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South China Morning Post
06-07-2025
- South China Morning Post
China dad hides daughter from ex-wife, lies to girl ‘If mum finds you, she will sell you'
A father in China spent seven years moving across the country to hide his daughter from his ex-wife, deceiving her into believing that she would be sold if discovered by her mother. According to mainland media outlet Kankan News, 22-year-old Chen Jiayuan's parents divorced when she was just six years old. Although custody was awarded to her mother along with their flat, her father took Chen, falsely claiming she had been abandoned. In reality, he sought control over the property. Chen's father warned her: 'If your mother finds you, she will sell you.' Following the divorce, Chen's father took her away, falsely claiming she had been abandoned; in reality, he sought control over family assets. Photo: He also misled his ex-wife, telling her that their daughter was suffering from cancer and was hospitalised, thereby refusing her visits.
The Sun
02-06-2025
- General
- The Sun
My boyfriend dumped me because his ex-wife won't let him see his daughter while I'm in his life – I'm devastated
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend dumped me because his ex-wife won't let him see his daughter while I'm in his life. I feel so sad because things were going so well. We were in school together ten years ago and met at a school reunion. He remembered me so he came over for a chat. He's 29 and I'm 28. He said he was married but his wife had recently walked out on him. He admitted to feeling heartbroken because he has a little girl of five. I'd been single for 18 months and he was just my type. He gave me a lift home and I invited him in for a drink, but a drink turned into a kiss and then brilliant sex. We went on a second date two nights later and ended up back at my place again. He told me that he couldn't get me out of his mind and said, 'It freaked me out because I enjoyed the sex'. He said he thought he'd have to be drunk to want sex with anyone else. We then booked a holiday and he had to tell his ex he had met someone else. She went mad. She stopped all his regular contact with his daughter for six weeks. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships I've never met his child, I've only seen photographs so there was no threat from me but his wife wouldn't have it. His daughter has been asking him about me when he calls her on FaceTime, so it's obvious that his ex is pumping her for information. He called me yesterday sobbing down the phone, saying we had to call things off because she's threatening him with never seeing his daughter again. He wants us to be friends for now. Should I fight for this relationship? DEIDRE SAYS: His child is sadly being used as a pawn between her warring parents. He needs time to come to terms with his break-up and set some clear boundaries around access. Encourage him to find a couple's counsellor and family mediation. My support pack on Counselling explains more about how to put all of this in place. If you feel that your relationship has legs in the long-term, give him the space he needs. Things may feel very different for him in six months, if you're prepared to wait. Don't hang everything on this relationship, though. You may miss other opportunities that come your way in the meantime, so keep your options open. LONGING FOR GUY BACK IN MUMBAI DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend had to return to his home in Mumbai to look after his sick mother and since then, I've hardly heard from him. He's the eldest sibling of five so he has had to make arrangements for his mother's care and make some changes to their family home so that she can be comfortable. She's 64 and has cancer and they don't know how long she's got left to live. My boyfriend is 43 and I'm 41. I miss him so much and when I've called, I can never talk to him for long because he says he's so busy. He's told me he'll be home in a month but I'm going crazy without him. Should I end this relationship or hold on until he gets home and see how things are between us then? I feel he's checked out. DEIDRE SAYS: Sometimes life gets in the way of relationships. He's being a responsible son and this is a positive thing – he takes family life very seriously. He's gone back to do a job and put things in place. If he's worried about his mother's health, he'll be trying to make the most out of the time with her. He's reassured you that he's coming back so appreciate what he's doing for the greater good and focus on your friends and family while he's away. Ending the relationship now would leave you broken-hearted so be patient and see if you're both still committed to one another on his return. DUMPED PAL HAS TURNED TO BOOZING AND GAY SEX DEAR DEIDRE: I'M so worried about my friend at work because he's gone off the rails since his girlfriend left him for a better-looking guy. My friend is shorter than average and he's losing his hair, but he's the loveliest person ever. I'm male and 35. He's 36. We've worked together for five years and I've met his girlfriend a number of times. He always said he was 'punching above his weight' because she's really pretty. Now his chickens have come home to roost – she's left him for a taller, handsome guy whom she met in her gym. My friend has been constantly drinking every night and he told me today that he's even had sex with another guy. But he insists he's not gay. It all sounds so strange and I'm worried about him. DEIDRE SAYS: In a quiet moment you can tell him that you're concerned for his welfare. Don't become his therapist, though – just listen and if it's feeling too much, encourage him to get some professional counselling to help him. Explain that you're worried about his drinking too, especially because he may be jeopardising his job. He may be experimenting with sexual experiences to get some affirmation that he's still desirable. Boost his confidence by telling him how lovely he is and please pass on my pack Mend Your Broken Heart. WIFE A BORE IN THE BEDROOM DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is never in the mood for sex, in fact you can count on one hand the number of times we've done it since we married a year ago. I thought things would improve but if anything, they're worse. She's 32 and I'm 34. Her upbringing was strict and we met at church. She lived at home until we got married and we rarely got the chance to have sex because her parents or younger brother were always around. We did manage it a couple of times when her parents went on holiday and when we went away for a weekend. I was longing to get married so that we could do as we pleased, but the rare times we've had sex it's been in the missionary position. She refused to try anything else. I've tried taking her out for dinner and she'll have a glass of wine or two which I'd hope would help her relax, but she still isn't interested. I know I've taken vows and I meant them, but it's nearly our anniversary and I'm so fed-up. I'm thinking of having an affair with a woman from work who likes me. DEIDRE SAYS: Please don't do that. You will complicate your life more if you cheat on her. The chances are, her strict upbringing has made her feel that sex is dirty or only for making babies. Find a quiet time to talk to her and tell her you love her and you want to enjoy a good sex life together because this is normal and natural. Ask her why she isn't keen. Is she worried about pregnancy or does she not enjoy it because you need to improve your technique perhaps? My support pack called Understanding Female Pleasure is full of information, which you can read together to help her see that sex is part of a normal loving relationship.
The Guardian
25-05-2025
- General
- The Guardian
This is how we do it: ‘I was twice her age, married and her boss. I questioned whether I was a bad person'
We don't call ourselves a couple. We value our own and each other's freedom Ava and I grew close when I was her boss, and still with my ex-wife. I'm twice her age, and worried how that would appear. What if people confused us for father and daughter? I questioned whether I was a bad person. My daughter, who is four years younger than Ava, was disgusted at first, calling me a pervert, and my ex-wife was also understandably furious. They felt as though they had never truly known me. I feared I may have severed those relationships for ever, but I knew that, with Ava, I had the chance to be incredibly happy. It was months before we had sex. The first time we were intimate, we kept our clothes on. It was an intense experience. I remember her scent and how soft her skin was. I hadn't been able to get an erection for a few years, which led to the death of my sex life with my wife, and I assumed that was it for me. With Ava, I've rediscovered pleasure. Not only sexually, but also the pleasure of being together. In sex, we have dominant-submissive roles. We both believe in female empowerment and equality, and we talk about that conflict, but the two can coexist. Ava likes to be spanked, which excites me. I also find her freedom a turn-on, so sometimes we roleplay scenarios where she's been unfaithful and I'm punishing her. I like the idea of her being with other people, but it makes me jealous. We don't call ourselves a couple. We value our own and each other's freedom, and don't want a conventional future where we fall victim to the mundanity of daily routine. Although we work together, we have decided we will never live together. I've found that cohabiting causes the desire to know everything about someone to fall away, and I always want to feel a deep interest in Ava. To me, intimacy is the time we afford each other. I feel most connected to Ava at the end of the day when I massage her feet and we talk about things that interest us. Sometimes I wake up during the night and we're holding hands, so I start the day feeling loved, like I've been replenished overnight. If you're keen to talk to us about your sex lives you can get in touch by filling in the form below. It is very important that both sexual partners are happy to participate. We want to explore other ways to have sex and not stay as the lovers that we are now There's tension between what I enjoy sexually and my feminist values. I've always taken on the submissive role, but recently I've been questioning how much of this is my desire and how much has been prescribed by the patriarchy. I ask myself: do I actually like this, or have I been taught to like it? Often, I can't tell the difference. Why do I want to be submissive? Sign up to Inside Saturday The only way to get a look behind the scenes of the Saturday magazine. Sign up to get the inside story from our top writers as well as all the must-read articles and columns, delivered to your inbox every weekend. after newsletter promotion For example, Benji used to grab my hair during sex, but after questioning it, I've asked him to stop. I listen to feminist podcasts and read feminist literature, and we communicate a lot about it. We want to challenge, test, learn and develop our relationship in a way that feels progressive. We want to explore other ways to have sex and not stay as the lovers that we are now. At the start, I wasn't attracted to Benji – there were no romantic or sexual feelings, but I felt this strong pull towards him that I couldn't understand. I cared about him and his opinion. He was an important person in my professional and personal life. We had lots of things in common. Then, when he told me his feelings, that the smell of my perfume made him crazy, it opened up another dimension. Our relationship developed. The first time Benji stayed at my place, we didn't sleep at all. We stayed up all night caressing each other through our clothes and looking up at the full moon. It was special. And it was still exciting teasing and building the sexual tension between us with no penetration or orgasm. Benji and I now run a business together, where we're the only employees, and sometimes we roleplay that he's the boss and I'm his secretary. We find that dynamic exciting. We have sex in the office, and use our workspace as part of the fantasy. Since we've been together, I feel free to be more myself, to wear the clothes I want, to say what I want. He speaks to my values of freedom and happiness.
Yahoo
24-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Couple Opened Their Home to a Struggling Friend. Now, Everyone Expects a Free Place to Stay
A woman took to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for telling several friends and family members they couldn't stay at her home long term The Redditor explains that she and her husband do not have any children and live in a 4,200-square-foot home The couple vowed not to open their home again after previously allowing a friend to stay with them for six monthsA woman is turning to Reddit for advice after repeatedly being asked to open her home to friends and family in need, despite being taken advantage of in the past. In a post, she shares the challenges of maintaining boundaries while living in a spacious 4,200-square-foot home in a beautiful neighborhood, which she describes as her and her husband's 'happy place.' Several years ago, the child-free couple agreed to help a friend who was going through a divorce. 'What was supposed to be a few weeks ended up being six months before we kicked her out,' she writes. The situation spiraled out of control when their friend's alcoholism created significant tension in the household. After finally asking her to leave, the couple agreed that no one would be allowed to stay longer than a short visit, aside from the holidays. Since then, however, they've faced a string of requests from friends and family members hoping to move in. 'My dad's ex-wife wanted to move in as she was having financial issues: we said NO,' the poster explains. Another time, her uncle asked them to take in his daughter and her four children, who were experiencing homelessness due to the cousin's struggles with addiction. 'So it's OK to make our environment unstable???' she questioned rhetorically, emphasizing that they firmly declined. Most recently, one of the couple's friends has repeatedly hinted at moving in due to the ample space in their home. Despite their efforts to deflect these comments with humor, the woman admits that it's becoming increasingly difficult to handle. "It does feel like people come out of the woodwork,' she writes, adding that this latest friend brings up the idea 'all the time.' While they try to make light of the situation, she confesses that it feels disheartening and even bullying at times. Now, the woman is wondering if she and her husband are morally making the right decision by standing firm in their boundaries. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Many Reddit users affirmed the couple's stance. One writes, 'OP and her husband aren't being cruel, they're just protecting their home and peace. Having a big house doesn't mean it's a free-for-all, and it's wild how many people feel entitled to their space. Setting that boundary was 100% the right call.' Another shares, 'You are not running a B&B. Just because you have space it doesn't mean friends or family are entitled to it. No is a complete answer and it's ok to protect your own peace.' Read the original article on People
Yahoo
11-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
DEAR ABBY: Ex-wife pops up after four decades to explain
DEAR ABBY: When my first wife and I were in our early 20s, she left me for another man. It was difficult, but I worked through it, learned to trust again and remarried a few years later. This may be hard to believe, but 46 years later, my ex-wife thought it would be a good idea to try to connect through social media. I knew how to find her if I wanted to, but I had no desire to relive that memory. I made the mistake of replying that I didn't think it was a good idea to connect. Unfortunately, that response led to her trying to explain why things happened in the past. It seems she didn't realize that once you dump someone, you forgo the right to be friends, regardless of how long ago it has been. Her explanation brought back much of the pain I felt so long ago. Please let your readers know that once you divorce, it is over forever, so hopefully they won't have to deal with this like I have. — DISAPPOINTED IN THE EAST DEAR DISAPPOINTED: I am passing along your message. However, some people can't just move on with their lives after a divorce because they are tied together by their children. What your first wife may have wanted was forgiveness from you, or help in forgiving herself, but you were not obligated to relieve her of her guilt. I'm glad you have firmly closed that unhappy chapter in your life. Now, go on. Live your life and don't look back. DEAR ABBY: My husband constantly tells me everything I do is wrong. He was in the Army for 23 years. We have been together for five years but married for only 2 1/2 of them. When I try to cook, he tells me that's not the way to do it. I used to love cooking, but now I hate it, so I quit trying, although I still cook whenever he's gone. He is the only one of us with an income, but he said he doesn't want me working because of my health problems. He had a quadruple bypass six months ago and it changed him for the worse. His recovery was remarkable, but he began drinking. He no longer talks to me — he yells and argues from the time I get up until I go to bed. I'm at the end of my rope and not sure what to do. I love him, but I can't live like this anymore. Please give me some ideas on what to do. — HURTING IN SOUTH CAROLINA DEAR HURTING: Start looking for a job. It may give you a degree of independence and get you out of the house. Your husband was already controlling before his surgery, and you need space to breathe. If his emotional abuse continues contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) and describe what has been going on. Although you love your husband, you may have to decide if you can remain with the status quo. DEAR READERS: I wish a very Happy Mother's Day to mothers everywhere — birth mothers, adoptive and foster mothers, stepmothers, grandmothers who are raising their grandchildren, as well as dual-role dads. Orchids to all of you for the love you give not only today, but each and every day. — LOVE, ABBY — Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
