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South China Morning Post
17-07-2025
- Politics
- South China Morning Post
Top China editor slams school for ousting woman for casual sex, demands equal penalty for man
A former editor in China has called for gender-neutral punishment and criticised a university for expelling a woman who had casual sex with a man. The backlash follows the expulsion of a 21-year-old Chinese student, surnamed Li, after her alleged sexual involvement with a Ukrainian gamer. Li reportedly had a one-night stand with a 37-year-old Ukrainian ex-Counter-Strike player, Danylo Teslenko, known as 'Zeus', while he was in Shanghai for an event last December. Teslenko shared their intimate photos and videos in his fan group, which later spread online. The woman, surnamed Li, was expelled by her university while the man she slept with, both above, received no punishment. Photo: IG@zeuscsgo Some reports claimed he was married with children and had called Li an 'easy girl', though he denied both claims.
South China Morning Post
16-07-2025
- Politics
- South China Morning Post
China university expels girl for casual sex with Ukrainian man that ‘hurts national dignity'
A Chinese student is facing expulsion from university for having casual sex with a Ukrainian gamer. The student, surnamed Li, has been accused of 'hurting national dignity', sparking online accusations of excessive punishment and rights infringement. An official from Dalian Polytechnic University, in northeastern China's Liaoning province, on July 8, said the institution planned to expel Li for an act of 'misconduct' on December 16, 2024. The 21-year-old was reported to have had a one-night stand with 37-year-old former Counter-Strike player Danylo Teslenko, who is 'Zeus', while he was attending an event in Shanghai last December. Li's full name and other identifying information were released by the university, angering many people online. Photo: Sohu Teslenko posted intimate videos and photos of himself and Li in his fan group, and reportedly called her an 'easy girl'.
The Sun
21-06-2025
- General
- The Sun
I'm feeling guilty about all the casual sex I've been having and worry my daughters will do the same
DEAR DEIDRE: BEING desired by men used to make me feel so powerful and good about myself, but recently I've been feeling guilty about all the casual sex I've been having. I'm 28 and a single mother to two daughters, aged seven and three. I support us all by myself and we have a nice life. They are my everything and yet I spend so much money on babysitters so I can go out on casual dates. I wake up in the morning thinking, 'Never again'. Then I'm straight back on the apps, looking for my next hook-up. Last year I met a man I really hoped would be The One. He seemed kind and caring, and I got to know him slowly before we had sex. When we finally did, I cried because it was both passionate and loving. A few months later, my best friend found him on Tinder still. Relationships have never been easy for me. I get very clingy and emotional — boyfriends don't stick around long. But I've always loved sex, mainly because it makes me feel so good about myself, for a short time at least. I met my girls' father when I was only 18 and got pregnant by accident. We tried to make the relationship work but we had nothing in common. My sex drive was much higher than his and the constant rejection ruined my confidence. When we split up, I had one-night stands to reassert my independence. I thought it would be a phase but I'm finding it impossible to stop. I'm constantly looking for sex and I almost don't care who it's with. But I'm worried my daughters will grow up to do the same. Dear Deidre: Understanding why your man's gone off sex DEIDRE SAYS: A craving to be desired is often a sign of low self-esteem, which usually develops at a young age. You don't say what growing up was like for you, or how you were treated as a child, but it may be the root cause of your feelings. It might also explain your attachment style and why you feel so vulnerable in relationships. The good news is, being a loving mother will help your own daughters grow up with a more secure foundation. You're not failing your daughters. You are raising both of them by yourself, which is no easy task. Build up your self-confidence to help break the habit of seeking meaningless sex. I'm sending you my support packs on Raising Self-esteem and Finding The Right Partner For You. I know you're wary, believing you'll never find love. That's understandable after all you've been through. But you still have plenty of time to find the right person. MY DOUBTS OVER GIRL'S PARENTAGE I HAVE doubts over who is the father of my granddaughter. My daughter is 28 and I'm her father. She'd been dating her current partner – a lovely lad, a builder, aged 30 – for only a couple of months when she got pregnant last year. It was a shock to both of them, but he stepped up. They all live together now and seem very happy. But the baby looks nothing like him. And I mean nothing. She has bright ginger hair, blue eyes and very pale skin. My daughter's boyfriend has black hair, green eyes and sallow skin. But you know who does have ginger hair? My daughter's old next-door neighbour. I never liked him. He's much older than my daughter and seemed to live a sketchy life, full of 'deals' and far-fetched stories. My daughter liked him, though, and they often met for coffee or went shopping. He has money – I don't know where from – and was always helping her out financially. He's the spitting image of my granddaughter and I can't help but assume he's the father. I daren't say anything in case I spark a family rift, but I think my daughter's partner deserves the truth. He's working all hours to support them, while the neighbour swans around like nothing's happened. I asked my daughter if she'd ever had a fling with her old neighbour and she looked at me in horror. She swore on her daughter's life that nothing had ever happened. But I don't know. Each child gets half their genes from each parent, and the final combination can be unexpected. It's not unusual for parents to have a child who looks nothing like either of them. Appearances can change over time, too. Your daughter's partner might seem darker-skinned, but his outdoorsy job could just have tanned him. And babies' eyes often look blue when they're born, but can change during the first year. It wouldn't be wise to go storming in and would probably damage your relationship with your daughter. You're right in thinking you might spark a family feud if you voice your doubts again. You risk setting the couple against each other too, at a time when they need to be united for your granddaughter's sake. Your role is to support your family, not create conflict. DUMPING HIM OVER SEX I'M so sick of my boyfriend turning me down for sex, I've decided to dump him. The final straw happened tonight. We don't live together – we're both 22 – so I texted him a sexy message, asking if I should pop over for some fun. His reply? 'I've just put my tea on.' What red-blooded man would rather watch a ready-meal in the microwave than have sex with his girlfriend? After that, I realised we are only ever intimate when he initiates it. I sent him a long message explaining how hurt I felt, and he simply replied, 'OK.' That's it. He's blocked. DEIDRE SAYS: You're understandably upset. Sex should be a loving act enjoyed by both of you, not something only he can initiate. He sounds like he is keen to keep everything on his terms. If you want to work on this then meet up to discuss how he feels about your relationship, explain how rejected you feel. You won't get any answers by blocking him. My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, explains more. FAMILY FORUM DEAR DEIDRE: MY son's real dad got back in touch, so I'll have to finally tell my son about him. I'm 45, my son is 15. He thinks my husband, who is also 45, is his father. He's not. His real dad is a man I had a fling with, who vanished as soon as I got pregnant. Two years later, I met my husband, and we became a family. I was always waiting for the right time to break the news. Every time I'd gathered the courage to tell my son the truth, a crisis would get in the way. I was ill, then we had to move house, then Covid. The years flew by. I'd resigned myself to breaking the news on my son's 18th birthday, but then my ex got back in touch out of the blue. He wants to see our son. I don't think I can deny him that. But we're in the middle of another crisis. My husband had an affair three years ago and I'm struggling to get over it. My son is already shaken by the bad atmosphere so I don't feel I can shake his world further. DEIDRE SAYS: It is good that you plan to tell your son about his biological dad as secrets do have a way of coming out. You can handle this in a way that minimises the stress on everyone. The first step is to sort things out with your husband. Counselling – ideally as a couple, but individually if necessary – is a good way to process issues like infidelity. It lets you work through all your feelings and then find a way to move past them. I realise you're finding it hard to forgive your husband but remember, forgiveness is something you do for you, not anyone else. It's not letting him off the hook, it's giving yourself permission to move forwards. When it comes to revealing the news to your son, you can find advice through Family Lives ( 0808 800 2222). Talking to him is going to be difficult, and only you can decide when the right time is. But impress upon him that your husband has always been there for him and loves him unconditionally.
The Sun
15-06-2025
- General
- The Sun
I can't stop thinking about fling with colleague – but will it ever be more than just sex?
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM having steamy sex with a colleague. I think about him from the moment I wake up to the minute I go to sleep, but will it ever develop into something more? We sit opposite one another at work. I'm a woman of 24, he is a couple of years older than me, and very handsome. We're both very professional when we're in the office, but as soon as I saw he'd slid into my DMs, I knew what was coming. We arranged a drink at a nearby bar and he walked me home. It was obvious how we both wanted the evening to end and I took him straight up to my room. Now we meet every week for hot times in bed. It was just sex with no feelings until a couple of weeks ago when I was at a mate's barbecue. A male friend of my colleague was there and he kissed me. News of the kiss got back to my lover and from that moment our situation feels like it has stopped being just casual sex. We talk more, he is much more attentive and wants to know how I am. I know he has a reputation for being a bit of a player and loves his happy-go-lucky lifestyle. Does he want me to think he likes me so he can get what he wants? Or does he want there to be more to us now? I don't want to tackle him as I am worried my intuition might be wrong. He might think I am mad, or too needy for even imagining that he has feelings for me. DEIDRE SAYS: That kiss at the party may have made your colleague realise he cares for you more than he thought. It's impossible to know if your relationship is developing unless you have 'the conversation'. Try not to build it up into a big moment – you can discuss how you both see your arrangement in a relaxed way. A simple 'how do you see us?' would add clarity. You are not being needy by seeking some clarification. If he communicates he doesn't want commitment at all, that is the time to consider what you want. If you're happy keeping it casual that's absolutely fine but if you are falling for him it would be wise to explain that your current arrangement doesn't work for you. Take the sex off the table to limit any more hurt. You'll find out soon enough whether he is willing to lose you to somebody else. DAD-TO-BE WON'T QUIT WEED HABIT DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend has been smoking weed behind my back even though he said he would give up drugs when I became pregnant. I am 25 and he is 26. We have been together for three years. I knew he smoked dope when we first got together and it has always been an issue between us, but he reassured me that if I ever got pregnant he would give it up immediately. We are both excited about the pregnancy. I took him at his word and now feel let down. I can smell it on him, and I know the signs. I know he is lying even though he insists he has stopped. I even asked my parents to talk to him but nothing they say has made any difference. This baby means everything to me and so does he. It feels like we mean so little to him. Why hasn't he changed? Should I tell his parents? DEIDRE SAYS: I'd resist the temptation to tell his parents. Perhaps he is finding stopping harder than he expected. If he really wants to stop using weed, he needs help. It sounds like he has become dependent. He can get support from (0300 123 6600) and my support pack on Drug Worries should also help. Encourage him to go with you to midwife appointments so he understands how health issues affect your unborn baby. LIBIDO IS TOO HIGH FOR WIFE DEAR DEIDRE: WOULD a course of hypnotherapy help me to lower my sex drive? I am 44 and my wife is 41. We have been married for 12 years and have three children. We have a great relationship, but I have a high sex drive whereas my wife never seems to be in the mood. I always get up with the kids, and do plenty around the house to help out. I tell her how great she looks and how much I love her but none of this seems to help. The less sex I get the more I think about it. I am constantly frustrated and usually end up pleasuring myself to relieve the tension but that isn't what I want. I'd love to feel closer to my wife, and not have to rely on sorting myself out. I miss the intimacy sex provides. I was wondering whether hypnotherapy could help. Perhaps if I can lower my sex drive it would be better all round? DEIDRE SAYS: Hypno-therapy is not the answer – better communication around the benefits of a good sex life is. Pick a quiet moment when you are both relaxed and tell your wife how much you miss being intimate with her. You should be able to talk to her about anything. Explain you are worried about her lack of sex drive and you want to support her. A healthy sex life has huge mental health benefits so it's understandable that this has been frustrating you. My support pack Different Sex Drives? explains more. I KEEP HAVING FAMILY FANTASY DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I have a lovely girlfriend, my ex is always on my mind and it is killing me. I am 34 and my girlfriend is 31. I was with my partner for seven years and we have two daughters. We split up almost three years ago. She moved to be nearer her parents, but I have kept up contact with our children and see them as much as I can. Picking up my kids is always tough as it reminds me of happier times. Seeing her regularly unsettles me and although my ex knows I've met someone new, she never seems very happy about it. We have never attempted to get back together but more recently I have been thinking about her more. Sometimes I dream about her and wonder if I'm still in love with her. I even fantasize about what I would do to get back with her. When I am drunk, I really want to get in touch and tell her how I feel but so far I have been able to resist. I miss the daily contact with my daughters. Do I really want to get back with her and love her or is it just because I want to be with my daughters more and want to be a family again? I'm so confused about what I really want. DEIDRE SAYS: Of course it's understandable that seeing your ex when picking up the kids makes you miss her. It can be a reminder of what you have lost – but it doesn't necessarily mean that it would be right to go back to her. You don't know how she feels. Perhaps it's time to discuss whether she would ever try again but don't get your hopes up. If you are to rekindle your relationship, for your girls' sake, you must work out what went wrong to cause you to split up. Consider couple's counselling, you can arrange that via (020 7380 1960). And do the right thing by your current girlfriend, be honest if you do decide to go back to your ex.
Daily Mail
12-06-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
The awful reason why some women like me are destined for a life of sexual promiscuity. After being with countless men, I'll never let one touch me again: CORRINE BARRACLOUGH
I used to drink a lot. And when I say 'a lot', I mean I was in the merciless grip of alcoholism for two decades. Hand in hand with daily excessive drinking, among many unsavoury consequences, came a lot of casual sex.
