Men are using bizarre tactics to determine if a date is a gold digger: ‘He just wanted to test me'

Yahoo

02-06-2025

Men are finding sneaky ways to determine if a date is a gold digger — and women are learning this the hard way.
One single woman shared her recent experience with this in the r/AITA subreddit on Reddit — which has since been deleted.
The 29-year-old went on a date set up by a mutual friend that she thought went well overall.
At the end of the date, when the $100 check came — her date decided to test her to see if she was a golddigger, unbeknownst to her.
Explaining that she had every intention to split the bill with him, you could imagine how taken aback she was when he handed her the check and asked if she could pay for it.
The woman obliged, and as soon as business was taken care of, the OP explained his reaction: 'Right after I paid, he got this huge grin on his face and said, 'Congratulations, you passed the test! You're not a gold digger,'' she wrote in her post.
Everyone comes with baggage from past relationships. This couple wasn't any different, as the guy explained that he dated someone in the past who expected him to pay for everything.
The OP wrote how she handled this news: 'I told him that I'm not his ex and he has no right to treat me like I'm guilty until proven innocent. I also said he's not some prize that I need to pass tests for.'
Kudos to her for standing up for herself.
Of course, the commenters went off on this guy, many agreeing that this 'test' was a wild thing to do.
'…it absolutely WAS a test- to see how far he could disrespect you. His behavior could only get worse from there,' wrote one commenter.
'While it's certainly possible that his ex was only into him for the money, he's not actually offering much else. At least, not a pleasant character,' another user wrote.
And this isn't the first scenario where a guy tested the waters to see what type of woman he was dealing with.
In another Reddit thread — in the same subreddit — a woman shared her bizarre experience with a date she met on a dating app who claimed to be a carpenter, to see if she only wanted to date guys for their money.
'He ended up admitting that he is not a carpenter, he just wanted to test me,' the OP wrote.
The woman said her date mentioned a 'low-paying job' to see how she reacted to it.
Reddit users had a field day with this story, too.
''I'd like to start this potential relationship by lying to you.' I think that's shitty as f–k and you can go f–k,' a comment read.
'This dude has baggage you probably don't need to be dealing with,' another person pointed out.
'His 'test' gave away his character flaw. He showed you that he's a snob. The job he chose to 'slum it' is pretty lucrative if you're good and especially if you build your company up. He is a jerk,' quipped someone else.