Bride Questions Friendship After Friend Leaves Wedding Twice. Then She Skips Her Pal's Birthday Celebration

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02-07-2025

A bride is upset over her friends leaving her wedding party twice
In response, the bride and her new wife opted not to go to their friend's birthday celebration
Commenters weighed in on the situation via Reddit, where the majority were uncertain who, if anyone, was in the wrongOne bride may be holding a grudge for no reason.
A 25-year-old woman shared on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum that she is skipping her friend's birthday party after she ditched her wedding twice.
The woman said she married her partner, a 24-year-old woman, in an intimate ceremony with only eight guests. After the ceremony, the group went to a nearby conservatory so the couple could take photos. During that time, two guests, Bailey and Debra, "started to have their own photoshoot literally in front of us."
The bride cheered them on, but Debra got embarrassed and stopped posing for photos. When the wedding shoot was over, the brides noticed that their two friends had left.
"All of our families and other friends were very upset that the two of them left but we just played it off like it was okay and that is just how they are," she wrote.
Later, the group went to a bar for an afterparty. The original poster (OP) wrote that Debra and Bailey arrived late, but were still chatty and participated in the games. During the party, Bailey mentioned that she was planning to celebrate Debra's birthday party. The date happened to fall on the same day the brides were "looking to go on a trip." But the trip was not planned, so the brides said they "should be able to go."
Shortly after, Debra returned to the group and complained about the price of the drinks at the venue. The evening continued and the OP wrote that Debra and Bailey expressed that they were hungry. However, the brides said they did not want to get food at the venue. Debra and Bailey then decided to see a friend who was bartending nearby and said they'd be "right back."
The brides found out from the bar that their two friends had closed their tab. Later that night, Debra and Bailey told them that they would not be "coming back to the house with everyone" because they were heading home instead.
The OP and her wife ultimately decided to go on their last-minute "little honeymoon weekend" that fell on the same date as Debra's birthday. But when they let their friends know, the two ignored their text messages. Now, the woman is wondering if she's in the wrong for "not going to Deb's birthday after they left our wedding celebration not once but twice."
People in the comments were quick to criticize the entire group, stating that they were all in the wrong, but also noting that the brides did not plan a very welcoming wedding.
"They weren't being good guests but you don't sound like a great hosts," one person said. "You should have covered the tab for the drinks after the wedding. You didn't even feed your guests."
Another stated that the poster was in the wrong, "but not for skipping the birthday." The commenter wrote, "Did they know ahead of time that absolutely nothing would be provided at your wedding? From your writing, it sounds like people watched your wedding, then had to watch you get photographed, then went to a spot where no food or drinks were covered."
They added: "Most people would've declined that invitation if they knew the whole plan."
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A third person wrote that the wedding "was selfish and poorly planned."
"To be clear, they did not leave your wedding twice. They left your photoshoot and your after party," they wrote.
One commentator was more sympathetic to the couple, writing, "As a friend, I would have thought that [Debra and Bailey] would understand that you just got married and would like some time alone. Most of this seems like more of a miscommunication to me."
They encouraged the brides to reach out to the couple after their trip. "Have your honeymoon and then make contact to catch up. It's probably nothing at all," the person wrote.
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