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Yahoo
07-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Mom Shows How She Navigates ‘Toddler Tantrums' & It's Truly Helpful
Parents often have a hard time dealing with the tantrums of their kids. In an Instagram video from September 2024, a mother shows how she navigates her 'toddler tantrums,' stating that she remains calm whenever it happens in the car. It highlights the helpless feeling a parent goes through when their child behaves like this. However, the mom handles the situation wisely, and viewers find it truly helpful. In a viral parenting video on Instagram, a mom, Olivia J Owen, shows how she reacts when her toddler throws tantrums in the car. It begins with the child crying while the mother calmly asks him if he needs something. She explains through an in-text comment in the clip, stating that she checks 'his physical needs' first as she asks the child if he wants a snack or a drink. Then, she lets the toddler be and reminds herself 'that this is completely normal.' Owen also offers her tiny tot her hand to hold, but he seems uninterested and continues to cry. She highlights that 'tantrums are often a result of children struggling to communicate.' Furthermore, the mom explains in the parenting video that she cannot do anything at this point. She clarifies that the toddler has to remain seated in the moving car. Owen looks overwhelmed and states that her 'hands are tied' as she cannot comfort the child. After a while, the kid's mood changes when his sister joins the family in the car. They distract the toddler, which works wonders as the child smiles and looks happy. Olivia also sheds light on such situations in the post's caption. 'As long as I keep showing up with love, I know I'm doing a good job!' she wrote. Meanwhile, viewers cheered for the mom in the comments, telling her that she was doing a great job. A user said, 'Mom you're doing fantastic he'll be ok just keep doing what you're doing.' Another commented, 'Wow you are so patient! You are so calm!' Since the upload, the mom-toddler parenting video has garnered over 49K likes. The post Mom Shows How She Navigates 'Toddler Tantrums' & It's Truly Helpful appeared first on Momtastic.
Yahoo
25-06-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Telling your kid a white lie feels harmless, but it isn't. What I do instead.
'We're out of cookies.' 'The remote is broken — guess we can't watch TV.' 'Whoops, the pool is closed today.' Many parents end up telling the occasional white lie to their kid — often out of exhaustion or to avoid the inevitable meltdown or power struggle that comes after saying no. But while these minor fibs seem harmless in the moment, they can actually undermine a child's trust in themselves and you. In the fifth episode of their podcast After Bedtime With Big Little Feelings, Big Little Feelings founders Deena Margolin, a child therapist specializing in interpersonal neurobiology, and Kristin Gallant, a parenting coach with a background in maternal and child education, chat about some of the white lies they've told their own kids — and the surprising repercussions that followed. For Yahoo's column After After Bedtime, Margolin shares three steps parents can take to help set boundaries without resorting to fudging the truth. And if your kid should still catch you in a small fib? Here's what to do. Let's be real: We've all done it. 'The park is closed.' 'The tablet is broken.' 'This is spicy, you won't like it.' (Spoiler alert: It's cake, they'd absolutely love it.) 'The ice cream truck only plays music when it's out of ice cream.' These tiny fibs usually come from one place: parental survival. You're exhausted. You've repeated yourself 400 times. You just need to make it through the next five minutes without a meltdown. And in those moments, a white lie feels like the easiest way to get there. But here's the thing: Truth builds trust. Research shows that kids, even as young as age 3, can detect inconsistencies between what adults say and what they do. And kids who are frequently lied to? They're more likely to lie to themselves and less likely to trust their caregivers over time. Now does that mean you've ruined your child because you fibbed about the park being closed? Absolutely not. The goal isn't perfection — it's awareness, repair and modeling honesty in age-appropriate ways. So how do we handle these gray areas? Here are some suggestions. Lying usually feels like the fastest way out of a hard moment. 'The tablet's broken' feels easier than saying, 'No more shows' — and then dealing with the meltdown that follows. But here's the thing: Shortcuts don't build skills. Boundaries do. Instead of reaching for a lie, you can try holding the limit honestly: 'We're done with the tablet for today. I know that's hard to hear. It's OK to feel upset.' You're still saying no, but you're doing it in a way that makes space for the big feelings that come with it. That's not weakness — that's regulation. That's leadership. Every time you choose truth plus a calm boundary, you're teaching your child, 'I can be told the truth.' 'I can feel big feelings and move through them.' 'My parent is safe, steady and honest, even when it's hard.' If your child calls you out for a little white lie that slipped out (and they will), be honest: 'You're right. I said the iPad was broken. That's not true; I made a mistake. IPad time is done today, and we will have more tomorrow.' This is where the magic happens, because now you're modeling accountability and emotional safety (instead of gaslighting them). You don't have to explain the entire truth to a 4-year-old. You just have to stay grounded in it. Try: 'We don't have time to go to the park today, but I will find a time for us to go this week.' 'TV time is done today. We will have more soon.' 'I don't want to share right now. Let's find something you can enjoy too.' No lies. Just limits — with love. So the takeaway? You're not a bad parent if you've lied to your kid. You're human. But every moment is a chance to build, or rebuild, trust. Because while there's no gold star for 'most honest parent of the year,' there is a deep, lasting connection when your child knows: I can trust what my parent says. I can believe in their words. They see me, they respect me, and they tell me the truth, even when it's hard. And that's the kind of honesty that changes everything.
