Why Rajkummar Rao fired his chef: ‘Bag pack kijiye aur chale jaiye'; how partners can uphold each other's dignity
Rajkummar Rao and Patralekhaa are among Bollywood's most adorable couples. They have repeatedly spoken about how their relationship has always been about trust and respect. Recently, the Stree 2 actor recalled how he once fired their chef after he was disrespectful towards Patralekhaa.
In an appearance on Raunaq Rajani's show, when the comedian shared that he didn't fire his chef when he disrespected his wife, Rao chipped in, 'I tell you the example from our home. Guys, see the difference. We had a cook.'
'He must be around 48. Great cook. First time in my life I was eating Mexican because I am a vegetarian. He made me some great, amazing Mexican platter for me, and after two days, Patra told me that this guy doesn't talk to me nicely. I think there is some issue. I could figure out,' recalled Rao.
'Third day, Patra asked him something. He made some face. With me, he'll talk with a lot of respect. You know what I did? I called him and said, 'Aap apna back pack kijiye aur aap chale jaiye (You please pack your bags and leave),' recounted Rao.
Dr Chandni Tugnait, MD (A.M), psychotherapist, coach, and healer, founder and director, Gateway of Healing, said Rao's decision to dismiss his cook for disrespecting his wife, Patralekhaa, underscores a desired and needed commitment to mutual respect in relationships. 'Despite the cook's culinary skills, Rao prioritised his wife's dignity over convenience, reflecting a deep-seated value system that places respect above all. Such decisive action not only highlights his protective nature but also sets a standard for how partners should uphold each other's dignity in the face of disrespect,' said Dr Tugnait.
Here are a few insights on why such steps matter
Defending loved ones: Such actions are pivotal in establishing a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding. 'By standing up against disrespect, Rao not only defended his wife but also reinforced the importance of maintaining a healthy dynamic where both partners feel valued and supported,' said Dr Tugnait.
Setting boundaries for healthy relationships: Establishing and enforcing boundaries is essential. Rao's decision reminds us that tolerating disrespect can erode the foundation of trust and affection. By taking a firm stand, he demonstrated that protecting the integrity of the relationship is paramount.
Leading by example in modern relationships: Rao's action is a powerful example for modern couples. 'In a time when many overlook smaller disrespectful actions, his stance shows the importance of addressing issues early on, ensuring that mutual respect is preserved. His approach encourages partners to be proactive in safeguarding each other's emotional and mental well-being of each other,' shared Dr Tugnait.
Building trust through respectful actions: Every action, big or small, contributes to the trust built in a relationship. By choosing to act decisively in the face of disrespect, Rao not only protected his relationship with Patralekhaa but also strengthened it.
Rao's actions exemplify the significance of prioritising respect and dignity in relationships. 'His commitment to standing up for his wife sets a commendable example for others, emphasising that love is not just about affection but also about defending and upholding each other's honour,' said Dr Tugnait.
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