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My gay lover is threatening to send snaps of us having sex to my fiancée if I end our affair… my world is imploding
My gay lover is threatening to send snaps of us having sex to my fiancée if I end our affair… my world is imploding

The Sun

time7 days ago

  • The Sun

My gay lover is threatening to send snaps of us having sex to my fiancée if I end our affair… my world is imploding

DEAR DEIDRE: MY gay lover says he will send photos of us having sex to my fiancée if I insist on ending our affair. All of this turmoil has made me realise how much I love my fiancée and how I can't bear the thought of hurting her or losing her. I'm 34 and she is 32. How do I make my lover come to his senses? A couple of months ago, I went on a stag weekend with a group of mates. I ended up sharing a room with a friend from my university days. A lot of drinking took place and on the second morning I woke up in bed with him. Naked. I'm not gay or even bisexual. But when he awoke and started kissing me, I found myself responding and we had sex again. Sex with my fiancée has been rubbish lately, and it felt incredible to be passionate and physical with someone again. So, when we got home and he messaged to say he wanted to meet again, I couldn't help myself. Since then we've been having a secret, and increasingly risky but thrilling, affair. One night I let him take pictures of us in bed, which he promised he would immediately delete. But last weekend, my fiancée started talking about wanting a baby, and I came to my senses. Dear Deidre: Spotting the signs your partner is cheating I realised I had to end my affair or I'd lose her. I told my lover we needed to stop. I expected him to understand. Instead, he said he couldn't let me go and that if I didn't agree to continue our sex sessions, he'd send my partner the pictures. I don't know what to do. It feels like my life is about to implode. Those are crimes. You need to make it clear to him that you can and will go to the police. Please get advice from (0345 6000 459). If you have concerns about your sexuality, see my support pack, Bisexual Questions. It would be wise for you to have an STI check. Find your nearest sexual health clinic through As for your fiancée, if you love her you need to work on restoring intimacy so nothing like this can happen again. My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, may help. DEAR DEIDRE: CARING for my abusive stepson has ruined my marriage and my sex life. I'm just so drained and exhausted I struggle to be in the mood for intimacy. How can I rescue our relationship? I'm a 42-year-old man and last year married my girlfriend, who is 39. She has a son, 15, from a previous relationship. He clearly disliked me from the start five years ago. But since we got married he's been nasty and violent. After dealing with him, sex is the last thing on my mind. I have no energy. My wife feels rejected, and it's adding to the arguments we're having over her son. Even though we love each other, I sometimes think this marriage is too hard. What should I do? DEIDRE SAYS: Raising stepchildren is challenging, particularly teenagers. It sounds like your wife's son is angry about his parents ' break-up and resentful of the fact you've moved in with his mum. He probably wants to come between you, so it's important you and your wife present a united front. Get parenting support from (0808 800 2222). Stress often affects libido. Talk to your wife about this so she understands, and try to get some time alone to reconnect. Couples counselling might also improve your relationship and sex life. See my support packs, How Counselling Can Help and Reviving A Man's Sex Drive. DUMPED OVER HIS CANNABIS PROBLEM DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend went out for a cigarette, but never returned. We had been arguing a lot over his drug use, but he denied he had a problem. I know we can't be together while he smokes so much weed, but I'm devastated. We're both in our late twenties and we were together for four years. He wasn't into drugs at the start of our relationship, but smoked more and more – until it was all he cared about. I told him he couldn't do drugs at home, so he went to smoke at his mates' homes for days on end. A few weeks ago we had a massive row and he said he was going out for a cigarette. That was the last I saw of him. His mum said he was staying at his friend's house. He didn't reply to my messages, so I texted him to say we were over. But I miss him and worry so much. DEIDRE SAYS: Drugs don't just destroy the user's life, they have a terrible impact on loved ones. But, sadly, you can't support your ex-boyfriend unless he wants to be helped. And you've tried. As much as you love him, you must look after yourself too. Talking to someone will help you to heal. Read my support pack, Drug Worries, and see which helps people affected by another person's addictions. Website also provides information and support. EX GUILT-TRIPS ME FOR DATING DEAR DEIDRE: IT'S been years since my marriage broke up, so why do I feel so guilty about dating someone new? I haven't done anything wrong, but my ex- husband is making me feel like I'm cheating on him. I'm 45 and was married for 16 years to a man I met at college. We split up four years ago. Our marriage gradually fell apart, mainly because my husband was moody and argumentative and often put me down. Eventually, I got tired of being miserable, realising I only had one life. We agreed to separate and eventually divorced. We have remained friends since, but I've often felt he's too reliant on me for emotional support. Recently, I decided it was time to start dating again. I didn't want to be single any more. I met a lovely guy online, who I have been seeing for a couple of months. He's kind, funny and great in bed. My ex used to make me feel fat and unattractive, but my new guy clearly loves my body. As things are getting serious, I told my ex I'd met someone. He's been really off with me ever since. He's acting like I've betrayed him, even though we're not together. How can I stop feeling bad and enjoy my new relationship? DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex-husband put you down so much it's damaged your self-esteem, that's why you're questioning yourself. But you have nothing to feel guilty about. You deserve happiness with someone who values you. The fact you still give him emotional support despite how he treated you shows what a caring person you are. He clearly doesn't want to lose that. But it's time to put yourself first. My support pack, Raising Self-Esteem, should help you to rebuild your confidence, and another one, Standing Up For Yourself, will help you make it clear to your ex that his guilt trip won't work.

EXCLUSIVE Top surgeon in furious marriage split bust-up after he moved his boyfriend into ritzy harbourside mansion
EXCLUSIVE Top surgeon in furious marriage split bust-up after he moved his boyfriend into ritzy harbourside mansion

Daily Mail​

time21-07-2025

  • Daily Mail​

EXCLUSIVE Top surgeon in furious marriage split bust-up after he moved his boyfriend into ritzy harbourside mansion

A top Sydney surgeon locked in a bitter marital split has been living with his new lover and the lover's ex-boyfriend at his harbourside mansion on Sydney's ritzy north shore. Kidney transplant specialist Professor David Gracey split from his political lobbyist husband Michael Kauter, chairman and CEO of boutique government affairs advisory Strategic Political Counsel, in December. The estranged couple's $9.5million Mosman mansion is now home to Dr Gracey, his new boyfriend Brooke McFarlane and McFarlane's art dealer ex, Jason Bonham. Mr Kauter - the majority owner of the home - moved out shortly before Mr McFarlane and Mr Bonham moved in. But he says two more people - and their dog - are also now 'squatting' in the basement of his former home. The multimillionaire lobbyist was arrested by police after he turned up at his ex-husband's surgery for what said was a routine check-up, but the charges were withdrawn in June. An outstanding charge against him, involving the alleged theft of a photo frame and shirt, was diverted under a mental health Section 14 and due for finalisation in August. 'The whole situation is, in my view, regrettable and frankly sad, but there's no need for me to comment,' Mr Kauter told Daily Mail Australia. 'I hold no bitterness or anger, I've moved on. 'My focus is on building a positive future, and I've never been so excited about what's ahead. I wish everyone the best.' Section 14 orders divert certain matters from the criminal justice system where health issues, like psychological stress, are involved and provides no finding of guilt or conviction. The ex-boyfriend of Professor Gacey's new lover - who are all now living in the Mosman home, known as The Villa - was previously an art gallery owner on New Zealand 's South Island. Mr Bonham is said to have left New Zealand soon after local media reported he owed more than $50,000 in rent, rates and insurance following the gallery's closure. He is now operating a showroom in Rushcutters Bay in Sydney's eastern suburbs but denied 'doing a runner'. He told Otago Times Daily he may have been 'a couple of months in arrears', but said he hoped to catch up on his bills after the lease on his gallery was sold. 'We haven't done a runner,' he said. 'It's been more negotiating around who's going to be going in there next and making sure we get the right contribution towards that lease negotiation which covers anything that's potentially outstanding.' Dr Gracey and Mr Kautner's lavish mansion is currently undergoing court-ordered renovations and had to be cleared of extensive contents to allow the work to go on. Social media images revealed floor-to-ceiling piles boxes of Mr Bonham's items including leather gear, hoses, dog and kitchen appliances and expensive artefacts. Neighbours allege the home has been operating like a backpackers' hostel, with Mr Bonham's clutter, and the two others living in the basement, who have been branded squatters and 'vagrants'. But Dr Gracey insists he was just helping out some friends and it's not been a permanent arrangement. 'There were no vagrants there,' he told Daily Mail Australia. 'They were mutual friends of mine and my ex who were temporarily residing whilst finding a place in Sydney after relocating from interstate. 'No one was forcefully evicted, they found a place and moved.' The bluechip property which boasts harbour views is understood now said to be worth more than $15million. It will be put up for sale once a new swimming pool is installed and the separate living quarters have been renovated.

I left my husband for the man I had an affair with and now my MOTHER won't forgive me: CAROLINE WEST-MEADS
I left my husband for the man I had an affair with and now my MOTHER won't forgive me: CAROLINE WEST-MEADS

Daily Mail​

time12-06-2025

  • General
  • Daily Mail​

I left my husband for the man I had an affair with and now my MOTHER won't forgive me: CAROLINE WEST-MEADS

Q My mother is still furious with me nearly a year after I left my husband for my lover. I know it touches a nerve, as my father had an affair when I was a teenager. It was an awful time and the house was full of rage, though my parents stayed together and now have an OK relationship. But my mother will barely speak to me. She refuses to meet my new man and says I have betrayed her as well as my husband. She asks how I could have done that to him when I had seen how much pain my father caused her.

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