07-07-2025
Bridesmaid Skips Water Park Bachelorette Party 'Because I'm Overweight': 'I'm By Far the Biggest'
A bridesmaid is wondering if she's justified in skipping an upcoming bachelorette party at a water park
She says she's "overweight" and would exceed the weight limit on most of the slides, which "makes me uncomfortable"
While many commenters understood her feelings, they said the trip was not about her, but the brideA bridesmaid said she's considering skipping her friend's bachelorette party — an overnight trip to a water park resort — because she's concerned she's too heavy to ride most of the slides. "The idea of standing in my bathing suit, being weighed to make sure I can go, makes me uncomfortable.'
A 25-year-old woman shared a post on Reddit's AITA forum — where commenters share real-world scenarios and wonder if they would be the 'a------' — that her close friend, who'd asked her to be a bridesmaid, wanted to do overnight at a water park for her bachelorette party.
But as the poster, Cmon_LetsGo wrote, 'I knew the trip wouldn't be fun for me due to my size. I am about 5'7' and 270 pounds, and the maximum weight for a single rider on the majority of slides is 250.'
As she explained, 'I know I'm overweight and need to lose some, but insecurity isn't the main thing holding me back.' While she said she'd 'happily go on a beach vacation and rock a bathing suit the whole time,' the problem for her is 'the combination of the bathing suit, weigh-ins, and fact that I am too big to participate in many of the rides that makes it seem not fun to me.'
She shared that 'there are a few heavier girls in the party, but I'm by far the biggest and I think the only one who exceeds 250 pounds.' But when she told the bride she didn't want to come, her friend 'got very upset, saying that she asked us to reserve the weekend months in advance and that she worked hard to keep costs down.'
When the bridesmaid tried to explain further, '[the bride] said that I could float in the lazy river/hot tub or swim in a standard pool or drink at the bar while the other girls rode slides and that I shouldn't let my weight hold me back, especially from something so important to her. I still feel like it would be uncomfortable and a waste of money for me, as I wouldn't truly be able to have the same experience.'
She continued, 'I couldn't do the same things as all the other girls, I think it would leave me feeling bad all weekend instead of upbeat and excited for the bride.'
The reaction to her post was mixed.
The top comment, with more than 2,000 upvotes, said that while she wouldn't be in the wrong for skipping, 'maybe it's not that much time? It's hard to believe they're [gonna] slide for hours and 2 days long. If i'm there with friends, it's a bit slides, not always everybody, and just more like swimming, playing, talking and bar. Plus in the evening, there are no slides. Just the group having food, drinks and fun.'
As another pointed out, 'I am as fat as OP but an introvert. Any excuse to get little alone time from 11 drunken people would be a blast for me …you might regret not going and it might have an impact on your friendship, I would just go.'
Another commenter was more blunt, telling the poster that they're in the wrong: 'She's right, there are plenty of things you could do and would avoid awkward weigh ins … Tell everyone you're afraid of slides, to avoid the embarrassment, then go and be there for your friend. Water park is only half of the celebration- there will be dinner, games, hanging out, etc. unless you're going to have a full on panic attack and ruin the event for the whole group, you should go for your friend.'
While another Redditor acknowledged, 'This is a tough one. They've picked something pretty weird to do for a low-key bachelorette party, but they don't know how much you weigh ... I think you're missing the point of a bachelorette.'
As another summed up: 'You being overweight and not able to do some slides sucks but… it's not about you.'
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