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Independent Singapore
26-06-2025
- Independent Singapore
Man found dead at foot of Woodlands block after allegedly attacking another with knife
SINGAPORE: A 33-year-old man was found dead at the foot of a HDB block in Woodlands on Saturday evening (June 21), shortly after allegedly injuring another man in a suspected domestic dispute. The police said they were alerted to the incident at Block 684A Woodlands Drive 73 around 7.40pm. When officers arrived, they found a 31-year-old man with injuries believed to have been caused by a knife. He was conscious when taken to the hospital and is currently receiving medical treatment. Preliminary investigations suggest that the two men were involved in a dispute inside a flat prior to the incident. The older man is said to have attacked the younger man with a knife before fleeing the unit. He was later discovered lying motionless at the foot of the block. A paramedic pronounced him dead at the scene. Police do not suspect foul play in his death. According to Lianhe Zaobao, the deceased was not a resident of the unit and is believed to have been in a romantic relationship with the injured man. Police investigations are ongoing.
CNA
16-06-2025
- CNA
Jail for married man who developed feelings for maid, then threatened to kill her
SINGAPORE: A man who fell in love with a domestic helper his wife hired later felt that the maid had destroyed his life. Muhammad Khairulnaim Rosli, 37, then threatened to kill her with a knife. Khairulnaim, a Singaporean, was jailed for 40 days on Monday (Jun 16) upon pleading guilty to one count of criminal intimidation. Khairulnaim resided with his wife and their two young children. His wife hired the domestic helper, who began working for the family from Sep 10, 2023. Three months into her employment, Khairulnaim developed romantic feelings for the victim and told her so. The helper felt disturbed and uncomfortable, telling Khairulnaim in mid-December 2023 that she did not like him and blocked him from her social media. Khairulnaim confessed his feelings for the helper to his wife, who then asked him for a divorce on Jan 1, 2024. TRIED TO GET NUMBER OF HELPER'S HUSBAND On Jan 12, 2024, Khairulnaim picked up the helper's mobile phone and opened her WhatsApp chat history with her husband. He wanted to take a photo of the husband's phone number but failed to do so when the helper snatched her phone away. She followed him to the storeroom to ask why Khairulnaim had taken her phone, but accidentally pushed the storeroom door with force. Khairulnaim asked why the helper was angry with him and kicked the door thrice. Later, Khairulnaim and his wife spoke over the phone, with Khairulnaim complaining that the victim had not fed his children rice. He then had a nap and woke up in the evening to prepare for work. He felt angry with himself, the helper and his wife. "He felt that the victim had destroyed his life and he felt that he could do the same by telling the victim's husband that the victim had a boyfriend in Pakistan," the prosecution said. Khairulnaim then took urgent leave from his work. At about 6pm, he took a knife with a 16cm blade from his kitchen. Raising the knife slightly above hip level, with the blade pointed at the helper, he told her he wanted to kill her. His wife returned home minutes after the incident occurred and the helper fled from the unit as she feared for her safety. A passer-by who saw the helper crying called the police. Khairulnaim was arrested that night. Deputy Public Prosecutor Ho May Kim urged the court to jail Khairulnaim between five-and-a-half weeks and seven weeks. Ms Ho said Khairulnaim had been in a position of authority when he uttered the death threat, and had used a knife. She said the prosecution had considered the mitigating factors in Khairulnaim's case, namely that he was a first-time offender, that the threat was not prolonged, and how the victim was unharmed. "The accused appears to have committed the offence on impulse," said Ms Ho.
Yahoo
01-06-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: Should I keep dating a man I don't like because he'll pay for my kids' college tuition?
DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced from my ex-husband, 'Cliff,' for a year and a half. My nearly adult children live with me. They rarely see their dad. Our divorce was relatively painless, but the custody battle was prolonged, and most of my savings were drained in the process. Cliff pays child support, but I'm still struggling financially to raise two growing teenagers, and I'm worried about them going off to college. A few months ago, I reconnected with a childhood friend I'll call 'Rob.' We have rediscovered our friendship and see each other often. He recently expressed interest in a romantic relationship. Abby, I'm still in love with my ex-husband! It wasn't my choice to separate, and although Rob is very sweet, I don't feel comfortable moving on so quickly. However, he has a high-paying job, and when we occasionally go out to dinner, he always pays the bill. I'm afraid I won't be able to afford my kids' college without his financial support. I'm torn between my love for my children and my continued love for my ex-husband. Should I pursue this relationship even though I don't feel the same? — ANGUISHED IN ALBUQUERQUE DEAR ANGUISHED: Tell Rob you are still not over your divorce, and while you like him very much and enjoy his company, you are not ready for a romantic relationship. It is the truth, and he deserves that. As to the fact that you think you still love the husband who wanted the divorce, it's time to accept that the marriage is history. Once you do that, you may find a future with Rob more to your liking. DEAR ABBY: I am someone who calls friends, but they never call back. When I call, they are happy to hear from me, the conversations are lively and fun, and the friends say they love it when I call. I do not call often, and I don't feel I'm making a nuisance of myself. However, like I said, they don't call back. I can understand not hearing from newer friends, but I resent not hearing from ones I've had my whole life. I could have died, and they couldn't bother to find out if I'm OK or get an update on my life. I know I should drop them and move on, but I can't. I need help with that. These are people I've never had a cross word with. Something — it could be an upcoming holiday — reminds me of them, and I want to make contact. Why do people do this to people they say they love and care about? –PERPLEXED IN FLORIDA DEAR PERPLEXED: People behave this way because they are stressed, busy or distracted. Most of the time, it isn't personal. Not everyone is a 'caller' like you are. If you want to maintain these relationships, you have to be prepared to do the calling. I'm not saying this to be judgmental or to make excuses for them; it's just a fact of life. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Forbes
22-05-2025
- General
- Forbes
3 Ways To Prioritize Friendships And Decenter Love, By A Psychologist
It can be challenging to maintain friendships the way we once did when we're in a new romantic ... More relationship, but finding a balance is crucial. Here's how. If you've ever been guilty of treating romance as your ultimate goal in life, you're not alone. Too often, being happily single is demonized while being romantically involved is put on a pedestal. Societal conditioning can make us believe that our relationship with our partners is the most important one we'll ever have, which in turn makes us devote significant amounts of time and energy to these connections. Unfortunately, this conditioning can also make us treat cherished friends as placeholders until we've found 'the one,' only to stop prioritizing them as much when we meet someone new. Entering a romantic relationship can be exciting and full of novelty, but it often brings significant shifts in social dynamics. One of the most common challenges is learning how to balance a new relationship with existing friendships, without making either party feel unimportant. When we become consumed by the thrill of romance and only reach out to our friends to talk about our significant other, they may start to feel used. We might stop planning outings with them, call them less than before and start to experience a subtle emotional distance, no matter how unintentional. However, our friendships, like our romantic connections, deserve intention. They deserve time, energy and consistent effort, and most of all, to never be taken for granted. It's entirely possible to nurture meaningful friendships while allowing a romantic connection to flourish. Here are three ways to strike this balance. When people experience significant life transitions such as entering a romantic relationship, they allocate their time and energy to relationships differently. One common shift is the tendency to deprioritize friendships once a romantic bond forms. While it's understandable that your time and social energy may become limited, side-lining friendships entirely can lead to social isolation, becoming overly reliant on your partner to fulfill your emotional needs and becoming an absent, unreliable friend to those you care for. A 2015 study published in Human Nature found that friendships last longer when people actively put in the effort. Researchers found that for men, shared activities help maintain closeness. For women, consistent communication and meaningful conversations are more effective. For instance, it's essential to let your friends know about your changing availability while affirming their importance in your life. This helps maintain their trust and prevent emotional distance. Even simple statements like 'I've been a bit caught up lately, but I'd love to catch up this week,' can go a long way in maintaining relational equity. Of course, it's not enough to mention wanting to stay connected. It's equally important to follow through and be consistent. Whether that means setting a reminder to call them every week or having a standing meet-up you don't compromise on, set aside time for them and commit to it. While you may not be able to spend as much time with them as before, quality can make up for quantity. Even brief but meaningful interactions can preserve emotional closeness and keep friendships strong. Friendships often reflect who we are outside of romantic relationships. Losing touch with them can mean losing parts of ourselves. A 2018 study published in Sociological Research Online found that lasting female friendships are rarely treated as life goals, despite offering emotional depth and support. Lead author Maree Martinussen suggests that society promotes confidence and self-sufficiency but downplays the value of deep friendships, framing them as necessary, but always secondary to romantic or sexual partnerships. This perspective causes us to sideline friendships while glamorizing romantic love. However, when we reflect on how friendships offer support, emotional strength, joy, a sense of community and belongingness, a space for personal growth, a space to be compassionate toward others and so much more, it reminds us that they're invaluable. Friendships that came before a romantic relationship are built on fulfilling emotional connections, shared values, history and interests, and they shouldn't be lost just because you're in love. Staying connected involves a significant mindset shift, reframing friendships as irreplaceable and constantly worth investing in. A single person cannot and should not support all our emotional needs. Emotional granularity, which refers to the ability to experience and distinguish a wide range of nuanced emotions, is best supported when different people fulfil different emotional needs in our lives. While a romantic partner may offer intimacy and deep commitment, friends often provide crucial perspective, shared history and a sense of identity continuity. A 2014 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science exploring the concept of 'emotionships' or emotion-based relationships sheds light on how people turn to different individuals depending on their emotional state. For instance, someone might reach out to one friend when feeling sad, another when anxious and a third when excited. People instinctively associate different friends with different emotional needs. When experiencing a specific emotion, they're more likely to think of and value the friend who typically helps them cope with or better experience that feeling. Relying too much on one person can make it hard to tell where your emotions end and theirs begin. This is known as emotional enmeshment. However, having healthy, fulfilling friendships helps you stay grounded, manage your feelings and retain a healthy sense of individuality. Having a diverse number of emotionships, rather than relying heavily on just one or two people, is also associated with greater emotional well-being. In fact, this diversity appears to be more beneficial than simply having a large number of close friends. Your friends have stood by you for years. You've laughed, cried and beat boredom with them, grown with them and likely, because of them. So, remind yourself that love exists in multiple forms, and deserves to be nurtured, be it romantic or platonic. Do you feel as connected to your friends as you do your romantic partner? Take this science-backed test to find out: Social Connectedness Scale
