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The Sun
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I have 5 kids at 27 – trolls say there's ‘no excuse' for my ‘disgrace' of a home, yes it's muddy but I don't care
A MOTHER-OF-FIVE has shown off her 'muddy' laundry room and clapped back at haters who criticised her 'disgrace' of a home. Despite not caring what trolls think, Gwenn, a 27-year-old stay-at-home mum from the United States, has found herself at the centre of a barrage of abuse from mean keyboard warriors. 2 2 Not only did haters slam the 'ridiculous' mess, but others claimed there was 'no excuse' for Gwenn to let her property get in such a state. It all comes after Gwenn shared a short clip inside her pad on social media, which left users totally divided. As she attempted to clean up the room, which was overflowing with dirty clothes and mess on the floor, the brunette said: 'I know you're gonna be angry at me with this laundry room, but this was two weeks ago, possibly last week, honestly, I don't know what day it is.' She then continued: 'Unless you have a laundry room that is also a mud room and you have five kids changing three times a day because they want to keep going outside, getting in the mud, getting the water, I really don't want to hear it, I just don't.' 'I literally do not care, because at the end of the day, this is a mud room, so it's gonna get muddy,' she added. On a mission to get the space tidied up, Gwenn continued: 'A lot of this was winter stuff that has just kept getting thrown around - I finally have three bags of winter clothes bagged up, but we got hats and gloves put away and then our big winter clothes.' After cleaning up the space, Gwenn was able to fill up three bags with stuff to give away, as well as one bag full of rubbish. She also got rid of a shoe rack and began doing some of the laundry, but confessed that the room was still not in 'super great shape.' Following this, she justified: 'I feel like I can't clean like a normal person - I can't just tidy up an area, whenever I want to clean it, I have to take it all apart and deep clean everything, which makes it very difficult because this is a big old house to clean.' And it appears it's not only Gwenn's laundry room that has left people stunned, as she then gave viewers a close-up look at her living room, which was also in desperate need of a tidy up. I scrub my council house walls but they're COVERED in mould & crumbling away - I have two disabled kids, it's disgusting Not only did hangers and rubbish take over the floor, but endless piles of clothes covered the couch too. Big divide The TikTok clip, which was posted under the username @ gwennewg, has clearly left many open-mouthed, as it has quickly gone viral and racked up 2.1million views, 68,000 likes and 917 comments. But social media users were left totally divided by Gwenn's video - whilst some thought the mess was "ridiculous," others could sympathise with having 'never ending' amounts of washing. One person said: 'Disgrace, no excuse.' children how to pick up after themselves and take responsibility for their own things. That's your job as a parent.' Meanwhile, someone else gasped: 'Why are you letting it get to this?' Not only this, but another user asked: 'Why does the husband not help out? My husband would never watch me drown like this.' However, at the same time, one mother wrote: 'I hate laundry. It's never ending!' A second penned: 'Five you deserve a medal! I hate housework so no judgments from me!' And another admitted: 'As a 26 year old mum of five, I felt this video in my soul.'
Irish Times
2 days ago
- General
- Irish Times
‘I had always wanted to be a stay-at-home mum ... but I'm exhausted'
Question I took a career break six months ago so I could be at home full-time with my two children , aged three and four. I was unhappy in my last job when a new manager started and my role changed – so it was all good timing. My husband supported me as we did not want the kids spending long hours in childcare . We have not had to even downsize too much given how much childcare was costing us. However, it is not going as well as I thought it would and some days I am really struggling. My two children are such amazing kids and they are both really intense and demanding of my attention. I am really happy to be there with them, but I am so exhausted at the end of the day. They are both in a really lovely preschool for three hours a day which is great, but this stopped in July for the summer. Budgets are tight for camps and family holidays. Also, my relationship with my husband has become a bit strained. He is stressed and working long hours to gain more money. He also seems to expect that I should be doing most of the housework now that I am home full-time. To be honest, I also had the idea that I would be able to do it all and be the perfect home manager, and am disheartened at how little I get done in a day. READ MORE He does not understand that I am more exhausted than him when he comes in the evening. This is a source of new rows and resentment between us. It is all a bit depressing as I had always wanted to be a stay-at-home mum. Part of me now even misses being back in work. Answer Though it might be especially rewarding, caring for small children can be one of the most intense and stressful jobs you undertake. It is very normal to struggle at times and to need support. Summer can be particularly challenging. The routine of preschool not only gives you a daily break but also many parallel supports and daily social contacts. In the summer, you have to build new routines and supports which can be particularly hard when budgets are tight. You are also dealing with transitioning from being a working mother to being full time in the home. Even if this is what you wanted, this can still be an significant adjustment that takes time. Your relationship with your husband is also changing as you negotiate different roles and responsibilities. This can bring out different expectations, resentments and stresses that need to be acknowledged and talked through. Give yourself space to reflect In your mind, what is the ideal work-life-parenting balance? Photograph: Getty Images Take time to reflect about what it is going on for you. Don't give yourself a hard time for your feelings and simply let yourself feel them. It is perfectly understandable to feel depressed and this is often a signal to adjust and reflect further. You might feel sad that things have not turned out as expected and miss parts of your former life. Be curious about the deeper expectations and need that underpin your feelings. In your mind, what is the ideal work-life-parenting balance? What are you hoping from your marriage around this? What is your husband hoping for? You may be able to talk easily to your husband about these reflections and/ or it might be helpful to talk to a supportive friend, a counsellor, reach out to a parent online forum or ring a helpline such as parentline. Talk things through with your husband When couples talk about problems it is easy to fall into the trap of blaming and criticising the other person. Though much harder it can be more effective to reveal your vulnerable feelings and what you specifically need. For example, instead of simply criticising your husband for never being home, it might be more helpful to say, 'I am struggling, and I need you here more to help'. Or it might be more helpful for your husband to say, 'I am worried about money and feel I have to work more, I need your support with this' (or whatever else his needs are). [ 'I am struggling with potty training my three-year-old daughter' Opens in new window ] Moving to vulnerable communication about feelings and needs neutralises resentment. It is also important to start these conversations from a place of appreciation. You might start by appreciating his support for your decision to be at home and his efforts as the breadwinner. If your husband was reading this article, I would invite him to share what he appreciates and admired about you and your parenting. In marriages, what people want most is to be appreciated by their partner and this is a game-changer in moving from stressed to productive conversations. Explore practical solutions with your husband that might help reduce stress. This might mean him setting a day a week where he takes on parenting duties while you pursue a home and personal project. You could also sit down together to make a plan as to how he can creatively use his annual leave over the summer that is best for you and the children. In the long term, it is worth considering what are the best work and parenting arrangements to suit you both. Given the advent of flexible working, it may not have to be a binary decision of working full time or being a stay at home parent. Some couples find creative solutions allowing them to both work two - four days a week and manage most of the childcare themselves while both having the opportunity to work. Work hard at finding win-win solutions that work for both of you. John Sharry is clinical director of the Parents Plus Charity and an adjunct professor at the UCD School of Psychology. See
Daily Mail
21-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Nathan Buckley's ex Brodie Ryan raises eyebrows with comments about the struggles of being a WAG following couple's split: 'Harder than a CEO'
Nathan Buckley's ex-girlfriend Brodie Ryan has raised eyebrows after suggesting that being a WAG is harder than being a CEO. The healthcare professional, who split from the AFL star earlier this year after dating for three years, sat down with the Smile: The Makeover Scoop podcast to discuss the difficulties of being on the footy sidelines. 'Sometimes I would say, seeing my mum do it, seeing my friends do it, being a stay-at-home mum and keeping a home and supporting an AFL footballer would be harder than being a CEO of a company.' She went on to praise the women behind sports stars who are so easily 'overshadowed' by what their partners do. 'I really take my hat off to women out there that do have the hard slog of being at home, keeping a nice house, looking after their husbands and keeping their day as smooth as you can, while keeping the mayhem of home at bay and looking after yourself and your mental health, your wellbeing and keeping yourself in good nick as well,' she said. From A-list scandals and red carpet mishaps to exclusive pictures and viral moments, subscribe to the DailyMail's new showbiz newsletter to stay in the loop. 'Seeing these women do it and then get on a red carpet and smile, like it's been an easy year for them... I really take my hat off to them; they each do their own things in their respective fields.' Brodie and Collingwood great Nathan split earlier this year. In May, the brunette revealed she'd be moving out of the Melbourne home she purchased with Nathan following their breakup. She said goodbye to the bayside suburb of Elwood altogether in an emotional Instagram post that showed her enjoying a glass of wine at the local tavern. 'End of an era. Sad to say goodbye to my favourite little community of Elwood,' she captioned the post. Brodie and Nathan purchased the property together in the highly sought-after suburb and moved into the home in June last year. Her post came just hours after Brodie announced the pair had decided to part ways. 'To the followers of the "Brodes and Bucks" journey,' she began. 'After much reflection and consideration, Nath and I have decided to part ways,' she continued. 'Thank you for your kind messages and support over the past couple of months of heartache. I am truly grateful for your kindness and consideration. 'This decision was not made lightly, and we are grateful for the time we shared, the memories we created, and the support we received from each other and all of you. 'While we will no longer be a couple, I will always respect Nathan and the friendship that developed between us 3-4 years ago and have a lot of love for him and his boys, and our beautiful dog Tank.' Brodie concluded: 'We appreciate your understanding and kindness over the past couple of months and continuing through this transition period. 'We kindly ask for privacy as we navigate this new chapter in our lives. Thank you for your continued support and for being a part of our journey. With respect and gratitude, Brodie.'
Daily Mail
20-07-2025
- Lifestyle
- Daily Mail
Aussie mum-of-two who quit her job to become a stay-at-home 'tradwife' reveals what her new life is really like
An Australian mum-of-two who quit her job to focus on her husband and two kids says she is embracing the 'tradwife' lifestyle - without the oppression. Stacey Knight has built a loyal following on social media with videos of her in summer dresses making meat pies and finger buns from scratch in her idyllic kitchen. Formerly a nurse, the 26-year-old gave up her job in 2023, swapping 'scrubs for spatulas and nappies', to raise her two young children. 'I got to a point where I was like, "Oh, I don't want to do this anymore",' she said about her job. While pregnant with her eldest son, Dusty, she studied a postgraduate course in injectable and dermal science because she wanted to start her own business. 'I was really struggling with the thought of being a stay-at-home mum,' she told Daily Mail Australia. However, after Dusty was born, her perspective shifted, and following six months of working just one day a week, she resigned. Two years later, she said she 'absolutely does not' miss her old job. Some of her content uses #tradwife, which is associated with women embracing traditional gendered roles at home and often associated with the archetype of 1950s housewives 'I much prefer to stay at home with my kids in these early years. I'd rather savour that moment,' she said. Neither her husband, Tom, nor her friends cared about her decision to leave the workforce, she said. 'I have lots of friends that love going to work,' she said, adding that people just have 'different interests'. 'I think women are expected to get a full-time job, plus do all the stay-at-home, mum things – like meal prep and caring for the children – and never get much of a break. 'I think that expectation is unfair but obviously some people do not have the choice and have to go to work.' Ms Knight chose to share her life on 'Staying home with Stacey' – a recipe website and set of social media channels inspired by her gardening and homemade meals. Whether in a flowing, white skirt gesturing with a natural lollipop, or with a basket on her arm filled with vegetables from her garden, she is the picture of a 'traditional wife'. The content is similar to that of other mothers in their 20s and 30s who have rushed to social media to create videos celebrating staying at home under the tag #tradwife. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Jasmine Darke (@jasminedinis) The term refers to women who perform traditional gendered roles serving their husbands and children, often likened to the archetypal 1950s 'housewife'. #Tradwife has divided many Australians, most recently parents of Year 9 students in South Australia who were shocked when non-profit competition organiser Debating SA suggested the lifestyle as a topic. 'The "Trad Wife" movement is good for women,' the debate was titled. Australian influencer Jasmine Dinis regularly shares Christian and political values alongside videos of her baking sourdough bread, infamously earning criticism online for her post in January: 'Woke up this morning. Baby on my hip. Making some fresh sourdough. My husband is hot. Trump is the president of the US. Life is good.' Several videos on Ms Knight's TikTok are captioned 'Husband's lunch prep with a side of flu' or 'snack prep for my two kids' with the hashtag. But, for the Queenslander, her content is not about selling a lifestyle – in fact, she has only ever had one sponsorship deal so far for which she was not paid. 'I'm doing it by choice, not because it's expected or because I don't have any other options. I genuinely enjoy it, and I chose this path myself,' she said. A TikTok video by Ms Knight was captioned 'Trad wife hobbies without the oppression' and some videos, including those prepping her husband's lunch, included the hashtag. Asked how she feels about the term 'tradwife', she emphasised that, for her, it is about freely embracing the things she loves. 'I don't believe it's about going backwards. I do it because I love it and have a genuine interest in homemaking, cooking and gardening,' she said. 'I think the 1950s version lacked choice and freedom. I'm sophisticated, I still have opinions and am very involved in everything our family does. 'If I didn't stay at home with the kids, someone would be paying for childcare. It is definitely still work.' And what about 'serving' her husband? Ms Knight explained Tom dislikes cooking, whereas she enjoys it and places a higher priority on health. 'I do it because my husband would happily eat a servo pie and I'd like him to stay healthy,' she said. 'He really would be happy with anything so I think I just care about his health maybe a little bit more than he does.'
