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Daily Mail
13-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Leave us alone! Furious pensioners in sleepy rural village insist they are NOT swingers and that they want nothing to do with 'outrageous' sex festival set to take place in their local field
As temperatures soar across the country, it is heating up in a sleepy Midlands village with the 'unwelcome' arrival of a sex festival. Residents from Allington a town on the outskirts of Grantham, Lincolnshire, fear that their idyllic hometown has now become' synonymous with swingers!' Retired business consultant David hit out at the 'unwanted sleaze on our doorsteps' and believes such events should be kept further afield. He has lived in quaint Allington for 20 years and said: 'I'm not being a prude or being NIMBY but if consenting adults are behaving like that, don't do it in our space!' David, 71, who declined to be fully named said the Swingathon now running in his desirable village for the fourth year was 'beyond a joke.' The grandfather said: 'Our beautiful and peaceful little village has become synonymous with swingers. It's outrageous, and we don't welcome it. 'We don't want it here. It is sleaze on our doorstep.' He was speaking out ahead of an X-rated Swingathon being staged next weekend in huge fields in the outskirts of his village. The sex and fetish festival features 'play tents', pole dancing, hot tubs, foam parties, mobile dungeons and butt-plug bingo. Billed as an 'alternative lifestyle festival' with tickets costing up to £265 with a camping spot, revellers can also browse and buy sex toys, cool each other down with water hoses and frolic around naked or in skimpy underwear. Marquees are filled with kinky whips and chains, spanking paddles and bondage equipment. Another shocked local Mark told MailOnline: 'The mind boggles and it's not something we really want our village to be associated with.' The accountant, 61, and father-of-two teenage daughters, added: 'As along as they keep their activities away from view, I suppose we can't complain. 'But we don't want to be known as the most sexually liberated village in Britain. 'We're more about tea and cake fairs at the the village hall, vegetable and produce shows, parish council meetings, cycling and walking. 'In 2020 we were voted the best kept village in the county!' He pointed out that the fields where the sex festivals is being held belongs to Arena UK, a championship equestrian show ground which this weekend is hosting a qualifying showjumping and dressage event. Allington is described as a 'charming village situated on the edge of the beautiful Vale of Belvoir' which has just one pub The Welby Arms, a primary school, kids' playground and wedding and function venue Allington Manor but not one single shop. In contrast, some locals say they have no problem with the raunchy festival. Nep Reeves joked: 'We're all waiting for an invite!' The retired HGV driver: 'None of the visitors bothers us. They come in from the A1, have their fun, then go out.' Mr Reeves, who has lived in the village for 25 years, said: 'It's a lovely place, very quiet and peaceful. It is mainly retired people here. 'The Swingathon use to be held at another venue but it's been in our village for the past three of four years and is now in its fifth year in Lincolnshire.' He added: 'It's all a bit of fun and doesn't cause me or my family any concern.' His neighbour Chris Dicken said: 'I have no strong feelings either way.' The 80-year-old grandad grinned: 'I'd probably be jealous of them all! 'It doesn't make me angry, I'm very open-minded.' A woman, whose grand daughter attends the primary school, said: 'We all know the sex festival goes on which people from all over come to. 'But we've know idea if people from the village attend. 'I don't have a problem with the carryings on of consenting adults - whatever floats their boat!' Engineer Jack Webster said of the raunchy revellers: 'They can do whatever they want to, we don't even notice they are there.' The dad-of-two, 38, added: 'There's a couple of jokes on the local WhatsApp group with people asking "Are you going to the Swingathon?" But it's all light hearted banter which passes after 24 hours.' Dawn Wilson, who grew up in the village and is a bar tender at the only pub, said: 'I know some people have been shocked by the festival but it doesn't bother me one bit! 'Whether the visitors come into the pub I have no idea because they don't heave a big sign on their heads saying 'We're swingers!' She added: 'Most of us find it quite funny. It's not illegal and they're not causing us any bother.'
Telegraph
18-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Telegraph
Britain is kinkier in bed than you think
Many moons ago, when I was editor of Erotic Review, my S&M columnist – a former BBC children's TV presenter – told me her idea of nirvana was to don fetish gear and get soundly thrashed. I said, 'Forget the pain, I'm all about the pleasure.' She chided me: 'You're so vanilla!' I remain an unrepentant sybarite, so I approached curator Anastasiia Fedorova's book Second Skin: Inside the Worlds of Fetish, Kink and Deviant Desire, about the British fetish scene, with the curiosity of a dungeon tourist. There's plenty of perverse pastimes to wrap your head around here: leather, latex, fetish clubs, not to mention the key roles of dominatrix and gimp (mute sub in identity-obscuring mask). Fedorova traces her own inclination for the fetish scene to her Russian upbringing during the 1990s, when fake designer garments started to flood the black market. The badly-embroidered Medusa head on her mother's knock-off Versace trousers became symbolic of the lust for a Western life: 'In its own way my childhood provided me with an intense crash course on capitalism and its power to elevate quotidian consumer objects into fetishes.' Even so, Fedorova didn't start to explore the fetish realm until the start of lockdown in London (where she's now based). Starved of human touch, she became fascinated by kinksters, unable to go out, posting social-media photos of themselves wearing latex garments at home: 'People of all genders, from all corners of the world, showed off limbs transformed by glossy rubber skins on their sofas and beds.' She relished the element of performance in all this; the taboo element appealed to her too, as a queer-identifying woman – a verboten identity in Putin's Russia. As Fedorova points out, such metamorphoses don't come cheap. Her first catsuit sets her back £257 (the Matrix model, from London-based Libidex), and she road-tests it at an anonymous hotel. She excels at sensual writing: 'We went slowly: two latex-clad cyborgian beings moving around one another in a careful choreography… I thought of all the blood and electricity running through his body under the latex.' Second Skin interweaves vivid personal experience and interviews with fascinating historical research. Few will be surprised to learn that the UK's fetish culture finds its roots in Charles Macintosh's 1823 patent for his latex and cloth raincoat, leading to an early fetish known as 'macking' – hence the expression 'dirty mac'. It was only much later that a London-based Mackintosh Society, founded in 1967 by Leon Chead, became 'one of the world's first fetish organisations'. I'm taking this snippet on trust: Google, for instance, seems to have no record of Chead. But I'd imagine that much of the material Fedorova examined at the UK Leather and Fetish Archive, in London's Bishopsgate, isn't readily available online, and with good reason. The kink scene has long provoked close interest from the police. Fedorova reminds us of Operation Spanner, which saw 16 gay men prosecuted in the 1980s for private, consensual sadomasochistic acts, on the grounds that the acts involved 'actual bodily harm'. I was also glad to be reminded of John Sutcliffe, who trained as an aircraft engineer and served in the RAF while harbouring a fetish for rubber and leather. In 1957 he set up Atomage in Hampstead, a company manufacturing rubber and leather motorcycle gear 'for lady pillion riders'. He was responsible for Marianne Faithfull 's leather catsuit in the 1968 film The Girl on a Motorcycle. He went on to set up Atomage magazine in 1972, publishing photos of his customers posing in middle-class homes and 'manicured' gardens, dressed head-to-toe in bondage gear. This very British incarnation of private perversity came to an end in 1982 when Sutcliffe published Jim Dickson's erotic novel The Story of Gerda. He was prosecuted for obscenity; his back stock of magazines and printing plates were destroyed. He died not long afterwards. For all these historical diversions, the balance of Fedorova's book tilts in favour of today's fetish realm, with particular reference to LGBTQ+ practitioners and other marginalised communities. 'Rubber,' she writes, 'allows one to channel a creature devoid of gender or social attributes.' Maybe: but latex also allows some fetishists to emphasise breasts, bottoms and genitals to cartoonish proportions. There's rather too much exposition of far-from-groundbreaking contemporary art for this reader's taste, and some lines can read like captions in a Hoxton gallery patronised only by Gen Y and Z: 'Pleasure is key to traversing that space between language and sensation, between identity and change.' I also enjoyed: 'One must resist idealising a homogenous vision of the leather community.' Must one? But then people in their 20s and 30s are surely the intended audience. Fedorova's cultural references tend to be recent: the TV series Industry, fashionistas such as Isamaya Ffrench, Instagram influencers such as dominatrix Eva Oh. Everyone's pronouns seem to be 'them/they', and the author occasionally ties herself in moral knots, as when she discusses Tom O Finland's more 'problematic' illustrations from the 1950s and '60s – so famous his homoerotic images appeared on a set of Finnish stamps in 2014 – which frequently fetishise police and military uniform. I may not be the reader Fedorova envisioned, being 57 and possessed of the desire to laugh at life's absurdity – sex included. Often, for us in Britain, life is a comedy, but for Russians, all too understandably, it's a tragedy: and Fedorova convincingly makes the link between her own heritage, a lifelong struggle with anxiety and gradual immersion in the fetish world. The following passage, where the author disrobes from her catsuit, is almost unbearably moving: '[Latex] helps you to transcend the restlessness and sadness which comes with having flesh, blood and skin. Sometimes, after the pressure is released and the catsuit is at your feet in a sweaty pile, it feels like grief.' That, I could imagine.
News.com.au
01-06-2025
- Business
- News.com.au
‘I wasn't even naked': Unique way 35-year-old makes money
You might think making X-rated content doesn't involve much creativity, but not the way Alix Lynx does it. Ms Lynx, 35, has been in the industry for a decade now, and she's found a pretty wild way to ensure that her work doesn't become stale. She's found an interesting niche online, creating what she describes as 'crazy custom' videos for men, and it's probably not what you're thinking. The 35-year-old does everything from role-playing as a magic genie to filming a video with self-effects so it looked like she was multiplying on screen. She's also done a video in which she spends the entire time pretending to be swallowed up by quicksand, and she's even gotten her snout involved. 'I once did a 20-minute custom video just measuring my nose. I wasn't even naked,' she told Ms Lynx explained that when people have a particular type of fantasy and request a really specific scenario, like pretending she's a genie, she often doesn't even have to take her clothes off. 'They don't care about the nudity. It is about the thing,' she said. 'I have had ballooning requests, a fetish where I had a guy send me balloons that are literally the size of a rocking chair, and I blew them all up in my living room, and I bounced on them, and that's it. There's no explicit content.' The creator explained that people are very specific with their preferences and requests when they're asking for tailored content. 'From armpit shots and muscle flexing to feet and niche outfit combinations,' she said. 'I truly consider what I do as art, and it's honestly probably the most personal, intimate thing you could request from someone. It's so unique that it's almost irreplaceable. You can't really put a price on that kind of experience.' Ms Lynx takes turning their fantasies into reality very seriously. She hires directors, rents locations, hires make-up artists and works hard to make the videos look as real as possible. 'I'm super flexible. I offer different payment options and plans and I try to give people multiple ways to be part of my world,' she said. One of the reasons Ms Lynx understands the power of visual content beyond just getting naked is her background. She left her first corporate job, where she was earning $25 an hour, in 2014, and from there, she made $500 a day doing webcam work and filming adult videos. Then around 2018 she started using a subscription service to create X-rated content and she's slowly but surely built up a dedicated following she's now making five figures a month. 'When people say 'overnight success takes ten years' I really relate to that. That is exactly how it has been for me,' she said. When it comes to pricing, Ms Lynx said it really 'depends' on what someone wants, arguing that just like a coffee, the price is worked out based on how complex the order is. 'How I actually set my prices, though, has a lot to do with intuition. I've been filming customs for over 10 years,' she said. 'I've been in this business a long time. I know what feels aligned, what feels right, like I'm not undercharging, but I'm also not overcharging. I genuinely spend time getting quiet with myself and reflecting before setting those numbers.' That doesn't mean she doesn't have a base range; she charges between $700 and $2500 for five minutes, but it depends on what people are asking for. 'I upcharge for a lot of different things depending on how complex or niche the request,' she said. Ms Lynx credits her success and out-of-the-box thinking with the fact that she's always known she'd have to work hard to succeed. 'I'm determined, I'm motivated, I'm driven. A lot of that comes from how I grew up. There was always arguing, always stress about money,' she said. 'Constant scrimping, constant pinching. I just knew I was never going to live like that. Now, I get to not only support myself, but share amazing experiences with my family and friends, and that means everything to me.' Earning big money has been a game-changer for the X-rated creator but mostly because she loves the 'freedom' that money can give you. Her income is also something she needs to invest back into herself, whether that's by being able to afford healthy food to keep herself feeling good or splurging on an expensive beauty procedure. 'I take personal development courses. I buy books to learn and grow from. I work with business coaches. I can hire people like my publicist and people who support me with marketing strategy,' she said. 'On the practical side, I'm also putting a lot of money away for retirement. I invest a lot. I have my hands in a lot of different areas, whether it's the stock market, private equity, or soon, real estate,' she said. 'That's the next thing on my horizon, and I'm so incredibly grateful for that.'
Sky News
21-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Sky News
Diddy trial latest: Court to resume after sex tape blackmail claim; rapper Kid Cudi expected to testify
Defence objects to male escort's 'fetish' description Asked about Cassie's "enjoyment level," Hayes says: "We were creating a sexy scene that was enjoyable for her partner, it was a fetish type thing". The defence object to this description. Hayes goes on: "I did occasionally see her sigh or wince from the frequency of the direction, it was random". He says prior to sex, Cassie would chat to him about his business and how things were going, what he calls "typical interaction". He said during sex, Cassie was "definitely seeking cues" and would look "in the direction of Combs". When asked, he says Cassie never refused to perform with him. "Sometimes I felt anxiety, so there were problems getting and obtaining an erection," he adds. He says he would take "Cialis" or "Viagra" to try to tackle the issue. Hayes says the last time he performed, in March 2015, Diddy was "assertive" and "aggressive" which left him and Cassie "startled" He said he was unable to perform, and although he was paid, he wasn't called back again.
The Sun
17-05-2025
- General
- The Sun
My husband can't kick his secret hosiery fetish… I'm not sure if I should look past his weird kink
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN a pair of laddered tights fell out of my husband's suitcase my heart sank. I knew he'd started up his fetish again. We've been married for five years, and on the surface we're a happy couple. I'm 34, he's 38 and we're expecting our first child. Our sex life is fulfilling and varied, and we get along very well. But he has a fetish for buying used tights and stockings. I knew about his secret habit before we got married. One weekend I was staying over at his and tried to help him by cleaning and tidying a bit. As I gathered up laundry in his bedroom, I found his stash. I assumed he was seeing someone else and was set to dump him, but he said he'd bought them online and showed me proof. There was nothing sexual in his communications with the seller, he'd even chatted to her about me. It was a business deal. I made him promise to stop, and he agreed. But the other day he returned tired from a business trip and went straight to bed. Wanting to help him out, I went to empty his case into the laundry basket and a pair of tatty black stockings fell out. To put it delicately, they had clearly been worn for several days. I put them on the kitchen table and left to stay with my parents. But I don't know what to do. We're so happy, and we have a baby on the way. Should I look past this weird hobby and focus on the good things? Or is this a step too far? DEIDRE SAYS: This is a question of boundaries – ask yourself what you are happy to accept in your marriage. Many people with this fetish become aroused by the feel or smell of these used items, for others the arousal comes from wearing, or asking their partner to wear the clothes. It's thought these fetishes are rooted in childhood with some linking early sexual awakening with these items, while other experts feel it is simply something you are born with – a little like your sexuality. A lot of people have fetishes, and those relating to used items of clothing, like underwear and shoes, are common. It would help you both to talk to a sexual therapist. Contact the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists ( which can connect you to a reputable counsellor. And you should read my support pack, Fetish Worries, which will give you lots more information and advice. But I must warn you, fetishes like these usually do not go away. DITCHED BY TEXT AFTER TEN YEARS DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner of ten years dumped me by text. I still don't know why. I have no closure, and I can't move on. We were both in our twenties when we met. I was a firefighter and had been called to her block of flats when there was a fire. It felt like we were destined to meet because I fell for her at first sight. Within a few weeks I had moved into her house, and we were very happy. Our sex life was incredible, and we never argued. After a few years things changed. I made friends with a woman at a cycling club and we began to spend time together, training. My partner knew all about it and it was above board, innocent – the woman was married. Nothing ever happened and my partner never complained. A few years later, my partner was diagnosed with anxiety and prescribed medication. That was when the problems started. She became more sociable, and began going out three or four nights a week. Then she started staying away for weekends. It was during one of those extended absences that she texted me, late one night. A two-line text said we were over and asked me to move out of her house before she got home. No explanation, just ten years wiped away like they had meant nothing. I moved out and didn't hear from her again. I tried calling but she didn't answer. I'm blocked from her social media. I don't want to stalk or harass her so there's nothing I can do. But the questions haunt me. What did I do wrong? DEIDRE SAYS: The emotion you are feeling is grief. You're grieving the loss of this relationship, and of the future you'd planned together. Break-ups can feel like a bereavement when you've been together a long time. It's doubly difficult to move on when you don't understand what happened. And it seems she is not willing to explain. So the best thing you can do is accept your relationship is finished and that it's time to prioritise looking after yourself and creating a new life. Read my support pack, Moving On. When you're ready to date again, my support pack Finding The Love Of Your Life will guide you. Remember, nothing stays the same for long, whether good or bad. You will move to a better headspace where you are feeling positive about what is to come. DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY time we argue, my boyfriend insults me. We're both 49 and met in a divorce support group. At first, he seemed funny and kind, unlike my ex. But when we had our first row, he started calling me awful names, like old, fat, ugly and dull. The next day he was fine so I put it down to anger. But now he does it every time we fall out. It's humiliating and embarrassing – I'm worried my neighbours can hear. Having told him it upset me, he promised to stop. But the next time we argued, the put-downs started again. Should I leave? DEIDRE SAYS: Alarm bells are ringing. This sounds like a very toxic situation. Some people do lose control of their tongue when they're angry, but even after you explained that it hurt you, he still made no effort to stop. I think your instincts might be correct: Leaving him could be your best option. He is unlikely to change. My Abusive Partner? support pack can help you make your decision. FAMILY FORUM DEAR DEIDRE: I'M being gradually edged out of family gatherings and I don't know what to do. I'm a 64-year-old widower, my brother is 65. Being so close in age, we were like twins growing up. When he married his wife 20 years ago, I was quite happy for him. I didn't particularly take to her because she came across as bossy and domineering. However, my brother seemed content, so I didn't say anything. Over the years, I've begun to see him less and less. We always used to have big family Christmases. When our parents died, my brother took over hosting duties. I used to love attending, especially after my wife died. But the past two years, they claimed their house was 'too cramped' and there wasn't room for me. Now their eldest son is getting married this summer. I've always doted on my nephew, so I was looking forward to attending and staying in the same hotel as everyone else. But when I asked my brother for details to book my room, he said the hotel was 'full' and that there was only space for me to attend the evening reception, so maybe I'd better not bother. He sounded rushed and stressed telling me this news. I suspect it's my sister in law's idea, not his. I don't want to speak up and cause a family feud, so I'm stuck. DEIDRE SAYS: I understand why this is very hurtful for you. You must feel excluded and snubbed. It sounds like your sister-in-law is jealous of the closeness you shared with your brother. Some people – especially those who want to control their partner – can feel threatened by a relative's influence. They see you as someone who has the power to upset their dominance, so they prefer to keep you at arms' length. I understand why you don't want to spark a rift, but I'm afraid that means there's little you can do. I'd concentrate on seeing your brother and nephew separately from your sister-in-law. If you maintain a strong relationship with them, they might be encouraged to stand up for you themselves, and insist you get invited to events. CAN'T GET IT UP DEAR DEIDRE: COULD my difficulty getting an erection be because I masturbated a lot when I was a teenager? I'm 22 and in a happy, stable relationship with my first ever girlfriend. But every time we try to have sex, I can't get an erection. She worries it's because I don't fancy her – but I do. She's gorgeous. My body just doesn't seem to work. I'm managing to satisfy her in other ways but this is frustrating us both. Did I break my equipment? DEIDRE SAYS: It is almost impossible that your teenage masturbation could in any way 'break' your bits. Lots of people masturbate frequently – even several times a day - when they're young. It's natural and harmless. It's more likely anxiety is causing you to freeze down below. My support pack Solving Erection Problems will teach you techniques that will help. I would also recommend you see a doctor to rule out any physical causes. Some health issues do lead to erection problems, so it would be wise to rule those out.
