19-07-2025
Women Are Sharing Their Most Unconventional Desires For A Partner, And Some Are Really Making Me Giggle
Reddit user KitchenLoose6552 recently asked r/AskWomen, "What's a really weird thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner? Keep it unconventional." Here are the shocking responses:
1."He has to be okay with making it an absolute habit to ALWAYS close the lid before he flushes."
—Ukacelody
2."Someone who knows how to act at the airport and has similar ideas about arrival time. It's not that unconventional, but in general, someone who knows how to act in public pretty much covers it."
—settingiskey
3."This is definitely a weird need, but it's more of an anti thing: I cannot STAND when someone uses words like 'tummy,' 'tum tum,' 'bum,' etc. STOP talking like a toddler. I swear, the most perfect person for me would be ruined if they said they had a 'tummy' ache or liked my 'tummy.'"
—motion_thiccness
4."I need them to be able to enjoy cilantro. It would honestly be a dealbreaker for me."
—bruhan
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5."Squeezes out the dish sponge and puts it up. Don't leave it sitting soppy and gross in the sink. I think this says a lot about someone."
—SunburntGemz
6."Similar sleeping schedules. I don't want to be waiting around all morning for them to get up at 2 p.m."
—ChippedChipmunk
7."It's of utmost importance that he eats quietly."
—mermands
"This, and they eat with their mouth SHUT. I don't want to see your food or hear that lip-smacking. I'm big into manners, but it is beyond manners; It's just gross."
—Sad_Marketing_Girl
8."Animals need to be naturally drawn to them."
—antiquatedsheep
9."Trimmed and neat nails. Non-negotiable."
—calpikochu
10."Someone who likes to slowly wander and admire nature with me. Like, I don't want an avid hiker hitting trails just to get to the top as quickly as possible. I want the meandering ones who are like, 'Look at this cool rock!' or, 'Whoa, look, there's a cute little lizard/bird right there.' I take time outdoors, and could sit there for several minutes just observing pelicans, or getting a cool picture of a mushroom. But also, they can't be shoving freaky-looking bugs into my face to look at. That's crossing a line for me."
—Responsible-Survivor
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11."I love nervous men. Like, I love it when men are obviously nervous about being around you, etc. I think it's so cute."
—Successful-Ad4992
12."Must be good at board games. Or, at least, good at understanding the rules to board games so I don't feel like yanking my hair out whenever we try a new one."
—sidewaysballcap
13."They need to be at least a little more mean/assertive than I am. I like having someone who will tell the waiter they got my order wrong (politely!) because I sure as hell won't."
—ggpopart
14."Will order the food AND share the food. All food is for sharing."
—BunnyGirlSD
15."My partners have to be nerdy about something. I love a special interest!"
—throwawaypolyam
16."Someone willing to dance with me. Even if it's just in the living room. Even if he's not good at it. I'm not either, but I still like to do it. It boils down to a guy willing to do the little things because they matter to me. There are a decade's worth of issues in my relationship, but they can be simplified to: He won't even dance with me in the living room with no one watching."
—Tower-Junkie
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17."I need someone who knows how to navigate telling me when I'm wrong. Like, seriously, tell me I'm wrong. But you need to be smart enough that I believe you instead of feeling defensive. I thought I just wanted smart, but smart is often unable to hear when they're wrong, or they are defensive. I want a very precise mix of smart, humble, analytical, and tactful. The first time I drop a hot take, if you can't come at me, I'm not interested."
—Marielynn502
18."Someone who knows angles and can take good pictures! The number of times I've asked a guy to take a picture of me (where, to me, it's obvious how to 'frame' the photo) and it comes out poorly. Like sigh, thanks for trying, but I'll just take a selfie. Also, someone who knows how to take good pics of himself. It may be shallow, but the whole under-the-chin shot with dead eyes looking at the screen, not the camera, is such an ick."
—Such-Swimming2109
19."They need different meme sources from me so that we can both show each other things that make us laugh without having already seen everything."
—SlugKing003
20."I'm not a yapper at all, so I love a guy who can just talk about whatever and let me listen and interject occasionally."
—Wiknite
21."Knows how to spell, has good grammar, and knows how to text properly. They need to be able to use punctuation accurately. Send texts that are not too long or too short."
—Responsible_Bake_854
"When I started dating again in my 30s, grammar was so important to me. I can't stand reading messages from someone who can't write properly. I am not as picky about them knowing how to dance, but being willing to is also very important. And just willing to try things in general. I want to go out, explore, and have fun. I don't need someone who is going to hold me back (again)."
—jneinefr
22."Something that's important to me and I never mention it, but always look for it: They can't be addicted to social media (or doom scrolling). In recent times, I've found that the ones who stay scrolling on Instagram come up with imaginary issues in the relationship."
—Inside_Success4817
23."Someone who isn't weirded out by farting, and can hopefully laugh about it. It's a normal human function. I am not running to the bathroom every time I need to fart once I am serious with someone."
—sisterfunkhaus
24."My partner cannot be picky. I'm a huge foodie, and I need to be able to explore new foods with a partner."
—WitchQueen_
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25."Must sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door in case we have an intruder."
—patchouliii
26."Has to love garlic."
—EustachiaVye
27."Guys who have zero issue eating my leftovers."
—quattic
28."He can't have a high-stakes hobby. NO CAVE DIVING OR EXTREME MOUNTAIN HIKING. You promise me a lifetime, you're not getting out of it by doing some dumb shit like that."
—TinyTupperwares
29."No spitting! I hate when people spit on the ground!!!!!"
—DrinkRound3484
30."Someone who knows how to get to the point. They don't talk in circles so much that 15 minutes go by, and they're still not at the main point of their argument. Doesn't over-explain if there's no need to."
—Responsible_Bake_854
"They must be able to sit in complete silence with me for hours without it being weird. No small talk, no pressure. Just presence. I guess I need someone whose soul can rest next to mine. Bonus points if they don't get offended when I suddenly go, 'I need space,' and vanish for a bit."
—Present_Excitement54
No matter who you are or what gender you're attracted to, what's an unconventional trait that you desire in a partner? Tell us in the comments or share anonymously using this form.
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