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Yahoo
01-07-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
I Was Horrified By What A Teacher Asked My Daughter To Do. His Response To Me Was Just As Disturbing.
I genuinely try to curb my mama bear instincts in most situations. So when my 15-year-old daughter Lilly climbed into our car during the second week of her sophomore year of high school and said that her health teacher was making the class keep a food journal, I fought to quiet the alarm bells going off in my head. 'It's OK, though,' she told me. 'Please — PLEASE — don't send one of your emails.' I sighed. 'Fine.' She was new to this high school and didn't want to be The Girl With That Mom. A week later, Lilly called me into her room. Her eyes were filled with tears. 'Today the health teacher said, 'I don't care if you eat just 1,000 calories a day.' I'm sure he was joking, but I don't think I can stay in this class.' She sighed. 'Also, he's making us use a calorie tracker for our food journals, the same one I used last year.' A cold fist squeezed my stomach because I knew exactly what she was referring to. I would never forget the days of watching my daughter eat less and less, turn down food at dinner, and throw away almost entire meals when we ate out, as she slipped into the trap of disordered eating. The worst part was that I knew that trap all too well. When I was her exact same age I was admitted to a hospital for anorexia nervosa. My weight was dangerously low after a series of traumatic circumstances left me reeling, grappling for a sense of control in my life, and finding that control in what I ate. Or rather, didn't eat. I was in treatment for 26 days, during which I was often confined to bed for hours due to problems with my pulse and blood pressure. After being discharged, I wanted to stay out of the hospital, but food was still one area of my life where I could exert control. Every night for over a year, I wouldn't let myself fall asleep until I tallied the calories of everything I'd eaten to ensure it was the Goldilocks amount — not too much to gain weight, but not too little that I would lose any either. Packaged foods made it easy to know exactly how much I had consumed, and I tried to eat most meals at home so I could measure and track my intake. It wasn't until I turned 16 that I stopped counting calories. I traveled to Australia that summer and quickly realized my system wasn't sustainable. Instead, I began listening to and trusting my body. I went to cafes with friends where we sipped frothy cappuccinos, then enjoyed stews or pasties for dinner and Lamingtons for dessert. Someone introduced me to TimTams, the heavenly chocolate cookies that managed to both crumble and melt in my mouth. I suddenly realized how exhausted I was by calorie tracking, and it was so freeing to fall asleep at night without conducting my obsessive tally. After that, I made it a point not to count calories, fast, or diet. I had always been athletic, but now I listened to my body and didn't try to hurt it with my workouts. When I became a mother, I wanted to make sure my children never knew the hell of disordered eating. I stopped buying popular women's magazines when I realized how they all had cover lines like, 'Lose 10 pounds this month!' in bright, bold letters. My kids saw me work out, but I kept the emphasis on being strong and using fitness to help me deal with stress. I never said degrading things about my body, never weighed myself except at doctor visits, and never demonized food in front of them. In 'Sleeping Beauty,' Aurora's parents destroy all the spindles in the kingdom after the evil fairy Maleficent says the princess will prick her finger on one and die — yet she still manages to find one. Aurora is drawn to it, though it's locked away in a tower, as if her demise is inevitable. What I didn't know then, but research is now proving, is that eating disorders may also be genetic, so, despite all my efforts, I watched a perfect storm headed straight for my daughter. Over the course of a year, during the pandemic, we moved twice, and the second time we found ourselves living abroad. Lilly attended a prestigious international school where she was bullied by her classmates whenever she asked questions and ridiculed for not already knowing the answers. Worse still, the girls who sat with Lilly at lunch threw out their meals after just a bite or two and acted horrified if she ate everything on her plate. I thought my daughter was different from me — less sensitive and more resilient — and that she would be able to handle what was happening. She had an effervescent personality and made friends wherever she went. Her uncle once joked that if it was possible to distill the essence of Lilly and distribute it to the world, there would be no need for antidepressants any more. Not only that, she was impressively strong and seemed to excel at whatever sport she tried. Instead, she began to crack under the pressure. One day, she found a calorie tracker online, unbeknownst to me, and stopped eating almost entirely. Her weight plummeted. It was terrifying for me to witness. She acknowledged her need for help, and though her struggle seemed hopeless, Lilly eventually fought her way back to health. We moved again, and the social environment at her new school was relaxed and friendly. She seemed happy and at peace, and I felt myself breathing deep sighs of relief — until she told me about the food journal and calorie tracking assignment. 'Lilly,' I said gently, after she told me about her health class struggles, 'we have to say something.' She paused, thinking for a moment, then nodded her head in agreement. First I sent the health teacher an email explaining why I was concerned and asking if we could exempt Lilly from the assignment or alter it to remove the tracker. I addressed his comment about eating 1,000 calories, since that isn't enough to even maintain weight, and offered to speak to his classes about eating disorders. He responded by saying that he didn't teach that material in his class, and of course he didn't mean what he had said, but there was no way that he would change the assignment for Lilly or anyone. I sent another email, fully aware I was quickly becoming That Mom. However, it was now about more than me wanting to protect just my daughter. In the absence of a holistic approach that included education about eating disorders, I was looking out for all of the kids who might not recognize a calorie tracker as the loaded gun it was and could, before they knew it, find themselves in the same trap that Lilly and I had once been in. I filled my follow-up email with links to articles on the relationship between calorie tracking and eating disorders, and then I hit 'send.' I didn't receive a reply. In light of how recent Lilly's recovery was and how delicate it still seemed, I decided to withdraw her from the class. Her guidance counselor, also a parent, was supportive and equally concerned about this teacher's curriculum. Calorie trackers have no place in middle or high school health classes. They teach us to look at our food consumption like a scorecard and judge whether we did terrible, OK, or excellent. Teenagers' prefrontal cortices are still developing, already making them more susceptible to social pressures and mental health issues, and assignments like these compound that risk. Although teens might find calorie trackers on their own, as Lilly did, using them in school assignments pushes them into a vulnerable — and potentially dangerous — position. There are better ways to present nutritive eating to kids and to talk about what food does for us. Health educators need to address the many forms of eating disorders that affect millions of people every year. Emphasizing how social media distorts reality is also essential. Lilly still needs to take a health class to complete her graduation requirements, and I know her next teacher might take the same approach as her last one. What then? my inner mama bear wonders, with no small amount of trepidation. Even though I hate that we both went through the same darkness of an eating disorder, I'm so thankful for our close relationship and that Lilly knows she can come to me with her struggles. I'm having to learn yet again that there's so much I cannot control, which means I can't guarantee my kids won't face challenges, but I can still try to protect them — and their friends and peers — from unnecessary peril. Joy Nicholas' writing has appeared in Business Insider, Brevity Blog, Coffee + Crumbs, and other publications. She grew up moving all over the world and is currently working on her first book, a memoir. Connect with her on Instagram at @joynicholaswrites and through her Substack Joy in the World. Do you have a compelling personal story you'd like to see published on HuffPost? Find out what we're looking for here and send us a pitch at pitch@ I Went To My Son's Class To Explain How He Goes To The Bathroom. Here's Why. My 15-Year-Old Daughter Died. 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News24
25-06-2025
- Entertainment
- News24
Oh baby! Actress Sive Mabuya-Bukani announces her first pregnancy
We've got a new mama bear on the way! Shaka iLembe and How to Ruin Love: The Proposa l actress Sivenathi Mabuya-Bukani has announced that she is expecting her first child with her husband Aphiwe Bukani in an adorable social media post showing off her bump. 'Bump's out the bag … thank you for your kindness. We couldn't be happier,' Sive captions the reveal. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Sivenathi Mabuya-Bukani 🇿🇦 (@sivemabuya) Celebrities and fans flocked to the comments to share their well-wishes. Umkhokha: The Curse star Hope Mbhele gushes, 'The way I wanted to jump when I saw you at the premiere but I was like let me wait till she announces ... So happy for you my love!!! Congratulations mama!!!!' Other stars, including Dineo Langa, Ntando Duma, Kwanele Mthethwa, Lerato Mvelase and more couldn't contain their joy and shared their congratulations to Sive's growing family. The happy couple recently celebrated their third anniversary in May 2025, with Sive concisely breaking down their heartwarming love story saying, '17 years your pursuit, 5 years your girl, 3 years your wife. And I wouldn't have it any other way. Happy anniversary baba, I love you.' View this post on Instagram A post shared by Sivenathi Mabuya-Bukani 🇿🇦 (@sivemabuya) It has been an exciting year of growing families of some of South Africa's most recognisable stars. While famous families like choreographer and actress Bontle Modiselle Moloi and her husband and rapper Priddy Ugly have given little Afrika a sibling, some stars have become moms for the first time in 2025. Lulama Wolf In true artistic form, visual artist Lulama Wolf revealed her baby bump in an artfully curated photoshoot shot at the Johannesburg Art Gallery. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lulama (@lulamawolf) Khanyisa Jaceni Content creator and singer Khanyisa Jaceni shocked her fans with the announcement of her pregnancy, sharing the cutest pictures of her baby shower. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Khanyisa Jaceni (@iam_khanyi95) Rosemary Zimu The My Brother's Keeper and Savage Beauty actress has welcomed a new addition to her family. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Rosemary Zimu-Mnguni (@rosemary_zimu) Bontle Modiselle Moloi The famed dancer, actress and one third of the Modiselle sisters has shared that her and her husband Priddy Ugly are expecting their second child after their first born, a daughter named Afrika. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Bontle MaAfrika Moloi (@ Show Comments ()
Yahoo
17-05-2025
- Yahoo
Wildlife officers free bear cub tangled in Tahoe soccer net
( — The California Department of Fish and Wildlife received a call about a bear cub being tangled in a soccer net on Thursday morning. According to CDFW, the bear was tangled at a Kings Beach park at Lake Tahoe. When crews arrived at the scene, they found the cub stuck and was closely guarded by its protective mama bear. Daniel Serafini murder trial begins Monday in Auburn After some teamwork, crews were able to loosen the net and make sure the mom gave them a safe space they needed to work, stated CDFW. Wildlife officers and biologists were able to safely free the cub in just five minutes. 'The little one darted up a nearby tree, and after a quick reunion, both bears wandered peacefully back into the wild,' said CDFW. Copyright 2025 Nexstar Media, Inc. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
