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I watch FIVE hours of incest porn a day and can no longer enjoy real sex with my girlfriend… so I fake orgasms instead
WHEN an ex lover slipped out of bed after a steamy tryst and headed for the bathroom, I thought he had gone for a shower to cool down.
As I basked in that blissful post-orgasm glow, I had no idea what he was really up to.
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To my surprise, he was sneaking off to the bathroom to finish the job himself — with porn playing on his phone.
Wracked with guilt, he later confessed about his spiralling porn addiction and how he'd become so hooked on hardcore porn, real sex now seemed boring.
I'm The Sun's Sexpert, and this week in my no-holds-barred sex series, I'm tackling a powerful question from a reader who is also struggling with porn addiction.
Reading his brave letter brought back raw memories of my own experience supporting someone through the same battle — and the emotional toll it can take on both parties.
If you're in a similar situation, know this: there is light at the end of the tunnel.
With the right support and mindset, you can rediscover real intimacy — and enjoy a healthy, satisfying sex life again...
Q: People presume it's only women who fake orgasms, but men do it too. I should know, I've been doing it for the past six months with my partner.
I've become so addicted to porn, I now find 'real sex' boring. It's not stimulating enough and I feel so guilty for my girlfriend because she has no idea.
I especially love incest porn, like step-mums with step-sons. Perhaps this is because I had a secret crush on my step-mum growing up.
It's starting to take over my life, and I'm spending hours on it a day while I work from home. How can I find real sex enjoyable again?
Georgie answers your sex questions - Tips for tiny Peckers
Georgie says:
'First of all — you're not alone. Porn addiction is becoming increasingly common in the UK.
Last year porn addiction treatment providers at The UKAT Group surveyed 2,000 adults aged over 18 on their porn habits.
The results revealed that a staggering 8.8 million UK adults are watching porn on a weekly basis.
The majority - 3.7 million- of those viewers are aged 18-34; 3.3 million are aged 35-54, and 1.8 million are aged over 55.
Worryingly, other reports indicate the average age of first exposure to porn is around 11 years old, with some research indicating it's as young as eight years old.
Among under-18s, approximately 60 per cent display levels of porn consumption that meet the criteria for addiction.
Part of the problem is just how easy it is to access porn in today's digital world. Whether it's on your phone or laptop, it's always just a few taps away.
And with platforms like OnlyFans booming - and even mainstream social media flooded with explicit content - porn has become completely normalised, making it harder to escape if you're caught in a cycle of addiction.
That said, watching porn isn't inherently bad. It can be a brilliant tool to explore fantasies, self pleasure and learn new skills.
But if your porn consumption is impacting other areas of your life then you could have a problem - which may require professional help.
But if you're wanting to enjoy 'real' sex again, here are some tips to help you reconnect with your body, your partner, and rediscover real pleasure.
Because while porn might be useful for tapping into fantasies, it can never replace true intimacy - for that, you need the human touch.
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Open up
Communication is the key to good sex. Being able to share your fantasises with your partner and say what works and what doesn't is essential for a vibrant and varied love life.
Skip the blame game — instead of saying, 'I don't like it when you do X, Y, Z,' try, 'I love it when you do X, Y, Z,' and lead with what's working in your sex life before bringing up anything new you'd like to explore.
Taking a positive approach puts your partner at ease and makes them far more open to talking about what turns you on — and what you'd like to try next between the sheets.
Write a sex bucket list
Sometimes it's hard to open up about your desires face-to-face - people get embarrassed or simply don't know what to say.
A fun way around this? Write your own sex bucket list and get your partner to do the same.
Then go through each item together, using a traffic light system to share your turn-ons and boundaries: Green for 'oh baby, yes please';
Amber for 'maybe, let's talk about it'; Red for 'absolutely not, hun!'
It's a playful, pressure-free way to communicate - and a great reminder that sex should be fun, not serious.
Meet our sexpert
In her eight years at The Sun, there's not much our Georgie hasn't seen - or done - and she's loved every outrageous minute.
"People often ask how I became a sexpert," she says. "Well, I've been fascinated by sex and relationships for as long as I can remember.
"As a teen, I devoured women's mags full of scandalous confessions and steamy tips - and I was obsessed with Sex and the City.
"Maybe I was manifesting my inner Carrie Bradshaw from day one.
"I'd always dreamed of working at The Sun - and when I finally landed the job, I found my niche fast: going to sex parties and oversharing about my frequently chaotic love life.
"Over the years, I've built real trust within the kink and swinging community and I've interviewed hundreds of people about their sex lives.
"Add to that my own, um, 'field research,' and let's just say I know what makes good sex great."
Georgie says being a sexpert is about having life experience, curiosity, a sense of humour - and plenty of adventures along the way.
"There's not much that shocks me these days," she continues. "Except maybe a man who doesn't believe in foreplay.
"But nothing makes me happier than hearing a reader say my advice helped them feel more confident (and satisfied) in bed.
"Now I'll be answering your burning sex questions - and dishing out practical advice to help get you back in the saddle."
Try tantra
If you're recovering from a porn addiction, chances are you've been overstimulated and conditioned to expect fast, furious, goal-driven sex.
Slowing everything down and getting back in touch with your body can be a game-changer - and that's where Tantra comes in.
Tantric sex isn't about rushing to the finish line. It's about connection, touch, and the journey.
Start by lying next to your partner naked for ten minutes each night, simply caressing one another.
You can hover your hands over each other's genitals, but don't engage in foreplay or intercourse. Just enjoy the intimacy, the build-up, the tease.
Do this nightly for a week, gradually increasing the intensity - and when you do finally go all the way, the suspense and connection can lead to longer, deeper and more satisfying orgasms.
Take sex out of the bedroom
It may sound simple but taking sex out of the bedroom can actually help you reconnect with your partner and make things more exciting.
Couples who report a healthy sex life often mix up locations and positions to things spontaneous and spicy.
Shower sex can be a great way to do this. Just make sure you invest in a bathmat first; there's nothing sexy about a trip to A&E.
Have a 'one night stand'
If you're in a relationship, cast your mind back to when you first met — that blissful just-met sex, when you couldn't keep your hands off each other. What made it so exciting?
In the early stages of a relationship, we're in what's called the limerence phase — often dubbed the honeymoon period.
It's when everything feels electric, we overlook flaws, and the desire is instant and overwhelming.
As time goes on most couples naturally fall into a routine. That wild, rip-each-other's-clothes-off urge starts to fade.
In long-term relationships, our bodies often shift to what's known as responsive desire — where one of you initiates and the other gets turned on in response, rather than both feeling that instant, primal lust.
But you can absolutely recreate that just-met spark. Book into a hotel and have a cheeky one-night stand — with each other.
Go full roleplay: meet at a bar, pretend you're strangers, and seduce each other all over again. It's a fun and naughty way to bring back the thrill.
Book a sexcation
If you're coming out of a porn addiction, there are lots of reasons you might have turned to it in the first place.
One way to reconnect with real-life intimacy is by booking a sexy getaway — ideally with your partner if you're in a relationship.
Turn off your phone, and turn each other on. There are plenty of adults-only hotels designed for just that — from luxury stays with private dungeons to swinging retreats and everything in between.
And if kink isn't your thing, no worries. A romantic break somewhere sunny can work wonders too.
Soak up that vitamin D — because sunlight is brilliant for boosting both your mood and your libido.
