get very clingy and emotional — boyfriends don't stick around long. But I've always loved sex, mainly because it makes me feel so good about myself, for a short time at least. I met my girls' father when I was only 18 and got pregnant by accident. We tried to make the relationship work but we had nothing in common. My sex drive was much higher than his and the constant rejection ruined my confidence. When we split up, I had one-night stands to reassert my independence. I thought it would be a phase but I'm finding it impossible to stop. I'm constantly looking for sex and I almost don't care who it's with. But I'm worried my daughters will grow up to do the same. Dear Deidre: Understanding why your man's gone off sex DEIDRE SAYS: A craving to be desired is often a sign of low self-esteem, which usually develops at a young age. You don't say what growing up was like for you, or how you were treated as a child, but it may be the root cause of your feelings. It might also explain your attachment style and why you feel so vulnerable in relationships. The good news is, being a loving mother will help your own daughters grow up with a more secure foundation. You're not failing your daughters. You are raising both of them by yourself, which is no easy task. Build up your self-confidence to help break the habit of seeking meaningless sex. I'm sending you my support packs on Raising Self-esteem and Finding The Right Partner For You. I know you're wary, believing you'll never find love. That's understandable after all you've been through. But you still have plenty of time to find the right person. MY DOUBTS OVER GIRL'S PARENTAGE I HAVE doubts over who is the father of my granddaughter. My daughter is 28 and I'm her father. She'd been dating her current partner – a lovely lad, a builder, aged 30 – for only a couple of months when she got pregnant last year. It was a shock to both of them, but he stepped up. They all live together now and seem very happy. But the baby looks nothing like him. And I mean nothing. She has bright ginger hair, blue eyes and very pale skin. My daughter's boyfriend has black hair, green eyes and sallow skin. But you know who does have ginger hair? My daughter's old next-door neighbour. I never liked him. He's much older than my daughter and seemed to live a sketchy life, full of 'deals' and far-fetched stories. My daughter liked him, though, and they often met for coffee or went shopping. He has money – I don't know where from – and was always helping her out financially. He's the spitting image of my granddaughter and I can't help but assume he's the father. I daren't say anything in case I spark a family rift, but I think my daughter's partner deserves the truth. He's working all hours to support them, while the neighbour swans around like nothing's happened. I asked my daughter if she'd ever had a fling with her old neighbour and she looked at me in horror. She swore on her daughter's life that nothing had ever happened. But I don't know. Each child gets half their genes from each parent, and the final combination can be unexpected. It's not unusual for parents to have a child who looks nothing like either of them. Appearances can change over time, too. Your daughter's partner might seem darker-skinned, but his outdoorsy job could just have tanned him. And babies' eyes often look blue when they're born, but can change during the first year. It wouldn't be wise to go storming in and would probably damage your relationship with your daughter. You're right in thinking you might spark a family feud if you voice your doubts again. You risk setting the couple against each other too, at a time when they need to be united for your granddaughter's sake. Your role is to support your family, not create conflict. DUMPING HIM OVER SEX I'M so sick of my boyfriend turning me down for sex, I've decided to dump him. The final straw happened tonight. We don't live together – we're both 22 – so I texted him a sexy message, asking if I should pop over for some fun. His reply? 'I've just put my tea on.' What red-blooded man would rather watch a ready-meal in the microwave than have sex with his girlfriend? After that, I realised we are only ever intimate when he initiates it. I sent him a long message explaining how hurt I felt, and he simply replied, 'OK.' That's it. He's blocked. DEIDRE SAYS: You're understandably upset. Sex should be a loving act enjoyed by both of you, not something only he can initiate. He sounds like he is keen to keep everything on his terms. If you want to work on this then meet up to discuss how he feels about your relationship, explain how rejected you feel. You won't get any answers by blocking him. My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, explains more. FAMILY FORUM DEAR DEIDRE: MY son's real dad got back in touch, so I'll have to finally tell my son about him. I'm 45, my son is 15. He thinks my husband, who is also 45, is his father. He's not. His real dad is a man I had a fling with, who vanished as soon as I got pregnant. Two years later, I met my husband, and we became a family. I was always waiting for the right time to break the news. Every time I'd gathered the courage to tell my son the truth, a crisis would get in the way. I was ill, then we had to move house, then Covid. The years flew by. I'd resigned myself to breaking the news on my son's 18th birthday, but then my ex got back in touch out of the blue. He wants to see our son. I don't think I can deny him that. But we're in the middle of another crisis. My husband had an affair three years ago and I'm struggling to get over it. My son is already shaken by the bad atmosphere so I don't feel I can shake his world further. DEIDRE SAYS: It is good that you plan to tell your son about his biological dad as secrets do have a way of coming out. You can handle this in a way that minimises the stress on everyone. The first step is to sort things out with your husband. Counselling – ideally as a couple, but individually if necessary – is a good way to process issues like infidelity. It lets you work through all your feelings and then find a way to move past them. I realise you're finding it hard to forgive your husband but remember, forgiveness is something you do for you, not anyone else. It's not letting him off the hook, it's giving yourself permission to move forwards. When it comes to revealing the news to your son, you can find advice through Family Lives ( 0808 800 2222). Talking to him is going to be difficult, and only you can decide when the right time is. But impress upon him that your husband has always been there for him and loves him unconditionally.
Yahoo
21-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
89 Aunt Quotes for Love, Laughs, & Being There
Everyone has that fun aunt — the one who loves you like your mom does, but who is way cooler than a mom (one of the perks of being an aunt). Show your aunt how much she means to you with these original aunt quotes. The best way to let your aunt know how you feel about her is with a quote that comes from the heart. These quotes share how special that relationship is. You aren't just a cool aunt, you're also the best friend I've ever had. Thank you for being the best and coolest aunt on the planet! My aunt has a sixth sense and always calls me right when I need to talk to her. My aunt is an inspiration to me every day. When I think of the women who have inspired me, my aunt tops the list. I'm so grateful my aunt is in my life. When I'm asked who my best friend is, I always smile and say, "My aunt". My aunt is like my eternal accomplice. I know I can always count on her. My aunt is my confidant. I know whatever I tell her stays with her. Everyone needs a person to count on always having your back. My person is my aunt. When I'm in trouble, I call my aunt. My aunt is so much more than my mom's sister. She's like a second mom. If you're proud of your aunt and want to let her know, you can use a personalized quote to convey your feelings. I'm proud of the woman my aunt is and want to grow up to be just like her! When it comes to aunts, I have the best one! I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing aunt, but I'm so proud to introduce you as my aunt! My heart nearly bursts with pride when I tell my friends about my wonderful aunt. My friends envy me because I have such a fantastic aunt! There's being proud of something a person does or being proud of what they are inside. When it comes to my aunt, I'm proud of her for both reasons! My heart swells with pride whenever I think of my aunt and the incredible person she is. One word describes how I feel about you as my aunt — proud! The role of an aunt is sometimes a surrogate mother and other times a friend, mentor, and advisor. You're pretty amazing! You always support me in everything I do. You are the second loudest cheerleader (mom's the loudest), and know the right words to encourage and inspire me. You're the best aunt I could ever have! I am so lucky to have an aunt who knows how to do so many things and is patient enough to teach them to me! My life has greater meaning because you're my aunt and share your life with me. We love having a sense of humor when it comes to our aunties. These fun and funny aunt quotes look at the lighter side of having an aunt. Aunt is my favorite four-letter word! My auntie is aunt-tastic at everything. Some of my best days were spent in aunt-icipation of spending time with my aunt. My aunt always let me give her attitude, and she never pulled over the car and threatened to make me walk. Aunts: Moms who let you keep your shoes on in the house and roughouse with other kids. Best part of having an aunt? Three words... "Cookies before dinner." Aunt: Kinda like a mom but cool. My aunt: Helping me get out of trouble since I was a kid. My aunt is like my mom, except that she can't ground me. A niece and aunt share a special bond. Many aspects of this relationship enrich both of their lives, usually profoundly. I know you are technically my aunt, but I feel you're more like my second mom. An aunt is like having a mom who lets you skip school to go shopping. Aunt: giving bonus mom vibes. An aunt knows how to convince your mom to let you go to a party. When I need someone to be my accomplice in my latest scheme, I always call on my aunt. When a niece and aunt get together, there's a lot of whispering and giggling that tells you they're up to something. When people used to ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always said, "My aunt!" When people compliment me on being a successful woman, I give all credit to my aunt. Thank you, Aunt, for being my BFF. I always know I can count on you. Every little boy deserves to have a special aunt who looks after him and is a joy to be around. If this was your aunt, then these quotes could express how you feel. My aunt is always down for adventures, and I'm so happy she includes me in them. When I find the woman I spend the rest of my life with, I'll be lucky if she's even a little bit like my aunt. I can't imagine growing up without you as my aunt. You were so warm and funny, and you always laughed at my jokes. Thanks for that. What makes you such an outstanding and amazing aunt is your openness and acceptance of me. You love me no matter what. I had a lot of boo-boos as a kid, but I was lucky enough to have my aunt to kiss them better. From my fun aunt, I've learned how to be a funcle. My aunt played a big role in making me the man I am, and I'm grateful. Aunts love their nieces and nephews unconditionally, and we're so lucky they do. These quotes about an aunt's love can capture what that means to you. My aunt was 50% unconditional love and 50% partner in crime. How lucky was I? Knowing my aunt loved me made it easy to be myself, no matter what. Because of my aunt's love, I grew into a confident adult. I always knew my aunt loved me, even when I was being a brat. I know my aunt loves me like my mom does, but she was way more fun to hang out with when I was a kid. An aunt's love is like a chocolate chip cookie, sweet, comforting, and full of gooey goodness. I loved knowing that, because of my aunt, I had somebody outside of my home who loved me even though she wasn't required to by law. Auntie, thank you for loving me even though you didn't have to. You are the sister I never had, and I love you so much! I love my aunt and would do anything she asks of me without hesitation. As my aunt, you deserve the world, but all I can give is my love and gratitude. If I could write a message in the sky for my aunt, it would read, "I love you dearly!" You know your aunt is special. Tell her how much with these quotes. Some of the most special times of my life were spent with my aunt. I was lucky enough to have a special someone with whom I could share all my secrets: my aunt. My relationship with my aunt is one of the most special ones in my life. My aunt's hugs are as special as she is. If I'm even half the person my aunt is, I'll be very special indeed. Of all the relationships I hold most dear, the one with my aunt rises to the top. Aunts are the secret keepers of family stories, the whispers of wisdom, and the sprinkle of magic dust on ordinary days. An aunt loves you like a parent but plays with you like a pal. To have an aunt is to have an ally for life, a confidant who teaches you to dream bigger and reach higher. These short, cute aunt quotes make fun captions for your Instagram photos. Hugs from aunts are warmer than the sun. Aunt: A guide for adventures, a guru for giggles. Life's sweetest moments come with a hug from an aunt. Aunt: half mom, half friend, all heart. An aunt's love sparkles like a star. With an aunt, you always have an extra cheerleader. One of the sweetest things in life is having an aunt. My aunt shows me what I someday hope to be. Aunts: The sparkle glitter ponies of grown-up relatives. My aunt is f-aunt-astic. My aunt has her own room in my heart. What's it like being an aunt? Only an auntie knows for sure. But these quotes capture the joy of having nieces and nephews. It's amazing to be able to take kids out to do fun stuff and then give them back to your sibling when you've sugared them up and exhausted them. An aunt's role is to give their nieces and nephews all the noisy toys. Mission accomplished. I was there the day you were born and knew the moment I saw you that my heart was forever yours. I truly love and adore my sister's children as though they were my own. Being an aunt is like getting to be a mom without all the rules. To be a good aunt to my brother's children is the best way I know to honor him. Being an aunt has shown me that children are the greatest gift! My life was great before I became an aunt, but now it's enriched with these little souls who are so amazing! Being an aunt is a fantastic honor that I wouldn't trade for all the gold in the world! You have a special relationship with your aunt, and you're lucky to have her. Share your aunt with the world with these aunt quotes.
Yahoo
15-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Is Confused Why Her Best Friend Wants Fuel Money for Driving Them on Girls' Trip: ‘I'm Not the Best with Money'
A Mumsnet user said she and her best friend hit a road bump on their trip planning in regard to a fairly common expense 'When I asked about getting there she said she'd drive but asked for some gas money,' the woman explained Now, she's wondering if she's wrong for feeling annoyedMoney talk is fueling a disagreement between best friends. A woman turned to the community forum Mumsnet to share that she's feeling 'irked' after her best friend, whom she's known 'for over half of our lives,' requested they split the cost of gas for their upcoming girls' trip. 'We're going away for the night a couple of hours away,' she wrote. 'We both decided on the venue and both are paying equally for the stay.' 'When I asked about getting there, she said she'd drive but asked for some gas money,' she continued, adding that the request annoyed her. 'She's going there anyway, and we're best friends, I wouldn't charge her if it were me. And no, I can't drive there myself because my husband needs our car.' The woman then admitted that she's 'not the best with money' and that her husband has always 'scoffed' at this particular friendship. 'Of course I'll still pay,' the woman clarified, before asking other Mumsnet users, 'Am I being unreasonable to feel this way?' Most of the forum sided with the best friend in a poll under the post — with 98% of roughly 2,200 voters voting 'You are being unreasonable.' is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! 'You're an adult — pay your own way. Expecting others to do it is embarrassing,' one person replied, while another commented, 'Decent people pay gas money or at least offer.' A third Mumsnet user agreed, writing, 'Your friend now has the additional stress of driving, the least you can do is give some gas money.' Another chimed in, saying, "You should definitely pay half of the petrol, and buy the coffee if you stop halfway! "Your friend is not only paying for the petrol, but also doing the driving, taking the wear on her car, and risking her car being damaged/accident/breakdown etc. during the journey. You either take it in turns or you pay your way," the commenter concluded. Read the original article on People
