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Yahoo
14 hours ago
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Richard Madeley: My husband wants us to get a new dog, but I'm still grieving for our old one
Dear Richard, Our much-loved Cairn Terrier recently died – she had got to a good age but it was quite sudden when it happened. My husband felt we should get a puppy of the same breed at the earliest opportunity, so we didn't get out of the habit of looking after a pet, and also so our children could get to know it before they went back to university. But I felt we should wait: it was just too soon for me and I didn't want to betray our dog's memory, if that's not a silly way of putting it. I also suggested it would be more ethical to get a rescue, but he was very hostile to the idea. The problem is that a pure-bred Cairn puppy has become available and of course she is absolutely gorgeous. If we don't snap her up someone else will. I am now genuinely torn, but I still feel my plan – to wait six months and then find a rescue – is the right one. If I insist on that plan, my husband won't refuse, but I can feel myself wavering. What do you think? – B Dear B, I think the unstated tension in your letter – because you may genuinely be unaware of it – is the difference in the way individuals grieve, whether that's for a parent, or a sibling, or a child, or, yes, a much-beloved pet. I think that differential is largely what's at play here. Your husband wants to 'move on'; meanwhile you need time to come to terms with your loss. There's nothing wrong with either response – it's just that they don't match up and you're beginning to glare at each other across the gulf. So... our old friend 'compromise' enters the frame. You need time; he craves action. You're going to have to negotiate the healing process. All I can suggest is that you talk it through, with kindness and gentleness, to find the least painful solution for both of you. I can't believe that the opportunity to secure a Cairn puppy won't repeat itself, so perhaps it's your husband who should consider giving way. But be kind to each other. This is all about coping with grief. We all have our different ways. Good luck. You can find more of Richard Madeley's advice here or submit your own dilemma below. Broaden your horizons with award-winning British journalism. Try The Telegraph free for 1 month with unlimited access to our award-winning website, exclusive app, money-saving offers and more. Solve the daily Crossword
BBC News
2 days ago
- General
- BBC News
Bridgnorth man credits grief education campaign to mum's death
At just 12 years old, John Adams lost his mum, his father openly talked about death and grieving afterwards, Mr Adams found that in school, communication around the subject was "non-existent".Becoming a funeral director at Perry & Phillips in his hometown of Bridgnorth, Shropshire, opened his eyes - he said adults appeared scared to get children involved in funerals, or to speak to them about death at was in 2022 that he started campaigning to get grieving education into the curriculum, and this week, he has achieved that goal. On Tuesday, the Department for Education published its statutory guidance on relationships education, relationships and sex education and health said by the end of primary school, pupils should be taught that change, loss and bereavement can provoke a range of feelings, that grief is a natural response to bereavement, and that everyone grieves the end of secondary school, they should be taught how families and relationships change over time, including through birth, death, separation and new relationships. "I received a phone call on Tuesday," Mr Adams said, "to say it's happened and it's now going into the guidance, and to congratulate me." "It's been relentless. I haven't stopped, it's become who I am. So it's a moment to pause and reflect on what's been achieved."I'm also aware there's more work to do now – it's about what it looks like in the curriculum." 'Death is the only guarantee in life' It was a long road to this point - Mr Adams became president of the National Association of Funeral Directors in 2022, and spoke then about his goal."The idea of it, is that we have more of an idea of the emotions that are affiliated with when someone dies," he said."It's the only guarantee in life, and therefore we should be more informed about what these emotions are and how we deal with them."In October 2022, he launched a parliamentary petition which amassed more than 11,000 signatures. It was debated in Parliament in December 2024."Having a base level within school, I recognise that's where it needs to start," he said."So, when these young people become adults, they have more awareness of knowing how to communicate about death dying and bereavement." Looking ahead, Mr Adams has been asked to help shape how the subject is told the BBC that the first steps would be to provide support and reassurance for teachers who would be delivering the education."The right sessions will come from that," he on the announcement, he said: "My mum, Maria, has been the fuel for the whole of this process and campaign – she's pushed me on. "I hope that she'd be pleased and proud that despite being such a sad time when I was 12, that something good has come of it to help other people." Follow BBC Shropshire on BBC Sounds, Facebook, X and Instagram.
Daily Mail
4 days ago
- Daily Mail
Widow's agony as man found dead in council loo six days after he was reported missing
A grieving widow is demanding answers after her husband's body was found in a locked toilet cubicle at a council's head office - six days after he went missing. Heartbroken Julie Stephen says she's 'baffled' why nobody had realised her 38-year-old partner Sean was still in the loo cubicle at Edinburgh City Chambers. The 47-year-old had been chatting with her spouse - who complained of feeling unwell - on the phone as he went into the local authority's Royal Mile buildings on July 1. But she was unable to reach him later on, she reported him missing. However, he wasn't discovered until almost a week later. Speaking on a TikTok LIVE Mrs Stephen said: 'There's CCTV footage of him on the phone to me walking up the Royal Mile and into the council building. 'He was healthy but said he was feeling dizzy and sick. He said he was going to get a taxi. 'I came off the phone when he was going to do the toilet. That was the last time I spoke to him. 'It baffles me. 'There are security guards, cleaners and someone who sits at reception. 'The CID are still digging. 'Could he have been saved? These are questions which will be in my head for rest of my life.' Ms Stephen posted a picture of him online with the caption, 'Shame on Edinburgh district council.' The couple had been married since 2019 and she said she knew something was wrong when Sean wasn't answering his phone, prompting her to call 999 that evening. She added: 'I spoke to police on the phone but the first response I got was he's 38 years old. He couldn't be a missing person (yet) because of his age. 'We spent a week looking for him and put flyers in shops. 'We went searching everywhere. We were two minutes away from him, we didn't expect him to be in a locked building. 'When they found him, his body was so decomposed. I couldn't even see his body. 'I had to give his toothbrush for DNA. 'This could happen to anybody. It's horrible, it's torture.' A GoFundMe page has been set up by friends to help raise funds to cover the funeral costs for the 'loving gentle giant'. Ms Stephen said: 'I'm emotionally drained. I'm just asking for help. 'I just want to bring his body home and lay him to rest. 'I will get the answers but right now I just need to lay him to rest.' A spokesman for the city council said: 'We're continuing to assist Police Scotland with their inquiries and can't comment any further at this stage.' A police spokesman said: 'At 9.20pm on Tuesday, 1 July, 2025 we received a report of concern for a 38-year-old man in the Edinburgh area who failed to make an pre-arranged appointment. 'Enquiries were carried out to trace him and he was traced deceased on Monday, 7 July in the High Street area of Edinburgh.'
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Grieving Caitlyn Jenner seen for first time since tragic death of longtime friend and manager, Sophia Hutchins
Caitlyn Jenner was spotted for the first time since losing her longtime friend and manager, Sophia Hutchins, in a tragic accident. Photos showed Jenner grabbing some Starbucks all by her lonesome in Malibu, Calif., on Thursday. Jenner seemed to be in a good mood as she smiled and waved for the paparazzi in the parking lot before she got into her car where Hutchins' dog, Hutchens, was waiting for her. Jenner wore a short sleeve light blue T-shirt and light denim distressed shorts. She finished her look with gray sneakers, tall white socks, a black purse and a visor. The former Olympian, 75, was later spotted on Friday getting consoled by friends as she went for a grocery run in her neighborhood. Jenner was pictured wearing a light blue long sleeve shirt and gray track pants for the food store outing. In the photos obtained by Page Six, she could be seen leaving the grocery store with Hutchins' mother where they bumped into two women in the parking lot. At one point, one of the ladies dressed in a black romper was seen giving Jenner a hug as they exchanged words. Jenner notably wore a pair of black shades for both outings. Hutchins, who was 29 at the time of her death, was driving near Jenner's $3.5 million Malibu condo when her ATV collided with the bumper of a moving car. The impact caused Hutchins and her ATV vehicle to fall off the road and down a 350-foot ravine, police sources told the outlet. Emergency responders pronounced her dead at the scene. No one else was injured. Footage of the incident, which aired on Wednesday afternoon, showed the mangled blue ATV sitting atop an upside-down vehicle that had previously crashed in the same spot. Hutchins met the 'Keeping Up with the Kardashians' alum, 75, through their mutual hairstylist in 2015. 'We met through our hairstylists. He was doing my hair one day and was like, 'I'm going to a photoshoot after this, something with Caitlyn and MAC. And Caitlyn would like to meet you,'' Hutchins, who previously referred to Jenner as her 'partner in life,' recalled to 'Juicy Scoop' podcast listeners in 2020. Jenner has not yet issued a statement regarding Hutchins' tragic passing.
Daily Mail
5 days ago
- Daily Mail
Parents speak from beyond the grave after they died alongside child in paradise beach resort
A grieving daughter has revealed details of her last conversations with her mother, who was found dead inside a Colombia resort hotel room with her youngest sibling and her stepfather. The body of Maryeli Canro's mother, Viviana Canro, was found on the floor by her grandfather, Orlando Canro, while her four-year-old brother, Kevin Martínez, and his father, Tito Martínez, were discovered on the bed of room 404 at the Toné Blue Hotel in San Andrés last Friday. Maryeli, 25, told Noticias Caracol that she remained behind in Bogotá to look after her mother's hair salon while she enjoyed the trip to celebrate Father's Day and her grandmother's birthday. Maryeli, the oldest of Viviana's three children, recalled placing a video call via WhatsApp around 8:30 pm last Thursday. 'The three of them snuggled up in bed. Ready to rest,' Maryeli recalled. '[They were] calm and happy in their room. They were all happy.' However, Maryeli had to end the call because she had to tend to a customer and thought about calling them again at around 10:30pm. 'I checked my mom's last connection [on WhatsApp] and it was at 8:30,' she remembered. 'And I said, 'No, it's already very late. They must be resting because they're going to get up early tomorrow.' Maryeli confirmed the family, including her grandparents, checked in at the Toné Blue Hotel last Wednesday and not the Portobelo Hotel, where it was initially reported that her loved were spending their vacation. Viviana, Maryeli explained, was extremely upset over what she said were the hotel room's rotting conditions. 'We arrived at the Toné (hotel). We just arrived, yes. That hotel is really, really moisty. But you could see how moist it is, it smells really, really bad,' Viviana said in an WhatsApp audio message that Maryeli shared with Noticias Caracol. Viviana complained that the room did not have any 'toilet paper' available and regretted she had booked her parents room in the same property. 'They don't have bathrooms; they don't have towels. Oh, no, I felt sorry for them. I felt bad for my parents. No, I don't know what to do,' she said. In another audio message, Viviana told Maryeli that she had asked a female staff member about being moved into a different room. 'Yes, I said to the girl, "Can you change the room?" But then she answered me all rudely, "But not today, maybe tomorrow,"' Viviana said. 'Everything has changed so much, the rooms are dirty, they don't clean them,' the late mother wrote in a message that her daughter shared with Noticias Caracol. 'It's ugly, it smells bad.' Orlando told the outlet that he too complained about his room's condition to his daughter. 'I went down to tell her: ''My love, that room is horrible. It's so filthy, dirty, no towels, no toilet paper, nothing,"' he said. He recalled Viviana telling him, ''Oh, Daddy, I didn't like this hotel. That room smells awful.'' 'I don't know, it had a kind of weird smell, like mold,' Orlando said. 'We let it go unnoticed, and look at the consequences.' Maryeli revealed that her little brother Kevin was already feeling ill prior to arriving at the hotel from the airport and that he was still vomiting the following day. Initial reports from the medical examiner's office found that all three victims died from poisoning. Orlando visited the medical examiner's office and said he was informed that Kevin had 'nothing unusual in his stomach, that it was clean … and that his liver was clean.' He is still awaiting for results from an autopsy for his daughter and son-in-law. San Andrés Police Department colonel James Totena told Blue Radio that foul play had been ruled out and that they are waiting for the results of the autopsies. 'The poisoning could be airborne or ingested,' Totena said. 'Since there are no signs of violence, this is the most reasonable hypothesis for now, but the exact cause will be determined by the Medical Examiner.'
