I'm a single mom to a wonderful kid and I could not be more exhausted. Do I need a vacation? Ask Lisi
I work long hours in a stressful job to make money to give my child everything possible. It's now summer and I've organized a few weeks of camp, plus a two-week holiday together. We have loads of fun together, but my child is still young and fully dependent on me, therefore a holiday together is not a holiday for me.
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I'm a single mom to a wonderful kid and I could not be more exhausted. Do I need a vacation? Ask Lisi
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Zamayirha Peter is an Advocacy Communications Specialist with over eight (8) years of experience in multimedia journalism and communications.
