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The Best Photos of Princess Diana With Prince William Prince Harry

The Best Photos of Princess Diana With Prince William Prince Harry

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Princess Diana may be best known as the 'people's princess,' and rightfully so. She helped tear down walls between Buckingham Palace and the public, and she is fondly remembered for her philanthropic work. But when we think of the late Princess of Wales, we think of her in the role she loved much more than being a royal; We think of her as a mother.
The proud mom of Prince William and Prince Harry paved new roads for how the royal family operated, showered her boys with love, and made so many priceless memories in the 15 years she had with them before she tragically died in a car crash in 1997.
'I live for my sons,' she famously said. 'I would be lost without them.'
The beautiful moments below between Princess Diana and her sons give us a glimpse into how truly outstanding she would have been as a grandma to Prince William and wife Kate Middleton's kids — Prince George, Princess Charlotte, and Prince Louis — and Prince Harry and wife Meghan Markle's kids — Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet Diana.
Or perhaps Prince William's prediction in Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy would be right and she'd be a 'nightmare grandmother.'
'Absolute nightmare,' the current heir to the throne joked. 'She'd love the children to bits, but she'd be an absolute nightmare. She'd come and go … probably at bath time, cause an amazing amount of scene, bubbles everywhere, bathwater all over the place — and then leave.'
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Princess Diana famously broke royal tradition when she gave birth to Prince William (photographed) in a hospital rather than at home. Prince Harry was then born in the same hospital — St. Mary's in London — as were Prince William's three kids. Props to her for not letting centuries of tradition stand in the way of the birth plan she imagined
Breaking tradition once again, Princess Diana brought a 9-month-old Prince William with her and then-Prince Charles on their tour of Australia and New Zealand. Normally, the baby would have stayed in London with a nanny for six weeks. Princess Diana was not having that, though. She was not going to miss that much time with her baby.
Princess Diana wanted her children to be themselves and shine, including at this adorable moment where young Prince William's antics made everyone laugh.
It's unsurprising that Princess Diana wasn't afraid to talk about topics surrounded by stigma such as being 'hit hard' with postpartum depression after William was born.
'I was unwell with postnatal depression, which no one ever discusses … you have to read about it afterwards, and that in itself was a bit of a difficult time. You'd wake up in the morning feeling you didn't want to get out of bed, you felt misunderstood, and just very, very low in yourself,' she said in her 1995 Panorama interview.
Her daughters-in-law have followed in her footsteps, with Markle speaking openly about her struggles with prenatal depression and Middleton (alongside her husband) working to nurture children's mental health.
Back in 1987, Diana brought her children to so many places, including having them visit a police station. Look how precious!
First, we have to take a moment to appreciate how epic this shot is of Princess Diana and her young sons on a ski lift. Next, we have to tip our hats to Diana, who famously stood up to the paparazzi when they hounded her family on vacations. In the Netflix docuseries Harry & Meghan, there is a clip where Diana pleads with the press to let the boys enjoy their time like normal kids.
'As a parent, could I ask you to respect my children's space? … As a parent, I want to protect the children,' she said to the incessant cameraman.
In a famous clip from 1986, Princess Di plays with her boys at a playground and has the perfect parenting technique for when Prince William refuses to leave. To avoid a tantrum, she breezily says, 'Alright, Harry will have all the fun then,' and turns on her heel with her red-headed son on her hip. Prince William — immediately feeling some FOMO — sprinted toward his mom and little brother.
Being the bad a** that she was, Princess Diana could easily carry the weight of the commonwealth and the weight of a young Prince Harry on her shoulders. Never doubt the strength of a mom!
While other royals probably clutched their pearls when they heard of Prince William and Prince Harry's visit to Thorpe Park Amusement Park, Princess Diana threw her pearls to the wind and got right onto the water coaster with them! She was known for doing her best to give her boys as 'normal' a life as possible.
And yes, she really rode those rides with her boys. This must be a core memory for Prince Harry of his day at Thorpe Park. In Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy, Harry described his mom as a 'total kid through and through.'
'When everybody says to me 'so she was fun, give us an example', all I can hear is her laugh in my head.'
The former Princess of Wales had no problem letting her sons and their friends bury her in the sand when on vacation on Necker Island.
Princess Diana made another unprecedented move when she insisted her sons go to school and not just be taught within the palace walls. In this photo from Sept. 1995, Prince William's family watched as he followed Eton's tradition and signed a book before starting the school year.
On Prince William's first day of preschool, she reportedly said, 'I was [a little sad] because it's opening another chapter in my life and certainly William's. But he's ready for it. He's a very independent child.'
Just like any students, Prince William and Prince Harry would have major back-to-school scaries before the start of the school year. Prince William revealed in 2021 that his mom would play music on the drive to boarding school to 'kind of while away the anxiety.'
One song that has stuck with him — and that he 'secretly' still enjoys — is Tina Turner's 'The Best' which they would sing from the backseat.
'It felt like a real family moment,' he recalled. 'And my mother, she'd be driving along, singing at the top of her voice. And we'd even get the policeman in the car, he'd be occasionally singing along, as well.'
It wasn't until they entered the school gates that he would remember the destination. 'Before that, you're lost in songs. You'll want to play it again just to keep that family moment going.'
'When I listen to it now, it takes me back to those car rides and brings back lots of memories of my mother,' he continued.
Speaking of school, Princess Diana was incredibly involved given her royal status. There she is in 1989 running barefoot (and in a skirt!) across a field for the 'Mother's Race' — part of Prince William's annual school sports day events.
Princess Diana was always grateful for the fact that she had happy and healthy children. Especially given how often she saw struggling families in her philanthropic work. She famously hugged a child with AIDS at the height of the pandemic, signaling to the rest of the world that the disease could not be contracted through touch (despite what many people feared).
'I've got two very healthy strong boys, and it's not always the case with the families I'm meeting … and I realize how incredibly lucky I am,' she said per Business Insider.
Princess Diana was known for — when possible — treating her kids like any other kid (and dressing them like regular kids; is that Mickey Mouse we see on Prince William's shirt?!) So much so, that she would even take them to fast food joints.
Former royal chef Darren McGrady told Marie Claire that Diana used to take the boys to McDonald's. 'I remember the princess came into the kitchen one day and said, 'Cancel lunch for the boys, I'm taking them [to McDonald's],'' McGrady said. 'And I said, 'Oh my God — your Royal Highness, I can do that, I can do burgers.' And she said, 'No, it's the toy they want.''
Princess Diana left her sons a hefty inheritance of $12.5 million (£10 million) on their 30th birthdays along with valuable personal assets, per The Telegraph.
This money gave them more than just a lavish lifestyle. It gave Prince Harry freedom.
In his and Markle's infamous interview with Oprah in 2021, Harry said his family would have been unable to move from the UK to California without that inheritance.
'I think she saw it coming,' he said, 'and I certainly felt her presence throughout this whole process.'
According to the Duke of Sussex, his mother was OK with a little mischief. 'You can be as naughty as you want,' she would tell Harry. 'Just don't get caught.' And with the look she's giving Prince William here, we'd like to imagine the late Princess of Wales was telling him the same thing.
Diana made sure her boys spent plenty of time involved in charitable causes. She took them to homeless shelters and private charity visits. According to biographer Andrew Morton, she 'didn't want the boys to grow up thinking the whole world was 4×4 Range Rovers, shotguns, and nannies.'
Or, we presume, vacations to Spain (photographed).
'I want my boys to have an understanding of people's emotions, their insecurities, people's distress, and their hopes and dreams,' the former royal said.
In an early aughts interview, Prince William called his visits to homeless shelters with his mother a 'real eye-opener.' 'I am very glad she [took me],' he said. 'It has been something I have held close to me for a long time.'
Princess Diana was not afraid of PDA with her boys, and Prince Harry said in Diana, Our Mother: Her Life and Legacy that he missed that feeling.
'She would just engulf you and squeeze you as tight as possible and being as short as I was then, there was no escape, you were there for as long as she wanted to hold you,' he said. 'Even talking about it now, I can feel the hugs that she used to give us.'
Diana was open about why those hugs were so important to her, and had some pretty poignant things to say about physical touch:
'I hug my children to death and get into bed with them at night. I always feed them love and affection; it's so important,' she once said, per Newsweek.
'A mother's arms are more comforting than anyone else's,' per People.
'Hugs can do great amounts of good, especially for children,' per Huff Post.
Princess Diana and King Charles III did their best to co-parent their kids amicably. They decided to share equal custody of their sons. Thoughtfully and tactfully, she was sure to visit her sons at school and tell them about her and their father's split before it hit the news.
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Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sánchez shared unexpected wedding singer with Kate Middleton and Prince William at $50M nuptials
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Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sánchez shared unexpected wedding singer with Kate Middleton and Prince William at $50M nuptials

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OUTRAGEOUS Recap: (S01E04) Episode 4
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Photo Credit: Sally Mais/Courtesy of BritBox – Outrageous Outrageous, Episode 4 It's January 1935, and Farve (James Purefoy) is teaching Deborah how to drive while Jessica reads a book in a tree. Nancy's voiceover explains that because Farve taught all his children to drive, it afforded his daughters a measure of independence many women of the time didn't have. Jessica is about to come out into society. Deborah would do the same in two years' time. In the Fortress, Muv (Anna Chancellor) reads a letter intently. Nancy comes down the stairs and asks if everything's all right. Muv tells her it isn't really, never looking up from the letter. When Farve, Jessica, and Deborah arrive, she hands the letter to Farve. RELATED: My Lady Jane : Rob Brydon and Anna Chancellor Spill Their Parenting Secrets At the dining table, Farve reads the letter to the family. It's Unity's account of meeting Hitler (Paul Giddings). The family listens in disbelief. 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Muv goes to sleep after insisting that Farve discuss the big decisions with her before making them. February 1935 Nancy returns to her mostly empty home. Peter's (Jamie Blackley) whistling in the dining room. He greets her as he polishes his shoes, explaining that he's starting a new job. He apologizes for how things went before she left. Mary (Ruby Thomas) and Tony saw the house after the bailiffs had repossessed their furniture and told Peter he needed to make things right. Tony helped him get a new job. RELATED: Hair and Makeup Artist Jacquetta Levon Talks Incorporating Reality and Fantasy for The Serpent Queen In Munich, Unity can't wait to introduce Diana to Hitler. She asks if Diana's told Mosley that she's going to meet him, and Diana reveals that Mosley's resumed his affair with his late wife's sister. Unity sympathizes. Diana excuses the behavior, calling it a compulsion he can't control. Because the other woman knows nothing about politics, Diana believes that if she can secure him a meeting with Hitler, Mosley will see her as an indispensable asset. Becoming a Woman: Decca March 1935: A black and white newsreel shows the line of cars waiting to bring their daughters to Buckingham Palace for presentation at court. Muv, Nancy, and Jessica are photographed for the occasion. The photographer (Tristan Beint) is having a hard time getting a good picture of Jessica as she refuses to smile. She's incensed at the meaninglessness of the ceremony and rages at the idea of hundreds of girls being herded in to be judged and married off. Muv argues that being presented at court is the beginning of her social life, and how incredibly important it is to meet and mingle and make connections. When Nancy reads in the newspaper that Esmond Romilly (Joseph Potter) has been sent to prison, it captures Jessica's attention. He was incarcerated for showing up drunk at his parents' house. 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He's initially excited but quickly becomes jealous when she mentions that Hitler invited her to the opera in Berlin. She points out that he spends time with people she'd prefer he didn't, so it's tit for tat. July 1935 Nancy's book, Wigs on the Green , comes out in print. She and Peter celebrate with Mary and Tony in their garden because she didn't want a big party over a book that has caused a rift between her and Diana. They toast their friendship. At the Fortress, Deborah tries on lipstick and puts her hair up. Pamela finds her and warns her that Farve will not be happy to see her looking so grown up. Deborah tells her she's going fishing with Derek and invites her to come along because he's expressed interest in meeting Pamela, the 'least bonkers' of her sisters. The three of them walk out to a trout stream for a picnic. Their banter has an edge to it. Derek has opinions. Pamela disagrees with those opinions. 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Jessica feels hopeless, wondering if she can keep loving Unity despite the horrible things she's said and written. Pamela suggests they don't get a say on whether they love their sisters. Nancy considers these words deeply. Peace Talks On her way out, Nancy offers to try talking to Diana and Unity. Muv wonders if that'll do any good considering the tension between them. Muv thanks her for the effort, warning her to tread softly. The conversation doesn't go well. Unity refuses to see Nancy. Nancy apologizes again for offending them with the book. She tells Diana that the sales have been poor and the reviews indifferent. Diana rushes her out the door, saying she has a dinner party to attend and needs to pack because she's driving to Mosley's straight afterward. Nancy asks her on Muv's behalf if she would speak to Unity about the letter. Diana refuses. Nancy loses her temper and accuses Diana of condoning the things Unity wrote in the letter. Diana defends Unity's right to her own opinions. They descend into a shouting match. Diana throws Nancy out in a fit of rage. As Nancy strides away from the house, Diana pours herself a drink. RELATED: Read our Outrageous recaps Nancy walks to Joss's (Will Attenborough) and talks him into going out for a drink with her. At the club, she talks out the issues with her sisters. Joss offers her a perspective on the slippery slope of power. He tells her about his grandparents who immigrated to England from Ukraine. They had to hide any signs of being Jewish in order to provide their children and grandchildren a sense of belonging and safety. Consequences Elsewhere, Diana swans out of the dinner party. She gets in her car and drives off. Nancy's voiceover: Did I go too far in accusing her of being Mosley's mouthpiece? Possibly. Should I have been able to keep my cool when provoked? Probably. 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It's That Damn Phone: A Parent's Guide to Gen Z Dating in the Digital Age, From a Gen Z-er
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Social media killed romance. It's a phrase that's become popular with teens — and ironically shared on the very platforms that they claim killed it. While love letters are traded for 'wyd' texts and real commitments for Snapchat rankings, Gen Z is quickly being exposed to a new age of romance. Navigating the dating world has always been tricky, but with screens, social media, and everything they bring, today's dating feels nearly impossible. As a parent who grew up without the influence of modern technology or social media, it can be hard to understand the experience your children are going through. So, from a 20-year-old who was born just before the cellphone, here are the five key insights that I wish my parents knew and understood about growing up in a world where technology shapes the dating scene. 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For those who are unfamiliar, situationships are products of the modern age — a mix of a situation and a relationship, as they resemble a romantic connection without a defined label. When I broke the news of my new situationship to my friends I was met with celebration. My best friend and I were walking, arms linked with the rest of our group trailing close behind, as I told her he and I were exclusive. There was yelling, jumping, clapping, and excited friends from behind asking to hear the news. You would truly think I had just gotten engaged, but no, I was simply in an exclusive situationship. That's how it went in college, though — we were lucky enough to even have anything exclusive, so who cared if we were officially dating or not? If I had held myself to a higher standard I would have demanded that he cared. I would have rectified our situation long before four months had passed. I wish I had understood that my worth was much more than the lack of commitment I was shown, and I wish that my parents had encouraged me to demand more from him and others. As a parent, it can be difficult to imagine that this is what dating might look like in the modern age, and even harder to figure out how you can shepherd you child through it. And while it is impossible to enforce high standards upon your teen, you can remind them of their worth and raise them to see through inadequate behavior. Be the parent they trust to talk to about relationships. Be the person who can step in when you see red flags or empty promises. Teach them about healthy relationships from an early age, sharing the signs of a troubled connection so they can understand what behaviors to encourage or avoid. Even when teens are raised and reminded to recognize their worth, it can be easy for us to settle for less when it's all we see on social media. I learned this firsthand as the initial excitement for my situationship faded and the commitment grew smaller. I realized I was trapped in this seemingly normal 'relationship' where quasi-committal labels like 'exclusive' and 'situationship' allowed for the bare minimum to go unprotested. I was told not to expect dinner dates or flowers because, after all, we weren't dating. So, for four months we met in dorm rooms, completely hidden from the public while seeing each other every day. We remained stuck in this horrible middle ground where we acted like we were dating, but solely in that confined space — his 97-square-foot dorm room. I felt like there was nothing I could do when I was put in that situation. I would either lose the person I had spent so much time building this fake relationship with, or remain disappointed and asking for much less than I wanted. The worst part was that it felt normal. I was told by social media and my peers that situationships were a college canon event, and I believed them. These platforms romanticize the bare minimum, turning something bland or disappointing into what seems like a fairytale ending. In hindsight, I've come to realize that just because something seems normal and trendy doesn't mean that it should be the standard. Whether or not situationships were common, I still should have (and could have) broken the mold and demanded more. But I didn't, and instead allowed the rock bottom to seem like a staple of the college experience. As normalized as this behavior might seem, your teen will soon realize that it's only been warped to appear ordinary, allowing it to remain uncontested. I wish that I had learned that lesson earlier; I wish my parents had warned me about the consequences of those uncertain relationships. You can be the guiding force that will steer your teen away from unhealthy behaviors and the 'common' narrative. Remind them to stray from social media and remain skeptical of its influence; I wish someone had made me see sooner how atypical my experience was. Relationships are rapidly changing as certain behaviors are labeled as 'trendy' and encouraged through popular social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok. I've watched as countless friends of mine have anxiously waited to respond to a text, counting down the minutes until it was acceptable to finally respond. There is truly no point in waiting the extra 20 minutes just to 'play it cool,' but this ultra-relaxed behavior has been made to seem normal. Instead of getting to know the person we like we distance ourselves as if anything else is unnatural. Those who break away from the nonchalant relationship and openly express their feelings are often labeled as embarrassing. This cat-and-mouse game might seem pointless and silly to you — which it is. But it's your job to bring your teen down to earth, reminding them of just how ridiculous these unspoken rules are. You must instead encourage them to do the opposite: to wear their heart on their sleeve, love loudly, and be 'chalant.' The only way to bring back the romantic love that teens beg for on social media is to go against the narrative that paints expressive love as a bad thing. My generation, Gen Z, has fabricated a type of love that hinges on social media, using it to define and validate what makes a 'good' relationship. It's time we recognize that social media plays little to no part in romantic connection. It is no longer enough to use social media as a substitute for showing love. Teach your teen to show they care without worrying about scrutiny or relying on social media as their crutch. Show them good habits to mold their own actions after by treating your spouse and others with intentional acts of love — thoughtful gestures, consistent effort, and gentle, affirming words. Minimize their social media use and remind them that social media is a façade, one that influences their opinions and actions. Have open conversations with them about how they approach dating and expressions of affection. No matter what form your help takes, your child needs to see that romantic connections can be genuine — and unplugged. Dating and meeting new people are difficult topics to navigate in many families, only made more complex with the prospect of online dating where the truth is easily concealed. For teens, both younger and older, they must take everything they see online with a grain of salt. If I could change anything about my interactions with social media, I would change how old I was when I got Snapchat. I downloaded the app when I was 12 and was immediately met with obscenely inappropriate content. After all, the app's sole mission in creation was to send sexually explicit photographs without a digital trace being left behind. I started accepting requests from people with mutual connections, even if they were strangers to me. I simply didn't think that I would be met with inappropriate behavior and explicit content — I mean, I was 12. Experiences like these forced me to grow up more than a 12-year-old should have to. The good news, however, is that this is very avoidable. I wish my parents had known the dangers of apps such as Snapchat and had stopped me from downloading it at that young age; even waiting another two years would've made a huge difference in how I protected myself. But now that we know more about these apps, how they operate, and their effects, you can more effectively regulate the exposure your teen has to mature content and social media at large. Along with online chat rooms and dating apps comes another huge obstacle in the digital world: catfishing. Whether you have an older teen who is just starting to navigate Hinge and Tinder or a younger teen who has access to online gaming communities, it's important that you help teach them to stay safe and know when to cut contact. While these situations can vary in intensity, it's vital that your child knows to always act with caution. It's important to teach them to constantly re-evaluate their situation, conversations, and the people they interact with online. While there are many things you cannot control in the digital world, the best thing you can do for your child is to prepare them. Regularly communicate with your teen about their online presence and safety. Teach them to recognize the red flags and inappropriate behaviors that they might come across. Be the understanding voice they need as they try to navigate this complicated part of their young lives. Finally, remind them to remain skeptical of everything they learn online and share strategies with them to protect themselves and their identity. While every family and child is unique, the harsh reality of raising a Gen Z teen is that times are quickly changing and what you thought you once understood is being reshaped into a reality you don't know anything about. It can be difficult to know what to do or how to connect with your child, especially when you've never experienced anything like it in your own past. And if your child is anything like I was, dating is not a topic they discuss until they're already coming home from college with a significant other in tow. The best thing that you can do to help your teen is understand their reality and come to terms with their new normal, especially since it wasn't yours. You will want to be well-versed in their circumstances so that when they come to you asking advice, you can fully understand them. With technology giving them unlimited access to too much information, teens are overwhelmed—resenting its constant presence while using it simply because it's available. We have been molded into an obsessive generation, quickly consumed by snap scores, locations, and best friends lists. But we are simply a product of our environment, addicted to the social media that we've grown up with. This is the most important thing that I wish my parents understood. Parents spend too much time fixating on their teen's social media usage without truly understanding the circumstances of the modern age. For many teens, constant access to technology is overwhelming but is made completely unavoidable. I encourage you to reach out to your teen and ask about their digital footprint and usage. Without understanding what your teen is going through, any actions you take to help might inadvertently alienate them and overlook their opinions. Rather than jumping to punishments and restrictions around screen time, meet your child halfway and come to terms with the reality of growing up in the digital age. Navigating the digital dating scene is difficult for everyone, kids and parents alike. But with open communication, mutual understanding, and continued support, you can ensure that your teen will stay safe and thrive in this exciting aspect of their young adulthood. Best of SheKnows July 4th Printable Coloring Pages to Keep Kids Busy All Day The Summer College Prep Tips No One Talks About — But Every Teen Needs Celebrity Parents Who Are So Proud of Their LGBTQ Kids

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